An old friend of mine (an attractive 43 y/o woman) is coming out to Idaho to visit. She has wanted to swing for many years but only now has decided she wants to do it, with a man like myself who she trusts.
We're willing to travel to Utah (you have a much more developed scene than in sleepy Idaho). Any suggestions on where we should go to start?
We're willing to travel to Utah (you have a much more developed scene than in sleepy Idaho). Any suggestions on where we should go to start?
Thank you for the sincere advice.
She tells me now she would most like to begin with a couple or be part of a five-some.
Anyone else have any suggestions? I am especially interested in suggestions from Utahans. You have many more resources in Utah than we have in Idaho.
She tells me now she would most like to begin with a couple or be part of a five-some.
Anyone else have any suggestions? I am especially interested in suggestions from Utahans. You have many more resources in Utah than we have in Idaho.
The fact that she wants to get into, or is open to the idea of swinging, tells you she already has curiosity and fantasies about herself involved in it. A club or a party where people are interacting in a social and playful way may be the best for starts. It is up to the individual to know how far they want to go, therefore it is often best to ease into things and observe what goes on at first. You don't want to go to a full swap house party, or gang banging where she may feel compeled to do things she is not ready for; unless of course it is her idea. It sounds like there are a lot of things going on in Utah and you are on the right track by seeking imfo from an established bunch. I'm sure someone out there will help you. Happy Swinging!
I don't know if this will help or not but there is the Spice Party on July 1st, you could go to that. There are always parties afterwards where people go back to someone's hotel room or house. Other than that you can try contacting people here in Utah for more one-on-one stuff.
I'm not sure of what clubs to go to as we aren't big clubbers unless we go with friends, hopefully someone else will respond with that info for you.
A&K
I'm not sure of what clubs to go to as we aren't big clubbers unless we go with friends, hopefully someone else will respond with that info for you.
A&K
A suggestion that I've made to more than one is to go to a club social/party/dance so that she can see what happens and participate or not to whatever degree she wishes. I think that off premise/hotel socials are the best to start since they are not so shocking to the uninitiated. Then the after party and the hospitality suite allow her to view what's going on and socialize and interact with others and or simply get it on with you in a communial environment. If someone will look at his profile and find out where he would best go into Utah and where the closest or best club might be to go. At Socials/Parties/Dances you are in no way obliged to do anything but enjoy yourself and a gentle way to enter into the lifestyle.
Please suggest a place Utahn's (see there is a place to use the term)
Please suggest a place Utahn's (see there is a place to use the term)
We always start off our weekend at the tittie bar.. And then after a few drinks, and half naked girls, then you can take her over to a club for some dancing... now girls are really horny after drinks and sexy naughty dancing...
Thank you again for all the good ideas. I have thought about the Spice Party but have never been to an off-premise party, just meet 'n' greets, so I don't know how they work out.
More information about her is warranted. She tells me that for years she used to watch porn movies in her marriage, fantasizing about being involved in group sex, with multiple men or multiple couples. For the past 5 years, she has thought nearly constantly about it but has not acted on it because of not having met a man she felt safe enough to do this with.
She has approached me with the request that we do this, so the idea isn't my taking a sweet little thing who just wants to please me by acting out my fantasies. This is HER fantasy as well as mine, and it exited a long time before I first knew her. Maybe this is a rarity, but she is eager to do this, and I don't want her to be disappointed.
More information about her is warranted. She tells me that for years she used to watch porn movies in her marriage, fantasizing about being involved in group sex, with multiple men or multiple couples. For the past 5 years, she has thought nearly constantly about it but has not acted on it because of not having met a man she felt safe enough to do this with.
She has approached me with the request that we do this, so the idea isn't my taking a sweet little thing who just wants to please me by acting out my fantasies. This is HER fantasy as well as mine, and it exited a long time before I first knew her. Maybe this is a rarity, but she is eager to do this, and I don't want her to be disappointed.
Any other suggestions? How did each of you first start swinging?
We started by playing around with some friends of ours, nothing major happened but we had fun, so we looked around online to see what was out there. We signed up with another site first and after a month or so and nothing happening we almost called it quits. Hubby found Swingular about a week later and withing the first week of us signing up we met a couple (who to this day are still one of our best friends), had dinner and the next day had our first real experience. We have had a blast so far, we have been to the Spice Parties, some house parties and have loved it all.
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