Hello!
So I just have a question.
We were in the LS about two years ago.. and since getting back into it, it seems like what we want is not as accepting ( or that we aren't actual swingers). We aren't a full swap couple and I feel like that hinders us from meeting new people and just getting out there.
While I enjoy watching my husband with other women, I have no desire to be with anyone other than my husband.
Is this weird? We have talked to a few couples who just question why were are in the LS at all. They have said that what we are looking for is a "tall order" or that "we aren't actual swingers" which I can understand to a point.. but isn't this site for people also looking to explore their sexuality in a safe place with no judgements?
I would love some feedback or advice if anyone else in a similar situation because at this point I don't feel welcome.
Thank You!
So I just have a question.
We were in the LS about two years ago.. and since getting back into it, it seems like what we want is not as accepting ( or that we aren't actual swingers). We aren't a full swap couple and I feel like that hinders us from meeting new people and just getting out there.
While I enjoy watching my husband with other women, I have no desire to be with anyone other than my husband.
Is this weird? We have talked to a few couples who just question why were are in the LS at all. They have said that what we are looking for is a "tall order" or that "we aren't actual swingers" which I can understand to a point.. but isn't this site for people also looking to explore their sexuality in a safe place with no judgements?
I would love some feedback or advice if anyone else in a similar situation because at this point I don't feel welcome.
Thank You!
Others have told you that you aren't actual swingers. We say, who cares what they think? You are in the "lifestyle" for your enjoyment and preferences. Don't be bothered about what they tell you. However, they were correct that what you want is a "tall order". They may not have been judging you, but just giving you the reality of what you seek. But, be patient. At some point, a unicorn or a wife with a hall pass will join you. It will not be as frequently as what most of us do here, but it will happen eventually. Just keep posting. We really hope you find what you're looking for.
Don't worry what others think, enjoy what you want.
Or maybe... just maybe... others earn your trust and make you comfortable and excited enough to move those boundaries with them and share a little more?
Whatever your LS looks like, just be honest and get out there. Be approachable and friendly at events, parties, resorts, meet and greets, etc, and network your way through it. Plenty of good people are also okay with knowing sex positive people without becoming play partners. [/quote]
Well Said!
Whatever your LS looks like, just be honest and get out there. Be approachable and friendly at events, parties, resorts, meet and greets, etc, and network your way through it. Plenty of good people are also okay with knowing sex positive people without becoming play partners. [/quote]
Well Said!
Hey we are the opposite of you two, but have played with other couples. But I prefer to watch my wife be with other men. Don’t let someone label you or exclude you. LS is what you make it.
Everyone is different and this lifestyle is not just one thing swinging is something that combines a lot of subjects into one and to say that to you about your not swingers well that’s just like a teacher saying “your stupid” to a kid then that kid goes with another teacher and in that class he’s a genius and the teacher says “your a genius” we all have what we want and what we are comfortable with
Freedom of choice is the basis for a healthy relationship. If such freedom is based on respect, love and kindness. So, both of you are a model to follow.I feel that too many people like to judge and complicate things. I admire both of you.
Kinkycouple123 wrote:
Hello!
So I just have a question.
We were in the LS about two years ago.. and since getting back into it, it seems like what we want is not as accepting ( or that we aren't actual swingers). We aren't a full swap couple and I feel like that hinders us from meeting new people and just getting out there.
While I enjoy watching my husband with other women, I have no desire to be with anyone other than my husband.
Is this weird? We have talked to a few couples who just question why were are in the LS at all. They have said that what we are looking for is a "tall order" or that "we aren't actual swingers" which I can understand to a point.. but isn't this site for people also looking to explore their sexuality in a safe place with no judgements?
I would love some feedback or advice if anyone else in a similar situation because at this point I don't feel welcome.
Thank You!
I think what you are "looking for" is not a surprise... you want a Unicorn... now, asking a couple to "loan" you their female half ( with nothing in return to the other male ) ... yeah, long shot on that for sure.
Good Luck in your search.
I realize that it’s not a surprise because I used to be one ... lol.
Also never have we asked someone to loan us a female. It’s not a bank transaction. We would never ask for that. I’m simply stating that telling a couple that their lifestyle is not a fit ... is upsetting. Especially when this is meant to be a nonjudgmental place.
Also never have we asked someone to loan us a female. It’s not a bank transaction. We would never ask for that. I’m simply stating that telling a couple that their lifestyle is not a fit ... is upsetting. Especially when this is meant to be a nonjudgmental place.
Athleticeuropean wrote:
Freedom of choice is the basis for a healthy relationship. If such freedom is based on respect, love and kindness. So, both of you are a model to follow.I feel that too many people like to judge and complicate things. I admire both of you.
Thank you! We really appreciate it.
Thanks to both of you.