What is the deal with the morons who invite you to their friends list and then they don't have any public or private pictures. Must be vey fat, old and ugly! Maybe they should take up porn chat sites.
We regard it simply as a compliment. Other sites offer winks and kisses e-mails. But here those options are not offered. Plus, this is an attempt to see your private photo album. Can you blame them. But we agree, show us yours too!!!
Its only fair. 2 share
Its only fair. 2 share
I think couples and individuals who are newer to the lifestyle are a little (lot?) apprehensive to post any pics or personal photos on the net. I know it took us a while to post very personal and private photos while still feeling confident of the discretion and acceptance of such.
Being in the lifestyle for a few years (or more) provides a greater level of comfort and also gives us seasoned members a lot to take for granted; others pics. Given time, and ability, I feel most serious people in the lifestyle will or do eventually post pics.
Being in the lifestyle for a few years (or more) provides a greater level of comfort and also gives us seasoned members a lot to take for granted; others pics. Given time, and ability, I feel most serious people in the lifestyle will or do eventually post pics.
think what utcpl was getting at is when you log into swingular and...oh look weve got mail...ohhh, somebody likes us....well lets see if we like them....BAM, nothing.....no body shots, no cars, bikes, trucks, or even like in our case, a beatiful landscape(which btw is our favorite place in utah).
Thats why we dont just send our friends list around to every single account on swingular.
Its a FRIENDS list, so we send it to our friends.
We dont believe you have to put up full face shots, your address and phone number, just some sort of photo that lets people know your serious. And a well written profile is a MAJOR plus.
We keep our face pics in our private album because weve been the victim of "collectors" before, even on this site.
Anyway, sorry for the rant.
T&C
Thats why we dont just send our friends list around to every single account on swingular.
Its a FRIENDS list, so we send it to our friends.
We dont believe you have to put up full face shots, your address and phone number, just some sort of photo that lets people know your serious. And a well written profile is a MAJOR plus.
We keep our face pics in our private album because weve been the victim of "collectors" before, even on this site.
Anyway, sorry for the rant.
T&C
There could be alot of simple reasons, some bad some not so bad as some of the others stated above, but morons or lowlife idiots? nah....but if ya really wanna talk morons or lowlifes I know a couple of guys......oh nevermind... but i do know that some people hid their pics temporarily because of the ksl story.
Or there's us...we have 54 public photos and zero in our private album. 
i think you are being very narrow minded to think that the only reason that the friend list exists is for photo's. i for one have no photos and i have used the friend list to add people that we might have some similar interests in. in addition to that, its nice to know when they are online.you do not have to allow them in but do not criticize them for wanting to use the feature that the that the site has to offer.its exactly people like you that make new comers not feel welcome here.i think the administrator needs to chime into this topic to let all of us idiots know that we are using this feature wrong.
There are people in this lifestyle, though very few it seems, who are actually interested in the personality and chemistry of the people they meet and not just the physical attributes. Maybe these people want to see if a perspective couple has something more to offer than a hot body and the ability to have sex. Anyone can have sex but it takes personality and intelligence, or at least some things in common, to have a meaningful conversation that lasts for me than the first 5 minutes of a get together. We never take offense to people sending us one of these messages, we take it as a compliment and that they liked what we have written in our profile, which tells more about us than a picture ever could.
"they hid their pictures when wanda explosed her trash story with that pic to defame someone's character.... "
And what exactly would you call the point of the post YOU made ????
A compliment???? Think about it.....
And what exactly would you call the point of the post YOU made ????
A compliment???? Think about it.....
Sorry everybody but I don't agree. People who don't post pics yet want to see all of yours are either to new at the game to be serious or have some trouble in the looks department.
We have to agree with Giveusalook. We are very new to this lifestyle and have yet to have first encounter. But, we believe that there needs to be more than sex involved. Having a great conversation and attitude about life goes a long way in the being sexy dept with us. the brain is the Biggest sex organ. We wouldn't want our faces plastered over the web on sites we have not joined or for our kids to be teased if someone found out. That generally is the meaning of DISCREET relationships. Don't judge so harshly without first having a reason.
Sorry, but we are not all Ken and Barbie prototypes.We ALL have different likes and dislikes.My husband has an aversion for big girls and butch chicks scare me. As the comedian Ron White points out "you can fix ugly ....you can't fix stupid!!" Maybe you are just a little of both. Sorry for the rant to the rest of you.
Sorry, but we are not all Ken and Barbie prototypes.We ALL have different likes and dislikes.My husband has an aversion for big girls and butch chicks scare me. As the comedian Ron White points out "you can fix ugly ....you can't fix stupid!!" Maybe you are just a little of both. Sorry for the rant to the rest of you.
We won't call anyone names, but it is a lot like going to a potluck dinner and not bringing a dish, a byob bash and not bringing anything to drink and then expecting to have others share with you. Like HELLOKITTY we take, and post a lot of pics in our public album, and still we get people with no or very few picks wanting to see our private album.
Perhaps they're just a single male posing as a couple looking to get off on the private pics of other guys' wives? You have to wonder....
we have tons of pics and your more then welcome to cum look at ours anytime
ok no one goes into a store and picks up a magazine or book to purchase without looking at at least the cover or back side to see what its about. If you have a member contact you becasue he / she / they looked at what you had to offer than why shouldn't they have the same available? yes you will get new, or not serious folks that just joined to see what its about. I can understand that but even just a g rated pic and a profile that filled out somewhat is better than nothing. Not all of us are lookin for one night stands and chemistry is very important to ANY relationship whether its your own or with another couple. I don't agree with our tennessee couple yes everyone has likes and dislikes however a g rated photo has less chances of circulating the web than some of the shots we've posted. our utah cuple makes a point ... if no pic is posted you wonder hhhmmm are they challenging to look at?? Hell they may be aken and barbie and have a low self esteem LOL but remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We've met lots of folks that were great looking and they thought themselves were unattractive LOL it happens. I think giveusalook is funny in their profile they indicate they are selective and if they like your picture they will check out your personality and give you a chance... however they don't have a pic posted . We've been swinging since 93 altho there have been dry periods due to circumstances in our lives. It isn't like we're going to bed with WHOLE community we are selective too but we will NOT indicate that becasue We want to pick up the book and look at it not jusge it from afar... that means chatting on an instant messenger, looking at pics, talking via emial meeting for drinks with no promise of sex ... see there are way to make the INTERNET work for you. Its not like the magazines from 20 years ago with a grainy pic and you have to send a info via mail and wait and hope. now that thats said lets see who gets ruffled feathers .... bet I know whom will complain 1st any takers LOL
We never know what to think when someone adds us to their friends list with no follow up mail. We used to answer each one of them but now we don