First let us just state right off the bat that our intention is not to out the couple in question. We will not indicate who they are so please... don't ask. Thanks.
We just read a profile that has the following text in it:
"Husband is a tad bit jealous so don't expect to fully swap the first, second and even third time we play"
WHAT?!?!?!... A tad bit jealous, but they thought swinging would be a good idea? Does anybody else see a problem here? We hate to think that these people could possibly be opening a big can o' worms that they may not be ready to handle. It's not our responsibility, granted, but it feels a bit like watching a train wreck about to happen and just letting it.
Thoughts?...
K&E
We just read a profile that has the following text in it:
"Husband is a tad bit jealous so don't expect to fully swap the first, second and even third time we play"
WHAT?!?!?!... A tad bit jealous, but they thought swinging would be a good idea? Does anybody else see a problem here? We hate to think that these people could possibly be opening a big can o' worms that they may not be ready to handle. It's not our responsibility, granted, but it feels a bit like watching a train wreck about to happen and just letting it.
Thoughts?...
K&E
We have talked to new couples before and always tell em that they need to be very secure. I know I felt jealousy a few times in the past. Playing is supposed to be for fun and when people have a bunch of rules that you can't deal with or can't get past jealousy. Best not to go down that road..
I saw that profile also and said "whaaa???". Perhaps they should reconsider being on here and focus on just each other for the sake of their relationship. I would not want to see a couple fight or end up parting ways because of this.
well our question is how r u a tad bit jealous ???? in our opp. you are or you are not ... tad bit thats funny
Hunny Bunny: Thanks for sharing your opinion in front of the entire forum about our posting. That's cool. I didn't think I needed to explain my preferences to the whole world and God buttttt since you aired it out open, GIDDEUP, bad taste and all.
Even in the swinging world, people go at their own pace and have their own limitations. My husband and I have been swinging for 1
Even in the swinging world, people go at their own pace and have their own limitations. My husband and I have been swinging for 1
I haven't read your profile, but just wanted to say that I don't think Hunny Bunny was being rude. Nobody had even stated the profile name.
You are correct and I think all who had written will agree that some (a lot) of couples are just looking for the woman to bring into their fun, but it sounds like your profile didn't state that which is why the question arose.
Just my 2 cents.
Stay safe and have fun.
You are correct and I think all who had written will agree that some (a lot) of couples are just looking for the woman to bring into their fun, but it sounds like your profile didn't state that which is why the question arose.
Just my 2 cents.
Stay safe and have fun.
Theres nothing worse than getting your ass kicked after everyone is naked!:s
I guess I gotta step up for my Tampa folk. I think all they are doing is being honest (as a lot of other people need to do). And before anyone excoriates them in a public forum, read their profile. You may find it to be well and clearly written. They are just communicating what makes sense for them.
I agree with HOTLUVRS. Very well said. So what, guyz if they wanna take it slow there is nothing wrong with that at all!! I have more respect for them as a couple then a couple that pushes to get you in the bedroom the first time round . Okay, well we are all here to get laid but if some couples wanna take it slower then others then leave them alone. To be competely honest, I am the tad bit jealous one in this relationship (female speaking) , but that doesnt mean that I wont fully swap and from the sounds of it thats not what that couple met either. We just like to take it slow and we have to know the other couple thats all. It doesnt mean our relationship has ISSUES, or that we shouldnt do this, cuz also to be honest again, I am the one that pushes it more then him....so just cuz a couple may list that they are a tad bit jealous doesnt mean shit....dont be so quick to judge them
Did anybody else read the entire profile and go "Oh, now it makes sense?" Go at your own pace and tell people what you're into. What's wrong with that?
At the same time, I don't think Hunny meant to out them.
No one would have known who it was if Pareja hadn't spoken up.
I figure that's about a cent and a half's worth.
At the same time, I don't think Hunny meant to out them.
No one would have known who it was if Pareja hadn't spoken up.
I figure that's about a cent and a half's worth.
just had to ad a reply to this if you listen to what swingers have to say is you BOTH and i mean BOTH have to be in it together one mate canot do it just to please another it will ultamitly tear the relation ship apart if another couple is trying to convince them then theey to they too must other motives i can see nothing but problems for them she wll feel used and resentful aftwer a time and maybe even guilt all will play haveoc with the relation shipand she will miss trhe true intent to have fun just my humblreopioinany newbes i have ever talkesd to I just tell them streight out you both must be in thisd together
Hm.. We find it interesting that sooo much is made over a profile- it's pretty simple.. if you read a profile and find that they are not what you are looking for ... then ya move on and keep on looking
I think it's better that a profile states what they are looking for rather then not. Just my small insight. Have a great weekend!
