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You wouldn’t think that this should be very difficult to find a single male on this site for a threesome, but based on the posts I constantly see this place is plagued with males that talk a big game and then never come through. What do you guys do to filter out the good ones? This site needs to do a better job of getting rid of the single males that are all talk and no action. Maybe a three strikes and they are out. I realize sometimes things come up, but if it’s constantly that gets extremely annoying. Lots of us have lives and this kinda thing takes some planning. If you say you are going to show up and then don’t, it just wastes people’s time.
We have had good luck. Like any threesome, dont put all your eggs in 1 basket. Always keep your options open.
Are you looking for one ongoing or just one time. The latter is easier to find. Having the male half meeting up with them first is a sure fire way to eliminate a lot out of the gate.
Single male here, who has a playmate if needs be.

I totally agree that most people around here,Utah people, are flakes.🤷🏽‍♂️ Lol

I am not from around here and would like to be of service to couples who are looking for a male. Most of my experience was and is with couples, so I am comfortable and experienced. (Some single males have a hard time with the hubby being here too...) message me with your kik and let’s have fun 😘
Single male here. My ex and I explored the lifestyle for a couple years. We attended parties, resorts and clubs, etc. Since then I’ve done some exploring on my own. I was a third for a couple in Park City after she picked up on me in a bar. What we thought would be a one time thing ended up lasting for several months till they decided to take a break from the LS and do the church thing again. We both enjoyed being there for her pleasure but sometimes he just wanted to watch.

I’m comfortable in group situations and have experienced a few.

I think the biggest thing is I like people. It’s fun to get to know them in and out of the bedroom. Sometimes a great conversation can be as fulfilling as a night between the sheets.

I’d love to know more about you. Let’s chat.
I had good luck fairly recently with single males and a girlfriend. He is still reliable and willing but she doesn't want to play so much right now.
I'm available as a single male for couples and I'm reliable. I've found it's the couples that haven't been dependable. I had a meetup last week, and they changed their mind at the last minute.
I have had pretty good luck with single males so far. You have to weed through them of course but there are good ones that’s for sure. I’m very clear up front what my expectations are (the Mrs).
It would be nice to get a little referral network going... I'm half joking, but kind of serious.
I agree. A referal kik group would be good. Not sure how that would work though. Any ideas out there.
SLC seems to have its share of game players. I have been here less than a year and have heard couples that I have met say that they get stood up by single males or they are not as advertised many times. Talking on the phone first helps. Not just texting or kik. Meeting in public venue also
I always show up or contact if Something comes up.
If the couples on here want positive mfm results. KIK eros693
CHEERS!
We haven’t been playing as much we used to for the last couple of years, but we don’t think things have changed much. We have had good luck with single men. If a guy is verified real and especially if he has positive comments from people verified as real on his profile, in our experience he isn’t a flake. Guys like that are somewhat in the minority if you look around the site. Really, if you browse through profiles on the site so are couples. Our experience is that couples, singles, men or women that are by nature polite and charming end up being the best lovers. Maybe they just have more confidence and practice and our just in a good mood because they are already getting laid.
A swingular does not verify single males.
OSTAR21 wrote:

A swingular does not verify single males.


You can get verified as "Real". If you meet any member who is "VIP" at a meet and greet and they can see you exist, and if they can somehow be certain you are not misrepresenting yourself, as a single male, or dangerous or dishonest, or just an unsavory character, they can verify you as "Real" from their own computer.
We have had as much luck with single males as couples. Most single males have been respectful with the wife.
Single guy here, I would totally help you out!! I’m reliable and would satisfy the two of you!! satisfaction guaranteed!!
Thanks for all the advice and referrals. It definitely will help. We don’t get a lot of opportunities so we would really hate to have someone flake and miss a chance at some fun.
Everyone is unique on what they are looking for. For us, we like someone who is respectful to BOTH of us. If she starts getting PM’s asking to do this or that, its done. If he starts asking for dirty pics the second sentence in, its done. We love the friends first dynamic whether with singles or couples. Looks are important to a degree, but absolutely second to someone who is nice and respectful. Again, maybe just us.
OSTAR21 wrote:

A swingular does not verify single males.

