I have sent many emails... and noone ever reads them.
Why?
Why?
We ALWAYS respond. Can't speak for others.
We always answer ours. even to say no thanx.
BTW we dont put up with rudeness and to us it is rude not to answer emails.
BTW we dont put up with rudeness and to us it is rude not to answer emails.
A photo in your profile probably would be helpful :-)
Oh I think people read them, they are just NOT courteous enough to ANSWER them. Some people put alot of thought and effort into their messages and then the people that read them just carelessly discard them without so much as even a NO THANK YOU !!!!
Gotta agree with Wanda.... when we receive an email, the very first
thing we do is click to see who is sending it. No picture elicits zero interest.
So... the single male stigma combined with no picture and a profile that says
very little about you other than that you want to have some fun equals your result.
thing we do is click to see who is sending it. No picture elicits zero interest.
So... the single male stigma combined with no picture and a profile that says
very little about you other than that you want to have some fun equals your result.
I agree. You have three obstacles, 1) is you are a single male which immediately makes some (not all) couples weary. 2) There is no pic on your profile. Doesn't need to be a face shot in your public pics, but not a cock shot either. A good photo that represents your body type without being X-rated is good. 3) You're profile has a total of 16 words in it. There is nothing there that would interest us and make us want to spend the time to meet you.
Also, take a look at what you write in your emails. Is it "Hey, she's hot. I got a 9" dick, I love to give oral, and I'd like to make her cum so hard she'll see stars" or "From your profile you seem like a great couple, I'd like to meet you two sometime. Check-out my profile and see if you think we're compatible" Unfortunately, the majority of email we get from single guys falls in the first category.
Now that said, we respond to all emails whether it is a "sure lets meet" or a "sorry, we're not compatible". Some don't however because it is easy to hide behind a computer and just ignore those you don't want to respond to. It sucks, but that's the way cyberspace is.
Mr.
Also, take a look at what you write in your emails. Is it "Hey, she's hot. I got a 9" dick, I love to give oral, and I'd like to make her cum so hard she'll see stars" or "From your profile you seem like a great couple, I'd like to meet you two sometime. Check-out my profile and see if you think we're compatible" Unfortunately, the majority of email we get from single guys falls in the first category.
Now that said, we respond to all emails whether it is a "sure lets meet" or a "sorry, we're not compatible". Some don't however because it is easy to hide behind a computer and just ignore those you don't want to respond to. It sucks, but that's the way cyberspace is.
Mr.
We haven't gotten any e-mail yet, but by golly when we do, we'll respond to 'em.
The excuse that the person or persons sending the message didn't have a photo on their profile is absolutely no excuse for being so rude as to not send a response. Keep in mind if you read their profile and have an interest that you can always ask for a photo. Many people choose to maintain some degree of privacy for whatever their reason, so to those of you that use the NO PHOTO as an excuse, I say to you that your lazy. Have the common courtesy to respond to those that have taken the time to write to you.
Capeniceguy wrote:
"Have the common courtesy to respond to those that have taken the time to write to you."
...and single guys should have the courtesy to not write to those who express a preference for "no single guys"
Anyway, we try to resond to all, but sometimes we forget, or sometimes because of our schedules it just takes a while.
If some one doesn't respond to your email, check the last date that they were online.
"Have the common courtesy to respond to those that have taken the time to write to you."
...and single guys should have the courtesy to not write to those who express a preference for "no single guys"
Anyway, we try to resond to all, but sometimes we forget, or sometimes because of our schedules it just takes a while.
