Going out on a limb...
As I am writing this
As I am writing this
i have been a member for over 2 years now and i do have to be honest and i have not met anyone off of this site yet. i have tried a few times but they were not interested which is fine by me. but i do have alot of fun on this site reading posts and going into the chat room. and i figure one day i will find that right single or couple and we'll have fun. but this site is not just about finding someone to meet. i find this website fun to chat and learn about other swingers likes and dislikes. but you do have one thing going for you.....you do live in utah.....LOL. well i'm not sure what exactly your looking for but i have heard of other singles on this web site meeting with couples. but again it's up to you. well good luck with this site.
Hey, you only spent 20 bucks and you actually expect to meet someone? I'm just kidding, I'm also a single, but female , so it's a bit different. I agree with everyone else also, it's a great site! I'm on a few different sites, but this one is my fav.I think it's just alot more fun than most, especially the webchat. You can really get to know people there, especially if you're looking to interact with couples. Just remember that no means no, be polite, and don't be pushy,aggressive or crass. I think that your success here will mostly depend on what you put into it. A nice picture for your main photo is a great start, your face, not a pecker or a foot. lol Since single males are in abundance in the lifestyle, you really need to make your self stand out from the rest. Some of us can get away with saying we're just lookin for some fun. But most of the couples here I'm sure have read profiles like that a hundred times over, so give them something more interesting.I think a bit of humor always works well too. So, welcome and good luck! ~WW
Well Bigswift just remember (nothing ventured nothing gained), if you want to meet people you do have to take an active roll. Just remember to read the profiles all the way through before you e-mail someone. Also you probably will get shot down a few times but sooner or later you will meet some couples or single ladies.
like us most cpls and single F's arent compleatly against single males its just they get annoying sometimes and rude most the time. and for the cpls out ther looking for single F's and not single males, just "seems" to us that is very one sided relationshipwise, no matter what you say or reply it "seems" to us that either comunaication is low or the guy is a homophobe or your just sick of single guys being rude and pervers. as in the post we read about that guy who did not give the husband or the wife any respect. thats the main reason its rare we talk to single guys.. also "seems" they dont read profiles ever on here or any other site including Yahoo.
Thanks single males (and couples)!
I have not really put an effort forward at all on this site. I am a real guy just looking for fun (who is not)
I updated my profile so it gives more info about me and who I am. I will give this place a good try and I am sure (nothing ventured - nothing gained) is true for this site and others. I am also going to add more photos of myself on the profile. I like the
I have not really put an effort forward at all on this site. I am a real guy just looking for fun (who is not)
I updated my profile so it gives more info about me and who I am. I will give this place a good try and I am sure (nothing ventured - nothing gained) is true for this site and others. I am also going to add more photos of myself on the profile. I like the
Just wanted to add my two cents. I've been on here a while now and love it. Yeah, the site has problems from time to time but so does every site.
As for the people, I guess I am lucky because I have not had any negative interactions. All the e-mail is positive and no one is rude.
Someone already said it but it needs to be said again, meeting people is mainly a struggle because of schedules! I know mine is atrocious and has impacted some meetings I have planned. (sorry to those I missed.)
Go to a party, enjoy the site, have fun.
As for the people, I guess I am lucky because I have not had any negative interactions. All the e-mail is positive and no one is rude.
Someone already said it but it needs to be said again, meeting people is mainly a struggle because of schedules! I know mine is atrocious and has impacted some meetings I have planned. (sorry to those I missed.)
Go to a party, enjoy the site, have fun.
If you are nice and can spin a word or two and not afraid of rejection, I'm sure you'll meet someone on here or anywhere. $20.00 investment may not mature as fast as face to face but it will pay dividens eventually. Send your friend a note or IM her and ask her why she has single males blocked.....Be nice be sweet and you may reap rewards for your efforts....
