I smoked for over 20 years before I quit cold turkey. Now just the smell of cigarette smoke makes me very uncomfortable, especiallly now with all the new information regarding second hand smoke.
We have a large group of great friends in which some smoke and some don't. The ones that do are loved as much as the ones that don't but when then lite one up directly in front of me, I usually have to move away or excuse myself for a restroom break.
My question is mainly for those that do smoke and also those that have the same problem as me. That is, is it rude to ask that they not smoke around me? I have noticed that almost all of our friends that do smoke are almost always very polite and ask if it bothers anybody before then lite up but for those that do not, what is the best way to approach the problem with out hurting any feelings or losing any great friends?
We have a large group of great friends in which some smoke and some don't. The ones that do are loved as much as the ones that don't but when then lite one up directly in front of me, I usually have to move away or excuse myself for a restroom break.
My question is mainly for those that do smoke and also those that have the same problem as me. That is, is it rude to ask that they not smoke around me? I have noticed that almost all of our friends that do smoke are almost always very polite and ask if it bothers anybody before then lite up but for those that do not, what is the best way to approach the problem with out hurting any feelings or losing any great friends?
It's not rude at all to ask them to not smoke around you, my hubby smokes and he knows that I don't like it right next to me. The smell doesnt bother me, I just don't like it. He does not smoke in our home nor in our car when our kids are in it with us. Those are my rules not his lol but he respects em. He also does not usually smoke in other people's homes unless they have given him permission to do so and even then it makes him a little uncomfortable. In clubs he usually tries to move away from me and those around us who don't smoke, but it's not always possible.
I would just politely ask that if at all possible that they don't smoke around you, that it bothers you, most people will respect that, especially your friends.
Just my .02
I would just politely ask that if at all possible that they don't smoke around you, that it bothers you, most people will respect that, especially your friends.
Just my .02
someone asked me once if I smoked after sex but honestly, I have never checked lol
I'm an ex-smoker myself, so it really doesn't bother me that much. Florida law no longer allows it in most public places except for the bars that don't serve food. Our local club here has a non smoking room so it's easy to escape to if the smoke is bothering you. Most of my friends that smoke usually take it outside unless it's something other than tobacco, lol You didn't mention exactly where you were...in a home, at a club? I'm sure if you mentioned to your friends how much it bothers you, that they would take extra steps to avoid it. Good Luck
I'm an ex-smoker myself, so it really doesn't bother me that much. Florida law no longer allows it in most public places except for the bars that don't serve food. Our local club here has a non smoking room so it's easy to escape to if the smoke is bothering you. Most of my friends that smoke usually take it outside unless it's something other than tobacco, lol You didn't mention exactly where you were...in a home, at a club? I'm sure if you mentioned to your friends how much it bothers you, that they would take extra steps to avoid it. Good Luck
I am a smoker, BUT I do not smoke in somone's home, nor my own...I also ask before I light up if it is OK to smoke around them....
I'm currently in the quitting battle.
I say let them smoke as much as they want.... OUTDOORS!
I say let them smoke as much as they want.... OUTDOORS!
WASHINGTON (AP) -- Separate smoking sections don't cut it: Only smoke-free buildings and public places truly protect nonsmokers from the hazards of breathing in other people's tobacco smoke, says a long-awaited surgeon general's report.
Some 126 million nonsmokers are exposed to secondhand smoke, what U.S. Surgeon General Richard Carmona repeatedly calls "involuntary smoking" that puts people at increased risk of death from lung cancer, heart disease and other illnesses.
Moreover, there is no risk-free level of exposure to someone else's drifting smoke, declares the report issued Tuesday -- a conclusion sure to fuel already growing efforts at public smoking bans nationwide. Fourteen states have passed what are considered comprehensive smoke-free workplace laws, those that include restaurants and bars. (Watch surgeon general describe risk -- 3:18)
But the surgeon general is especially concerned about young children who can't escape their parents' addiction in search of cleaner air: Just over one in five children is exposed to secondhand smoke at home, where workplace bans don't reach. Those children are at increased risk of SIDS, sudden infant death syndrome; lung infections such as pneumonia; ear infections; and more severe asthma.
"The debate is over. The science is clear. Secondhand smoke is not a mere annoyance but a serious health hazard," Carmona said.
