We see a great number of men who are listed as straight say in their profile they are looking for men, ts/tv/tg or Bi men. Why list yourselves as straight when your obviously Bi or gay? Not bashing Bi guys here, just don't understand why you don't just say your Bi?
Bi guys always leave some clues in their profile as to their sexual orientation but they still try to pass themselves as straight. We just wonder why you do this?
Bi guys always leave some clues in their profile as to their sexual orientation but they still try to pass themselves as straight. We just wonder why you do this?
I don't understand either, it isn't supported in search criteria anyway. Maybe they don't understand how to change the profile. I have listed as BI Curious but I am not searching for single men.
In addition to this I feel as though BI and Curious men are avoided because of what many others perceive them to be with no experience to back it up, hence a phobia. (I think others consider BI and Curious as Gay.)
In addition to this I feel as though BI and Curious men are avoided because of what many others perceive them to be with no experience to back it up, hence a phobia. (I think others consider BI and Curious as Gay.)
I have encountered many - particularly those in Swinging - who consider any man who doesn't profess to be PURELY heterosexual - to be an AIDS risk. While I don't accept that conclusion myself, this is a case where "reality doesn't matter. Perception forms the behavior".
There is also still a huge stigma to "being queer" - a phrase now only applied to males. I think the perceptions are very-slowly changing, but many prefer to not advertise that they aren't 100% absolutely NOT a goddam fuckin' FAGGOT. (tongue firmly in cheek)
There is also still a huge stigma to "being queer" - a phrase now only applied to males. I think the perceptions are very-slowly changing, but many prefer to not advertise that they aren't 100% absolutely NOT a goddam fuckin' FAGGOT. (tongue firmly in cheek)
LOL BEARD! I think that sums up the regard for alternative male activity.
I think discretion might be another reason. It might be a bit of a shock if one were to find out that a co-worker, friend, or a family member might also be on the site. I know that with my job, discretion is a definite requirement. I enjoy many activities and as far as I am concerned, my co-workers, friends, and family just don't need to know about some parts of my private life. There are some things I will reveal in a profile and some things I will not. As mentioned above, I think many will indeed put little hints in their profile. I may not come out and say that I like certain things, but I am a firm believer that if anyone wants to know anything about me, all they have to do is ask. Almost everything tends to be revealed in conversation. Its all about communication don't you think?
Excellent OFALLONGUY but I truly feel there is quite a bit to do with the phobia. Just how much is the phobia as compared with other factors we may not ever know.
Good points made! I, on the other hand, do list myself as bi, because I am. That being said, it does not mean that I am a higher risk than a straight man, just because I like to play with both sexes.
We use discretion when we talk and potentially meet others. We have met couples where neither were bi, or, just the woman is bi. We prefer to play as a bisexual couple, but, it is not required. I am not going to attack the other man, just because I am bi. I have to be attracted, there has to be a connection, and, of course, he has to be bi also!
There has to be an understanding that I can play STR8. After all, I do live with a woman, and have most of my life.
I have nothing against men listing themselves as str8 if they are curious, If they are truly bi, and need to use discretion on the site, that is cool also. But, if we chat, please be upfront about it. I will always be, and hope that they would also.
We can still have hot sex, without having bisexual play. Simple as that for us.
My $0.02.
Ron
We use discretion when we talk and potentially meet others. We have met couples where neither were bi, or, just the woman is bi. We prefer to play as a bisexual couple, but, it is not required. I am not going to attack the other man, just because I am bi. I have to be attracted, there has to be a connection, and, of course, he has to be bi also!
There has to be an understanding that I can play STR8. After all, I do live with a woman, and have most of my life.
I have nothing against men listing themselves as str8 if they are curious, If they are truly bi, and need to use discretion on the site, that is cool also. But, if we chat, please be upfront about it. I will always be, and hope that they would also.
We can still have hot sex, without having bisexual play. Simple as that for us.
My $0.02.
Ron
I can understand why they may not. I wish I had a nickle for every time I was chatting with a couple and they would re-read our profile and see I listed at bi curious and drop us like a hot potatoe. Ever since I changed it from straight to curious I have had several couples get downright hostile. MAybe those who dont' list are afraid they will be shunned.