BTW you are an Aries right.... LOL
BTW you are an Aries right.... LOL
It is your job as the member to look through the site and find compatibility with your status. You can complain about your result all you want, but that won't help your endeavor to find the couple into the single male. The problem for you is that you as a single male, are not needed in most circumstance. I did not say this in anyway to degrade you. I am simply saying that another male can be gained when you hook-up with another couple. The only time a single male is needed, is when the guy just wants to watch his wife get pleasured. Yet, even this can be remedied by another couple's male. So my friend, while I understand your frustration in spending $20 and having a hard time getting other guys to let you fuck their wives with no strings and with you bringing nothing to the table to share but your own selfish want to fuck, I will have to warn you that for most single guys, it's difficult.
To better understand "The Lifestyle", one has to realize that the ladies run the show. Their husbands have some influence over happenings, but mostly the previous statement is the law. If my wife wants to fuck a hot young guy, I influence her by saying, "Hey, as long as the guy has a hot young wife." This is to alleviate my masturbating in the corner while some putz is having his way. One (single male) might argue that I could join in an "DP" my wife, but couldn't a guy from a couple do the same??? Show us where you are a commodity and I will sympathize with your plight. Until such time, please just suck up and drive on.
Remember, not flaming you just trying to shed light for ya man. Try finding a girlfriend into the lifestyle and taking her to a party. Your luck'll change trust me. Quit getting pissed because you are trying to get something for nothing and it isn't working.
TR
(Don)
To better understand "The Lifestyle", one has to realize that the ladies run the show. Their husbands have some influence over happenings, but mostly the previous statement is the law. If my wife wants to fuck a hot young guy, I influence her by saying, "Hey, as long as the guy has a hot young wife." This is to alleviate my masturbating in the corner while some putz is having his way. One (single male) might argue that I could join in an "DP" my wife, but couldn't a guy from a couple do the same??? Show us where you are a commodity and I will sympathize with your plight. Until such time, please just suck up and drive on.
Remember, not flaming you just trying to shed light for ya man. Try finding a girlfriend into the lifestyle and taking her to a party. Your luck'll change trust me. Quit getting pissed because you are trying to get something for nothing and it isn't working.
TR
(Don)
I like your new pic, good luck!
as one of the few couples that entertains single males, we can say with the utmost clarity that a few bad apples spoil the barrel...
A ton of single males are simply a-holes...They set up dates, and do not show. They treat the women in the lifestyle as semen recepticles. They try to turn any conversation into a cyber sex thing. They have pictures of their cock...don't they all look pretty much the same? They contact couples that say specifically no single males. And the worst part of them all...they tend to not follow protocal (sp?) for the lifestyle...We have had some great experiences with single males, and some horrible ones...there is nothing worse than a guy turning her on, chatting her up, setting up a date, she getting all dressed and such, and him not showing...or calling...and that is our $0.02...
As long as you make yourself stand out as something other than the normal, "NOW WE KNOW WHY HE IS SINGLE" male, you will be fine...
A ton of single males are simply a-holes...They set up dates, and do not show. They treat the women in the lifestyle as semen recepticles. They try to turn any conversation into a cyber sex thing. They have pictures of their cock...don't they all look pretty much the same? They contact couples that say specifically no single males. And the worst part of them all...they tend to not follow protocal (sp?) for the lifestyle...We have had some great experiences with single males, and some horrible ones...there is nothing worse than a guy turning her on, chatting her up, setting up a date, she getting all dressed and such, and him not showing...or calling...and that is our $0.02...
As long as you make yourself stand out as something other than the normal, "NOW WE KNOW WHY HE IS SINGLE" male, you will be fine...
<<<thinks justjim has good advice
Amen!