He implored parents especially to smoke outside if they can't quit, or while they're trying to quit, so that they don't endanger their children whose bodies are especially vulnerable to smoke's toxic substances. Read
For everyone else, "stay away from smokers," Carmona said.
The report won't surprise doctors. It isn't a new study but a compilation of the best research on secondhand smoke, the most comprehensive federal probe since the last surgeon general's report on the topic in 1986, which declared secondhand smoke a cause of lung cancer in nonsmokers.
Since then, numerous other health agencies have linked to secondhand smoke to heart disease and other illnesses. Earlier this year, California health officials estimated that secondhand smoke kills about 3,400 nonsmoking Americans annually from lung cancer, 46,000 from heart disease, and 430 from SIDS.
The new surgeon general's report doesn't retally the deaths, but it cites that toll.
The tobacco industry and some businesses, particularly restaurant and bar owners concerned about loss of smoking customers, have challenged some of the broadest public smoking bans in cities and states.
The new report gives new scientific ammunition against those challenges, said Matthew Myers of the Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids.
"There is no longer a scientific controversy that secondhand smoke is a killer," he said. The report "eliminates any excuse from any state or city for taking halfway measures to restrict smoking, or permitting smoking in any indoor workplace."
Among other findings:
Some 126 million nonsmokers are exposed to secondhand smoke, what U.S. Surgeon General Richard Carmona repeatedly calls "involuntary smoking" that puts people at increased risk of death from lung cancer, heart disease and other illnesses.
Moreover, there is no risk-free level of exposure to someone else's drifting smoke, declares the report issued Tuesday -- a conclusion sure to fuel already growing efforts at public smoking bans nationwide. Fourteen states have passed what are considered comprehensive smoke-free workplace laws, those that include restaurants and bars. (Watch surgeon general describe risk -- 3:18)
But the surgeon general is especially concerned about young children who can't escape their parents' addiction in search of cleaner air: Just over one in five children is exposed to secondhand smoke at home, where workplace bans don't reach. Those children are at increased risk of SIDS, sudden infant death syndrome; lung infections such as pneumonia; ear infections; and more severe asthma.
"The debate is over. The science is clear. Secondhand smoke is not a mere annoyance but a serious health hazard," Carmona said.
He implored parents especially to smoke outside if they can't quit, or while they're trying to quit, so that they don't endanger their children whose bodies are especially vulnerable to smoke's toxic substances. Read
For everyone else, "stay away from smokers," Carmona said.
The report won't surprise doctors. It isn't a new study but a compilation of the best research on secondhand smoke, the most comprehensive federal probe since the last surgeon general's report on the topic in 1986, which declared secondhand smoke a cause of lung cancer in nonsmokers.
Since then, numerous other health agencies have linked to secondhand smoke to heart disease and other illnesses. Earlier this year, California health officials estimated that secondhand smoke kills about 3,400 nonsmoking Americans annually from lung cancer, 46,000 from heart disease, and 430 from SIDS.
The new surgeon general's report doesn't retally the deaths, but it cites that toll.
The tobacco industry and some businesses, particularly restaurant and bar owners concerned about loss of smoking customers, have challenged some of the broadest public smoking bans in cities and states.
The new report gives new scientific ammunition against those challenges, said Matthew Myers of the Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids.
"There is no longer a scientific controversy that secondhand smoke is a killer," he said. The report "eliminates any excuse from any state or city for taking halfway measures to restrict smoking, or permitting smoking in any indoor workplace."
Among other findings:
if you smoke in a non smokers home yes rude if you go out side that person home to smoke then not rude.
if its your home no not rude if its a non smoking motel room then yes rude if its a smokers motel room then no not rude
Poet smokes and Dawn does not
Poet & Dawn
if its your home no not rude if its a non smoking motel room then yes rude if its a smokers motel room then no not rude
Poet smokes and Dawn does not
Poet & Dawn
It has been a very difficult and heart breaking decision for the two of us. But, we have elected to attend only those parties or events where smoking will not be allowed other than actually outside the building or if an outside event, not at all.
This is not a put down towards any of our great friends that do smoke and we certainly agree with your right to smoke and also your right to do so at an event where smoking is part of you enjoying yourself, we certainly understand that being able to smoke or not being allowed to smoke is a critical part of your being able to enjoy yourself or not.
