I’ve been wondering why there are so few pictures of guys on profile’s of couples— the ones we usually look at are primarily of the female half. This seems very un-even.
Also, we get a fair amount of blind friend requests though we state clearly (like many of you) in our profile not to do that, so they obviously didn’t bother to read the profile. Do you think they are just people looking to collect pictures?
Also, we get a fair amount of blind friend requests though we state clearly (like many of you) in our profile not to do that, so they obviously didn’t bother to read the profile. Do you think they are just people looking to collect pictures?
You mean to say that some people ostensibly looking for sex on a sex site are disingenuous?!!? 
LOL
LOLThe ol' dreaded "blind friend request" post again.
Here's how we look at it... maybe, just maybe, they DID read our profile.
Also, maybe, like most humans, they wonder what is "behind the curtain". (locked behind that button that does not activate until a friend request is sent/accepted)- if they want to "collect boob pictures" more power too them. I will say, that some of our "blind requests" have become close friends. - just our experience.
Here's how we look at it... maybe, just maybe, they DID read our profile.
Also, maybe, like most humans, they wonder what is "behind the curtain". (locked behind that button that does not activate until a friend request is sent/accepted)- if they want to "collect boob pictures" more power too them. I will say, that some of our "blind requests" have become close friends. - just our experience.
Well, let's unpack this, shall we?
1) Pic collectors? Check.
2) Fake profiles? Check.
3) People who either don't read or don't pay attention to profiles? Check.
4) People who DO read but choose to ignore your requests? Check.
Yeah, that pretty much sums up ALL the interwebs whether it's a swingsite or a subreddit or just about any other place in cyberspace that one can imagine. LOL
And we agree, to some extent, with CNTRLCPL in that we too can count friends who blind friend requested us initially. Those couples, however, are by FAR the minority. We like to give people the benefit of the doubt but also get tired of being played/scammed/punked so we're much warier than we used to be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
1) Pic collectors? Check.
2) Fake profiles? Check.
3) People who either don't read or don't pay attention to profiles? Check.
4) People who DO read but choose to ignore your requests? Check.
Yeah, that pretty much sums up ALL the interwebs whether it's a swingsite or a subreddit or just about any other place in cyberspace that one can imagine. LOL
And we agree, to some extent, with CNTRLCPL in that we too can count friends who blind friend requested us initially. Those couples, however, are by FAR the minority. We like to give people the benefit of the doubt but also get tired of being played/scammed/punked so we're much warier than we used to be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
EVILDOERS wrote:
And we agree, to some extent, with CNTRLCPL in that we too can count friends who blind friend requested us initially. Those couples, however, are by FAR the minority. We like to give people the benefit of the doubt but also get tired of being played/scammed/punked so we're much warier than we used to be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Agree with those couples are less common that "The Norm" ( if there is a norm on here ) - but, like The Great One always said - you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
We agree with Delicious - I (the male half) tend to TAKE most of the pictures so that's what gets posted. I have shots of my ugly mug if anyone wants, but mostly let's be honest, how many people ASK for pictures of the wife vs how many ASK for pictures of the man?
We have found through experience that most people surfing this site, though they may represent a couple, tend to me the males. Men don't want to look at other men's junk (unless they are into that) in which case, they ask. So, we don't post. After a year and a half of having only Mrs. Kink's pictures posted, I can honestly say that we have NEVER been asked to see a picture of Mr. Kink.
(Edit: Which reminds me. I need to update the Mrs. pictures!)
We have found through experience that most people surfing this site, though they may represent a couple, tend to me the males. Men don't want to look at other men's junk (unless they are into that) in which case, they ask. So, we don't post. After a year and a half of having only Mrs. Kink's pictures posted, I can honestly say that we have NEVER been asked to see a picture of Mr. Kink.
(Edit: Which reminds me. I need to update the Mrs. pictures!)
Agree with delicious and kink aswell.
Peeping Toms looking for hot pics lol. We get friend requests without messages and just ignore them. Especially if they have no pics on their profile.
