We've meet a bunch of cool LS peeps, but most seem to be full swap couples. We're new to all this and would love to know all of the soft swap couples. Comment below so we or others can hit you up if it seems to be a good match.
Don't be ashamed of the fact that you're 'softies'. We were totally soft swap for the first 2 years we were in the lifestyle. There are plenty of people out there who are soft swap or, like us, who enjoy soft as well as full swap. Guaranteed you'll find some fun playmates!
Cheers!
The 'Doers
Cheers!
The 'Doers
We enjoy both . Full swap and soft swap we think k both are hot it all depends on what the other couple like .
we are also a soft swap couple and would love to chat with others
Definitely harder to find and even harder to find those that say they are ok with softswap but actually respect it. We have been really luck on that front!
That’s us ... softies . . . We still find it incredibly erotic. Not saying we won’t ever cross that line ... just where we are right now. We have definitely been told that kept people from playing with us ... I think you just need to be strong in your inter-couple communication. Also worth noting ... the label soft swap means different things to different people. Best to be perfectly clear BEFORE play time as to what you are OK with and what is NOT OK - that will help you to avoid drama. We’ve never had a problem during play time because we are clear. Hope that helps! .... and although we haven’t met you yet ... know that we would be very interested.
Hey, that's us!
🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♂️ That’s us
We are a soft swap couple. And you are correct, most LS couples find out we’re soft only and that is it. Bye bye.
I have no problem with that - I’d rather know up front what couples are looking for.
As for us, we are soft / same room couple who are always interested in meeting new couples and seeing if there is something there.
I have no problem with that - I’d rather know up front what couples are looking for.
As for us, we are soft / same room couple who are always interested in meeting new couples and seeing if there is something there.
We are all about soft swap play
Not meaning any disrespect at all but I have a question. Why only soft swap? I asked not because I'm trying to ridicule but because I'm trying to understand.
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:
Not meaning any disrespect at all but I have a question. Why only soft swap? I asked not because I'm trying to ridicule but because I'm trying to understand.
Certainly can't speak for anyone else but for US it was a comfort level thing. We were both raised in strict Mormon households and it's not as easy as some might think to overcome an entire lifetime of inculcation and, dare I say, brainwashing. It took us a minute to get past years and years of programming.
Now, let me throw out another question to those who are strictly full swap. Why is penetrative sex so much more desirable than, say, anything up to, but not including, intercourse? Don't get me wrong, we LOVE fucking. But there are SO many other pleasurable activities that consenting adults can indulge in that don't necessarily include genital insertion.
Hit it right on the head for us. It's where we feel most comfortable and we find more fun in kissing, licking, sucking and touching.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Certainly can't speak for anyone else but for US it was a comfort level thing. We were both raised in strict Mormon households and it's not as easy as some might think to overcome an entire lifetime of inculcation and, dare I say, brainwashing. It took us a minute to get past years and years of programming.
Now, let me throw out another question to those who are strictly full swap. Why is penetrative sex so much more desirable than, say, anything up to, but not including, intercourse? Don't get me wrong, we LOVE fucking. But there are SO many other pleasurable activities that consenting adults can indulge in that don't necessarily include genital insertion.
Hit it right on the head for us. It's where we feel most comfortable and we find more fun in kissing, licking, sucking and touching.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Certainly can't speak for anyone else but for US it was a comfort level thing. We were both raised in strict Mormon households and it's not as easy as some might think to overcome an entire lifetime of inculcation and, dare I say, brainwashing. It took us a minute to get past years and years of programming.
Now, let me throw out another question to those who are strictly full swap. Why is penetrative sex so much more desirable than, say, anything up to, but not including, intercourse? Don't get me wrong, we LOVE fucking. But there are SO many other pleasurable activities that consenting adults can indulge in that don't necessarily include genital insertion.
We are a soft swap couple only.
We enjoy soft swap too!
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:It’s also a way to start as culturally in general it isn’t acceptable. It helps to get comfortable with the idea and some find they aren’t comfortable with more than this.
Not meaning any disrespect at all but I have a question. Why only soft swap? I asked not because I'm trying to ridicule but because I'm trying to understand.