I was verified as REAL.
Recently relocated here and have experience with couples. SLC seems to have many game players, no shows, invalid pics, endless email and KIK gone silent. Many that share pics are 20 year old ones and not as advertised. Both with singles and couples.
I will return emails kik and cell. Will share contact info. Will meet first. Not afraid or offended if rejected and will walk away if not real.
When a couple invites an additional male or female into the mix, I play by their rules.
NUF SAID
Bingo! That’s our strategy.
We prefer single guys. It is often difficult to get four people on the same page. Singles takes a little work to find but we have always had good luck and great sex! There are a lot of really good single men out there. Give them the opportunity to impress, we feel, you won't be disappointed.
Our schedules most weeks are so full we rarely make it out to meet and greets. When we do, there are always interesting couples and singles to meet. Some of the single men at a meet and greet will actually know some of the couples there. So the for real issue might be quickly resolved. Maybe that is a good way to find the right guy. If a guy shows up at a meet and greet and he is hoping to meet a couple, and you are a couple, hoping to meet a single fellow, and you meet and there is chemistry and attraction, then maybe you are more than halfway there.
We have had some great experiences with single males. Just like most couples here, it is trying to find the right single females that seems to be more problematic.
Its about mutual respect ;)Don't waste anyones time and they won't waste yours.
It's not just a problem with single males. Many couples chat to get excited but no action. I've never not shown or not performed well. Verified Real. Love to find midweek fun. Weekends are for sure things with friends or parties. I date a few unicorns but schedules are always difficult.
mathinacake wrote:

Talking about sex is not necessarily meant as being disrespectful, it is a swinger site and these are sex positive people on here. That said, great sex happens when YOU feel comfortable with things and not elsewise. You do you, and what helps you feel most at ease.


You clearly don't understand what Wifeyneedsnew was saying regarding talking about sex and making BOTH part of the couple feel involved.
LIVNITUP wrote:

You wouldn’t think that this should be very difficult to find a single male on this site for a threesome, but based on the posts I constantly see this place is plagued with males that talk a big game and then never come through. What do you guys do to filter out the good ones? This site needs to do a better job of getting rid of the single males that are all talk and no action. Maybe a three strikes and they are out. I realize sometimes things come up, but if it’s constantly that gets extremely annoying. Lots of us have lives and this kinda thing takes some planning. If you say you are going to show up and then don’t, it just wastes people’s time.


Easy answer to the original issue: A lot of guys on here aren't "swingers." They're single men who strike out in the vanilla life style eo they come here because they assume the men are cucks. The second type are the knes just fishing for pictures and those are usually the blind friend requests or copy/paste messages.

And finally, the last group are the real single male swingers. They're probably the smallest group here and they're unfortunately lobbed in with the rest.

A year or 2 ago someone suggested a rating/vetting system for single males as to seperate them from the pack of horny zombies. Maybe that should be re-addressed.
I'm a single guy just have no luck with the females so we have the same problem
As a single male myself, I often wish that there were a way for those I know or have played with in the lifestyle to give me a referral so people would know whose for real and who isn’t. But, the current system is what it is and we all stumble forward till we find chill people that we vibe with. We all just want to have a good time with no drama. Happy hunting everyone.
We did two nights ago! First time meeting and playing with a single guy and definitely won’t be the last. First time hotwife too. Think we found a good one! He’s even offered to bring a hot girl the next time.
I've got 3 different attractive couples that are willing to vouch for me. Lately I've been giving Nuru massages. Coconut oil, music of choice, and sexy bodies. Deep tissue for those who need some deep stretching. Plan on throwing some parties. I've been in the LS and yes I belong. Not desperate and bring the passion.
27, bi, tan, muscular, masculine single guy here. Very respectful and more interested in on going fwb, over one time things.

Snapchat dredding9292 if you want me to verify with pictures.
P90XGuy wrote:

As a single male myself, I often wish that there were a way for those I know or have played with in the lifestyle to give me a referral so people would know whose for real and who isn’t. But, the current system is what it is and we all stumble forward till we find chill people that we vibe with. We all just want to have a good time with no drama. Happy hunting everyone.


Members comments is the best way for others to give a referral. That is one of the first things we read, if there is one.
I've been a member since February 19, 2006, and must admit my experience has been great. ;)
mathinacake wrote:

WifeyNeedsNew wrote:

Everyone is unique on what they are looking for. For us, we like someone who is respectful to BOTH of us. If she starts getting PM’s asking to do this or that, its done. If he starts asking for dirty pics the second sentence in, its done. We love the friends first dynamic whether with singles or couples. Looks are important to a degree, but absolutely second to someone who is nice and respectful. Again, maybe just us.



Talking about sex is not necessarily meant as being disrespectful, it is a swinger site and these are sex positive people on here. That said, great sex happens when YOU feel comfortable with things and not elsewise. You do you, and what helps you feel most at ease.



Pretty sure you completely missed the point.
FULLOFPASSINO6 wrote:

We did two nights ago! First time meeting and playing with a single guy and definitely won’t be the last. First time hotwife too. Think we found a good one! He’s even offered to bring a hot girl the next time.


