How do you know that your partner wants to continue the lifestyle with you? How do you konw that you and your lover/wife/husband/etc....wants to have sexual fun in that way with you from this day forward.? What if they said, "NO"..." I have had enough" I just want to be with you and ONLY you for the rest of my life." What do you do in that situation? You love your partner who you adore with all of your heart...BUT......YOU .....have thought more about it and you...... just want to be with them and them...ONLY THEM .....how do you tell your partner? Even if you have had many good "SWINGING" times with your love.......what would you do if your lover threw in the towel? would you give them up ....OR....continue in the LIFESTYLE?
Not a whole lot of doubt for us on this issue, we'd stop. We came in to the lifestyle together and if or when one of us decided it was enough, then that'd be all she wrote. No matter how good the sex is with swinging, we a couple first. I expect someday we'll say its time to go back to being just us, and we'll leave with no regrets. We'll keep the really good friends we've made, and call it a good time.
Just our two cents.
Tandvplay
Just our two cents.
Tandvplay
No question about it, if he or I decided we were done and didnt want to "share" anymore it would be done. There would be a discussion I am sure the other would want to know why, what made I/him change our minds?, did something happen to hurt the other? but all it would take is a NO I am done and it would be done. We decided together that we would do this to have fun with each other. There have been times we have been with another couple and not had a good time at all and it is funny because he reads into me, and I into him we can tell when there is something wrong and if I am not having fun, or he isnt having fun then it just isnt as hot as it seemed to be. So, long story short, if he isnt into it, and I am not into it then it just wouldnt be the same fun as before niether one of us would be that interested anyway if the other wasnt!! its all about each other in this.........so we just deided together that we would enjoy it together......there cant be a missing piece to this puzzle!!!!
This is an easy answer for us.. we have talked about this before ever getting in the lifestyle, and both feel if this was ever the situation we would get out of the lifestyle. This is something we do to add some excitment to our relationship, not something to replace it.