When is it time to give up ideas?? My wife first got us into the swinging idea with the stories of how she used to swing big time in her native Brazil and then here with her boyfriends. However, for all her talk we have done very very little. Grateful for the opportunity to participate, as us guys should be, still she constantly says lets do it, yet we never actually have. Excuses and such so, just a quick question from the more seasoned as to when I should stop trying, on my part. Thanks for the time.
There is no sense in rushing into it, then your gonna feel like your supposed to, or even worse have to perform. Just wait till the time is right and it will happen just keep that mind open dont shut it off.. We in the past tried forcing the issue and we never had good encounters now we just go with the flow and its rarely a party or get together where we dont get invited to do something but it is rare that we actually do. I could say yeah it would be nice to hook up for more sex. but then again its better to wait for the really great encounters than to have a bunch of bad ones that are not very memorable.. or if you do remember them its the bad points.. When we do Do it, it's the right time there is no pressure and everything flows wonderfully. It always has worked very well for us this way
J&J
J&J
Well we kinda did the swing thing off and on (more off than on) for about 5 years before meeting the right people and getting into it regularly. :-)
Let her decide when the time's right. She may still be feeling you out (or even herself!). Swinging might be something she did with people she wasn't serious about, might be something she's grown out of, etc. Expectations can be disappointed. If she says, "Let's. . .," a healthy response might be, "I agree, lets!" This isn't a biz transaction, this is your wife! Let her take this at her comfort zone. You might get there, you might not. Just enjoy her for who she is at this time. 
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
BTW, she's pretty!
Let her take this at her comfort zone. You might get there, you might not. Just enjoy her for who she is at this time. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
BTW, she's pretty!
I think I'd ask a question or two... Do you go to swinging clubs or parties? How many times have you had the oportunity to seing with a couple that both of you were compatable with or do you think it's just wam bam thank you ...and move to the next? I think it has to do with oportunity; compatability, especiality for her; what you consider swinging and again what she thinks it is. Come to NC and bring that dollbaby with you.. SHe is a qualified knock out. While many men would jump in the sack with my wife in a heartbeat both of us have more respect for ourselves and our mate/partner to do that. Just sho he my pic and ask her if she would.... I'll bet that the answer is no.. too old too ugly too fat.. too al;most anything.... All I can say is she would miss out because I'm even getting offers from women once they know me... And I haven't a clue...
I guess what I'm saying is that it may have to do with where you were living and the availability of oportunity... Maybe somepeople just don't like latino's. HAve you thought of dying your hair blond... You wife is fine... It may have to do with that she just hasn't found someone that she thiinks is good enough for you... Is there a language problem.. gramatical...You need to go down to Las Vagas this summer to the lifestyles convention and see what happens...
I just thought of something.... Is it that men are shying away from her becasue she is so hot? Happens... No guts.. and she is Psssss't HOT!!!!! You, you're not my type at all... but then I'm a guy. I just noticed in your profile that you are 6'3" and the pic shows a quite thin guy. At 6'3" 250 lbs would be beefy and that is not what I see.... Maybe it's the height weight thing about you... Oportunity works 2 ways... It presents itself to you and then you present you to it... If I read the profile and looked at the pic... what eles doesn't look right.... Have you both gotten out to NV yet or is she still in MD. BTW I was raised in Balto and moved here some 25 yrs ago.
So maybe there is some food for thought.... Take care... and things will come round at soem point.. If she is willing and you are willing... then never give up....
I guess what I'm saying is that it may have to do with where you were living and the availability of oportunity... Maybe somepeople just don't like latino's. HAve you thought of dying your hair blond... You wife is fine... It may have to do with that she just hasn't found someone that she thiinks is good enough for you... Is there a language problem.. gramatical...You need to go down to Las Vagas this summer to the lifestyles convention and see what happens...
I just thought of something.... Is it that men are shying away from her becasue she is so hot? Happens... No guts.. and she is Psssss't HOT!!!!! You, you're not my type at all... but then I'm a guy. I just noticed in your profile that you are 6'3" and the pic shows a quite thin guy. At 6'3" 250 lbs would be beefy and that is not what I see.... Maybe it's the height weight thing about you... Oportunity works 2 ways... It presents itself to you and then you present you to it... If I read the profile and looked at the pic... what eles doesn't look right.... Have you both gotten out to NV yet or is she still in MD. BTW I was raised in Balto and moved here some 25 yrs ago.
So maybe there is some food for thought.... Take care... and things will come round at soem point.. If she is willing and you are willing... then never give up....
Four years ago my wife and I talked about swinging.....making new adult friends and playing with them sexually as well as just going out and doing things. Three years ago on my birthday she gave me a birthday card that said, "lets do it". A year later after that we went to our first meet and greet. From there things went soooooooooooo slow. It wasnt until we met a couple visiting from Calif. that we had our first playdate....two years after first talking about it. Now we enjoy our friends we have made. We have a few couples whom we have met and meet often. We went on a Carnival cruise with a group of 300 lifestylers.....wow...was that fun...full of meeting alot of people and good descriminate play.
I guess with all my rambling I am trying to say.....it took us alot of time to get here.....it was frustrating.....irritating......and gave us thoughts of giving up the pursuit.......it is worth all that time.
If you pursue it.........you will cum.
I guess with all my rambling I am trying to say.....it took us alot of time to get here.....it was frustrating.....irritating......and gave us thoughts of giving up the pursuit.......it is worth all that time.
If you pursue it.........you will cum.