We can't be the only couple that likes to take time to get comfortable with another couple/person before getting intimate. Parties are difficult to really get to know people. Are boots calls better? What is the best way to meet and get to know people of a similar mindset in the lifestyle?
we find meeting at a party that is low pressure and then hanging out with the people that we have talked to there the best way for us. gives us a chance to talk to a lot of different people and then figure out who fits us best and how far we want to go. but thats just us.
I guess it all depends on your comfort level. We have met people and played on the first date. Other times it has taken a considerable amount of time to get comfortable enough to play.
But on that note, we have met people that we considered friends but weren't attracted, but as time went by and we really got to know them, attitudes changed and they became play friends.
You never know how things will progress so we try to be friendly with everyone.
But on that note, we have met people that we considered friends but weren't attracted, but as time went by and we really got to know them, attitudes changed and they became play friends.
You never know how things will progress so we try to be friendly with everyone.
WOWMAMA69 wrote:
I guess it all depends on your comfort level. We have met people and played on the first date. Other times it has taken a considerable amount of time to get comfortable enough to play.
But on that note, we have met people that we considered friends but weren't attracted, but as time went by and we really got to know them, attitudes changed and they became play friends.
You never know how things will progress so we try to be friendly with everyone.
Agree! We have found that an evening spent in the hot tub in very low pressure and relaxing conversation works very well towards getting to know each other a bit. Nothing more than good conversation is ever expected. Sometimes that leads to more, but just as often, it doesn't. While we enjoy the occasional sexual encounters that sometimes follow, we enjoy the intimate, naked conversation, just as much. We have made some great friends this way, some have become play friends, some not, but we've enjoyed getting to know them all.
curious, how are the meet & greets for this? Too much pressure?
VooDoo, we're definitely more on the get-to-know-you side of the spectrum. We have found that a combination of Kik chatting, larger parties/Meet-n-greets, and smaller get together events give us a chance to do that. It certainly means that we're not hooking up every time we go out, but that's our choice/style and we still have a blast.
Mr. Ginger
Mr. Ginger
Even after we have gotten comfortable with others and meet up with them again we don't like to immediately get naked. Here, pushy people who come across as desperate and want to immediately meet up and get naked and that's all they are wanting is a huge turnoff for us. We prefer friends with benefits relationships. We like to host our friends or new couple/person to hopefully be friends with at our house or go to their house and socialize, play games or watch a movie, or whatever having some drinks and then if we are comfortable get naked. After this there have been many times where we got naked on the first date as we felt comfortable and had a lot of fun. Being Patient and persistent has been the best for us. We will go through a stretch of having good luck of meeting new people and then we go through stretches where we can't find people new people where their is mutual interest. We have made enough friends in the lifestyle that even though we want to meet new people we can always meet up with our old friends and have fun with them. If anyone wants to meet up for an evening of socializing and whatever hit us up. We are always open to meeting new people and making new friends. Life is good!
JEFFSMITH1972 wrote:
curious, how are the meet & greets for this? Too much pressure?
We can't personally speak for all Meet & Greets, but we can speak for the ones that we host (every month up here in our area). We take great pains to be sure our Meet & Greets are very low key and low pressure situations. We put no expectations on our Meet & Greets and we keep them very free and open. We have received a lot of positive feedback from new people giving them the chance to meet people, interact with them, and get questions answered. So don't be afraid of Meet & Greets and definitely get out to one in your area and see what's up.
We prefer to meet people in a social, no-pressure situation like dinner, drinks, or a Meet & Greet and get to know them and establish some chemistry before we play with them. However, as most people have stated here, there have been a few times when we played with people on the first meeting. It all depends on the situation and the people involved. The key is to have an open mind and go with the flow, but never do anything you aren't comfortable with.