Soooooo......Im recently off the bus coming in from Vanillaville. I have been slowly putting one toe in, then a foot, then a...well you know what comes next right???
Anyway...here is my question. It took me a while to get used to the idea that it is REALLY OK to talk to/flirt/etc etc with someone's husband. So Im at this club and I was flirting with this really sweet hubby, and talking to his wife....all was well. Well Mr Hubby kissed me and WOWIE...nice. Ok...so we are standing there and he grabs my butt. Not like a huge grope or anything, just a quick little squeeze. Soooo....what do I do? I return the favor.
OOPS....BIG MISTAKE
Wife comes completely unglued!!!! She was so mad and got in my face and did the whole "if you ever touch my husband again..." thing.
So here is my question: Is is not ok for a single person to do that? I understand the concept of not randomly groping people. But I guess its different for you married people? Was that just horrible etiquette on my part? What should/could I do different next time? Im scared to death of making someone else mad now.
Anyway...here is my question. It took me a while to get used to the idea that it is REALLY OK to talk to/flirt/etc etc with someone's husband. So Im at this club and I was flirting with this really sweet hubby, and talking to his wife....all was well. Well Mr Hubby kissed me and WOWIE...nice. Ok...so we are standing there and he grabs my butt. Not like a huge grope or anything, just a quick little squeeze. Soooo....what do I do? I return the favor.
OOPS....BIG MISTAKE
Wife comes completely unglued!!!! She was so mad and got in my face and did the whole "if you ever touch my husband again..." thing.
So here is my question: Is is not ok for a single person to do that? I understand the concept of not randomly groping people. But I guess its different for you married people? Was that just horrible etiquette on my part? What should/could I do different next time? Im scared to death of making someone else mad now.
I (the Mr) dont see where "you " did anything wrong if the hubby did it to you first. If wife had a problem with it she should have stopped him, or rather come unglued on him, not you. Turn about is fair play, and she just showed her true colors that she's not willing to share him with anyoneone, as far as him kissing/groping ect. why was that ok with her yet not ok to return with the like??
We don't see how you did anything wrong so don't blame yourself and don't let it discourage you. Sounds like you just had one of those unfortunate instances that we all experience at some point. Though we do try to feel out what limits other people have before we do something that may be out of line, you never know for sure how honest people are being with themselves and how they'll react to something until the time comes. Sounds like there were some jealousy issues.
Naw you didnt do anything wrong. You can grab my butt anytime 
We're in 100% agreeance with Airknight11.
I agree completely with Uriah. In addtion to jealousy feelings, there may be other tensions between this woman and her husband, which unfortunately got displaced onto you.
You did nothing wrong. So continue patting those willing butts!
You did nothing wrong. So continue patting those willing butts!
This couple does NOT belong in the lifestyle until they (a) get their jealousy issues resolved and (b) let people know their limitations or boundries. You did nothing wrong based on the events as they happened... I would say that based on the kiss it might have gone quite a bit further.... This "lady" apparently is not confortable with anyone playing with her husband or even less....touching him. What would she have done if you had grabbed his manhood?
The jealousy/possessivness issues must be handled regardless if they are going to continue as a couple...The husband has a different idea of the boundries which could cause major problems... Simply because the wife will eventually make him eat his actions....
Nope you did nothing wrong and enjoy the lifestyle..
The jealousy/possessivness issues must be handled regardless if they are going to continue as a couple...The husband has a different idea of the boundries which could cause major problems... Simply because the wife will eventually make him eat his actions....
Nope you did nothing wrong and enjoy the lifestyle..
Let me get this straight.... Wifey saw her hubby kiss you and said nothing?
Wifey saw her hubby grope your posterior and said nothing?
Then you touched hubby and she went ballistic?
If those are the facts... you are safe and she's a schitzo.
You did absolutely nothing wrong and THEY don't belong
in the swingers scene.
Wifey saw her hubby grope your posterior and said nothing?
Then you touched hubby and she went ballistic?
