What do you do if the spouse no longer has interest in sex or swinging? Is it "amen" to the experience? What if the spouse does not care if you continue? Just wondering what your input is in this scenario. Please do not hold back. Hope my spelling is okay as I am bit 'under the influence'.
Yep pretty much Amen to the experience.
Is she saying she doesn't want either of you to play? Maybe she just wants to take a break, seems to me you need to talk with her and figure out what's really going on
My wife lost interest for a little over a year, but she said I could still participate and play; she even suggested that maybe try to find someone willing to swing with me since going as a single male is always difficult. I respected her decision and didn't do any type of playing for just over a year before she got interested again. We both play together, just not as frequent as we used to.
Talk to your doctor about hormone imbalances and such to rule out medical conditions that could be causing this issue. That being said, we both decided a LONG time ago that if either of us wanted to stop swinging we would be DONE! Of course we'd discuss it and talk about why one of us didn't want to continue but if one of us was adamant then yes, that would be the end of our swinging career. We have, in fact, taken a number of fairly long breaks (including the past year or so) when life has just totally kicked us in the balls and we have little energy or time for anything other than just surviving.
*Just an aside, and not accusing you of this in any way, but we've run into MORE than a few guys who tried to use this excuse to sort of circumvent the single male conundrum and/or to cheat on their spouse. If, for some reason, you absolutely feel like you need to keep swinging and your wife insists that she's totally okay with you doing so without her we would STRONGLY suggest that you allow couples and/or singles to contact her to ascertain that this is indeed the situation. Otherwise you likely WILL be labeled a cheater. Just a heads up. Oh, and probably should go ahead and maybe change your profile/status to single male so everything's on the up and up.
*Just an aside, and not accusing you of this in any way, but we've run into MORE than a few guys who tried to use this excuse to sort of circumvent the single male conundrum and/or to cheat on their spouse. If, for some reason, you absolutely feel like you need to keep swinging and your wife insists that she's totally okay with you doing so without her we would STRONGLY suggest that you allow couples and/or singles to contact her to ascertain that this is indeed the situation. Otherwise you likely WILL be labeled a cheater. Just a heads up. Oh, and probably should go ahead and maybe change your profile/status to single male so everything's on the up and up.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Talk to your doctor about hormone imbalances and such to rule out medical conditions that could be causing this issue. That being said, we both decided a LONG time ago that if either of us wanted to stop swinging we would be DONE! Of course we'd discuss it and talk about why one of us didn't want to continue but if one of us was adamant then yes, that would be the end of our swinging career. We have, in fact, taken a number of fairly long breaks (including the past year or so) when life has just totally kicked us in the balls and we have little energy or time for anything other than just surviving.
*Just an aside, and not accusing you of this in any way, but we've run into MORE than a few guys who tried to use this excuse to sort of circumvent the "single male conundrum" and/or to cheat on your spouse. If, for some reason, you absolutely feel like you need to keep swinging and your wife insists that she's totally okay with you doing so without her we would STRONGLY suggest that you allow couples and/or singles to contact her to ascertain that this is indeed the situation. Otherwise you likely WILL be labeled a cheater. Just a heads up.
^ This. Exactly every thought that went through my mind reading your post. I would add that some women might say it's okay for the man to keep playing, but deep down, they may want him to not continue without them. How important is your marriage? If it's more important than sex with other women, you should take a break from swinging and honor your wife without regret. After all, she gave you the gift of having the lifestyle for a time. Good luck to you both!
Thanks for you thoughts and insights. I will not say which gender I am as it should not be a factor. Most folks will judge me to be the dude, which is understandable. I am not trying to hook up without my spouse, but there must be couples that have dealt with this issue. I am sure that there are times when one spouse is more interested in swinging than the other. And I did miss speak as my spouse does enjoy sex, just not as frequently, nor as adventurously.