It appears that most of the women who are involved in the swinging lifestyle do it because they want to please there husbands. A recent poll indicated that most woman are satisfied with there husbands and really don't need or want outside contact. In that same poll it was indicated that most women are not satisfied with how the other males are able to satisfy them.
How about some thoughts on this
How about some thoughts on this
I totally agree with the fact of some of the other men haven't been able to satisfy me but hey the sex afterwards is even better so I am totally ok with it. I think if the women is only doing for the husband than they need to talk about it and either get out of the lifestyle all the way or see how to get both of them wanting as much as the other one. But that is just my two cents
The Mrs Bradb
The Mrs Bradb
I would have to agree with Mrs. BradB on the fact that the sex is much better after. So far we have only found 1 other person who has come close to satisfying me but so far noone can do it like my hubby.
Anyone who is in this lifestyle because one wants it but the other really doesn't should not be in it, it can cause way too many problems in their relationship with each other and possibly with anyone else involved. Jealousy spreads like wildfire in this lifestyle - and a couple in it for the wrong reasons will have nothing but problems.
Just my .02
Mrs.Couple
Anyone who is in this lifestyle because one wants it but the other really doesn't should not be in it, it can cause way too many problems in their relationship with each other and possibly with anyone else involved. Jealousy spreads like wildfire in this lifestyle - and a couple in it for the wrong reasons will have nothing but problems.
Just my .02
Mrs.Couple
I will third that about the sex afterwards!! As for being in it for my husband, sure he introduced it to me BUT I am my own person and and can make my own mind up, if I didn't enjoy it I wouldn't be doing it.
Another side to it is we have also made some wonderful friends!
The Mrs Half of the Couple
Another side to it is we have also made some wonderful friends!
The Mrs Half of the Couple
Well not to sound repeatative but, yes afterwards the sex is mindblowing. I will admit that my man knows EXACTLY how to please me but do not let that fool you. I love being with other people we trust. We are very secure and he is the one who introduced me to this lifestyle. We actually got started in this lifestyle for me, not for him. He knows that I am young and did not want me to only experience one man for her whole life. He brought in a friend of his we trusted and thus began the road to more experineces. I agree that some women are here just to please there man, but I also think that a lot of women are like me and want this as much as I do.
Mrs. ACW
Mrs. ACW
Well to be honest I am the one that got Mr Ready interested. I total agree making love to your mate is more mindblowing after swinging with others. Our sexlife is great I wouldn't trade that for anything even before we were swinging he knows what I like and what turns me hotter. Having an older man is great ladies. Do have to worry about the man thinking about themselves first. Guys don't take me the wrong way alot of the younger males out there think of them selfs first than pleasing the women Mrs. Ready
I would have to dissagree with that data all together. overwhelmingly, most of the people we meet have a bi or bi-curious woman involved and they almost without exception, set the pace!
my wife came up with the idea just to have a little excitment in our otherwise controlled lives. we both work stressful jobs and figured what better way to bleed off a little.
i do agree with the statement that anyone doing this just to please there mate, is probably heading to a divorce lawyer sooner then later!
R&M
my wife came up with the idea just to have a little excitment in our otherwise controlled lives. we both work stressful jobs and figured what better way to bleed off a little.
i do agree with the statement that anyone doing this just to please there mate, is probably heading to a divorce lawyer sooner then later!
R&M
I haven't seen this "poll" but I can tell you this was 100% my idea not his. That being said my interest is based in my bi-sexuality, this doesn't mean I'm only interested in the female aspect, but if I were straight I seriously doubt I would have ever been interested in this at all.
If I woke up tomorrow morning "straight" I'd probably turn in my swingers card give my website subscription to a needy couple on a temporary account.
Just being honest as you asked. :-)
If I woke up tomorrow morning "straight" I'd probably turn in my swingers card give my website subscription to a needy couple on a temporary account.