Mabey men single or coupled don't put bi or bi-curious because the second that an other couple that is slightly interested in them looks at their profile and as soon as they see that they don't contact or if they have already contacted then they stop contact automatically because for some reason unknown to us the first thing they think is that the bi or bi-curious man is going to push them to do something or will hit on them even if they are straight or other things like that without even asking or stating in the begining that they don't like that and aren't interested. People don't thing that if they are straight forward about how they feel their wishes will be respected so they don't bother saying it. There is one thing everyone needs to remember and that is if you don't want to do it or you don't feel comfortable doing it, Just say so, considering the lifestyle I personally think if you speak up about how you feel, just say SOMETHING, most likely it WILL be respected.
I am Bi ..and listed as Bi ....
Bifemales are treated like queens
Bimales are shot on site ...
It's always the same ...
Bifemales are treated like queens
Bimales are shot on site ...
It's always the same ...
Male half...As usual...I am the only one who has time to do this...
In my opinion, the average male assumes if a guy is bi, then while they are having a good time, the straight guy will suddenly get slammed in his keister...I have heard this spoken about many times...I have also heard about many a man who was in a foursome or moresome and suddenly find a man giving oral to him, which was never discussed, OK'd, or asked about...This being said...As a couple with a straight lady, she has been "attacked" numerous times by bi females...So I reckon it comes as no shock that when someone is straight they assume everyone is straight...When someone is gay they assume everyone is gay...When someone is bi they assume everyone is bi...Think about it..Do you consider yourself odd? Isn't everyone like you?
Anyway...There is a HUGE stigma among males about being perceieved as gay or bi...That is just not manly...If ANYONE ever found out you had been with a man, you would not be allowed to watch football with your friends anymore, you would be relagated to the kitchen fixing snacks....There is a stupid joke floating around amongst straight men that gos something like this, If you nail one board, are you a carpenter? No. If you put one brick into a wall, are you a bricklayer? No. But if you suck one dick, you're a cocksucker for life! This is the exact type of thinking that causes men to not list themselves as bi or not pick a sexuality...
As a straight male...without curiosity, been there, done that...did not like it one bit...no need to re-visit...I am more than comfortable to be with a bi-male...but I also make it abundantly clear that although I am happy to have him with us, I will not be participating in any of the bi-male activities...
Although I need an editor to shrink this post...I think the thought came across...Basically, men are afraid to be labled as gay or bi because they are afraid that someone would think less of them if they were...
In my opinion, the average male assumes if a guy is bi, then while they are having a good time, the straight guy will suddenly get slammed in his keister...I have heard this spoken about many times...I have also heard about many a man who was in a foursome or moresome and suddenly find a man giving oral to him, which was never discussed, OK'd, or asked about...This being said...As a couple with a straight lady, she has been "attacked" numerous times by bi females...So I reckon it comes as no shock that when someone is straight they assume everyone is straight...When someone is gay they assume everyone is gay...When someone is bi they assume everyone is bi...Think about it..Do you consider yourself odd? Isn't everyone like you?
Anyway...There is a HUGE stigma among males about being perceieved as gay or bi...That is just not manly...If ANYONE ever found out you had been with a man, you would not be allowed to watch football with your friends anymore, you would be relagated to the kitchen fixing snacks....There is a stupid joke floating around amongst straight men that gos something like this, If you nail one board, are you a carpenter? No. If you put one brick into a wall, are you a bricklayer? No. But if you suck one dick, you're a cocksucker for life! This is the exact type of thinking that causes men to not list themselves as bi or not pick a sexuality...
As a straight male...without curiosity, been there, done that...did not like it one bit...no need to re-visit...I am more than comfortable to be with a bi-male...but I also make it abundantly clear that although I am happy to have him with us, I will not be participating in any of the bi-male activities...
Although I need an editor to shrink this post...I think the thought came across...Basically, men are afraid to be labled as gay or bi because they are afraid that someone would think less of them if they were...