We’re 1 month new here. Glad to hear many on this site not hell bent on straight-up intercourse. We like a little mystery to our sex life, and at other times full blown rip-roaring contact. The point being is this, straight to the main course and there is nothing to look forward to... therefore the appetizer is what we’d like to share while we leave the main course to ourselves.
We’re 1 month new here. Glad to hear many on this site not hell bent on straight-up intercourse. We like a little mystery to our sex life, and at other times full blown rip-roaring contact. The point being is this, straight to the main course and there is nothing to look forward to... therefore the appetizer is what we’d like to share while we leave the main course to ourselves.
Fully agree. Most women don’t orgasm from penetrative sex. It’s the foreplay, oral etc that gets her there. I know that is certainly true with us.
Good morning Fun 69 times we have been in the lifestyle for a few years we like. Full swap But also enjoy a soft swap. At the end of the night it leave you just a little more curious at least that’s what we find.
And and we will belch for Utah lds couple we had a fantastic time with them in the hot tub and in the bedroom it really was a lot of fun would enjoy meeting up with them again they are great people
You may not be interested in us but if you are drop us a line have a fantastic day
And and we will belch for Utah lds couple we had a fantastic time with them in the hot tub and in the bedroom it really was a lot of fun would enjoy meeting up with them again they are great people
You may not be interested in us but if you are drop us a line have a fantastic day
Prefer soft here a well.... there is a way to figure that out ... most of us "soft swing peeps" have either "no" or "maybe" in our profiles under full swap ( there is a check box for that ).
Hit us up if interested.
Hit us up if interested.
We are new to this and I feel like an idiot but what’s a “soft swap”?! Depending on what it is we could be as well...
Tall519 wrote:
We are new to this and I feel like an idiot but what’s a “soft swap”?! Depending on what it is we could be as well...
Most swingers consider it to be play that includes anything up to but not including penetrative sex. So basically, anything goes except actual fucking between non-primary partners.
Perfect!!! I think we are in that boat and are that couple as well. Thank u for clarifying!!
We are softswap and are very interested in this
we will soft swap or full swap as long as kissing is allowed. lol. we respect whoever we are with. would love to make you cum and then fuck may wife if that is what you like to do. and she would do the same
+1 for the kissing. I understand the need for some to keep it as dispassionate as possible, but kissing is such a big part of sex for us. Fucking is optional, but if I'm supposed to play with your naked body but NOT kiss you...nah. Luckily most of the profiles we see have "Yes" for kissing!
absolutely, it doesn’t matter if it’s soft or full or whatever. one of the first things I look at is that answer on the profile lol. ]
We started soft soft like most. The. Ventured over I. To the full swap area for many years. Today we’re mostly soft u less the scene and couple just align with the stars so to speak.
This weekend we went to snowbird for October fest. Rented adjoining rooms and late Friday after sitting in the hot tub all went to our rooms and ended up the six of us ducking in the same bed. Each couple staying with their partner. It was amazing. Then the next morning as each couple woke up and had sex on their own beds as everyone else watched was a perfect ending* to a great Friday night.
Soft sometimes is just what everyone needs.
This weekend we went to snowbird for October fest. Rented adjoining rooms and late Friday after sitting in the hot tub all went to our rooms and ended up the six of us ducking in the same bed. Each couple staying with their partner. It was amazing. Then the next morning as each couple woke up and had sex on their own beds as everyone else watched was a perfect ending* to a great Friday night.
Soft sometimes is just what everyone needs.
We are soft swap as well. We both enjoy seeing the other flirting and touching. And it's always fun when the girls are into each other too.
What a great post. Our profile literally says: "Don't stop reading because we are more likely to soft swap. There is something to be said for a mind-blowing experience that leaves you satisfied, but also wanting more! Come on guys and gals, PIV or nothing?"
We are still hoping to connect with like-minded couples. Message us!!!
We are still hoping to connect with like-minded couples. Message us!!!
We love soft swap. We have always just been a go with the flow couple and have never had expectations. Soft swap is intense and hot.
Looks like a lot of you love soft swap.
Fun69times wrote:
Looks like a lot of you love soft swap.
What's not to love? It's still sex...even without PIV, right?