If some one doesn't respond to your email, check the last date that they were online.
we always try to respond to any email we get.......though it may take a bit of time due to life intruding. We are less likely to be responsive if..... 1)you are a single male...we dont have an interest in entertaining single men..you havent read our profile or....you dont pay attention to what you read.....sorry ....2)no pic.....sorry.....no excuse there....we understand the need for descretion.....but we dont need a face shot at first glance.....just a pic to show you actually do exist...no camera....get a disposable and go to kmart, walgreens, or walmart and get them printed..3)no real profile.....if you put in one sentence in each place......now how interesting is that???....and shows you have taken absolutely no effort to let anyone know who you are...you dont take an effort to help us know who you are?....why should we bother?....we have invested some time in letting you know who we are......read our profile...it will let you know more than.........hey.....lets fuck.....
so......if you dont hear back from us......and you fit within any of the above criteria.....take some responsibility and make some effort to have us respond.
man.....I do get wordy......lol.......
so......if you dont hear back from us......and you fit within any of the above criteria.....take some responsibility and make some effort to have us respond.
man.....I do get wordy......lol.......
I agree with much that's been said. We do get primarily "single" men (and I use the word VERY loosely since many it seems are only single when it comes to play) and while it is depressing to my wife since she would love to hook up with a couple we do answer emails as we get them usually. Now the single men need to understand that we have yung children and no matter how good a connection we have they have to come first. Work and school are also factors and it becomes all too easy to procrastinate replying to a "damn her tits are great.... would love to be with you" kinds of mails.
So:
1) try to be more creative on your profile (and I'm not saying you need a novel like our profile Lol),
2) include better pics on your profile,
3) send a better quality email, be sure what you coment on or ask isn't covered in the person's profile already and you didn't read it well or at all,
4) and understand that it may take a little bit to get an answer from a couple.
If you have done all of the above, don't be a baby and assume you are being ignored, but rather assume that wires got crossed and your mail may have got lost in the shuffle and send another in a week or so. After that, just write it off and don't sweat it. In today's world who the hell knows what's going on in anyone's life to judge them poorly because of it. Wouldn't it be bad to judge someone or get angry only to discover that a loved one died or was hospitalized, a job lost or any of a number of things and they were just not able to get it together and answer?
I think since you asked it's important to you and if you follow everyone's advice you will have better responses or at the least, be less stressed over a response not sent to you. When you've done your profile don't be afraid to get input about it. We often never see our own mistakes so I'm sure others would be happy to give you constructive criticism.
Also remember that for many.... there is at least one week a month why you will have to wait for an answer. Lol So just remember to keep a good sense of humor and life in general will be less frustrating. Good luck!
Aj
Why we have one week a month answering mail is probably going to have to wait....
So:
1) try to be more creative on your profile (and I'm not saying you need a novel like our profile Lol),
2) include better pics on your profile,
3) send a better quality email, be sure what you coment on or ask isn't covered in the person's profile already and you didn't read it well or at all,
4) and understand that it may take a little bit to get an answer from a couple.
If you have done all of the above, don't be a baby and assume you are being ignored, but rather assume that wires got crossed and your mail may have got lost in the shuffle and send another in a week or so. After that, just write it off and don't sweat it. In today's world who the hell knows what's going on in anyone's life to judge them poorly because of it. Wouldn't it be bad to judge someone or get angry only to discover that a loved one died or was hospitalized, a job lost or any of a number of things and they were just not able to get it together and answer?
I think since you asked it's important to you and if you follow everyone's advice you will have better responses or at the least, be less stressed over a response not sent to you. When you've done your profile don't be afraid to get input about it. We often never see our own mistakes so I'm sure others would be happy to give you constructive criticism.
Also remember that for many.... there is at least one week a month why you will have to wait for an answer. Lol So just remember to keep a good sense of humor and life in general will be less frustrating. Good luck!
Aj
Why we have one week a month answering mail is probably going to have to wait....
And you thought YOU were being wordy "Doc"..... Lol
When we get mail (yeah right) we read it. We stopped sending it because we never got replies. We really don't know why we keep coming to the site except for the hope we may actually meet someone.
we respond to all
we feel it is only polite
we feel it is only polite
On another website "Swappernet" you can view each users email sent, received, and replied quota For example
Letters Sent: 23
Letters Received: 24
Replied To: 23
I just joined this week i usually answer to all except a rude one like i got calling me a bad name LOL
Who cares about replying to someone like that anyhow??
