How many of you has a boytoy to have fun at your own service anytime you need?
are we needed or not?
Thanks
are we needed or not?
Thanks
well speaking from my wifes point of view, YES boytoys are needed at times and wanted. he serves as a awesome diversion, 15 years younger, still no love handles, no wrinkles, no gray hair, no OLD man ass, he can see without readers. When she was younger she fantasized about guys that look like him, and now that she is older and it is OK to have fun with a guy in my eyes, she welcomes the thought and the fulfilled fantasy, many times over and still looks forward to more. IF he ever shows up when he says.....
It depends ... Do they wash walls???
Definately a NEED here !
come on?
I am hung like a Tic-Tac
Have hair all over my back
Talk about work in my sleep
I am too busy to lick her like I used to
and my belly is bigger than my libido
with all that...
Why would she WANT a boy toy??
I am hung like a Tic-Tac
Have hair all over my back
Talk about work in my sleep
I am too busy to lick her like I used to
and my belly is bigger than my libido
with all that...
Why would she WANT a boy toy??
2play (lmfol) could not have said it better
Have had one in the past its worth it!!!!!!!
I think its a matter of where you live. Here in Idaho Boytoys dont seem tobe in such big demand. If that was the case hubby wouldnt go without. Now a girl Toy would be excellent..
Just our thoughts and views on the subject
Just our thoughts and views on the subject
I wash Walls and other things!!!!!!! I'm I hired?
wife here has one boytoy regular at times when he can get away and another if she chooses to want him big benifit for the wife
In my opinion boy toys or fuck buddies as I prefer to call them are a must. I see one of my "friends" 2 or 3 times a month.
Okay, help me out a bit.....
My understanding of boytoy is a man who has one-on-one sex/play with one's partner, generally a woman and for this post we'll assume that's the vantage point being addressed. Is that how it's used in this context? And if so, which I expect is the case, here is a question or two... mostly for my curiosity. Why are they "needed" and not just a bit-o-fun tossed into the partner's mix? Does the frequency of sex with your partner reduce? And for those who will say no, why not and who are you thinking about when you are having sex with your partner? Was it your partner that even helped get the ball rolling to get you horny when you do have sex with your partner?
I ask because I wish simply to understand. For me, and Shelli knows this, I don't mind if something or someone gets her horny as long as two things happen if we have sex. One, it's me she wants and two, she isn't fantasizing about the other when we do. I don't feel I need to be a stand-in for someone else nor play the role of a "self actuating dildo" and I won't do more than help with toys if I know or believe it's the case. I wouldn't expect her to have much fun or expect her to participate willingly if I went to a strip club (which I don't do) and came home and expected sex with her (which I wouldn't do even if I went to any).
So I have to wonder why a boytoy would be a "need" and if it takes away from partner sex/play. Honestly, if Shelli came to me and said she "needed" a boytoy or two several times a month I doubt I'd ok it and, if for some strange reason I did (and in our relationship that's a BIG if), I expect I'd have little belief or want in any desire for sex with me she would express in between them. To me, "needing" someone else for sex would have to include the presumption of it replacing sex with the partner, wouldn't it? If a boytoy as I understand it to mean is a "need" instead of just adding someone to the sex life of the partners? I understand there are those in poly relationships and if it works for you, cool, have fun. But we won't be a poly relationship. Or more specifically, I fail to see the point and won't be in one. But I'm not addressing that... I don't think. Unless the boytoy is mostly found in poly relationships and then it becomes a moot point. Lol
Understand, I'm not slamming on anyone. This is just an honest and open inquiry. So I would hope I'm not going to get bashing on me and my belief in a monogomous relationship above having any other extra playmates. I see wants and needs as being seperate and distictly different things. I can want a lot of things and not have any of them and not have it become a hinderence to our relationship. But a "need" in an area of intimacy such as sex would by it's very nature be such.... for me anyway. I've seen no evidence in any relationship, and I have researched and discussed it, which changes my belief in this. So I'm not looking to be slammed or convinced I'm an idiot. But I do want to understand the beliefs and feelings in a relationship which requires a boytoy be an integral part of the relationship, outside of the physical inability of the partner. I'm not stupid... really. I am just trying to understand this subject a little better... student of human nature and all that. Lol
So, anyone care to explain a little bit? Nicely? Lol
Aj
My understanding of boytoy is a man who has one-on-one sex/play with one's partner, generally a woman and for this post we'll assume that's the vantage point being addressed. Is that how it's used in this context? And if so, which I expect is the case, here is a question or two... mostly for my curiosity. Why are they "needed" and not just a bit-o-fun tossed into the partner's mix? Does the frequency of sex with your partner reduce? And for those who will say no, why not and who are you thinking about when you are having sex with your partner? Was it your partner that even helped get the ball rolling to get you horny when you do have sex with your partner?
I ask because I wish simply to understand. For me, and Shelli knows this, I don't mind if something or someone gets her horny as long as two things happen if we have sex. One, it's me she wants and two, she isn't fantasizing about the other when we do. I don't feel I need to be a stand-in for someone else nor play the role of a "self actuating dildo" and I won't do more than help with toys if I know or believe it's the case. I wouldn't expect her to have much fun or expect her to participate willingly if I went to a strip club (which I don't do) and came home and expected sex with her (which I wouldn't do even if I went to any).
So I have to wonder why a boytoy would be a "need" and if it takes away from partner sex/play. Honestly, if Shelli came to me and said she "needed" a boytoy or two several times a month I doubt I'd ok it and, if for some strange reason I did (and in our relationship that's a BIG if), I expect I'd have little belief or want in any desire for sex with me she would express in between them. To me, "needing" someone else for sex would have to include the presumption of it replacing sex with the partner, wouldn't it? If a boytoy as I understand it to mean is a "need" instead of just adding someone to the sex life of the partners? I understand there are those in poly relationships and if it works for you, cool, have fun. But we won't be a poly relationship. Or more specifically, I fail to see the point and won't be in one. But I'm not addressing that... I don't think. Unless the boytoy is mostly found in poly relationships and then it becomes a moot point. Lol
Understand, I'm not slamming on anyone. This is just an honest and open inquiry. So I would hope I'm not going to get bashing on me and my belief in a monogomous relationship above having any other extra playmates. I see wants and needs as being seperate and distictly different things. I can want a lot of things and not have any of them and not have it become a hinderence to our relationship. But a "need" in an area of intimacy such as sex would by it's very nature be such.... for me anyway. I've seen no evidence in any relationship, and I have researched and discussed it, which changes my belief in this. So I'm not looking to be slammed or convinced I'm an idiot. But I do want to understand the beliefs and feelings in a relationship which requires a boytoy be an integral part of the relationship, outside of the physical inability of the partner. I'm not stupid... really. I am just trying to understand this subject a little better... student of human nature and all that. Lol
So, anyone care to explain a little bit? Nicely? Lol
Aj
I'm thinking that their are a lot of women who need boy toys, however if it's not cool w/ your partner not cool. GUYS handle your business and do it right because the women are on the prowl to get it GOOD. By the way ladies if their are any single women or couples looking for a no strings attached fun in the Carolinas give me a hey how ya doin.
BMW
BMW
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I guess the demand for boytoys in my area is alreay filled. Bummer.:s
I guess the demand for boytoys in my area is alreay filled. Bummer.:s
well i dont think any man has a right to speak for a woman, she has a voice, if he loves her and is open to her needs he will understand that sometimes YES they are very much needed, he should be secure enough to let her enjoy herself too,, it is not all about the MAN's needs, in my opinion it is every man's dream or desire for 2 women so whats the difference, just my opinion though, and they are very much welcome here, 