We don't have any experience at the 'swingers market' such as the former Habits, Sandy Station, etc.
We would like to try.
Is there anything that we should wear that would signify our interest?
Our experience comes from meeting people online, then meeting at a public place for bedroom time afterward. So, this 'scene' thing is all new to us.
We would like to try.
Is there anything that we should wear that would signify our interest?
Our experience comes from meeting people online, then meeting at a public place for bedroom time afterward. So, this 'scene' thing is all new to us.
They say wearing a black ring on either hand can be a good signal.
BUBULAPLEASE wrote:
They say wearing a black ring on either hand can be a good signal.
I've been told it is the hand...to many people now wear black wedding rings on the left.
Interesting article in regards to the Black Rink!
http://ironwynch.com/scrolls/2016/05/what-does-a-black-ring-mean/
http://ironwynch.com/scrolls/2016/05/what-does-a-black-ring-mean/
UPLIFTYOURLIFE wrote:
Interesting article in regards to the Black Rink!
http://ironwynch.com/scrolls/2016/05/what-does-a-black-ring-mean/
GREAT! So now I have to carry an encyclopedia around with me...
Yeah, it'd be kinda cool if there actually WAS some kind of universal accessory or a signal that swingers could use to ID each other out in the vanilla world. And many have tried over the years but nothing has ever really caught on (back in the day, more than a few women wore necklaces of an apple with a bite out of it). And even if something DID actually catch on, and people wore it or whatever to identify other swingers, how long do you think it would take for the internet to make that fairly common knowledge?
We went to a swinger's convention in San Diego a number of years ago. The group had taken over the entire hotel and property and nobody was allowed in without a special wristband. It took about 4 hours for most of the hotel staff to learn what those wristbands meant. By the next day, people at nearby hotels, restaurants, and shopping centers had heard the news and as you passed people they would glance at you and then immediately glance down at your wrist. By that evening, most of the swingers were becoming so self-conscious that they were attempting to hide the wristbands beneath watches and bracelets. A few even pulled them off their wrists, if they were loose enough, and then put them back on when re-entering the property.
So, as nice as it would be to know for sure who other swingers are, it would kinda defeat the purpose of what many of us state in our profiles...that we're discreet. I suspect that about 10% (if even) would wear a black ring and about 90% wouldn't for fear of being outed as swingers. YMMV
We went to a swinger's convention in San Diego a number of years ago. The group had taken over the entire hotel and property and nobody was allowed in without a special wristband. It took about 4 hours for most of the hotel staff to learn what those wristbands meant. By the next day, people at nearby hotels, restaurants, and shopping centers had heard the news and as you passed people they would glance at you and then immediately glance down at your wrist. By that evening, most of the swingers were becoming so self-conscious that they were attempting to hide the wristbands beneath watches and bracelets. A few even pulled them off their wrists, if they were loose enough, and then put them back on when re-entering the property.
So, as nice as it would be to know for sure who other swingers are, it would kinda defeat the purpose of what many of us state in our profiles...that we're discreet. I suspect that about 10% (if even) would wear a black ring and about 90% wouldn't for fear of being outed as swingers. YMMV
Thanks for the insight, EVILDOERS!!
Makes total sense.
Makes total sense.
We wear black rings on our right hands.
SECRETCOUPLE801 wrote:
We wear black rings on our right hands.
You also have face pics where the general public can see them so you're likely in the minority who don't really care all that much if friends or family find out that your hobby is fucking other people that you aren't married to. Good for you. I think a lot of us secretly wish we could be out and proud but the brutal truth is that here in good ole Utahr it could easily be professional and social suicide to be outed as swingers.
I can state that there is a trust issue with most people on here. I am one of them. I have private pics. I will share my "trust" if you share yours. We unfortunately live in a close minded society that see this as Sin. But if I am going to let someone see me for who I am in this community it's where it should be shared. I am having a hard time to find any trust on this site. Let alone wearing a ring, necklace, or other form of notification that would say "I Swing". I have a hard enough time wearing my pagan symbols around SLC let alone anything else. I have a friend who wears an infinity heart symbol around her neck; a poly symbol. She wears it because it's what her mother gave her when she was in the hospital to let her know she was loved. So it's sad that we try to live discretely and yet we do want understanding. It's always a two way street. I think the more the world moves towards acceptance, the more people will fight for their "family values" called normal. Just a thought.