We have had lots of fun in this lifestyle and really enjoy it!What we don't understand is in almost every case after we play with a couple they seem to dissapear.Why is this?We have fun and would like to have fun on a regular basis but most couples seem to be interested but only for one night of fun.
Some people just seem to prefer quantity over quality.......
Hmm, that IS strange. I wonder why too, anyone have any ideas?
Probably has something to do with the extream amount of fakes and liars out there. that is the one thing we have always been so dissappointed by. people will say and do most anything just to get what they want. a true honest and open couple is a hard thing to find. only advise we can give is to be more selective, and hope for the best!
R&M
R&M
As much as we love the lifestyle, it seems to be very frustrating most of the time. There always seems to be some issue that pops up when trying to get 4 people together on a regular basis. For instance, recently we met and played with a couple and had a pretty good time, or at least I thought so. After that night, we heard nothing from them. Finally, she told me that her husband felt like Barb was not attracted to him, and he felt left out. Actually, he was right, but she did play with him orally(he seemed to enjoy that immensely) and would have done more, but he remained kind of aloof. I had a great time with his wife and so did Barb (really hot!). Now nothing is happening, not even communication. Who knows. Don't know why people make this so difficult.
Actually, "fuck and flee" is okay, if that's what they want, but a "we had a great time, thanks" comment the next day would be nice. At least we would know that we did good. LOL
Hey.. atleast you are getting some, even if its only a one night stand..
Think about us poor fools who dont even make it to first base.
LOL.
Then you could also look at it this way.... good memories of a great time are better than constant reminders of a lousy mistake.
(all said in jest to raise a few grins)
Think about us poor fools who dont even make it to first base.
LOL.
Then you could also look at it this way.... good memories of a great time are better than constant reminders of a lousy mistake.
(all said in jest to raise a few grins)
We've had this happen a lot too. Either we never hear from them again, or we do hear from them as friends, but for some reason or the other, the play thing never seems to happen again. We are trying not to take it personal, but sometimes you have to wonder. I look at it as one of the reasons people get into the lifestyle is for variety and to be with new people. So once they've been with us, they are off looking for the next new thing.
Well Cynandhim and Castle, if ya'll didn't live in Bum Fuck Egypt, we would do you over and over again! LOL
We've had this happen way too often ourselves, and agree it is one of the most frustrating points about the lifestyle. It seems some couples are not wanting a long term intimate friendship - but instead want to fuck and move on. What a waste! The more you are with another couple - the more you learn about their fantasies and desires and the more erotic the times are!!!
Many people are in the lifestyle for fun and fantasy which means that they are looking for new adventure seach and every time. Unless the couple makes a connection and that too can become a hairy situation after a while... Like are you tryig to take my wife/husband away for yourself???senerio... OTOH sometimes couples just click and friendships are formed that last years. Although this is the exception rather than the rule.. As for the one time and then great friends but no more play..... the fantasy again... something new every time unless there was that certain connection. As for finding out about whether they enjoyed themselves.. send an honest email telling how you enjoyed and if there was something that didn't work let them know but very kindly...They'll probably come back and let you know their feelings... And if momma didn't hit it off with poppa bear...that works too.. but she should also tell him that she felt that he wasn't interested thus the lack of interest..If it doesn't bring them back maybe they'll learn something that will be helpful next time...Maybe can even have a drink during a break and discuss what's happening.. simply by asking if they are having fun... and mention that you don't feel that poppa bear is having the good time you'd like for him to have...but then maybe he's just not feeling his best... which give poppa an ego escape.
But all in all unless there is that certain chemistry and both couples are looking for LTR's for play you'll most likely find that the lifestyle is a one shot playing pit.
But all in all unless there is that certain chemistry and both couples are looking for LTR's for play you'll most likely find that the lifestyle is a one shot playing pit.
Your lucky to have it the first time,We live in Michigan and we write letters and they dont even open them to read. And we even took a shower last week LOL.We just moved here and we used to have neighbors who were in there 30's and they loved to party with us. Funny how people treat you anymore.
I guess we are very lucky. We have been in the lifestyle for about 8 years and have been ahving a great time with another couple for over 5 years, travel together and get to gether on weekends and go to parties together. Also have another couple that we see off and on pretty often. We have run into a few couples like what you are talking about but there is some very nice couples that like to play long term also.Good Luck to All.
Thats not true for us, but I have heard of that. We always take it pretty slow with couples, and take the time to develop a friendship b4 we take it to that level. Maybe thats why we see them again, cuz most of the time we just get together and hang out, and if things happen it is just a bonus for us but never expected. We dont like to play like that, its no fun for us that way. Some couples like to do things like that has something to do with just having a "fling" I guess, I dont know I really dont understand that. We wont even go there with a couple unless we feel we could have a lasting friendship with them. Everyone is in this for different reasons some like "flings" and some like lasting friendships. I wouldnt take offense to it, not at all!
Damn isn't that the luck. Here you are wishing you could find a couple to spend time with and get together on a regular basis and finally you find someone saying the same thing and what is the outcome? They love on the other side of the country. GRRR
We have remained friends with some of the couples we have met.But we always send an email of thanks to all the couples we play with.
We think its good manners.
We think its good manners.
Those are some great answers.Thanks! We usually chat with couples for a while to get to know them and they do tell us they want to be friends for the long term,but somehow it doesn't seem to work out.We do send e-mail/Instant Message to let them know we has a great time and to thank them.Too bad some of yall that like friends for the long haul live so far off.We do enjoy the lifestyle and love playing.