It seems like there are many profiles that say that they want “friends inside and outside of the bedroomâ€. That is the main reason we started in the lifestyle and we have yet to find anyone else that would like to hang out and be friends. Is it just us, or is this as elusive as a unicorn.
Well, it could be your location...we are always looking for friends, people that are perverted like us but don't have expectations of a swap...
We have found a few couples that we are now personal friends with and have played with. They are out Also for us even if a friendship doesn't always go all the way to the bedroom it's still nice to hang out with like minded people.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:
Well, it could be your location...we are always looking for friends, people that are perverted like us but don't have expectations of a swap...
We have generally given up on the far northern scene and have tried to focus our activities to the SL Valley, but still nothing. We have met couples we clicked really well with, that say that are looking for the same, maybe my super ginormous penis scares them away. LOL
Completely understand your situation but it is actually very achievable. We have many friends from here on Swingular that we have played with but also do other things with. We cherish our friends from the LS very much because we can really relax with them, no pretense, don not have to watch what we say (within reason) but can have lots of adult fun times with them. So yes, it does happen, but it isn't everyone you meet here.
SWINGTASTICUT wrote:SHENANIGANIZER wrote:
Well, it could be your location...we are always looking for friends, people that are perverted like us but don't have expectations of a swap...
We have generally given up on the far northern scene and have tried to focus our activities to the SL Valley, but still nothing. We have met couples we clicked really well with, that say that are looking for the same, maybe my super ginormous penis scares them away. LOL
Can you blame them?
I've made many friends I've never slept with. And then there are those that I have. Friends in the lifestyle aren't difficult to find when you're open to it and going where you'll meet more people in the LS.
We are still interested in hanging out! We have just found that alcohol doesn't enhance our experience. Bars and pubs just aren't our thing. Hit us up!!
I am in SLC I have meet and played with a few fun people and always looking for more to get to know. I have friends as far away as Idaho.
Evil,
You couldn't find one that was shaven? Even if it would destroy a womans cervix, they'd still try it but only if it was at least trimmed.
You couldn't find one that was shaven? Even if it would destroy a womans cervix, they'd still try it but only if it was at least trimmed.
I live not to far from you and I'm also having the same problem maybe we could hang out some time
I would love to find some more friends. But living in spanish fork is hard and schedules especially when people have kids. And we dont typically.
I would love to find some more friends. But living in spanish fork is hard and schedules especially when people have kids. And we dont typically.
We have been some great friends, even traveled with some friends that we meet in lifestyle and never played with...just good friends
It is possible. We try also to be friends first and than play...at least that works for us so far.
It is possible. We try also to be friends first and than play...at least that works for us so far.
We live in Roy, not too far from you. We also would like to have more friends in the lifestyle. We have a big heated garage, we play card and dice games. We also have a hot tub and extra room at the house. Send us a friend request if you might be interested.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:
Evil,
You couldn't find one that was shaven? Even if it would destroy a womans cervix, they'd still try it but only if it was at least trimmed.
Actually, that IS trimmed. Took like 6 hours, thank-you-very-much.
We've been in the lifestyle 17+ years, so we have the experience to talk about this subject.
We thought it would be easy to find 3-5 couples with whom to have a FWB friendship with. So our journey first leads to discovering more than half the profiles out there are fake. Because my wife is bi (not curious - not situational - she is 110% bi) we now discover the profiles the husband must write and says the wife is bi but come to find out that's his fantasy and his wife has NO interest in being with another woman. THEN we discover the profiles that state NSA and we move on. With the list dwindling we pass on profiles that state looks are not important (sorry - there has to be an attraction and yes looks are important) and we pass on profiles with couples old enough to be our kids.
Then - distance becomes an issue for some (like us).
It's not easy finding FWB's but when you do find them - hold onto them. When you get older, age is a factor as many in the lifestyle get out after they reach mid to late 60's? The playing field narrows greatly when you over 65. It's the friends you make when you are in your 40's - 50's who will be your FWB's when you get to your 60's.
Good luck in your search. We love the lifestyle and the greatest people we've ever met we've met in the lifestyle. We wouldn't change a thing - other than maybe starting a bit earlier.
We thought it would be easy to find 3-5 couples with whom to have a FWB friendship with. So our journey first leads to discovering more than half the profiles out there are fake. Because my wife is bi (not curious - not situational - she is 110% bi) we now discover the profiles the husband must write and says the wife is bi but come to find out that's his fantasy and his wife has NO interest in being with another woman. THEN we discover the profiles that state NSA and we move on. With the list dwindling we pass on profiles that state looks are not important (sorry - there has to be an attraction and yes looks are important) and we pass on profiles with couples old enough to be our kids.
Then - distance becomes an issue for some (like us).
It's not easy finding FWB's but when you do find them - hold onto them. When you get older, age is a factor as many in the lifestyle get out after they reach mid to late 60's? The playing field narrows greatly when you over 65. It's the friends you make when you are in your 40's - 50's who will be your FWB's when you get to your 60's.
Good luck in your search. We love the lifestyle and the greatest people we've ever met we've met in the lifestyle. We wouldn't change a thing - other than maybe starting a bit earlier.
We'd love to make some like minded people to become friends in and out of the bedroom....apparently it's not an easy thing to do...
Sorry guys, I'm really not whining about not being able to find friends. It's just frustrating that people are flaky (I despise using that word) and just plain fake. Just say what you mean, we are all adults here, and we are playing adult games. If you want to just hit it and forget it, fine, just say so.