I'm not even sure how to start this post but I'm upset and I need to get this out. I became a swinger for a few of different reasons.One reason is because I'm bisexual and the lifestyle makes that easier for me.But thats not pertinent to this post.One of the bigger reasons was because I can have sex without the relationship.I really didn't want a relationship where I would get hurt again, emotionally or otherwise.And the third reason was the honesty and openess of the people that seemed to be in the lifestyle.Well, welcome to reality folks...Those of you that read the forums I'm sure have seen some of the posts in the last week or so where some low down things such as the fake email thing(girls pics from a porn site)yeah i fell for it i added her to my friends list she was a sexy young student it seemed, oh well some stranger got to see my private pics, hope they don't end up on the porn site.Still pretty harmless but the post about the couple who had a spy in the webchat and is gonna use it against them in a custody suit, that's pretty freaken bad! So the liars and the cheats and snakes are here too, beware. So I've made a mistake or two since i been here,the other one is that it seems that I have made what I thought were friends, but again people who just want to hurt others.OK here's where it gets really bad! Those of you that have gotten to know me in webchat know that wild-horse and I kinda had a thing(for lack of a better word to descibe it at this point)As I told you earlier I was not looking for a relationship but he really was wooing me lol he even said the L word once ugh but it was fun and then it fell apart for no reason,or so i thought, he said he was busy with work and traveling, turns out he was busy breaking up a marriage. Which really doesn't affect me if that's who he wants, but why lie to me about it, why string me along and hurt me.And she was supposedly a "swinger friend" too, and she was lying to me also. Some guy in the chat that knows them told me he saw her picking him up at the airport, guess he was trying to hurt too?Anyway it was denied and laughed off. So now I get this email, from the husband...why? to hurt me?Everyone knows we're not a couple anymore,even the profile is gone.I understand that he is hurt, but what, he needs to pass it on to me including a photo? I was thinking maybe it's that "what comes around goes around thing" and ya know what? i'm passin it on too, yup it got me, it seems I'm easy prey these days, but now i'm hurt and disgusted and I guess I'm leaving the site anyway cuz wild just told me if i post it he will have me banned from the site but i don't need the lies and the scamming and the bullshit but i will miss all the rest of the friends that I have made here and I hope y'all have my email or yahoo. So I guess my message to everyone else is please be careful who you get close to, I know I will!
The letter from the husband:
hello Lyn i would like to ask you something? remember when Wild said that he was in San Diego. and he was sick there? well he was in Salt Lake City because he was at our house. i do have pic to prove that he was there and was playing with Myrlene if you would like to see them please let me know? e-mail me at [email protected] thank you ps he has lied to you
I ignored it, but then another email with this pic attached
The letter from the husband:
hello Lyn i would like to ask you something? remember when Wild said that he was in San Diego. and he was sick there? well he was in Salt Lake City because he was at our house. i do have pic to prove that he was there and was playing with Myrlene if you would like to see them please let me know? e-mail me at [email protected] thank you ps he has lied to you
I ignored it, but then another email with this pic attached
You have friends dear Wanda, don't stop what you want to be because of someone or something else, you are beautiful... stay that way. -Rick
Sorry to hear what you have had to deal with Wanda, and I have seen you in chat and in the forums, and I think you are a wonderful woman. I hope you decide to stay and shake off the bad things, it is just not worth it. Just be who you are, and continue to be a member here.
We are very happy here, and we won't let anyone force us to leave. We are members elsewhere, and see this type of behavior a lot, we just steer clear of the negativity, and stick to the positive of why we are here!
We luv ya, hope you stay!
Ron & Chrissy
We are very happy here, and we won't let anyone force us to leave. We are members elsewhere, and see this type of behavior a lot, we just steer clear of the negativity, and stick to the positive of why we are here!
We luv ya, hope you stay!
Ron & Chrissy
I told you he was bad a long time ago,,,, he tried the same B.S.
when me and hubby had a problem.
he tried to get me to move in with him ,and cheat on my hubby
no fool here
Kristylynn
when me and hubby had a problem.
he tried to get me to move in with him ,and cheat on my hubby
no fool here
Kristylynn
hey wanda,
forget the loser, not all of us are trying to use others, most of us are for real. just be careful
forget the loser, not all of us are trying to use others, most of us are for real. just be careful
I told you he was bad a long time ago,,,, he tried the same B.S.
when me and hubby had a problem.
he tried to get me to move in with him ,and cheat on my hubby
no fool here
Kristylynn
when me and hubby had a problem.
he tried to get me to move in with him ,and cheat on my hubby
no fool here
Kristylynn
Hi Wicked:
Sorry to hear that happened to you.
No one deserves what happened to you.
But, don't let it ruin the swing portion of your life.
I had some bad things happen with pics of me and now I do not post any.
It has made it harder to meet people, but I still do and still have a good time in the "lifestyle".
I am just sure to be more careful now.
Keep in mind, although you are mad... you did something that was probably not right too by posting a pic in this forum of people that you did not get permission from to do so.
Hope things go well for you from here on out. How you don't leave this site.