I can’t count the number of profiles we have passed up because there were no pics of the male half. My wife assumes that if you didn’t post pics of the male half there is a reason and that reason being he is not attractive. At least put one or two pics of the male half please! You’re only hurting yourselves.
Yes, perhaps men are more active on the site and are proud of their women (want to highlight them), and also like looking at other hot women, but as an active female on here, I wish I could see more of the men. I’m not looking for Adonis, just want to get a sense of the whole couple I may want to interact with. Also— I don’t like dick pics— a real turn off until I’ve met the dick in the flesh, haha.
I agree. And as I was new to LS I get it. I just posted pics then he was jealous cause he lives with a 30 year old man. But my LS it it is what is is I’m open to talk and see what you want. Just text me personally 801-643-2939
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Most males profiles are the lovely dick pic that can be had anywhere in the webs. Flaunting a hot wife for a cuck so he can secretly masturbate from the closet is more effective.
The lack of photos of the male is our biggest pet peeve. We understand that it's the husbands that do most of the checking out of profiles, making comments on the forums, updating profile bio and pics, etc. So, pics of the wife as bait makes sense.
However, most of us will agree that it is the women who are in control. They make the final decision on who we are going to meet and if we are going to play. So, doesn't it make sense to add many photos of the the male? Afterall, it's the women who decide if we are going to meet. Mrs. Partyinlv won't even consider meeting a couple if there is a lack of pics of the male.
I also take most of the pics. So, I have a lot more pics of her on my phone. But, on swinger websites, we try to keep the male/female ratio of pics around 50/50.
If we contact a couple to meet us, I want to make sure that OUR profile and I am as appealing as possible to the other wife because she will ultimately have the final say as to whether we meet or not.
It's not that hard to get pics of the husband. You go out to dinner, take a pic. You go to a sporting event, take a pic. You are hanging out with friends, take a pic. In your travels (abroad or domestic), take a pic. You are at a party, take a pic. You're at a wedding, take a pic. You're at the lake, take a pic. You get the point. It's not like the past when we had to have a separate camera and had to take a roll of film to get developed. Take a pic with your phone until you get the pic that looks good!
However, most of us will agree that it is the women who are in control. They make the final decision on who we are going to meet and if we are going to play. So, doesn't it make sense to add many photos of the the male? Afterall, it's the women who decide if we are going to meet. Mrs. Partyinlv won't even consider meeting a couple if there is a lack of pics of the male.
I also take most of the pics. So, I have a lot more pics of her on my phone. But, on swinger websites, we try to keep the male/female ratio of pics around 50/50.
If we contact a couple to meet us, I want to make sure that OUR profile and I am as appealing as possible to the other wife because she will ultimately have the final say as to whether we meet or not.
It's not that hard to get pics of the husband. You go out to dinner, take a pic. You go to a sporting event, take a pic. You are hanging out with friends, take a pic. In your travels (abroad or domestic), take a pic. You are at a party, take a pic. You're at a wedding, take a pic. You're at the lake, take a pic. You get the point. It's not like the past when we had to have a separate camera and had to take a roll of film to get developed. Take a pic with your phone until you get the pic that looks good!
PARTYINLV wrote:
The lack of photos of the male is our biggest pet peeve. We understand that it's the husbands that do most of the checking out of profiles, making comments on the forums, updating profile bio and pics, etc. So, pics of the wife as bait makes sense.
However, most of us will agree that it is the women who are in control. They make the final decision on who we are going to meet and if we are going to play. So, doesn't it make sense to add many photos of the the male? Afterall, it's the women who decide if we are going to meet. Mrs. Partinlv won't even consider meeting a couple if there are a lack of pics of the male.
I also take most of the pics. So, I have a lot more pics of her on my phone. But, on swinger websites, we try to keep the male/female ratio of pics around 50/50.
If we contact a couple to meet us, I want to make sure that I am as appealing as possible to the other wife because she will ultimately have the final say as to whether we meet or not.