Thanks for great incite. I have also received a TON of new Party invites and new Friends. I think this is a great site and TONS better than AFF. On AFF, I would get many website signup requests, from bots. Then I would get gun-shy making contact or sending out pictures. This is a crazy world and good to be safe. But hear it feels like real people and that
Thanks for great incite. I have also received a TON of new Party invites and new Friends. I think this is a great site and TONS better than AFF. On AFF, I would get many website signup requests, from bots. Then I would get gun-shy making contact or sending out pictures. This is a crazy world and good to be safe. But hear it feels like real people and that
I've been a member here now since Sept of last year. Have had a few couples contact me but distance makes a meeting almost impossible right now. I have recently started making a few women friends on the site now that I talk with off and on. Still getting to know each other. I'd say, hey, it's a lifetime membership and I have learned alot from this site, the posts, etc.Been to the chat room a few times and need to get there more often sometime. But as far as I'm concerned, joining this site was alot better investment for me than going out to a bar and just blowing the money on drinks or whatever! At least here,I am learning things and starting to make some good friends that are real! I haven't met anyone in person from here yet but if I do, I do and if I don't, I don't.I still love the site and all that! Most of the people here are great!
Chad
Chad
Just a quick comment on Tequilarose's comment:
And what is the female half of the couple supposed to do while her husband is DP'ing your wife?
Seems to me the typical male heman attitude...IF she is playing, then dammit I am playing...
IMHO (male typing) a lot of men are insecure, therefore, they do not want a single male in their life, because he may "take" his wife...Come on....think about it....Just something to ponder....
And what is the female half of the couple supposed to do while her husband is DP'ing your wife?
Seems to me the typical male heman attitude...IF she is playing, then dammit I am playing...
IMHO (male typing) a lot of men are insecure, therefore, they do not want a single male in their life, because he may "take" his wife...Come on....think about it....Just something to ponder....
I'm not sure that what I am about to say has anything to do with this thread,
but I am beyond pissed right now and I feel the need to vent... so here goes.
Why do single males have a hard time?
On another swingers site, a section of our profile states..
"Please be discreet when sending us a Yahoo instant message."
There's nothing worse then having a message pop up on the screen
that says "YOUR WIFE HAS GREAT TITS ARE YOU INTERESTED IN A HUNG SINGLE MALE?"
While showing off your vacation pictures to visiting relatives, friends, etc."
So what happens.... a message just like that pops up.
I type back and say "Why would you send a message like that?"
"Do you have any clue who is looking at this computer screen right now?"
I get back...
"I'm on [swinger site name] and I like your pics... do you want to meet?"
I point out where it states being discreet on the IM and I add
"What the hell is wrong with you sending messages like that?"
Here's what I get back....
"WELL YOU'RE THE ONE LETTING STRANGE GUYS FUCK YOUR WIFE"
Now we've played with many single guys... and I know that many many many
are really nice and intelligent and mature.... but this one really set you all back
several notches.... It just isn't worth it when I'm clued in to the mind set that
exists among a percentage of you.
but I am beyond pissed right now and I feel the need to vent... so here goes.
Why do single males have a hard time?
On another swingers site, a section of our profile states..
"Please be discreet when sending us a Yahoo instant message."
There's nothing worse then having a message pop up on the screen
that says "YOUR WIFE HAS GREAT TITS ARE YOU INTERESTED IN A HUNG SINGLE MALE?"
While showing off your vacation pictures to visiting relatives, friends, etc."
So what happens.... a message just like that pops up.
I type back and say "Why would you send a message like that?"
"Do you have any clue who is looking at this computer screen right now?"
I get back...
"I'm on [swinger site name] and I like your pics... do you want to meet?"
I point out where it states being discreet on the IM and I add
"What the hell is wrong with you sending messages like that?"
Here's what I get back....
"WELL YOU'RE THE ONE LETTING STRANGE GUYS FUCK YOUR WIFE"
Now we've played with many single guys... and I know that many many many
are really nice and intelligent and mature.... but this one really set you all back
several notches.... It just isn't worth it when I'm clued in to the mind set that
exists among a percentage of you.