Once the new laws take effect or if anybody decides to have no smoking parties or events, then we will not be attending. This is strictly a health decision for us and we are truly sorry if we have offended anybody.
We do however expect and plan to have get togethers and parties at our home with the understanding that no smoking will be allowed. We hope that most and actually all of our good friends understand this and we can't wait to see you all!
Monique & Gary
This is not a put down towards any of our great friends that do smoke and we certainly agree with your right to smoke and also your right to do so at an event where smoking is part of you enjoying yourself, we certainly understand that being able to smoke or not being allowed to smoke is a critical part of your being able to enjoy yourself or not.
Once the new laws take effect or if anybody decides to have no smoking parties or events, then we will not be attending. This is strictly a health decision for us and we are truly sorry if we have offended anybody.
We do however expect and plan to have get togethers and parties at our home with the understanding that no smoking will be allowed. We hope that most and actually all of our good friends understand this and we can't wait to see you all!
Monique & Gary
We would never smoke in the home of a non smoker or light up a cig near a non smoker with us first asking if it bothered them ,as you may have guessed we are both smokers and find it amusing when at a club and people see us light up one and the look on their face ,,,its like we just lit up a crack pipe lol
Now we have no vices other than cigs and we work out regularly and try to eat healthy as well
but non smokers are a differnt sort of group ,,,,hypocrites,,as they will be tottally fucked up all night ,be it pot,coke or X ,but light up one cig and you would have thought we have the plague
Since when do we fuck with our lungs :s lol
Just 2 cents worth of rantings from smokers in the lifestyle haha
Now we have no vices other than cigs and we work out regularly and try to eat healthy as well
but non smokers are a differnt sort of group ,,,,hypocrites,,as they will be tottally fucked up all night ,be it pot,coke or X ,but light up one cig and you would have thought we have the plague
Since when do we fuck with our lungs :s lol
Just 2 cents worth of rantings from smokers in the lifestyle haha
We are both non-smokers. Don't like smoke in my face and very much appreciate a person who tries to keep it away from me.
I have a good friend who smokes, but even when he has company, he goes outside as a courtesy to his non-smoking guests. I think that is very cool.
I sometimes have a hard time asking people to please not smoke by me..... Guess I need to be a bit more vocal huh?
I have a good friend who smokes, but even when he has company, he goes outside as a courtesy to his non-smoking guests. I think that is very cool.
I sometimes have a hard time asking people to please not smoke by me..... Guess I need to be a bit more vocal huh?
I'm a smoker, but NEVER smoke around non smokers..I always excuse myself and go outside, same with Beauty (pictured)
To MRS H. This is the "mrs" here too. I just want to say that my husband and I smoke one cigarrette a day with a cocktail but I WOULD QUIT THAT FOR YOU!!!!!! When are you coming back to Florida? I think between now and then, my goal is to quit that one little ciggie a day....IT WOULD BE SO WORTH IT. Your "not so secret" but definately adamant ADMIRER! Mrs. Parejabuscachica.
I quit smoking cold turkey too back in 2001 ....Dont mind if ppl smoke but i just cant handle them smoking right in front of me. My neighbors next door are heavy smokers, I can smell it threw the walls! Besides from gaining a few LBS quitting was the best thing that has happened to me...
Edit just found this
http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/06/27/involuntary.smoking.ap/index.html
Edit just found this
http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/06/27/involuntary.smoking.ap/index.html
As we are currently smokers, we pay close attention to our surroundings and the people whom we are in the vicinity of. We are very courteous and conscientious of others, especially those who are non-smokers, as; quite frankly, it bothers us both to smoke around those that do not. We would never force those who do not smoke to have to deal with our habit. It should not be a matter of choice; it should be a matter of respect.
We do not smoke in our house or our vehicles as we have kids. Not only is it unhealthy for them (and us) but we do not like the smell. If we are somewhere where smoking is not, we excuse ourselves and go outside (or away from the immediate area) as we would expect others to do for us.
Just our 2-cents
We do not smoke in our house or our vehicles as we have kids. Not only is it unhealthy for them (and us) but we do not like the smell. If we are somewhere where smoking is not, we excuse ourselves and go outside (or away from the immediate area) as we would expect others to do for us.
Just our 2-cents
Just out of curiosity....
If you allow the senate to say where and when you can smoke, what next? Where and when you can have sex? with who you can have sex? what positions you can have sex?