I would be interested in watching my husband soft swap with another woman. I find that all the touching, kissing and nakedness is what turns me on the most. Not the actual penetration part.
It’s lovely to see other couples who feel the same
It’s lovely to see other couples who feel the same
soft swap 
like we said before, we are any swap or situational swap. we don’t think there is a progression necessarily from flirting, to exhibitionism to soft swap to full swap. they are all fun hot and exciting. that’s what we mean by situational, whatever the situation calls for can be sexy whether you’re finishing with your spouse, or your new partner.
We’re always down for some soft play
We'd love to have a soft swap party, but we wouldn't be able to host. Any couples out there that could host.
I'm surprised at the issues people have had. I'm (he) is typically soft swap and she's more open to full swap but her preference is to play with the female for quite some time first. We've been in the lifestyle for quite some time and with the exception of maybe two instances over multiple years we've not had issues playing soft swap with full swap couples.
Maybe it's setting clear boundaries before meeting, or do they not even meet with you if they know?
Yes to the soft swap party :-)
Maybe it's setting clear boundaries before meeting, or do they not even meet with you if they know?
Yes to the soft swap party :-)
We do both and enjoy whatever everyone is comfortable with. We never push anything with anyone.
Totally new to this and consider ourselves softies, as well.
We are finding out more and more that we are “softies” 😆 Any hint that we have given that we are open to more down the road and guys have loved introducing themselves and more in the heat of a moment. Not hinting at the more seems to be the best path for now!
We're soft swap but can't say that we've met the right couple either.
BJHottie wrote:Good luck changing your profile to being a couple 😀!
Totally new to this and consider ourselves softies, as well.
Not long ago we had an AMAZING soft experience, even though we’re also full. You know who you are! 😍
We are good with either and what everyone is comfortable with. For us it just depends on the couple and the connection. With that being said we have found "soft swap" can mean so many different things with each couple. You can't just expect it means everything except intercourse. That's where the communication comes into play. From our experience "soft swap" means we have to be more attentive and respectful of rules. Nothing wrong with that, just a reminder that soft swap doesn't mean a free for all except intercourse.
GLITZY wrote:Totally agree with different rules (that even includes full swap) but rules and communication are key in this lifestyle.
We are good with either and what everyone is comfortable with. For us it just depends on the couple and the connection. With that being said we have found "soft swap" can mean so many different things with each couple. You can't just expect it means everything except intercourse. That's where the communication comes into play. From our experience "soft swap" means we have to be more attentive and respectful of rules. Nothing wrong with that, just a reminder that soft swap doesn't mean a free for all except intercourse.
THEGMAN wrote:
Always had full swap interaction with couples. Experienced sost swap threesome last week. All the focus on the wife. Cuddling at the end. It was fantastic. Would love to chat with any couples if you’re seeking to dip your toes or know that you enjoy soft play.
Did they thank you and invited you to come again?
Soft swap party anyone?
Fun69times wrote:
Soft swap party anyone?
We are definitely soft swap only.
We've had some amazing soft swap experiences. And the vast majority are respectful of our boundaries. But we've run into a few who get a little pushy. The "you never know until you try" type conversations. No big deal. Everyone played nice. But if you claim to be soft swap on your profile, stay in that lane until you get a green light.
We love it we are very interested
Very open for soft 😁
We are strictly a soft swap couple as well. We love to host massage night where we all rub eachother down, that is so sensual and hot! If anyone here is down doing a massage night w us, hit us up!
We enjoy and at the end of the day it’s whatever everyone is comfy with. Hit us up... also since this is what are you into thread we are both okay with some Bi play
I’m open for soft swap and maybe see where things go
We are down to a soft swap party
The wife's fantasy is to be massaged by a group. She loves the collection of naked bodies around her. Still on the bucket list - and not sure how it would work with folks you don't know yet - we are more likely to do that with people we've met and have come to know a little bit. Would be interested to know how you have got to know people you met online.
Count us in!
SweettAndH wrote:There are some fun groups out there. You have to just attend one of their electric wand/massage parties 😀!
The wife's fantasy is to be massaged by a group. She loves the collection of naked bodies around her. Still on the bucket list - and not sure how it would work with folks you don't know yet - we are more likely to do that with people we've met and have come to know a little bit. Would be interested to know how you have got to know people you met online.