MIKEANDSUZ...I agree...you are preaching to the choir...I am blessed enough to work at home so I do not have that problem...BUT I also use my personal IM for these sites...so they do not know they are talking to me not her...you would not believe how many times I have been asked if I like to give head...HA HA HA HA
Jim
Jim
Jim, I'm at home all the time also.... but these knuckleheads don't know that.
It only takes an ounce of sense to figure out that an initial greeting should not
be X rated... but these dopes don't think with their brain.. they think with their dicks.
And then.... no apology... the jerk says something that amounts to me pimping
out my wife like she's a whore... oh yea... single guys... if they had half a brain
they wouldn't be so single.
My apologies to those single guys who I know are out there that this does not apply to.
It only takes an ounce of sense to figure out that an initial greeting should not
be X rated... but these dopes don't think with their brain.. they think with their dicks.
And then.... no apology... the jerk says something that amounts to me pimping
out my wife like she's a whore... oh yea... single guys... if they had half a brain
they wouldn't be so single.
My apologies to those single guys who I know are out there that this does not apply to.
Listen, there's no doubt that a good part of the world completely lacks any manners at all...
...and I wouldn't even begin to defend the rudeness that you've experienced.
But, if you please - consider *not* running the IM (which is obviously connected somehow to your 'fun' life) during the time you're sharing the computer with anyone else.
Shut it down when you're not using it - we do. The *&^*% things make every effort to start automatically whne your machine starts - but it's not necessary. Honestly, I've never understood why people run the things all the time, regardless of whether they're actively chatting or not.
In fact, while we're at it, you should take a look at all the crap that loads when your machine boots, and stop running things you don't need running. You'll be amazed at how many totally unecessary things there are - and your computer will *definitely* run better without all that sh*t running!
I can give more details/instructions if you'd like.
Take care.
...and I wouldn't even begin to defend the rudeness that you've experienced.
But, if you please - consider *not* running the IM (which is obviously connected somehow to your 'fun' life) during the time you're sharing the computer with anyone else.
Shut it down when you're not using it - we do. The *&^*% things make every effort to start automatically whne your machine starts - but it's not necessary. Honestly, I've never understood why people run the things all the time, regardless of whether they're actively chatting or not.
In fact, while we're at it, you should take a look at all the crap that loads when your machine boots, and stop running things you don't need running. You'll be amazed at how many totally unecessary things there are - and your computer will *definitely* run better without all that sh*t running!
I can give more details/instructions if you'd like.
Take care.
as has been alluded to by mikeandsuz, there are a few individuals out there that make a bad impression. those situations make it harder for those that are in the same demographic - "bad apple spoils the bunch". secondly, single guys looking to play tend to be a "dime a dozen".
so, do you give the site a chance? i guess the real question is: do you give the lifestyle a chance. the answer is really up to you. if you are capable of remembering that the lifestyle is about giving, respect, enjoying, respecting boundaries, etc and you arent going to be the typical "dick", then go for it.
single guys do serve a role and are sought out. (our unicorn just enjoyed a gang-bang fantasy that required the single guy.) this site is more about facilitating meetings than it is scheduling a quick fuck.
so, do you give the site a chance? i guess the real question is: do you give the lifestyle a chance. the answer is really up to you. if you are capable of remembering that the lifestyle is about giving, respect, enjoying, respecting boundaries, etc and you arent going to be the typical "dick", then go for it.
single guys do serve a role and are sought out. (our unicorn just enjoyed a gang-bang fantasy that required the single guy.) this site is more about facilitating meetings than it is scheduling a quick fuck.
JSTJIM72 wrote:
Just a quick comment on Tequilarose's comment:
And what is the female half of the couple supposed to do while her husband is DP'ing your wife?
Seems to me the typical male heman attitude...IF she is playing, then dammit I am playing...
IMHO (male typing) a lot of men are insecure, therefore, they do not want a single male in their life, because he may "take" his wife...Come on....think about it....Just something to ponder....