Congrats, love to hear the success stories.
I hope that you comment on his profile. If more people would do that this conversation would not be as much of an issue.
What you all say is true. One way is a paid membership and a public photo. The rest will happen on its own.😀
We've had great luck with single males! We've actually had way more problems with the male half of a couple than we've ever had with singles. As long as he respects both us and the wife is attracted, then it's game on!
We have had a lot of drama with singles, BUT having said that, we were new and werent nearly as selective as we are now. We have had some really good experiences lately. We know there are good guys out there, it’s just difficult to filter out the good ones at the initial stages.
HeBull wrote:

Single male here looking to prove I'm real. Lol


Im pretty sure this initial post was directed to couples for advice but it jist got flooded with about 20 "Oh im a real single male...blah..blah" comments.

Just funny that so many missed the target audience of OPs question lol.
I think alot of single males get a bad rap but also because some of them aren't very respectful for the couple and the lifestyle. However, if you can meet the right single male and build a respectful trust or just a booty call, respect is everything to build any type of relationship
Harleynight12345678 wrote:

I think alot of single males get a bad rap but also because some of them aren't very respectful for the couple and the lifestyle. However, if you can meet the right single male and build a respectful trust or just a booty call, respect is everything to build any type of relationship



Harleynight well said
Hey everyone. I'm staying in Draper tonight 5/28 & tomorrow 5/29. Would love to meet with a couple while I'm here. I don't have a profile pic but will share a body pic here. I can send a couple face pics if any couples want to get ahold of me.
We have had some very good luck with a few males...and a few not so good. We prefer a fwb relationship vs one night stands though
mountainlovers wrote:

It would be nice to get a little referral network going... I'm half joking, but kind of serious.


I start by reffering myself. I'll send you a message.
I'm game for FWB and a one night stand. We all have those needs for sure.
slcgoodtimes wrote:

I start by reffering myself. I'll send you a message.


Lol so much cringe.

Literally the opposite of what a referral means.
Mc2 wrote:

I’ve played with couples here and most of you guys are assholes. Purely just male dominated couples . I respectfully respect everyone’s pleasureable selections but there good and bad both ways


That's a tad hyperbolic don't you think? Careful lest thou commit 'lifestyle seppuku' like so many who came before you have done. I've seen many SM's do just that with far less vitriolic rhetoric.
Mc2 wrote:

I’ve played with couples here and most of you guys are assholes. Purely just male dominated couples . I respectfully respect everyone’s pleasureable selections but there good and bad both ways


Trial account and played with enough couples to be a good judge character on them all.

Simce we're making blind assumptions; Id bet you've not been with a single couple and only came here because you stike out consistantly in the vanilla world. You saw this fourm post and realized majority of couples don't want SMs so you got mad again and decided to say all the males of couples are assholes.

At least be like the other SMs and have enough money to buy a full accont.

You are the Exact reason couples don't like single males, when we have mentioned in the past that its the horde of bad ones giving the few good ones bad names...well, you're the Patient Zero...or in your case, Patient Incel.

Drops Mic.
We have had some great experience with mmf. Just like most everyone else it is the mff that stays really elusive.
We have. We’ve been very lucky and very picky 😉
We've had good times with a two single males (at different times) but we met them through Craigslist before they banned personals, even though we were active on here at the time. Not sure why we haven't had as much luck on this site. Maybe it isn't as anonymous and spur-of-the-moment as people like for hookups?
Mc2 wrote:

You’re the prime example of those couples I was referring to . I’m a man of great character and ethics I carry myself . Just because you fabricate your life in the real word don’t mean everyone else does breakingbadfans. Just like the real world they’re good and bad . I play with some sexy , open minded , non judgmental, that don’t make assumptions out of you, and just have some non drama hot sex. Continually


Please do not extend your trial account. You are not helping the other single guys out on here.
I’d be interested
Id be happy to play. I'm sorry you've had such trouble. My kik and snapchat are my.happyplaceut if you'd like to chat and set something up.
I am an educated clean athletic mature bi gentleman who is open to start a conversation with a nice couple. Have a great weekend.
Fortunately for us, we have had a great deal of success. However, it has never come from this site. The other two sites that we use have been much better.
I've had success on the site. Like everything, there's great couples/singles and not so desirable/disrespectful couples/singles. Putting yourself out there helps.
I'm a married guy but I self-identify as a single male and I would be glad to fuck any hot married ladies. Oh, and my wife would like to tag along and fuck your husband while I fuck you. I know that makes me a bit of an outlier as far as single males go but I'm hoping there might be a very small niche for this particular kind of kink that needs to be filled in the lifestyle.
We have actually had really good luck with single guys on here.met some great guys and had lots of fun. Hope it continues.
Also available
Go to the stansbury island naked beach you can take your pick and see what they have to offer lol. Weekends are the busiest but ive seen guys and couples there m-f 11-8pm. We like Sunday afternoons, I like weekdays after 3
Love to visit the nudist beach one day. I used to go to St Barts for nudist retreats. Live to start a friendship with a nice couple.
I am a single male who is reliable and available for a m/mf or a m/fm threesome. My problem has been communicating with the male half of a couple and making dates were the wife is not on board.
I am a single male who is reliable and available for a m/mf or a m/fm threesome. My problem has been communicating with the male half of a couple and making dates were the wife is not on board or endless emails.
I’m single male and new to this site I’m sure we could make it happen if yur up for it
Always funny when the single males posts get revived. Its like zombies to the brains...