Letters Sent: 23
Letters Received: 24
Replied To: 23
I just joined this week i usually answer to all except a rude one like i got calling me a bad name LOL
Who cares about replying to someone like that anyhow??
Lmao.... I agree. We have recieved mail like "you two are intersting" and looked up their profile and it says that "HW proportionate" thing. (We have enough pictures that NO ONE should not know before they mail us exactly what we look like! Lol) So I ask about why we were mailed and get the "Shelli is beautiful and even though I'm not interested my spouse is willing to make an exception in her case." What do you say to that? Thanks?? So... I usually don't answer those. Lol
(Bad Aj..... bad!)
Aj
(Bad Aj..... bad!)
Aj
We read emails and we respond.But we do know from experience people can't be bothered to respond.
We hope people who we write to and don't reply read this and understand how we feel about them!
We hope people who we write to and don't reply read this and understand how we feel about them!
i have written several and expect, being one of the single males, that counts against me, but i write to only single males wanted profiles but still no responce even if close in.
Perhaps the moderators could cull the listings of those who have not been active in the past six to eight months?
Perhaps the moderators could create a mechanism whereby people cannot do anything else on the site unless they respond to an email, even if it is to click an "automatic not interested" button.
Perhaps we should start a list of all the people who are too rude, arrogant or conceited to reply to messages, and that way folks can check that list to see who is not worth their time?
My Grandmother used to say "Breeding tells"...
Perhaps the moderators could create a mechanism whereby people cannot do anything else on the site unless they respond to an email, even if it is to click an "automatic not interested" button.
Perhaps we should start a list of all the people who are too rude, arrogant or conceited to reply to messages, and that way folks can check that list to see who is not worth their time?
My Grandmother used to say "Breeding tells"...
I read all my email and if nothing else out of common courtesy to thank them and wish them. I also enjoy reading the emails on upcoming events.
>> Posted By: REALSEX4U Reply posted on:
>> Apr 8, 2006 - 1:08 pm
>> Well, "pastoral" or "Mountain" scenes are about the same as no photos at all - and how often do >> we see those? Just like one commenter said above here; yet essentially did the pastoral scene.
>>
>> Who knows? High profile people cannot risk face photos (we fit into that category) so we do
>> what we can to reveal as much as possible.
I knew I'd catch flack for that, but before you judge to quickly though, if you look we have 37 private pics and until recently had 10 (5 of each of us) public pics that showed our faces unblurred. We've had some crap happen recently with one of our ex's that made us think we should remove our public pics until the dust settles.
They will be up again though, don't you fear.
Mr.
>> Apr 8, 2006 - 1:08 pm
>> Well, "pastoral" or "Mountain" scenes are about the same as no photos at all - and how often do >> we see those? Just like one commenter said above here; yet essentially did the pastoral scene.
>>
>> Who knows? High profile people cannot risk face photos (we fit into that category) so we do
>> what we can to reveal as much as possible.
I knew I'd catch flack for that, but before you judge to quickly though, if you look we have 37 private pics and until recently had 10 (5 of each of us) public pics that showed our faces unblurred. We've had some crap happen recently with one of our ex's that made us think we should remove our public pics until the dust settles.
They will be up again though, don't you fear.
Mr.
We try to answer all our email.. It can take a day or so, due to our schedules.. and I think all the emails we have sent out have been answered too
We too use Swappernet and like the tally of messages and how many are answered. Kinda gives you an idea of the success you may have writing to that person. :-)
We answer all emails with the exception of those that simply "Add You As A Friend" for these if they can't add at least a few words I dont feel they deem a reply!
I answer all emails.
Sometimes though, I will get an email from someone but when I try to repond, their email feature is turned off. This has happened on several occasions.
Sometimes though, I will get an email from someone but when I try to repond, their email feature is turned off. This has happened on several occasions.
We answer all e-mails we receive. Even if we aren't interested, we reply. We hate to send out an e-mail and get no response, so we don't like to do that to anyone else. Granted, we only check our e-mails once or twice a week, but we do reply. It's rather rude to not respond.