Just being honest as you asked. :-)
OK, the after sex is good!! but I don't know if you guys are with new or regulars. Every women is diffrent and likes diffrent things. Its hard for a man to know what each and every women likes and wants because we don't come with a book of instructions. I think the first time you have sex with anyone it is a little odd but if you give it time and see someone on a regular basis then it will get better with time. Me and my hubby have been together for 9 yrs so He knows how I like it and of course he always pleases me better then another especially the first meeting..so gals give the men a little time and guidance thats all they need.
oh yeah, and this was totally my idea ...We are in it together or not at all. If one of us does not want to do it, then its all off. Thats how it is for us.
mrs. swingnfun88
mrs. swingnfun88
Just wanted to add my my two cents. This swinging thing was my husbands idea for sure, but when he brought it up he thought I would not at all be into that stuff.........boy was he suprised. It has increased our sex life 10 fold. Even if I dont get satisfied with another male that is okay because it only makes it that much better when my husband finishes me off. As I get comfortable with some of our "friends" the better I am getting at being able to be satisfied with them..............the reason I can reach satisfaction (I call the "happy place") with my husband is because their is passion, love, and an emotional connection with him it isnt that the other males arent good at what they do it is just that there isnt any of those deep feelings with him ( and there shouldnt be, because if there was...then you really have some problems lol)........and lets be honest ladies most of us have to have that passion with our partners to beable to "get there" at least this women does!!! All in all, we enjoy doing this as partners because it makes our sex life that much better, and we have grown to appreciate each other that much more. My husband wouldnt even want me to be doing this to only make him happy (although I know it does (grin)) I do it because it makes us both happy and OMG is our sex good the morning after, and the afternoon after, and the evening after, and the night after....you get my point!!!
We met in the lifestyle so we were both comfortable with our roles long before we decided to become exclusive to one another. We both agree that we prefer MFM to FMF for different reasons, so it worked out for us. So in short, in wasn't my idea or hers.
Initially it was my (mR. Luvbugs!) ex's idea to swing; mRs. Luvbugs! decided for she and her ex.
As far as the sex being better after an encounter...yes! However, that seems natural for two people in love, of course we do not always make love privately after we play. It really depends on the situation and the person with whom we play.
As far as the Mrs. being "satisfied" by her lover(s). Hell, YES! It is a large part of why we take the time to cultivate our friendships with potential playmates. Better friends = better sex. We would not pursue a relationship where the sex had no hope of being satisfying. Sorry, but it is the plain truth. What would be the point?
Conversely speaking, our main male friend (for 6 years now) knows exactly how to turn her on and make her pop like a rocket. I know because we were sure to take the time to teach him properly. He knows everything about her that I do. And in turn, she knows him better than anyone he has been with over the last few years, as his girlfriends tend to come and go. The three of us have truly mind blowing uninhibited sex that we often talk about for weeks. Maybe we are lucky to have it so good.
Have a great day everyone!
Luvbugs! (mR.)
Initially it was my (mR. Luvbugs!) ex's idea to swing; mRs. Luvbugs! decided for she and her ex.
As far as the sex being better after an encounter...yes! However, that seems natural for two people in love, of course we do not always make love privately after we play. It really depends on the situation and the person with whom we play.
As far as the Mrs. being "satisfied" by her lover(s). Hell, YES! It is a large part of why we take the time to cultivate our friendships with potential playmates. Better friends = better sex. We would not pursue a relationship where the sex had no hope of being satisfying. Sorry, but it is the plain truth. What would be the point?
Conversely speaking, our main male friend (for 6 years now) knows exactly how to turn her on and make her pop like a rocket. I know because we were sure to take the time to teach him properly. He knows everything about her that I do. And in turn, she knows him better than anyone he has been with over the last few years, as his girlfriends tend to come and go. The three of us have truly mind blowing uninhibited sex that we often talk about for weeks. Maybe we are lucky to have it so good.
Have a great day everyone!
Luvbugs! (mR.)
Though a male friend introduced me to the lifestyle, it has been me that has pursued it more... in turn I am trying to convince my man to "just try". But I fear HE will try just to make me happy and I don't want that either. My experiences have been great fun and I wouldn't trade them for anything. And I want his experiences to be the same.
And honestly speaking... I personally got into the lifestyle for more satisfaction (if you will ) The more I got the more I wanted... that includes the friends made, the conversations had, new experiences, oh yeah... the satisfaction too.
So I guess you can say currently it is my idea... previously someone else's idea. But whomever's idea, it should be because both want to participate not just to make the other happy.
Angelbubbles
And honestly speaking... I personally got into the lifestyle for more satisfaction (if you will
) The more I got the more I wanted... that includes the friends made, the conversations had, new experiences, oh yeah... the satisfaction too.So I guess you can say currently it is my idea... previously someone else's idea. But whomever's idea, it should be because both want to participate not just to make the other happy.