Sorry to hear that happened to you.
No one deserves what happened to you.
But, don't let it ruin the swing portion of your life.
I had some bad things happen with pics of me and now I do not post any.
It has made it harder to meet people, but I still do and still have a good time in the "lifestyle".
I am just sure to be more careful now.
Keep in mind, although you are mad... you did something that was probably not right too by posting a pic in this forum of people that you did not get permission from to do so.
Hope things go well for you from here on out. How you don't leave this site.
Well. I shouldn't. But we're all "getting it out of our systems" so I will.
I had been having a great time in the chat room, until Wild decided to badger me and badger me and badger me about the fact that HE was REALLY single - not "married but playing with wife's permission" (as I truly am). He just kept poking at it and wouldn't let it go.
How... ironic... that I am, indeed, what I said I was and the protester turns out to be not what he said he was. Hmmmm.... "Methinks he protested too much".
I even mentioned his heavy-handed "monitoring" to the staff and they refused to do anything but take his side in every item. OK. So I stopped participating in the chat room - for months.
Now. Big Breath. My "problem" is nothing compared to what has happened to others, so I suppose I should just count myself lucky. I *do* feel for you all, but I also will plead with you to consider that "swingers have some bad apples just like the general populace - but have mostly-good people - just like the general populace".
I had been having a great time in the chat room, until Wild decided to badger me and badger me and badger me about the fact that HE was REALLY single - not "married but playing with wife's permission" (as I truly am). He just kept poking at it and wouldn't let it go.
How... ironic... that I am, indeed, what I said I was and the protester turns out to be not what he said he was. Hmmmm.... "Methinks he protested too much".
I even mentioned his heavy-handed "monitoring" to the staff and they refused to do anything but take his side in every item. OK. So I stopped participating in the chat room - for months.
Now. Big Breath. My "problem" is nothing compared to what has happened to others, so I suppose I should just count myself lucky. I *do* feel for you all, but I also will plead with you to consider that "swingers have some bad apples just like the general populace - but have mostly-good people - just like the general populace".
Wanda: I do not know you and you dont know Us. But the one thing I have learned is to never give the SOBS the satisfaction of leaving. We also have both Loved all of the Humor you have brought to this site. If you leave Plese Know That "We" all of the members here feel that you will be sorely missed. The Tool Man and Myrna
I really hope I don't get banned from the site now because many of you have reminded me of all the good friends I have made here.Thank so you much everyone for all the emails, love, and support that you all have shown me. You've made me feel much better thank you
thank youWanda, we don't really understand what happened to you , but you are really cool, and we would hate to see you disappear from this site. Cum to Myrtle Beach and we will make you feel much better. Remember the tittie wars. LOL LOL. Please don't let us lose such an entertaining person like you. This shit you are going through is nothing but drama. Come on girl, get it together. You are not on here to get fucked up by some asshole. It is not the events of your life that matter. What matters is your reaction to them.
I must agree side with the majority here Wanda I always read your forums because I know somewhere there is a good laugh to be had or some saucy pics. I know how ya feel though about the "liars" and wanna be homewreckers...don't let one dumba** ruin it for you if that was the case Jimmy and I woulda been divorced along time ago because sometimes ppl are just JERKS in nice clothes ya know....so stick with us and venture over to Tx. sometime we have everything bigger here 
Becky
Becky
wanda we are sorry to hear about that. we know how you feel as you mentioned us a little in your original post. we hope you dont get banned also because like you we know how it is dealing with the liars of this site. while very few of them there are. we have gotten to know alot of people on here and it is sad that there is a couple people on here that like toying with other people. we just wanted to show our support as you did for us thank you again haden and amanda
I don't know any of you, but I've been in cyberchat type environments off and on for about 12 years now. This story can be told by countless chatters in the cyber universe for countless wrongs comitted by lowlife mindgame players. I don't mean to belittle or make light of whatever pain she may be going through....but this is the sad, unfortunate underbelly of the chat experience. There are mindgamers in every chat place you can imagine. My best advice, learned through VERY hard experience, is unless you KNOW the person....unless you've met them, spent REAL time with them....unless you can say for 100% that they are cool....assume they are likely a gamer.
There are many fine people out there in this site, and countless others. There are legions of good caring people out there online and in chatrooms....and there is always a handfull of bovine scat types that play mind games and ruin if for everyone else in one way or another. To paraphrase a quote of Ronald Reagan: "Chat but confirm ". This is especially true here in the lifestyle...where for many, trust and discreet behavior is a key element of them enjoying themselves.
Greg
There are many fine people out there in this site, and countless others. There are legions of good caring people out there online and in chatrooms....and there is always a handfull of bovine scat types that play mind games and ruin if for everyone else in one way or another. To paraphrase a quote of Ronald Reagan: "Chat but confirm ". This is especially true here in the lifestyle...where for many, trust and discreet behavior is a key element of them enjoying themselves.