It's not that hard to get pics of the husband. You go out to dinner, take a pic. You go to a sporting event, take a pic. You are hanging out with friends, take a pic. In your travels (abroad or domestic), take a pic. You are at a party, take a pic. It's not like the past when we had to have a separate camera and to take a roll of film to get developed. Take a pic with your phone until you get the pic that looks good!
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You guys have great pics, BTW.
It may be just our experience, but blind friend requests if accepted, usually end at that. So we have stopped accepting them period. Not saying theres not gems out there, but we are ok with passing on the few for the ones that actually take the time to reach out to us first. We are friends first, so that is an important step for us. Not stomping on anybody else’s preferences, just what works for us 😜
I have been wondering why couples with NO PUBLIC and NO PRIVATE pictures or.. one public picture would send me a message and asking me if I am interested.... come on now.. interested in what? Smh
This is a big turn off for us. We are interested in everyone having a connection and if the male partner isn’t willing to share something we are instantly suspicious as to what sort of connection will be possible.
We usually don't respond to "couple" profiles that have pictures of just one person. We've found that if we have ask for pictures of your not-worthy-of-a-picture half or explain why we want to see both partners, it's not going to be a good match anyway so we just pass. Easy. It's actually kind of a nice self-filtering mechanism.
What I find odd is how many profiles I've seen where the males face is blurred, but the females is not.
massageBBCguy wrote:
I have been wondering why couples with NO PUBLIC and NO PRIVATE pictures or.. one public picture would send me a message and asking me if I am interested.... come on now.. interested in what? Smh
Says the guy we once sent a friend request to, only to find out his private pics are also dick picks, no pics showing what you might actually look like. LOL
Can’t tell you how many times we have had to delete friend requests or write the following reply to those that send friend requests, have no pics and very little in their profile. Especially, when we are at our home in N. Utah.
“Hi,
Thanks for the friend request, but we are probably not a match. It looks like you two are new to the lifestyle and/or this site and we mean no disrespect, but we think most couples...including us...would rather receive a nice introduction email as opposed to a simple click of a friend request button as a means of communication. Not to mention the lack of pictures. Hope this helps and we certainly hope you find what you’re looking for.
Sexy regards,
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“Hi,
Thanks for the friend request, but we are probably not a match. It looks like you two are new to the lifestyle and/or this site and we mean no disrespect, but we think most couples...including us...would rather receive a nice introduction email as opposed to a simple click of a friend request button as a means of communication. Not to mention the lack of pictures. Hope this helps and we certainly hope you find what you’re looking for.
Sexy regards,
????”
SOMEWHERENTIME wrote:
Can’t tell you how many times we have had to delete friend requests or write the following reply to those that send friend requests, have no pics and very little in their profile. Especially, when we are at our home in N. Utah.
“Hi,
Thanks for the friend request, but we are probably not a match. It looks like you two are new to the lifestyle and/or this site and we mean no disrespect, but we think most couples...including us...would rather receive a nice introduction email as opposed to a simple click of a friend request button as a means of communication. Not to mention the lack of pictures. Hope this helps and we certainly hope you find what you’re looking for.
Sexy regards,
????”
That's awesome! Can we use that too? lol
Here is what is more annoying to us than blind friend requests....blind "meeting" requests.
For example:
Another couple and we exchange introductory emails for the possibility of meeting. A friend request is approved. We look at their private photos and see a gazillion pics of her and one of him in a photo that shows he is 100 yards away wearing a hat and sunglasses. Sorry, but that is unacceptable to us.
We have a lot of pics of our faces in our private folder. If the other couple does not have clear face pics of BOTH of them, we will have to unfriend them.
We are not judging anyone else's approach to the lifestyle because that is what makes them feel comfortable. It's just not for us.
For example:
Another couple and we exchange introductory emails for the possibility of meeting. A friend request is approved. We look at their private photos and see a gazillion pics of her and one of him in a photo that shows he is 100 yards away wearing a hat and sunglasses. Sorry, but that is unacceptable to us.
We have a lot of pics of our faces in our private folder. If the other couple does not have clear face pics of BOTH of them, we will have to unfriend them.
We are not judging anyone else's approach to the lifestyle because that is what makes them feel comfortable. It's just not for us.