I have a wifenwe have tried swinging butnshe decidednshe only likes one ither besides me, i know he satifies her sexually like I can't. I admit I am only about 4.5 inches but after 21 years I don't know what to do about my end. I get bored hearing about her times with him, not the sexual parts but the other this and that. ANY ADVUCE.
I'm confused by your question..
What do you mean by you don't know what to do about your end?
You get bored hearing about the times with him and her not sexual parts but other??? What do you mean?
As far as being smaller then other guys that sucks. I've been the bigger and I've been the smaller. I'm not huge but average. I would be lying if I said it would always be nice to be the bigger in every situation. If it eats at you that bad maybe swinging or sharing her w another dude isn't the thing for you. But if you do continue maybe try and improve on the things you can control. Foreplay or oral or circus tricks the other guys don't generally do or lack is a good start.
And honestly, I think you bring up a valid concern that most people in the lifestyle at some point have faced. Whether your the fatter one, the less attractive one, the smaller one, the poorest one, it sucks being the inferior one. If you don't learn to compensate and find your strengths or learn to overcome them, the lifestyle won't be for you. And it isn't for everyone jfyi.
What do you mean by you don't know what to do about your end?
You get bored hearing about the times with him and her not sexual parts but other??? What do you mean?
As far as being smaller then other guys that sucks. I've been the bigger and I've been the smaller. I'm not huge but average. I would be lying if I said it would always be nice to be the bigger in every situation. If it eats at you that bad maybe swinging or sharing her w another dude isn't the thing for you. But if you do continue maybe try and improve on the things you can control. Foreplay or oral or circus tricks the other guys don't generally do or lack is a good start.
And honestly, I think you bring up a valid concern that most people in the lifestyle at some point have faced. Whether your the fatter one, the less attractive one, the smaller one, the poorest one, it sucks being the inferior one. If you don't learn to compensate and find your strengths or learn to overcome them, the lifestyle won't be for you. And it isn't for everyone jfyi.
Wow, that really sucks! Not sure what advice I could give you other than maybe you should go out and find you some strange that you can 'like' besides her. Seems only fair, right? There are LOTS of lonely single women (many of them YOUNGER than your wife) out there who would LOVE to have a mature stable man (even if he's "only about 4.5 inches") to take them out and spoil them a little. Then you can come home and tell your wife all about your times with your hot new lover. I'd try OK Cupid and maybe even Tinder. Be sure to put in your profile that your wife has another guy and that you guys have an open relationship and so anything goes. Good luck! 
I get bored hearing the little conversations shebhas with him. We didnhe didnto make me laugh. That isnthier deal keep it to them. My end how do I find someone that would not want a serious thing or me in the middle.of a swinger thing by my self. Hope that clarifies mlm some things
Have you put your foot down and asked her to stop seeing him or do you support her to continue seeing him? You are looking for a fuck buddy? Your up against a lot of competition as most every guy wants that. Hopefully your close with a few females and the friend card gets you in the door. Its a chicks world and we're just living in it.
I am fine with who she is seeing, i know him and he is a good guy and I know he wont cause problems. My problem is I do not have any female friends that could turn into something all the female friends I know are stuck on the I am married part even though my wife has said it os ok
COWGRL97 wrote:
I get bored hearing the little conversations shebhas with him. We didnhe didnto make me laugh. That isnthier deal keep it to them. My end how do I find someone that would not want a serious thing or me in the middle.of a swinger thing by my self. Hope that clarifies mlm some things
I dunno. Her relationship with this guy certainly sounds like "a serious thing". And in your thread header your described her as a "poly wife". Why shouldn't what is good for the gander be good for the goose (to paraphrase my grandpa)? Or, I guess, you can continue to let your wife and her lover cuckold you. Some guys are into that.
My opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. Feeling vulnerable enough to talk to your wife about your concerns, however trivial you feel they are, is crucial. It sounds like you two should have a conversation about what bothers you and why. You could lead with, "I'm not trying to threaten your relationship with him, and I'm not saying you have to leave him, I just have a few concerns I need to talk about".sometimes just getting your concerns out there and feeling like she hears you and values your emotional stability, is all it takes to give you that second wind to deal with whatever issue it is. And hopefully you will come to a good place. If the concern is hearing about all the non sexual "this and that" explain that to her. I don't think it's unreasonable to say that this is a trigger for me and it would help me if you didn't discuss those things in your relationship on your time as a couple. Your concerns are valid, and so are hers. You should always be able to communicate them before you harbor bad feelings that one day explode. Every relationship (swinging especially) is unique, and your solution will be unique. But calm open communication is essential to any relationship. Hell ask her advise! Say you don't know what to do, and you'd like her help figuring out a good solution.
Like I said, just my advice. Take it for what it is. Good luck!
Like I said, just my advice. Take it for what it is. Good luck!
Get a dictionary for starters.... Or at least invest in a spell checker.......
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COWGRL97 wrote:
I have a wifenwe have tried swinging butnshe decidednshe only likes one ither besides me, i know he satifies her sexually like I can't. I admit I am only about 4.5 inches but after 21 years I don't know what to do about my end. I get bored hearing about her times with him, not the sexual parts but the other this and that. ANY ADVUCE.
I'm sorry, but I've just gotta ask. Are you REALLY looking for "ADVUCE" or are you looking for a pity fuck? No judgment if that's really what you're after. God knows you wouldn't be the first dude posting something like this in the hope that some swinger lady will bang you because she feels sorry for you. If you just want a pity fuck please disregard my previous posts.
Wow.. this whole post is pitiful. Find a way to save your relationship at any cost. Or find someone to compensate you.
You sound kind of jealous and this might not be the best thing for you
Dude, if it works then it will work. Try not to struggle to kick when making things work out