Greg
hey wanda we hope you stay around if not look us up at swing life styles . com we really have enjoyed you post and as for the pic you posted dont worry about it if they didnt want anyone to see it they wouldnt have sent it to you since they did we as the old saying goes they made their bed huh love ya girl
well wanda we have met you an found you to be a very caring an truthful person dont let this get you down let your free sprit pick you up an fly you to a more beautiful place in life an let the old dog just lay in the dirt
Hugs an kisses to you
Hugs an kisses to you
Wanda...A VERY wise man once told me, "Do not let anyone else drive your train!"
This IS much easier to say than it is to do, however, with soem practice, it is accomplishable...We have never met you, although we would love to, BUT judging from your posts, your profile, and what we read about you in these forums, it woudl be a great lose to EVERYONE in this community to have you go away...
IF you decide to leave this site, let us know which site you go to, so we may stay on top of your posts and such...We LOVE to read them...ALso...SOme day we would love to meet...no strings...just convo....You would be a wonderful person to chat with....
This IS much easier to say than it is to do, however, with soem practice, it is accomplishable...We have never met you, although we would love to, BUT judging from your posts, your profile, and what we read about you in these forums, it woudl be a great lose to EVERYONE in this community to have you go away...
IF you decide to leave this site, let us know which site you go to, so we may stay on top of your posts and such...We LOVE to read them...ALso...SOme day we would love to meet...no strings...just convo....You would be a wonderful person to chat with....
Wanda The story line you talked about sounds very much like one played on us about a year ago. Figured him out when we kept getting told the wife was always out of town. Don't let a Bozo like this ruin your day. Let the powers that be remove him and let out all information about him. That way others can avoid the same traps. But, gotta tell you. We will miss your postings if you go. Best Wishes. Rick and Nadean
The story line you talked about sounds very much like one played on us about a year ago. Figured him out when we kept getting told the wife was always out of town. Don't let a Bozo like this ruin your day. Let the powers that be remove him and let out all information about him. That way others can avoid the same traps. But, gotta tell you. We will miss your postings if you go. Best Wishes. Rick and NadeanSorry to hear that. You were treated like crap and its horrible. I've had problems with the stolen pics, fakes, liers etc., but nothing as brutal. It's almost like you have to go through 50 bad expirence to fine one true friend. You have a very "wicked" sense of humour that I would surely miss it.
M
M
WOW....bad news...
Wanda.....besides chiming in on a few of your started posts, we have sent emails back
and forth...some teasing your "wicked" sense of humor...but ALL saying how much
we love your being on this site...
We understand if you do decide to "throw in the towel" its because you made the decision
that is best for YOU, not because we want you to stay..
but.....if you do decide to leave this site you will be greatly missed.
Wanda.....besides chiming in on a few of your started posts, we have sent emails back
and forth...some teasing your "wicked" sense of humor...but ALL saying how much
we love your being on this site...
We understand if you do decide to "throw in the towel" its because you made the decision
that is best for YOU, not because we want you to stay..
but.....if you do decide to leave this site you will be greatly missed.
Wanda just stay true to yourself and dont forget there is always better days ahead... liz and tony
Sorry Wanda to see you ran in to the HIGH SCHOOL Games people play, Just keep beening you dont let anyone get you donw and leave this site you post may thing, sometimes funny sometimes not so funny but it all in good. If you let anyone push you out they won. SO just stay around and piss on them, And By the time Rob get anyone e-mail about this it will be a few weeks and it will be done with by the time he can do any thing about it. Have a good day 
This is just one more example of why singles guys are looked down on so hard in this lifestyle, because some of them just can't seem to leave well enough alone. We are both really sad to hear that you had to experience this kind of drama.
We have always enjoyed your posts and hate to see you go!!!
Wanda,
Don't go!!! There are so many other better people on here for u to meet and make friends with. I have to say that u helped whild I was stuck in Cuba. Don't let one push u out. Those of us who have had the pleasure of your chats, and wit agree that u should stay. I truely regret that I didn't get to meet u in person on my way home from Cuba.
Don't go!!! There are so many other better people on here for u to meet and make friends with. I have to say that u helped whild I was stuck in Cuba. Don't let one push u out. Those of us who have had the pleasure of your chats, and wit agree that u should stay. I truely regret that I didn't get to meet u in person on my way home from Cuba.
I also don't know you but I have emailed you in the hopes of meeting you in person someday. So I really hope you don't let some asshole run you off. That only lets them feel like they won. You are the winner for being the honest and upfront person. I am a single male and now I am sure I will feel more "wrath" because of his deceitful ways. I always am polite when I contact anyone and tell the whole truth about my status(single parent with every other weekend,when he stays at his mother's). I realize that some will think that is a line,just a way to "lie".. But face it I can't be the only single parent with custody that swings,can I??? Anyway,I digress. I sincerely hope you stay Wanda,don't let some jerk run you off. As you can see by all the favorable posts,you have everyone in your corner,and I think he has in effect,banned himself,whether he knows it or not. I truly hope to meet you sometime in the future. Take care and don't let that idiot beat you down with his b.s... Jim
Wanda. We have never talked , but we have always enjoyed your post.. Have to agree with the post. Don't let this guy chase you off.
All I can say is
Don
Don