I was inspired by a really great profile I came across and knew I immediately had to shoot this couple a message.
The contrast of that to so many others got me thinking: if you insist on a message before a friend request, but your profile has basically nothing written about yourselves or what you're looking for, or is just very generic, what do you want us to say our message? What's our springboard, here?
I guess maybe a bare minimum profile should be a deal breaker, but if you're attractive and your swapping interests are compatible, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and send a friend request to see if you're interested. But copy/pasting the same cookie-cutter "Hey check us out and and let us know if you're interested" just kills my soul.
A friend request seems like a nice way to express interest without expending the mental energy required to write an email to someone you know nothing about.
The contrast of that to so many others got me thinking: if you insist on a message before a friend request, but your profile has basically nothing written about yourselves or what you're looking for, or is just very generic, what do you want us to say our message? What's our springboard, here?
I guess maybe a bare minimum profile should be a deal breaker, but if you're attractive and your swapping interests are compatible, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and send a friend request to see if you're interested. But copy/pasting the same cookie-cutter "Hey check us out and and let us know if you're interested" just kills my soul.
A friend request seems like a nice way to express interest without expending the mental energy required to write an email to someone you know nothing about.
icetlawandorder wrote:
I was inspired by a really great profile I came across and knew I immediately had to shoot this couple a message.
The contrast of that to so many others got me thinking: if you insist on a message before a friend request, but your profile has basically nothing written about yourselves or what you're looking for, or is just very generic, what do you want us to say our message? What's our springboard, here?
I guess maybe a bare minimum profile should be a deal breaker, but if you're attractive and your swapping interests are compatible, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and send a friend request to see if you're interested. But copy/pasting the same cookie-cutter "Hey check us out and and let us know if you're interested" just kills my soul.
A friend request seems like a nice way to express interest without expending the mental energy required to write an email to someone you know nothing about.
Well, our profile def doesn't fit into that category but what we're basically looking for if someone writes to us is a description or what stood out to them in our profile and/or why they think we might be a good match. Doesn't have to be a treatise. LOL
We are mixed on this. We are ok with blind friend request and try to respond but always find it awkward if there isn’t a follow up email.
EVILDOERS wrote:icetlawandorder wrote:
I was inspired by a really great profile I came across and knew I immediately had to shoot this couple a message.
The contrast of that to so many others got me thinking: if you insist on a message before a friend request, but your profile has basically nothing written about yourselves or what you're looking for, or is just very generic, what do you want us to say our message? What's our springboard, here?
I guess maybe a bare minimum profile should be a deal breaker, but if you're attractive and your swapping interests are compatible, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and send a friend request to see if you're interested. But copy/pasting the same cookie-cutter "Hey check us out and and let us know if you're interested" just kills my soul.
A friend request seems like a nice way to express interest without expending the mental energy required to write an email to someone you know nothing about.
Well, our profile def doesn't fit into that category but what we're basically looking for if someone writes to us is a description or what stood out to them in our profile and/or why they think we might be a good match. Doesn't have to be a treatise. LOL
Haha yep, your profile is definitely not the problem. And that's exactly how we respond to profiles like yours.
It is nice when they at least point out a tidbit from your profile by saying something like “Hey we read your intro and seems like we have similar goals/interests” something that lets you know it wasn’t just like “Oh hey, nice titty pic.”
icetlawandorder wrote:
I was inspired by a really great profile I came across and knew I immediately had to shoot this couple a message.
The contrast of that to so many others got me thinking: if you insist on a message before a friend request, but your profile has basically nothing written about yourselves or what you're looking for, or is just very generic, what do you want us to say our message? What's our springboard, here?
I guess maybe a bare minimum profile should be a deal breaker, but if you're attractive and your swapping interests are compatible, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and send a friend request to see if you're interested. But copy/pasting the same cookie-cutter "Hey check us out and and let us know if you're interested" just kills my soul.
A friend request seems like a nice way to express interest without expending the mental energy required to write an email to someone you know nothing about.
You are probably over thinking this topic. If you found attraction and compatibility despite the minimum profile, then I guess you found enough to say and shouldn't just send the friend request. On the other hand, if it wasn't appealing enough to you to expend the mental energy, then maybe you answered your own question.
People are wise to copied and pasted messages too. They say something about the sender's mental energy.
Oh, and soulless is no way to live.
Desryan wrote:
We don't get when people ask to be our friend and when you message them they won't even look at your massage. Can anyone help us understand?
or when you give them your kik and they don’t get back to you?
Its been our experience that most of the blind requesters do not message, even after you accept, so we stopped, and now don’t even reply to them. The only perk we can see to blind requests is access to naughtier photos, and again, maybe just us, but we get creeper vibes from that.
WifeyNeedsNew wrote:
Its been our experience that most of the blind requesters do not message, even after you accept, so we stopped, and now don’t even reply to them. The only perk we can see to blind requests is access to naughtier photos, and again, maybe just us, but we get creeper vibes from that.
It's funny you mention that because we've gotten more blind requests this week than ever, and that has definitely been the case. We have face pics and we have nudes, but not combined, so I guess I'm not too worried about it, but I did clean out our friends list the last night.
The experience we have had being new here has been disappointing. We have sent out several friend requests with an email but we cant seem to get anyone to accept a friend request or even open the email. It's been disappointing
2havefun33 wrote:Might be because your profile says single male.
The experience we have had being new here has been disappointing. We have sent out several friend requests with an email but we cant seem to get anyone to accept a friend request or even open the email. It's been disappointing
Utahldscouple wrote:2havefun33 wrote:Might be because your profile says single male.
The experience we have had being new here has been disappointing. We have sent out several friend requests with an email but we cant seem to get anyone to accept a friend request or even open the email. It's been disappointing
Exactly. I see this often where comments say "we" and "us" but the profile says male or female. If a couple is committing to a profile then they both should equally represent themselves within it.
When we get a friend request, what I want to know is that they are real, and that they do have an interest in us (as opposed to just collecting pictures). Also, it's nice to know if they are interested in both of us, or just one of us, and which of them (or both if that's the case) is interested.
I hate the copy/paste generic messages more than the friend requests. We usually try to respond to all messages but will ignore those.