Hello community and good morning looking for you couples who feel it's better to make a connection with people or just meet and get right to the point. Just curious which has worked better for you guys in the past ? We have found that the better you know a couple the better the sex and connection thoughts
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:well said
The biggest barrier a lot of us share, when it comes to making and enjoying friendships, is time and scheduling. If we are answering your question in terms of ideal scenarios, yes sex is better when there is a connection, and deep and meaningful friendship, and having the opportunity to spend a lot of time with friends, where there is a connection, is optimal. At present, our reality does not always afford the two of us as much time together as we would like, and we have a large and expanding family, which we enjoy being with too. So for us, when it comes to the "swinging lifestyle" engaging in hook ups, where we do fairly quickly, get to the point, with the "point" defined as sex, are just fine. Friendships and sex are both best when you can really just let go and be in the moment. Letting go, requires trust, and some confidence, that your friends and or your lovers, want to be with the real you. Focusing on trying to impress someone, and trying to control someone, rather than fully being with someone, perhaps both stem from self doubt. It is hard for all of us, to trust, but when it happens and we really let go and give, then we can receive, and it can be magical. How long does that take? How much commitment is necessary?
We have been in a couple of on going friendships, where we got together more than a few times a month, and it kind of became an expectation, leaning toward a bit of exclusivity and more commitment. It really didn't work for us. We have been in and currently are in a few on going friendships, where we see each other only a few times a year. Frankly, if we had our druthers, we would enjoy spending a lot more time with some of our current occasional lovers, and we have felt the best connections, and deeper communication and understanding, with these people, than we enjoyed in the more frequent and somewhat semi exclusive sort of arrangements. Luck of the draw, the people you best connect with may not be the people you can see the most often.
We have observed, that for us, the people we enjoy being with the most, also have strong family connections, and are also very busy, and therefore hooking up, is more difficult. We have also found that these sorts of people are also able to lust after you, enjoy you sexually, and even love you, without wanting to own you. If they find out you have enjoyed a new lover or two, since you last were able to meet with them they are happy for you, and curious, and that sort of healthy openness leads you into a sexy referral system of sorts, that leads to adventures and connections, that albeit they are a bit on the fly, can still be both ardent and meaningful.
Short answer....We are a couple of sluts.