Hello all,
I am part of a women's discussion group and my turn to host is appraoching faster than I would like. I subject of the year is "Passion", and since this is a recent passion of mine, I thought I would share an article or book on Swinging (don't worry, I am not even revealing my own participation in this lifestyle, just presenting as an alternative to the norm). The problem is...I don't know if these kinds of articles/books actually exist? My own research before jumping into the lifestyle involved interviewing friends that I knew who were already here. Google is exasperating when you are trying to find information, not lists like this one.
What I need: Every month it is someone's turn to provide about 60 pages worth of reading. It is preffered that the readings be more scholarly than entertaining (am I asking the impossible??) I need to find a good article, book, statistics, etc. If anyone out there can help me, I would be forever grateful
Thank-you in advance for any help you can give
-S
PS No, I am not from KSL, lol
I am part of a women's discussion group and my turn to host is appraoching faster than I would like. I subject of the year is "Passion", and since this is a recent passion of mine, I thought I would share an article or book on Swinging (don't worry, I am not even revealing my own participation in this lifestyle, just presenting as an alternative to the norm). The problem is...I don't know if these kinds of articles/books actually exist? My own research before jumping into the lifestyle involved interviewing friends that I knew who were already here. Google is exasperating when you are trying to find information, not lists like this one.
What I need: Every month it is someone's turn to provide about 60 pages worth of reading. It is preffered that the readings be more scholarly than entertaining (am I asking the impossible??) I need to find a good article, book, statistics, etc. If anyone out there can help me, I would be forever grateful
Thank-you in advance for any help you can give
-S
PS No, I am not from KSL, lol
Go to www.Amazon.com and search Amazon with the words "swinging" or "swinger" and several books are available. Hope this helps..
One book that cums to mind instantly is "THE ETHICAL SLUT" And if you're lookin for fiction.. Sci Fi.. "Time Enough for Love" and another is "Stranger in A Strange Land" both by Robert A. Heinlein Not exactly about swinging but more about the lifestyle of either Polyamourous or Swingers in a fashion....The Ethical slut is kind of the grandfather of swinging handbooks and how to pull it off.. The other two are quite good about polyandrous/polygamous/polygynous relationships.. Could be fun to discuss, particularly the merrits and or negatives as it relates to the book/s and how it might relate to relationships in today's world, i.e., swinging...
There is a book I highly recommend called "The Lifestyle" by Terry Gould. Told by a journalistic point of view, this book is pretty good and really eyeopening on many levels. I don't know if this helps and hope it helps your interest.
EdNBrenda
EdNBrenda
Thank-you everyone! These are excellent sugestions and have definately given me a place to start. Interestingly, it was RA Heinlein that finally got my hubby to take me seriously about the whole lifestyle 
-S
-S
I have several articles saved from several sites if you would like them. If you are interested in them, you may email me at [email protected] and mention you would like them in the subject line.
YOu might also want to check out the library/publications at the Kinsey Institute: http://www.indiana.edu/~kinsey/
Istan
Istan
As EdNBrenda said a very good book would be "The Lifestyle." It is a little bit dated but the book is research based and has a lot of interesting information from history to demographics. It is not a book to grab for raw excitement but a very good book for intellectual discussion. What makes it unique is the book seems very objective and was written by a non swinger doing his research as an observer of the lifestyle. For a bit more fun read Dave Barry's article on Swing Conventions - here is a bit of it (email me for all of it).
"You don't think of swingers as being the type of people who hold conventions. By ''swingers,'' I mean couples who swing with other couples. By ''swing,'' I mean, ``you know exactly what I mean.''ut my point is that you (and by ''you,'' I mean ''I'') don't think of swingers as being big conventiongoers. You think of them as hanging out at private parties, or exclusive swinger nightclubs, or secluded motels, or the Clinton White House. You don't picture swingers walking around large convention hotels wearing name badges and attending seminars, like executives in the forklift industry."
"Attire aside, most of the swingers seemed to be regular people. In fact, according to a story about the convention in The Herald, the two most-common professions for swingers are police officer and teacher. This stunned me, especially the teachers. I mean, remember when you were a kid, and you were shocked whenever you saw a teacher at, say, the supermarket, because you didn't think of teachers as having any existence outside of school, or even necessarily as being food-eating life forms? Well, imagine if you encountered your trigonometry teacher wearing a garment that left absolutely nothing to the imagination regarding the cosine OR the hypotenuse."
"I think that, as parents, we should be concerned about the fact this type of individual is being employed in our schools. Maybe we should notify the police."
"No, wait."
"You don't think of swingers as being the type of people who hold conventions. By ''swingers,'' I mean couples who swing with other couples. By ''swing,'' I mean, ``you know exactly what I mean.''ut my point is that you (and by ''you,'' I mean ''I'') don't think of swingers as being big conventiongoers. You think of them as hanging out at private parties, or exclusive swinger nightclubs, or secluded motels, or the Clinton White House. You don't picture swingers walking around large convention hotels wearing name badges and attending seminars, like executives in the forklift industry."
"Attire aside, most of the swingers seemed to be regular people. In fact, according to a story about the convention in The Herald, the two most-common professions for swingers are police officer and teacher. This stunned me, especially the teachers. I mean, remember when you were a kid, and you were shocked whenever you saw a teacher at, say, the supermarket, because you didn't think of teachers as having any existence outside of school, or even necessarily as being food-eating life forms? Well, imagine if you encountered your trigonometry teacher wearing a garment that left absolutely nothing to the imagination regarding the cosine OR the hypotenuse."
"I think that, as parents, we should be concerned about the fact this type of individual is being employed in our schools. Maybe we should notify the police."
"No, wait."