We are interested
SweettAndH wrote:
The wife's fantasy is to be massaged by a group. She loves the collection of naked bodies around her. Still on the bucket list - and not sure how it would work with folks you don't know yet - we are more likely to do that with people we've met and have come to know a little bit. Would be interested to know how you have got to know people you met online.
you find some that you are interested in and invite them for drinks or dinner or something you enjoy meet them talk and laugh and then say would you like to join us for a fantasy? I think we call it a date. c
Any soft swappers available tonight?
We're new to the LS and agreed we want to start with soft swap only to start! So hit us up!
We are interested as well!
We're leaning more towards soft swap for couples we newly meet. You're not alone there
We would love to host a soft swap party and or same room watch and be watched.
We are brand new as well and reading all this makes us not so scared to meet up with others and have fun and not jus sex . . .yes we love having sex but some times like mentioned above, pleasuring, teasing, licking, touching, sucking and so much more can go to it and still have a pleasurable time without the intercourse.
We are very interested in soft swap to start cause we have never had anythang physical other than online chatting
We are very interested in soft swap to start cause we have never had anythang physical other than online chatting
GLITZY wrote:
With that being said we have found "soft swap" can mean so many different things with each couple. You can't just expect it means everything except intercourse. Nothing wrong with that, just a reminder that soft swap doesn't mean a free for all except intercourse.
Nice post. Not sure where we fit into the mix. My wife isn't interested in touching or being touched by another man but, I am interested in being with another women. My wife has had some curiosity with women too, so I guess we need a unicorn!😍 Our more common interest though is voyeurism, with a similar minded couple after developing a solid friendship. From that point, who knows. That's our comfort level at the moment.
New to this what is a soft swap
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We are a soft swap for now as well in Roy UT.
We are new to the LS and want to try soft swapping. Everytime we have begun communicating with other couples it ends up "fizzling out" when we mention we aren't at the full-swap level. Needless to say, we haven't really gotten to experience much, COVID has quite a bit to do with that, but we also like to get to know couples before we play.
SOMEWHERENTIME wrote:
Nothing wrong with being a soft swap couple...we actually prefer it. We even like just having a lingerie evening, perhaps a little exhibitionistic fun, playing a couple of games, sipping on a few cocktails...while enjoying some good sexy stimulating conversation. It doesn’t have to be all about play to have fun.
GLTA
We totally agree! We’d be open to a parry like that.
Hello!
We hear ya!
Slow works much better for us.
We hear ya!
Slow works much better for us.
We are soft play also
LOVE2PLAY69 wrote:
We are new to the LS and want to try soft swapping. Everytime we have begun communicating with other couples it ends up "fizzling out" when we mention we aren't at the full-swap level. Needless to say, we haven't really gotten to experience much, COVID has quite a bit to do with that, but we also like to get to know couples before we play.
Checked out your profile and it says "yes" on "full swap". It implies the same in what you wrote below in "What We're Looking For". Maybe consider changing that to "no" on the "full swap" and making it more clear that you're new and soft swap only for the time being. Just an idea... ;-)
We are new as well have never done anything with another couple so far. We have talked and decided the furthest we are willing to go at first is possibly a soft swap. We are looking for a couple that won't pressure us and also a chance to get our feet wet to see if this is something we are actually into.
I’m sorry but I can’t help but laugh at this thread. In no way judging what you all do in the lifestyle, it’s just 98% of all the parties in Utah just end up some kissing and touching, basically soft swapping, most of the people who only soft swap shy away from parties for this very reason. Sure some have play rooms that people can close the doors, but sex parties, orgies, and parties of that nature are super selective and advertised as such. Most of the time Utah is simply a soft swap state.
We are softies too. So far, it’s what has worked best for us. ❤️
We’re down for both as long as it’s same room playing
We are soft swap as well. Still looking for playmates
We are soft swap as well. Still looking for playmates
Hottttt!
SOMEWHERENTIME wrote:
Soft swap? Where do we sign up? Or maybe we should ask, who thinks we could possibly be a match and wants to sign us up? 😉
Your text to link here...
