We are still fairly new to this whole lifestyle shindig; just under a year. Trying to figure what aspects we like, don’t like and are just meh. I’m curious though, when it comes to forming emotional connections with other people how open are you to the idea?
If it’s a scale of 1 - 10. One being completely casual, “what was your name again” sex and two being “I deeply love you and want you to come live with me and my other two wives” sort of deal... where do you fall?
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For us we are discovering that we prefer the more connective experiences and don’t shy away from words like “love” or “relationship”. But we also love just super casual fun experiences. All of it entirely contingent on the people involved. So not quite true swingers but also not quite true poly.
Trying to see how common or uncommon that is.
If it’s a scale of 1 - 10. One being completely casual, “what was your name again” sex and two being “I deeply love you and want you to come live with me and my other two wives” sort of deal... where do you fall?
:::
For us we are discovering that we prefer the more connective experiences and don’t shy away from words like “love” or “relationship”. But we also love just super casual fun experiences. All of it entirely contingent on the people involved. So not quite true swingers but also not quite true poly.
Trying to see how common or uncommon that is.
heathencouple wrote:
We are still fairly new to this whole lifestyle shindig; just under a year. Trying to figure what aspects we like, don’t like and are just meh. I’m curious though, when it comes to forming emotional connections with other people how open are you to the idea?
If it’s a scale of 1 - 10. One being completely casual, “what was your name again” sex and two being “I deeply love you and want you to come live with me and my other two wives” sort of deal... where do you fall?
:::
For us we are discovering that we prefer the more connective experiences and don’t shy away from words like “love” or “relationship”. But we also love just super casual fun experiences. All of it entirely contingent on the people involved. So not quite true swingers but also not quite true poly.
Trying to see how common or uncommon that is.
Oh man if two is come live with me and my two other wives I can't imagine what 10 is
. For us we definitely don't need "feelings" involved but I do want to have some sort of connection with the other people. I dont think I could do a wham bam thank you ma'am type of situation. That being said we have played on the first meeting so idk that probably makes me a hypocrite 🤷♀️Yeah. If we’re were to rank ourselves, we’d probably fall in the 2-6 range. Not looking for exclusivity or long term commitments but actually like the “feelings” part of it all.
Also, there would have to be at least some connection for something to happen, if even super brief and casual.
Also, there would have to be at least some connection for something to happen, if even super brief and casual.
For us, we are somewhere between a 4 and 7 I would guess. We don't do the casual thing, but we aren't looking for exclusivity or a poly relationship either. We like to find people we can have that mental and friendship connection with first. It works out best for us if we can hang out and have fun in non-lifestyle settings too. We have the most fun it seems with people where there's no pressure to play every time we hang out, but there's always a chance we could if the vibe is right.
heathencouple wrote:
Yeah. If we’re were to rank ourselves, we’d probably fall in the 2-6 range. Not looking for exclusivity or long term commitments but actually like the “feelings” part of it all.
Also, there would have to be at least some connection for something to happen, if even super brief and casual.
This! We are still pretty new ourselves so I guess this could be subject to change but this is a good description
probably in the 2 to 4 range. we are swingers, not really polys.
We are maybe 4-6 range-ish. Definitely not looking to have anyone move in for a life long commitment with us! But we are open to an ongoing thing. We do have to have a connection though. As long as everyone is on the same page, things will happen naturally.
3 to 5.
2 to 4 would fit us
We're like halfway between Hufflepuffs and Ravenclaws on a scale where Slytherins are total wham-bam-thank-you-ma'ams and Gryffindors are full on polygamist polyandrists. You KNOW that Ron and Harry totally shared (and by shared I mean raw-dawged) Hermione on all those cold lonely nights on the run from you-know-who.
EVILDOERS wrote:
We're like halfway between Hufflepuffs and Ravenclaws on a scale where Slytherins are total wham-bam-thank-you-ma'ams and Gryffindors are full on polygamist polyandrists. You KNOW that Ron and Harry totally shared (and by shared I mean raw-dawged) Hermione on all those cold lonely nights on the run from you-know-who.
That was awesome. 😂
Typo fix in the OP. “Two” = “Ten”
It's interesting that there is a need to categorize swinger sexual relationships. We just don't feel the need to do that. We have couples we can call up and get together with for a nice evening with or without sex and its great. We can have one off sex and maybe never see the couple again and that's ok also. We have close relationships with many couples but it's not love in the sense of how we love each other. The great thing about the lifestyle is there is room for everybody as long as you respect boundaries.
We’re probably in the 4-7 range. Casual has its place... (Cruise in November!) But generally we tend toward the upper end of the range.
We love sex. We love our friends. And we love having sex with our friends!
We love sex. We love our friends. And we love having sex with our friends!
“Taoist approach to swinging. Try and repress something and you will see it gain momentum. Allow something to flourish and it will find it's natural boundaries.”
Love this.
Love this.