What’s people’s opinion on if you get a friend request and aren’t interested? Leave it as unanswered or 👎? Not wanting to be rude to anyone but you’re not going to be interested in everyone.
Also what’s your thoughts if you’ve chatted and there isn’t chemistry? Delete them or just keep them in your friends?
Just curious how everyone feels about it.
Also what’s your thoughts if you’ve chatted and there isn’t chemistry? Delete them or just keep them in your friends?
Just curious how everyone feels about it.
We personally try and respond to all friend request. We politely just respond that it doesn't look like it would be a good fit for us. I think most can appreciate a response even if it is a "Thanks but not interested". As for deleting friends this will vary. Some like a clean friends list, others could careless if you can see our private photos still, etc.
I prefer to be told as well. Though i am guilty of not responding myself.
It depends. If it's a blind friend request then we usually don't feel super guilty not responding. If, however, they also include an email of some kind we will almost always respond even if we feel right away that for some reason we probably wouldn't be a good match.
We've learned over the years to "never say never" when it comes to swinging. We've been proven wrong plenty of times when we were pleasantly surprised by how well we got along (even if it for some reason didn't lead to sex) with people we were initially skeptical about. YMMV
ps- We have to admit, though, that even if they include an email along with their friend request we no longer respond to single males. We were very SM friendly for many years but it just got so tiring wading thru all the bad ones to find the few good ones and Ms. Evil finally said, "Enough!"
We've learned over the years to "never say never" when it comes to swinging. We've been proven wrong plenty of times when we were pleasantly surprised by how well we got along (even if it for some reason didn't lead to sex) with people we were initially skeptical about. YMMV
ps- We have to admit, though, that even if they include an email along with their friend request we no longer respond to single males. We were very SM friendly for many years but it just got so tiring wading thru all the bad ones to find the few good ones and Ms. Evil finally said, "Enough!"
I do respond to every friend request and also try to get messages. But if the chemistry isn't right, I do leave them as a friend. I'm totally fine with that option
I answer all mail. Blind friend request are ignored.
If I am not interested in adding them as friends, I usually tell them that I am seeing a few couples at this time and that keeps me busy. This way I don't hurt people's feelings by rejecting them.
I purge my friends list every 3 months, especially if the conversation between us has dwindled down to nothing.
If I am not interested in adding them as friends, I usually tell them that I am seeing a few couples at this time and that keeps me busy. This way I don't hurt people's feelings by rejecting them.
I purge my friends list every 3 months, especially if the conversation between us has dwindled down to nothing.
Always a straight honest answer is more appreciate, I really prefer to be told thanks but not interested than no reply. I personally use my phone to browse and can’t see if I have connect someone in the past, not always the reason you send a message is because you are been pushy.
Oh, one more thing. Even if a couple puts forth the effort to actually write us a message to go along with their friend request, if they don't have any locked pics and their public album doesn't have any face pics (or they don't have any pics at ALL) we won't approve the friend request. We MAY, depending on our mood, write them explaining why we didn't okay the FR. *shrug*
I always answer whenever possible. I have had requests that have "Blocked SM" which will not allow me to respond.
As a single male I like when someone lets me know they aren't interested vs just not replying. It lets me not bug them and move on. No hard feelings on this end. Some people are just not interested. So I would say a quick sorry we are not interested would probably be appreciated.
If it took a lot of effort to send a friend request, I guess I'd understand this feeling of obligation to respond. They clicked a button. Click a button back. Not a big deal. I'm sure there are people who have ignored our friend request, but I can't imagine being the least bit bothered by that.
We aren't big fans of blind friend requests, so its pretty rare that we accept them. And we always send a message with a request, or just send a message letting them know we are interested, and let them send the request if the feeling is mutual.
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*Coming from a couple that's received only a few requests and no friends, I know* but, as others have said, if there's no message attached and it's just a blind request, we'll generally just delete it without a seconds thought. Course, we've only had one person who's actually introduced themselves.