Angelbubbles
I am glad to see soooo many honest people..(lol). Short and sweet... I got into lifestyles for my husband in the beginning, although I did enjoy the benefits. Now its completely mutual, we both benefit and enjoy every experience. As for the sex... no one makes love to me like my husband. He is the only one who has ever made love to me. Sex wise, together we have learned from others new and exciting ways to please each other making our time together even more exciting.
No matter how you look at it... wrong or right.. we have never regretted any part of what it has brought into our relationship.
CYN
No matter how you look at it... wrong or right.. we have never regretted any part of what it has brought into our relationship.
CYN
HI, EVERYONES, WE'VE MET GIRLS AT MIAMI VELVET WHO SEEMED VERY UNCOMFORTABLE. HOW SAD. I IMMEDIATELY LEAVE THEM ALONE. I ONLY PLAY WITH GIRLS AND HUSBAND. IT'S WHAT I LIKE AND WANT. WE'VE MET A COUPLE WHERE US GIRLS PLAYED THEN WENT WITH EACH OTHERS HUSBAND. THAT WAS WILD. BUT MOST GUYS WANT TO GET SOME ALSO. LOLOLOL. EVERYONE HAS AND SHOULD DO ONLY WHAT THEY FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH. LIFE IS GREAT AND THREESOMES ARE SIMPLY...WOW. ANY SINGLE GIRLS DOWN IN SOUTH FLORIDA, SEND ME A NOTE, HERE OR [email protected] LIKE ALWAYS NO GAMES.
It was pretty much the opposite with us. I wanted to see my wife with another woman, as most guys do, LOL but did nothing about it. My wife was the one who actually did something about it. She found the websites and wanted more than just her and another woman. She wanted to see me with another woman. Now who can say NO to that!!? So, we slowly tested the waters and our boundaries and found that we really had no issues with anything. So, we've had nothing but great experiences (minus the few crazies that have created drama, but we doused that quickly) and look foward to continued fun!!! Thanks hon! Wink Wink
Dave
Dave
We got into the lifestyle because my wife was bi but didn't want to admit it to herself. Raised Catholic and it would be a mortal sin?????? All she had to do was see a woman naked and she got totally wet... I was aware of this for years but she insisted not.. We started going to a club to the socials and she loosened up slowly. At some point one of the women took her to her room and they got it on.. Then she went with another women and got it on another time... I didn't care that I wasn't there because it was for her not for me anyway. So now we are in the lifestyle at her whim... It was never about me in the first place... The lifestyle has made her more open to herself and freer, more able to talk about sexual things.
In the 9 or so years that we've been in the lifestyle I learned that while many times men get their wives into the lifestyle it is the wives that keep them in the lifestyle. Further, women completely control the lifestyle. It's kind of like the old expression; "If a man says he's boss at home, I wonder what else he lies about". The lifestyle is much like that. From discussions with other swingers I find that just a many wives get their husbands involved in the lifestyle as mwn do. I don't know about other places like UT or CO or TX but in NC, SC, VA, and many in FL the women rule the lifestyle and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Ladies, please let everyone know who rules... and it's not pork fat, as one TV chef says...
In the 9 or so years that we've been in the lifestyle I learned that while many times men get their wives into the lifestyle it is the wives that keep them in the lifestyle. Further, women completely control the lifestyle. It's kind of like the old expression; "If a man says he's boss at home, I wonder what else he lies about". The lifestyle is much like that. From discussions with other swingers I find that just a many wives get their husbands involved in the lifestyle as mwn do. I don't know about other places like UT or CO or TX but in NC, SC, VA, and many in FL the women rule the lifestyle and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Ladies, please let everyone know who rules... and it's not pork fat, as one TV chef says...
well for me i do NOTHING just because i want to please hubby, we started swinging because after 22 years of marriage and kids are grown we wanted to have fun, but sifting through the liars , fakes and cheaters has become a bit bothersome, i have found a few men that pleased me just as well if not better, although i am not bi nor bi curious i adore men and always have and hubby knows this, as for the other women, he tells me that most just lay there, so i guess some women do it because they think there hubbies want them too,, i think that is pathetic, i would NEVER do anything i didnt want to do,,, just my 2 cents worth
Well it seems that men want to go to the swing clubs the first time and the women want to go the second.
As far as sex afterward...yes, it is always better, but that is easy to explain, I make LOVE to my wife, and I have sex with the other women..
As far as sex afterward...yes, it is always better, but that is easy to explain, I make LOVE to my wife, and I have sex with the other women..