Ok, I know there are many that are subscribers to the idea of, "Single guys don't belong in the swinger world." I also know that there are those that have found a good single that have been brought into their relationship and really spiced things up. Ok, so I go to the little goings on at the Million Dollar and met not a single couple and I just felt totally out of place there. This brings me to my question. Are shy single guys even less desired than the single guy who runs around with his dick out all the time and being as pushy/aggressive as they come??
It doesn't matter, if you hang out here long enough sooner or later even a "single shy guy" will get laid. It's a simple matter of waiting. So take your shoes of and "sit a spell" (Spoken in the voice Jed Clampet) Or just go to any Singles Bar USA tonight and speed up the process.
Heck, I'm a "married shy guy" with a hot Bi-sexual wife who's sunburned and in a real bitchy mood, you could get laid days before I will.
You single guys are lucky "som bitches"
MR.FL4FUN
Heck, I'm a "married shy guy" with a hot Bi-sexual wife who's sunburned and in a real bitchy mood, you could get laid days before I will.
You single guys are lucky "som bitches"
MR.FL4FUN
This is an interesting conundrum...
Personally, I see it as a Catch-22.
Here's why: If a solo male initiates contact with a couple because the couple expresses interest in Single Males in their profile, the single male can be (and frequently is) labled as "pushy".
However, if he does not intitate any contact, he will probably be waiting until Tucson freezes over in July before he ever gets any mail from any interested couples.
And I'm not pulling this out of thin air either.
There is a nearby couple that clearly states in their profile that they're interested in solo males, and are in fact seeking an MFM as their interest. I read profiles carefully. I sent them a "hello" greeting about 7 months ago. Just a generic "Hi, I read your profile, and would like to become a little better acquainted. Would you please read my profile, and contact me?" type of post. Nothing graphic, nothing forward, other than me taking the initiative to contact, and I made it absolutely clear that I had no immediate intentions of a drop and rock scenario. I heard nothing from them, and chalked it up to them not being interested.
Three weeks ago, I was chatting on the phone with a friend (also in the lifestyle, fairly local, and a great couple, even though we have never played together, and they aren't on this site) and they asked me if I knew So-and-So Couple. (the ones I had written ONCE half a year ago.) I said that I had seen them on this site, and wrote months back to introduce myself, but had never heard from them. My friend then laughed, and told me that she had been told by the man of the couple that they thought I was the pushiest male they had ever seen, because "I had the nerve" (that's what she told me he said) to write them first. Not only did they think I was pushy for writing first, but they also blocked all my mails here. My friend repeated the content of my mail back to me almost verbatim, so I knew it was all too true.
I thought that was absolutely incredible! Anyone who's ever talked to me, whether it be e-mail, IM or in Videochat here can tell you that I am not at all as I was described. I'm one of the last of the "nice guys" in that I am polite, extremely respectful of others, and honest in my intentions and about my situation.
That whole thing totally blew my mind, and my friend said that she and her husband knew them well, and in fact were going to tell them how badly they had described me. As much as I hate to say it, there is nothing that a solo male can do, because we're damned if we do, and damned if we don't.
So, all I can tell you is, do whatever you think best. You're going to get labeled no matter what.
I hope I don't get slammed for this post, but I am not going to lie about my experiences.
On the bright side, the couple in question is now getting a divorce, because the wife has decided she wants to be a lesbian. Go figure...
Personally, I see it as a Catch-22.
Here's why: If a solo male initiates contact with a couple because the couple expresses interest in Single Males in their profile, the single male can be (and frequently is) labled as "pushy".
However, if he does not intitate any contact, he will probably be waiting until Tucson freezes over in July before he ever gets any mail from any interested couples.
And I'm not pulling this out of thin air either.