Mrs. Hot
I think it's better that a profile states what they are looking for rather then not. Just my small insight. Have a great weekend! Mrs. HotI think I can get where EVERYONE is coming from. The couple who started the forum did so to get insight, and the couple whom the profile belonged to felt well, judged and so were indignant, I don't blame either side. We have to keep in mind that this lifestyle is not the same as say being a vegetarian. We have to tie in our emotions and "their" emotions and the dynamics of our relationship and of "their" relationship, yadda yadda yadda. Honestly, if I see the word jealousy I get a chill and move on. NO offense they propbably wouldn't like to be with us anyway and so, no loss, right? Maybe, just MAYBE... if at all possible the profile can be reworded but HEY seriously it is THEIR choice to write what they want to write and YOUR choice to read it or not. The choice to explain what she had intended people to get from the said profile was again a choice only she could make. I found it slightly humorous because it could have been so many other profiles but it was assumed they were the ones in question. Even AFTER the original post promised them anonymity. *shrug* We have so many freinds in this wonderful way of life and they are all very very different and we love them all just the way they are. In all honesty our quirks and differences are what make us special... right?
The thing about jealousy though is it breeds anger, and anger is not okay. I am guilty of getting angry, hey we all do, I just try to avoid those situations that are most likely to put me in that frame of mind. Peace.
The thing about jealousy though is it breeds anger, and anger is not okay. I am guilty of getting angry, hey we all do, I just try to avoid those situations that are most likely to put me in that frame of mind. Peace.
First of all, let me just say I haven't felt like I had to explain my sexuality since highschool. Secondly, let me just point out to those that made comments without completely reading our profile: We do not put that we are only girl/girl because we aren't. We are soft swappers and occasional full swappers. WE DO NOT PUT FULL SWAPPERS BECAUSE WE DO NOT WANT TO LEAD ANYONE ASTRAY - we are very honest - ask anyone we have played with, they won't complain. (joking aside). We both enjoy the lifestyle, this comment is directed at the couple that stated that swinging has to be a couple thing and both parties have to consent and enjoy. Beleive me, WE BOTH ENJOY. I think that the jealousy part through some people off, and I can see where it would. That probably wasn't the appropriate word but whatever. We only play when both of us like the other couple and their is attraction, so jealousy really doesn't take place because we both consult each other first. I think this has been hammered into the ground for enough weeks but just wanted to defend our side.
Just one question? Why is it really so wrong to say: we don't fully swap the first second or third time we play. We want to get to know the other party well? For those of you that really think that is so wrong...just answer me this, PRIOR TO BEING A SWINGER, IN THOSE VANILLA YEARS, DID YOU REALLY JUST SLEEP WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT YOU MET THE FIRST TIME? I think not or at least I hope not. That is our take, we want to have the opportunity to light play, get to know someone well first and then after some time fully swap.
Mrs H: Dahling, no jealousy here....the mr and I are both in LOUD unison here when we say, WE LOVE YA, ALL OF YAAAAAA
Just one question? Why is it really so wrong to say: we don't fully swap the first second or third time we play. We want to get to know the other party well? For those of you that really think that is so wrong...just answer me this, PRIOR TO BEING A SWINGER, IN THOSE VANILLA YEARS, DID YOU REALLY JUST SLEEP WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT YOU MET THE FIRST TIME? I think not or at least I hope not. That is our take, we want to have the opportunity to light play, get to know someone well first and then after some time fully swap.
Mrs H: Dahling, no jealousy here....the mr and I are both in LOUD unison here when we say, WE LOVE YA, ALL OF YAAAAAA
Ok .. I have really no feelings on this besides WHO CARES we have read a ton of profiles and if the profile does not match what we are looking for .. We move on .. We don
Hey there's room for every type of couple, single, or triple or more here. Everyone's entitled to their own desires without having to justify them to anyone else. If you don't like what they are asking for, you are free to just move on to another profile! Let them enjoy their lives how they choose to and you do the same. Maybe you aren't meant for each other or wouldn't match up right but there are plenty of fish in the sea!
Let them enjoy their lives how they choose to and you do the same. Maybe you aren't meant for each other or wouldn't match up right but there are plenty of fish in the sea!First and foremost I want to publicly apologize to the couple in question for bringing so much attention to their profile. Even though I have already apologized to them through private communication the original post was public and so should be my apology.
I hope that I haven't caused you too much grief for, what I realize, was too personal of a comment to expect no hard feelings. It was never my intent to "out" you as anyone who has actually read the original post would clearly see.
So again I state to the couple in question that I'm sorry for all this hoopla.
As for everyone else your opinions have been taken into consideration and weighed out. I thank you for your frank input, but I do wonder where the level of vehemence in some peoples comments comes from especially since there was none in the original post. I was especially amused by one comment that stated that we where obviously rejected and thus our "outing" of them. Ah, highschool...
Peace...
Ed
I hope that I haven't caused you too much grief for, what I realize, was too personal of a comment to expect no hard feelings. It was never my intent to "out" you as anyone who has actually read the original post would clearly see.
So again I state to the couple in question that I'm sorry for all this hoopla.
As for everyone else your opinions have been taken into consideration and weighed out. I thank you for your frank input, but I do wonder where the level of vehemence in some peoples comments comes from especially since there was none in the original post. I was especially amused by one comment that stated that we where obviously rejected and thus our "outing" of them. Ah, highschool...
Peace...
Ed