Can someone explain to me what soft swap is? I googled it and it doesn't make sense to me that me going down on another woman is considered soft swap. What more is there? Does a woman have to give another woman anal before it's considered hard swap? Is it only swinging if a man is involved and he cums? I'm obviously kidding, but really, what is soft swap?
Rock_Finder wrote:
Can someone explain to me what soft swap is? I googled it and it doesn't make sense to me that me going down on another woman is considered soft swap. What more is there? Does a woman have to give another woman anal before it's considered hard swap? Is it only swinging if a man is involved and he cums? I'm obviously kidding, but really, what is soft swap?
To us soft swap is where you only have intercourse with your partner. For us oral is also considered soft swap. I hope this helps.
It's guidelines that everyone is comfortable with...
We're down for some soft swap
Sound fun - it’s tough to find other couples that don’t want to go straight to full sex!
Rock_Finder wrote:This varies by couple but ultimately no penis in the vagina from the other couple. Some have rules about including oral in that, some just touching, it really varies.
Can someone explain to me what soft swap is? I googled it and it doesn't make sense to me that me going down on another woman is considered soft swap. What more is there? Does a woman have to give another woman anal before it's considered hard swap? Is it only swinging if a man is involved and he cums? I'm obviously kidding, but really, what is soft swap?
Utahldscouple wrote:
This varies by couple but ultimately no penis in the vagina from the other couple. Some have rules about including oral in that, some just touching, it really varies.
Haha this is really homophobic! So if a guy fucks the other guy in his asshole, and the women eat each other till they squeal, like only women can, it is still soft swinging? This site sucks. Everyone here is fake or half retarded!
Soft, Full or none at all, we enjoy making friends we can spend good times with. What we do as friends depends upon how we are all attracted to each other and feel comfortable with. Sometimes, just having an open minded couple to be with can be fantastic even if there is no physical contact.
With the right people all sorts of scenarios can be great. We’ve done full swap, small groups, MFM, FMF, hall pass play dates and more and yet, we still think soft swap is fun.
Recently, a single guy we’ve known and played with for more than a decade got into a relationship with a woman not in the lifestyle. Since his girl friend isn’t comfortable with the idea he has refrained from any participation. Since he is a honest guy she knows about his past participation. He mentioned that maybe we could let them watch us on FaceTime. He might be cool with that. Mrs. Delicious straight up said she would be willing for us to come over and just let them watch us in person. Either way sounds fun! It’s quite a few steps away from group play, but still, it could, it should be fun!
Recently, a single guy we’ve known and played with for more than a decade got into a relationship with a woman not in the lifestyle. Since his girl friend isn’t comfortable with the idea he has refrained from any participation. Since he is a honest guy she knows about his past participation. He mentioned that maybe we could let them watch us on FaceTime. He might be cool with that. Mrs. Delicious straight up said she would be willing for us to come over and just let them watch us in person. Either way sounds fun! It’s quite a few steps away from group play, but still, it could, it should be fun!
Rock_Finder wrote:Actually to some, yes. To others maybe not. Not sure how our response is homophobic?!?! We wish you luck with your search. In regards to being “retarded” (you may want to reconsider your choice of words there) you may want to fix your profile, “Kim not looking for a girlfriend, but good more than a FWB.”, before spewing hate.Utahldscouple wrote:
This varies by couple but ultimately no penis in the vagina from the other couple. Some have rules about including oral in that, some just touching, it really varies.
Haha this is really homophobic! So if a guy fucks the other guy in his asshole, and the women eat each other till they squeal, like only women can, it is still soft swinging? This site sucks. Everyone here is fake or half retarded!
Fun69times wrote:
We've meet a bunch of cool LS peeps, but most seem to be full swap couples. We're new to all this and would love to know all of the soft swap couples. Comment below so we or others can hit you up if it seems to be a good match.
We do play apart, but so far have only done soft swap when we play together. And I don't know why. We're open to both, so maybe we just haven't found full a swap couple that we jive with (We're relatively new and Covid has curtailed a LOT of activity), or maybe it's just that we honor the wishes and boundaries of others in the moment. Or maybe we naturally gravitate to soft swap.
Whatever the reason, we're definitely open to it.