If those are the facts... you are safe and she's a schitzo.
You did absolutely nothing wrong and THEY don't belong
in the swingers scene.
i would like to add my own comments as well. first i agree with all post here but wanted to add a little something for thought. if a single is going to get in good with a couple then a female needs to connect with the wife and the male needs to connect with the husband. perhaps some communication between you and the wife or couple to see if is alright to touch. talk it out before hand. communication is your best friend and gets things out in the open without misunderstandings.
Thank you so much for your comments. It makes me feel a little more comfortable knowing my actions do not put me in the "butt grabbing single nazi" category. Actually, I think I will be a little more careful with my hands next time.
I really appreciate your comments about communication. In my mind I understand how you have to connect with both people if anything is ever going to go anywhere. In practice...well hell I dont have any practice lol. Anyway....I will keep that in mind...thank you!!!
....Rachelle
I really appreciate your comments about communication. In my mind I understand how you have to connect with both people if anything is ever going to go anywhere. In practice...well hell I dont have any practice lol. Anyway....I will keep that in mind...thank you!!!
....Rachelle
Important Note::: UT and SC need to switch positions on the map... It has become apparent that this change is necessary. South Carolina has enough large lakes and Utah has only the GSL So it seems only proper that UT takes it's rightful place on the east coast close to another salt water body. Secondary to being in its rightful geographic place ...we need more Mormons here in the east to counter-balance the Baptist . And finally there are just too many good looking women ....and couples in UT to be so far west.
Disclaimer: To those who wish to stay out west Move to NV, MT, CO or NM.. All statements made here on this day and date, regardless of what it may be hereafter, are true to the best of my wishes and thoughts.. In no way am I, in any way saying anything negative about SC or any other states.. It just seems that the distribution of Baptists, Mormons and ectremely sexy women are in need of redistribution. I would even consider moving to the great state of UT if it were to move. This would increase the tax base for that state and I would believe that more of my brethern would consider doing likewise.
Disclaimer: To those who wish to stay out west Move to NV, MT, CO or NM.. All statements made here on this day and date, regardless of what it may be hereafter, are true to the best of my wishes and thoughts.. In no way am I, in any way saying anything negative about SC or any other states.. It just seems that the distribution of Baptists, Mormons and ectremely sexy women are in need of redistribution. I would even consider moving to the great state of UT if it were to move. This would increase the tax base for that state and I would believe that more of my brethern would consider doing likewise.
I SREE WITH EVERYONE POST SHE HAD NO RESON TO GET UPSET AT ALL. HELL I WOULD LOVE IF YOU WERE TOUCHIN ME AND MY HUBBY LOL AMANDA
we agree with haden801,......sounds like an insecurity problem........might be that she was feeling left out with you being single and all.. no new male for her.....and it just hit her that it was going to be just you three... if thats the case she and hubbie should of figured that out prior to meeting with you.... hello single female.. means..SINGLE FEMALE... but hey on the lighter side...you was totaly in the right to accept and return advances... dennis and sara
Have to agree, sounds like the couple in the situation may have some issues they need to address between themselves and you just happened to get caught in the crossfire.
But also, seems to me like you were the one wronged. Why should he have the right to touch and even kiss you, but you don't have the right to respond in kind? Understanding singles in the lifestyle (male or female) are more or less, for lack of a better word, and hope not to offend anyone, "toys", but you are also a person and you and your wants and needs sould be considered and respected as well. Sounds to me that you were disrespected by being expected to just be there for them (him) to do as they please with no concern for what you might want to do.
But don't worry, not everyone is like that, you just happened to run into one of the "drama" couples.
But also, seems to me like you were the one wronged. Why should he have the right to touch and even kiss you, but you don't have the right to respond in kind? Understanding singles in the lifestyle (male or female) are more or less, for lack of a better word, and hope not to offend anyone, "toys", but you are also a person and you and your wants and needs sould be considered and respected as well. Sounds to me that you were disrespected by being expected to just be there for them (him) to do as they please with no concern for what you might want to do.