Wake up people...the more power we allow the government, the more power they will take...Look through history...The more they legislate morality, the worse it gets...Please read about prohibition. When drugs such as heroin, cocaine, and such were leagl and controlled by the pharmacies, they were nowhere near the problem they are now...Before prohibition, alcohol was not a problem, niether was the mafia, but add prohibition, and away we go....
The government is like a 2 year old, when you fgive them an inch, they take a mile.
If you allow the senate to say where and when you can smoke, what next? Where and when you can have sex? with who you can have sex? what positions you can have sex?
Wake up people...the more power we allow the government, the more power they will take...Look through history...The more they legislate morality, the worse it gets...Please read about prohibition. When drugs such as heroin, cocaine, and such were leagl and controlled by the pharmacies, they were nowhere near the problem they are now...Before prohibition, alcohol was not a problem, niether was the mafia, but add prohibition, and away we go....
The government is like a 2 year old, when you fgive them an inch, they take a mile.
I think a lot of people here are missing the point. The point that I am making is that with all the new research that is very compeling. There is no question that 2nd hand smoke is almost as harmful and smoking itself. I quit smoking after 20 years and three packs a day. I was told that it would take about 10 years to clean my lungs and other body parts of all the tar and nicotine. Now I am learning from the new research that I may have wasted that 10 years of smoking due to being around and breathing so much 2nd hand smoke. It is my decision to eliminate that threat as several of my family members have died from lung cancer and it is not a pretty site of pleasent wasy to check out.
Once the new laws are passed then I am sure we will be right back to the clubs and other location where we have so much fun but until then I fell like anybody (me included for the time that I smoked) that I was no better than the suicide bomber in Irag that not only kills themselves but takes so many inocent people with them.
The research is clear and there is no question that 2nd hand smoke is harmful. It has nothing to do with what the Government is or is not telling me. It is a question of me hurting myself and those that are around me.
We totally agree that people that elect and desire to smoke should be allowed to do so, but you do not have the right to put others health and lives in danger. Its just that we have elected to avoid being around that danger until the danger is no longer there, and then we will be back and ready to party as hard as ever.
Once the new laws are passed then I am sure we will be right back to the clubs and other location where we have so much fun but until then I fell like anybody (me included for the time that I smoked) that I was no better than the suicide bomber in Irag that not only kills themselves but takes so many inocent people with them.
The research is clear and there is no question that 2nd hand smoke is harmful. It has nothing to do with what the Government is or is not telling me. It is a question of me hurting myself and those that are around me.
We totally agree that people that elect and desire to smoke should be allowed to do so, but you do not have the right to put others health and lives in danger. Its just that we have elected to avoid being around that danger until the danger is no longer there, and then we will be back and ready to party as hard as ever.
Don't go to places that allow smoking....That is how you protect yourself...NOT LET THE LEGISLATURE DO IT!!!!!!!!
I have never had a problem not smoking "IF", someone tells me, in a polite manner, that the smoke bothers them. I am respectful to those who don't smoke but I require a little respect myself if I choose to smoke. I will usually excuse myself from those who don;t smoke, unless someone gets on a "soap box" about second hand smoke. Then I just excuse myself completely. As for outside events where smoking is not allowed, I find it offensive that someone would even think they can tell me when and where I can smoke while being outdoors. I think all smokers should respect those who don't smoke, but non-smokers should do the same for those who smoke. As far as attending events where it is strictly non-smoking, I may attend myself. Just ask nicely, and leave out the attitude!
There is a lot of opinions about this, but they all seem to be very much the same. We have never been faced with a "rude smoker" everyone that we know that smokes have always been very polite. I hate the smell of smoke, and so does my husband. We perfer not to be in a bar, or a club that allows smoking only because it makes us feel icky. It literally makes us both light headed and sick. We arent against going to them we just cant stay for long. We have good friends that smoke, but we dont judge them for it, hell everyone has a vice! I dont perferably like it done around me but I have by choice gone over to them to sit and visit while they smoke. Just don't blow it in people's faces! No one should take it personally if they are asked to walk away while smoking. You shouldnt have to ask really. I only have a few rules with smoking. Dont blow it in my face, dont do it around my babies, and put some gum in b4 you kiss me 
. Other then that, it's all good!
. Other then that, it's all good!