There is a nearby couple that clearly states in their profile that they're interested in solo males, and are in fact seeking an MFM as their interest. I read profiles carefully. I sent them a "hello" greeting about 7 months ago. Just a generic "Hi, I read your profile, and would like to become a little better acquainted. Would you please read my profile, and contact me?" type of post. Nothing graphic, nothing forward, other than me taking the initiative to contact, and I made it absolutely clear that I had no immediate intentions of a drop and rock scenario. I heard nothing from them, and chalked it up to them not being interested.
Three weeks ago, I was chatting on the phone with a friend (also in the lifestyle, fairly local, and a great couple, even though we have never played together, and they aren't on this site) and they asked me if I knew So-and-So Couple. (the ones I had written ONCE half a year ago.) I said that I had seen them on this site, and wrote months back to introduce myself, but had never heard from them. My friend then laughed, and told me that she had been told by the man of the couple that they thought I was the pushiest male they had ever seen, because "I had the nerve" (that's what she told me he said) to write them first. Not only did they think I was pushy for writing first, but they also blocked all my mails here. My friend repeated the content of my mail back to me almost verbatim, so I knew it was all too true.
I thought that was absolutely incredible! Anyone who's ever talked to me, whether it be e-mail, IM or in Videochat here can tell you that I am not at all as I was described. I'm one of the last of the "nice guys" in that I am polite, extremely respectful of others, and honest in my intentions and about my situation.
That whole thing totally blew my mind, and my friend said that she and her husband knew them well, and in fact were going to tell them how badly they had described me. As much as I hate to say it, there is nothing that a solo male can do, because we're damned if we do, and damned if we don't.
So, all I can tell you is, do whatever you think best. You're going to get labeled no matter what.
I hope I don't get slammed for this post, but I am not going to lie about my experiences.
On the bright side, the couple in question is now getting a divorce, because the wife has decided she wants to be a lesbian. Go figure...
"Heck, I'm a "married shy guy" with a hot Bi-sexual wife who's sunburned and in a real bitchy mood, you could get laid days before I will. "
I agree with Uriah. I have met most of my friends (both couples and single ladies) in the lifestyle through like-minded friends. The website is great to make connections, but, lets face it, people can lie through their teeth online.
To answer your question, a shy guy is at a disadvantage but, so is the swinging dick type, as well. In the end, it is all about being comfortable in your own skin. Others are going to pick up on that, and that is when the excitement can build.
To answer your question, a shy guy is at a disadvantage but, so is the swinging dick type, as well. In the end, it is all about being comfortable in your own skin. Others are going to pick up on that, and that is when the excitement can build.
Thanks Mr Newcpl99
It's damn hard work being a "support system" for these wenches.
Cheers (Time to rub on the ALOE)
It's damn hard work being a "support system" for these wenches.
Cheers (Time to rub on the ALOE)
If a guy is willing to share then what's the problem? Most aren't shy they just feel what they are doing is wrong. Everyone loosens up sooner or later.
a shy guy in the lifestyle lmao
Well I guess I'll just keep on keeping on. Like I said before, there are couples that like single guys and couples that don't. That is what is and I'll just stick around and keeping going to events that keep me in contact with the right people. As with anything you can't please all of the people all of the time. I'll stick with some of the people getting VERY pleased, some of the time. Thanks again.
BUSA
BUSA
Just keep doing what you are doing.
We are one of those couples that don't look for single guys, but in being on here and going to parties we have met and talked with a few that really impressed us so that if we ever do want to invite a single guy we know who we will invite.
We don't hate them just have had the majority of our experiences turn out bad, whether it was meeting someone or just talking to them. We have noticed most don't read profiles the whole way thru so they say exactly what turns us off lol, oh well...
Good luck!!
We are one of those couples that don't look for single guys, but in being on here and going to parties we have met and talked with a few that really impressed us so that if we ever do want to invite a single guy we know who we will invite.
We don't hate them just have had the majority of our experiences turn out bad, whether it was meeting someone or just talking to them. We have noticed most don't read profiles the whole way thru so they say exactly what turns us off lol, oh well...
Good luck!!