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As a reminder... Situation and couple communication dictate. If you service or please other couple's female first to her heart's content, all will derive pleasure. You can not convince me that one person beng left on the side is ever fair. This is a couple's game. If one of you like to watch, then by all means, seek the single male. GOD SPEED TO YA. We feel this to be one-sided and unfair. All parties should be included. This is our preference and the most common amoungst the swing community. The beauty of this is there are no rules to preference. I only meant it is foolish for him to complain because his $20 didn't get us all running toward his dick like it's somehow a love rocket from another planet that has some special power.
The answer to your question is couple two's wife'll be sittin on my face! HOOAH! As to the comment about a single male taking my wife. HAHAHA!!!! 17 years have taught me that this is highly unlikely. There is just as much chance of that happening with another couple's man. There is nothing! Absolutely nothing!!! a single male brings to the table more than that of a male in another couple. The coupled male brings equality and happiness for all. The single male brings his dick, his wants and leave with something you gave him, all he gives your wife is what she could've gotten from you or the male of another couple. So if that isn't selfish and one-sided, what is it?
For those of you into the single guy, GO FOR IT!!! Yay for you. Whatever floats your boat. Just don't expect it from us. Good luck in your endeavor all you single guys. As for Tequilarose, we will stick to couples, where it's even. So if this is the typical human male response, could that be because it's a normal response. Everyone wants fairness JSTJIM72. It's not wrong to want to have yours too. No one should have to "take one for the team". The only time everyone in a 3-way is on board is when there is DP going on. The rest of the time, it's a guy masturbating to a single guy nailing his wife. NO THANKS! COUPLES... COUPLE!!!! WHERE ARE YOU COUPLES?
:P
~Don~
TR
Just a quick comment on Tequilarose's comment:
And what is the female half of the couple supposed to do while her husband is DP'ing your wife?
Seems to me the typical male heman attitude...IF she is playing, then dammit I am playing...
IMHO (male typing) a lot of men are insecure, therefore, they do not want a single male in their life, because he may "take" his wife...Come on....think about it....Just something to ponder....
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As a reminder... Situation and couple communication dictate. If you service or please other couple's female first to her heart's content, all will derive pleasure. You can not convince me that one person beng left on the side is ever fair. This is a couple's game. If one of you like to watch, then by all means, seek the single male. GOD SPEED TO YA. We feel this to be one-sided and unfair. All parties should be included. This is our preference and the most common amoungst the swing community. The beauty of this is there are no rules to preference. I only meant it is foolish for him to complain because his $20 didn't get us all running toward his dick like it's somehow a love rocket from another planet that has some special power.
The answer to your question is couple two's wife'll be sittin on my face! HOOAH! As to the comment about a single male taking my wife. HAHAHA!!!! 17 years have taught me that this is highly unlikely. There is just as much chance of that happening with another couple's man. There is nothing! Absolutely nothing!!! a single male brings to the table more than that of a male in another couple. The coupled male brings equality and happiness for all. The single male brings his dick, his wants and leave with something you gave him, all he gives your wife is what she could've gotten from you or the male of another couple. So if that isn't selfish and one-sided, what is it?
For those of you into the single guy, GO FOR IT!!! Yay for you. Whatever floats your boat. Just don't expect it from us. Good luck in your endeavor all you single guys. As for Tequilarose, we will stick to couples, where it's even. So if this is the typical human male response, could that be because it's a normal response. Everyone wants fairness JSTJIM72. It's not wrong to want to have yours too. No one should have to "take one for the team". The only time everyone in a 3-way is on board is when there is DP going on. The rest of the time, it's a guy masturbating to a single guy nailing his wife. NO THANKS! COUPLES... COUPLE!!!! WHERE ARE YOU COUPLES?
:P
~Don~
TR
BRAVO!!!!! Extreme and Classy...Well put...