But don't worry, not everyone is like that, you just happened to run into one of the "drama" couples.
Wow....thank you for the feedback. Its so funny, I keep getting these emails with "butt grabber" on the title line. Wonder why???? LOL
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Meeting people in this lifestyle is so much different than any social encounter I have ever seen. For the most part, you people are so non-judgemental and it just feels good and honest. Thank you again!!!
....Chelle
PS...(((((Cindy and Dan)))))- just give me an hour with either of those cute booties...... YOWZERS!!!!
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Meeting people in this lifestyle is so much different than any social encounter I have ever seen. For the most part, you people are so non-judgemental and it just feels good and honest. Thank you again!!!
....Chelle
PS...(((((Cindy and Dan)))))- just give me an hour with either of those cute booties...... YOWZERS!!!!
Nope you didn't do nuthin wrong. The other lady has a few screws loose. And rest assured any time you would like to come to Illinois you can grab my butt and more. :-)
Once again, this sounds like a couple who are definitely not in this lifestyle for the right reasons.
In our opinion, there is absolutely NO ROOM for jealeaousy in this lifestyle, and anyone demonstrating it needs to re-evaluate thier relationship, and it certainly shouldn't be taken out on other people in the lifestyle.
If you don't enjoy seeing your partner have fun with someone else, YOU'RE NOT IN THIS FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. If your partner doesn't enjoy seeing YOU having fun, then ditto.
It's also our opinion that alot of the husbands coerce their spouses into this just to get laid. We've gotten countless emails to that effect, where the guy ALWAYS does the talking, and even some who have admitted 'if I find the right girl, maybe she'll become interested'
Again, it's time to re-evaluate your relationship, NOT jump into swinging.
In our opinion, there is absolutely NO ROOM for jealeaousy in this lifestyle, and anyone demonstrating it needs to re-evaluate thier relationship, and it certainly shouldn't be taken out on other people in the lifestyle.
If you don't enjoy seeing your partner have fun with someone else, YOU'RE NOT IN THIS FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. If your partner doesn't enjoy seeing YOU having fun, then ditto.
It's also our opinion that alot of the husbands coerce their spouses into this just to get laid. We've gotten countless emails to that effect, where the guy ALWAYS does the talking, and even some who have admitted 'if I find the right girl, maybe she'll become interested'
Again, it's time to re-evaluate your relationship, NOT jump into swinging.
You didn't do anything wrong. Everything was out in the open infront of his wife. They have lifestyle issues to deal with.
I had a similar story where I hooked up with a couple, entertained the wife infront of the husband. Had a great time or so I thought. A couple of weeks later, husband called me and blamed me for ruining his marriage etc. I felt guilty about the situation. A few months later, I got an email asking for us to play again. I told them never to contact me again.
I had a similar story where I hooked up with a couple, entertained the wife infront of the husband. Had a great time or so I thought. A couple of weeks later, husband called me and blamed me for ruining his marriage etc. I felt guilty about the situation. A few months later, I got an email asking for us to play again. I told them never to contact me again.
we also agree ,you did nothing wrong at all.
And yes you can grab either one of our ass's if you would be around
angie and jr
And yes you can grab either one of our ass's if you would be around
angie and jr
agree with most of the posts...you did nothing wrong, you are allowed to be touched but you cant do any touching?...i call BS on that. sounds like the couple is not ready for this step. again you did nothing wrong...
Michele
Michele
We don't see what the big deal is...look at football for instance they run around grabbing each others butts the whole time...lol
But we are sorry you had a bad experience and hope that next time things will be much more enjoyable for you! Best of luck
But we are sorry you had a bad experience and hope that next time things will be much more enjoyable for you! Best of luck Hey there....you can grab my butt anytime and my wife will be tottaly okay with it.....GRAB ON
You did absolutely nothing wrong in our opinion. As hard as single females are to come by, it's a damn shame you being treated like that. We hope your future pursuits pan out more gracefully.