Even though the original question was covered and was directed at other couples asking "who has had luck" but a lot of these SMs must have had luck with SMs too to be giving so much good advice.
We have yet to have met a good single male from this site.
Utahldscouple. I will be delighted to invite you to dinner and change your mind regarding single males. Have a great weekend
We have met a couple of great guys on here but they are few and far between. Both have moved from the area unfortunately. We are very picky and there is a certain type she is attractive to. If you are not picky the guys are a dime a dozen. We do this to add some spice to an already incredible sex life so just settling for any swinging dick out there is a downgrade. I am not bi but watching a good looking guy go at it with my hot hot is fun to watch and join!
It is not hard to find sexy single men. It is one of my favorite things!!!
However, we don't seem to have a problem finding male or female. We Evolve for the group!
Athleticeuropean wrote:

Utahldscouple. I will be delighted to invite you to dinner and change your mind regarding single males. Have a great weekend


Ha! These comments always happen... the "I'll change your mind" "I can prove I'm not like the other SMs" Well you haven't met me, yet ;) "
Interesting to see people judging other people before meeting or talking to them. Really interesting.
No worries, I will not participate in such forums anymore. Not use to be judged by people who has never met. Have a great weekend.
Athleticeuropean wrote:

No worries, I will not participate in such forums anymore. Not use to be judged by people who has never met. Have a great weekend.


It’s Utah get used to it!

Don’t worry about some of them, they can’t even show up to their own meet ups.

But seriously put some pictures and info on your profile. This is a swingers site. If you want to join them you have to establish trust before they are going to take time to meet let alone fuck you. Most cheater singles are the ones with no pictures.

We have met some great singles men on here. One or two will be long time friends.
Thanks for your kind words and will follow your advice. Thanks again for your feedback.
Thanks for your kind words and will follow your advice. Thanks again for your feedback.
BREAKINGBADFANS wrote:

Athleticeuropean wrote:

Utahldscouple. I will be delighted to invite you to dinner and change your mind regarding single males. Have a great weekend

Ha! These comments always happen... the "I'll change your mind" "I can prove I'm not like the other SMs" Well you haven't met me, yet ;) "
Not bothered by this comment. We just haven’t found a SM on this site yet that we could/recommend.
Athleticeuropean wrote:

No worries, I will not participate in such forums anymore. Not use to be judged by people who has never met. Have a great weekend.
Sorry that was not the intent for that comment to be taken negatively at all.
Yes couple801801, I concur. Lol. Loved playing with you guys and am always available to play with couples like you, who do play and have fun!!! Let’s play again! 😘
Thanks again for your kind words. I will follow the advice of Sm435 and add some pics.I believe in respect. good manners,communication and do not be judgmental. Hopefully one day, I will find a couple to start a nice friendship. Have a great Sunday.
Sad to hear of the flakes. Make honest ones a bit frustrated. I think single males should be willing to step up on something like meet for dinner first and see where that goes or end up with another kind friend. It worked for me.
That's a bummer - I'm new here, hit me up. Always down to play.
Athleticeuropean wrote:

Love to visit the nudist beach one day. I used to go to St Barts for nudist retreats. Live to start a friendship with a nice couple.


I went out about 3 after going to the bike rally. There were 13 cars and 3 different cool couples.
🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🤘
Nice, love to go one day,I could not go today due to some personal obligations. Love to talk to you.My kik is athleticmaleutah1
I'm a single guy and have had success. Its all aboit dedication and havibg fun
LIVNITUP wrote:

You wouldn’t think that this should be very difficult to find a single male on this site for a threesome, but based on the posts I constantly see this place is plagued with males that talk a big game and then never come through. What do you guys do to filter out the good ones? This site needs to do a better job of getting rid of the single males that are all talk and no action. Maybe a three strikes and they are out. I realize sometimes things come up, but if it’s constantly that gets extremely annoying. Lots of us have lives and this kinda thing takes some planning. If you say you are going to show up and then don’t, it just wastes people’s time.


my wife... i was single when we met
https://media.giphy.com/media/xUA7b2S7SxhM1cGdsQ/giphy.gif
Husband is looking for a married or single woman. Hit us up :)
Here comes THE MASSAGEBBCGUY The greatest single male ever. LOL. (I am seriously laughing my black ass off right now).. single males this, single males that..
I can give you the perspective from a single guy who’s had great experiences w couples.

Clear communication

Common goals

It works when when everyone is on the same page and chemistry is great. Know the priorities for everyone to have a great time.

My two cents.