On the flip side, I don't think we've sent out any requests but when/if we do get interested in someone and send a message with our requet we would both prefer something as a response vs a blind decline.
But good to see so many others share our viewpoints though.
On the flip side, I don't think we've sent out any requests but when/if we do get interested in someone and send a message with our requet we would both prefer something as a response vs a blind decline.
But good to see so many others share our viewpoints though.
We won't respond to blind friend requests. It just shows to us as well that they didn't read our profile. To us that shows a lack of interest on their part.
After reading this thread, I think some people on here believe that a friend request is an actual invite to become real friends. That's really not the intent. It's not like you're accepting an offer to go on picnics and shit. You're not going to be committed to loaning out power tools or to help anyone move into a new apartment. It's just an expression of interest. Some of y'all put way too much thought into shit like this.
FIT_N_FUN wrote:Agreed hence why we always reply. We won't accept any that we don't feel would be a good match (single males that are 19) but will still respond saying such.
After reading this thread, I think some people on here believe that a friend request is an actual invite to become real friends. That's really not the intent. It's not like you're accepting an offer to go on picnics and shit. You're not going to be committed to loaning out power tools or to help anyone move into a new apartment. It's just an expression of interest. Some of y'all put way too much thought into shit like this.
we won't blind request either nor will we untill there's some kind of communication but I also find it very disturbing that single guys write I want to fuck your wife those ones get blocked
FIT_N_FUN wrote:
After reading this thread, I think some people on here believe that a friend request is an actual invite to become real friends. That's really not the intent. It's not like you're accepting an offer to go on picnics and shit. You're not going to be committed to loaning out power tools or to help anyone move into a new apartment. It's just an expression of interest. Some of y'all put way too much thought into shit like this.
I agree...to some extent. I also would argue that shooting off a FR requires an absolute bare minimum of effort and quite often people likely just go thru perving profiles and clicking the FR button without really more than a cursory glance at any given person or profile. And a bare minimum of effort to reach out to us shouldn't require us to put forth anything more than the bare minimum in response. If they can't be bothered to include even a short, "Hi." email then why should we feel obligated to respond? *shrug*
Just our opinion, but everyone should know that a non-response to a message or a friend request, blind or otherwise, indicates there isn’t enough interest. It’s just not that big of a deal to not reply, and nobody should get all butt hurt over it.
If we get a blind friend request and we like their profile we’ll accept it, they can perv our photos and not have to ever send a message. And conversely if we send a message or send a friend request and they don’t reply we know they’re just assholes lol ... just kidding, we know they just aren’t interested ....and that’s just okie dokie with us 😉.
As far as you friends list, why would you keep
Anyone in it that you’re not potentially interested in 🤷♂️
If we get a blind friend request and we like their profile we’ll accept it, they can perv our photos and not have to ever send a message. And conversely if we send a message or send a friend request and they don’t reply we know they’re just assholes lol ... just kidding, we know they just aren’t interested ....and that’s just okie dokie with us 😉.
As far as you friends list, why would you keep
Anyone in it that you’re not potentially interested in 🤷♂️
Common courtesy, just say thank you, we are flattered but not interested. Then the person isn’t sitting there wondering or waiting.
JBBEAGS818 wrote:
Common courtesy, just say thank you, we are flattered but not interested. Then the person isn’t sitting there wondering or waiting.
Again, I agree to some extent with the whole "common courtesy" and "flattered" but know from VAST experience that a FR does not necessarily indicate interest. More often than not it's simply someone wanting to perv your locked pics. Sorry, but that's the truth. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My profile states that I don't accept blind requests. If I get one, I think,"Why are they interested in me? They didn't even read my profile.Theyre either lazy, friend collecting or illiterate." I try to answer every message, unless they say something like (And this really happened.)"I want to make you cum, cum,cum."
We definitely agree with Dr Evil and his very sexy wife.