New to the group, the site, and the lifestyle just wanting to say hi! Hope to meet some great people here
The best advice for you is: Get an open-minded lady! One that really loves sex! There is wisdom in the following: "Everyone worth having--already has someone." If a guy can't bring someone to the game, you can imagine the impression some will have. A few single guys find a niche...most don't.
Capiche?
Good luck man...
Capiche?
Good luck man...
I've always been confused by the single male in the lifestyle. To us it's like a male saying, I can't find a girlfriend so I'll try screwing other men's wives. Or if I can get other guys to let me fuck their wife then I don't have to spring for a dinner, hotel, etc.
Single males definitely have a hard road ahead. We have never allowed single males from the site or a path play, though we have had friends that went through single spells and they came over for entertainment. So go figure.
Single males definitely have a hard road ahead. We have never allowed single males from the site or a path play, though we have had friends that went through single spells and they came over for entertainment. So go figure.
"Always been confused" by single males. "Never allowed single males from the site" to play.
I love it when 1+1 = 2.
I love it when 1+1 = 2.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
I've always been confused by the single male in the lifestyle. To us it's like a male saying, I can't find a girlfriend so I'll try screwing other men's wives. Or if I can get other guys to let me fuck their wife then I don't have to spring for a dinner, hotel, etc.
Single males definitely have a hard road ahead. We have never allowed single males from the site or a path play, though we have had friends that went through single spells and they came over for entertainment. So go figure.
You'll find there are 2 types of people here... Couples that prefer MFF - selfish guys wanting to get some new pussy by having a gal join them. And couples that prefer MMF - where it's about taking care the gal thoroughly and typically they believe simple rule: more cock is always better.
They both exist here. Good luck!
They both exist here. Good luck!
FREYATHOR wrote:
You'll find there are 2 types of people here... Couples that prefer MFF - selfish guys wanting to get some new pussy by having a gal join them. And couples that prefer MMF - where it's about taking care the gal thoroughly and typically they believe simple rule: more cock is always better.
They both exist here. Good luck!
Hmmmm I'd argue that there are more than 2 types of people here. Speaking for ourselves, we joined the site (back about the time the Marquis De Sade got his first sexually confusing spanking from his mommy) to find MFMF (or FMFM if you prefer). I know, weird huh? And then you didn't account for single males and single females and any combinations of fuckage that they might prefer.
Adding too this: Don't treat couples as your dick is hard and you need laid this weekend only. There is a few couple out there who like a long term single guy/gal to hang out every weekend for sexual play and or to just hang out. Plus when contacting a couple don't tell them the lady 1/2 looks fat not everyone here is a stick. Than turn around and re-request a friends invite even if you have the real marker after you just in-salted the couple. Think stuff through before contacting a couple you're a single dick looking to get your dick wet and need to understand this site don't just have the so called pretty one on it.
As long as we're tossing out "don't" directives, how about "Don't stereotype based on one (or a handful of) bad experience(s)"?
Too generalized?
Too generalized?
I guess SOMEbody had grumpy granola for breakfast. Quick tip. The quickest way to commit lifestyle suicide is to come across angry or defensive in the open forums (It's happened MANY times here.). A little self-deprecating humor goes a LONG way in helping people pick their way through the hordes of single males vying to fuck our wives to find that diamond in the rough. Just sayin'....
And fwiw, stereotyping is a shortcut, a 'hack' if you will, that people use to save time. Almost all stereotypes have some basis in truth even if they aren't always entirely accurate or fair. Maybe consider dialing it back just a tad so you don't (dammit, I promised myself I wouldn't use that word) inadvertently perpetuate a given stereotype.
And fwiw, stereotyping is a shortcut, a 'hack' if you will, that people use to save time. Almost all stereotypes have some basis in truth even if they aren't always entirely accurate or fair. Maybe consider dialing it back just a tad so you don't (dammit, I promised myself I wouldn't use that word) inadvertently perpetuate a given stereotype.
AFTERGL0W wrote:
New to the group, the site, and the lifestyle just wanting to say hi! Hope to meet some great people here
I think you'll have fun here man. Just watch out for the couples and single females who want to call you angry any time you voice an opinion on something they disagree with.
Why? Was it my use of stereotypes?
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:
You read angry, DentArthurDent.
As long as we're all armchair psychiatrists here, have you ever noticed how sarcasm from someone in your out-group is usually perceived as anger while sarcasm from your buds is always hilarious?
EVILDOERS wrote:
fwiw, stereotyping is a shortcut, a 'hack' if you will, that people use to save time.
This made me a little sad. All I could think of was all the chances to meet wonderful people that you must have missed since you decided to "hack" your brain like that in this lifestyle. Outside of it too, FWIW.
DENTARTHURDENT wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
fwiw, stereotyping is a shortcut, a 'hack' if you will, that people use to save time.
This made me a little sad. All I could think of was all the chances to meet wonderful people that you must have missed since you decided to "hack" your brain like that in this lifestyle. Outside of it too, FWIW.
Sorry, brah. Didn't mean to make you sad. Try rubbing one out. That's what I do sometimes to cheer myself up...or when I'm a little tense. Releases endorphins or something. Yeah, people use stereotypes as shortcuts all the time, otherwise we'd be absolutely inundated with so much information that we have to process that we probably couldn't function very well. You might enjoy a psychology book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini. He's the Regents' Professor Emeritus of Psychology at ASU and a really, really smart guy. Pay attention to the chapter where he discusses his tag phrase, "click-whirr". Interesting stuff.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Yeah, people use stereotypes as shortcuts all the time, otherwise we'd be absolutely inundated with so much information that we have to process that we probably couldn't function very well. You might enjoy a psychology book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini. He's the Regents' Professor Emeritus of Psychology at ASU and a really, really smart guy. Pay attention to the chapter where he discusses his tag phrase, "click-whirr". Interesting stuff.
Should I tell you about the stereotypes of guys who read/write books on how to persuade people or would that be too on-the-nose?
DENTARTHURDENT wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
Yeah, people use stereotypes as shortcuts all the time, otherwise we'd be absolutely inundated with so much information that we have to process that we probably couldn't function very well. You might enjoy a psychology book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini. He's the Regents' Professor Emeritus of Psychology at ASU and a really, really smart guy. Pay attention to the chapter where he discusses his tag phrase, "click-whirr". Interesting stuff.
Should I tell you about the stereotypes of guys who read/write books on how to persuade people or would that be too on-the-nose?
Sure. Let 'er rip!
And actually, the book is meant to help people learn when and how they're being influenced and manipulated. Hmmmm, might be a good thing for people here to read so they can see some of the psychological tricks some people might use to get them to fuck them.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Sure. Let 'er rip!
Nah I was kidding. I learned better than to log online and start stereotyping groups of people I've never met in the early 90's as a child when it became apparent that that's the behavior of underdeveloped cock-brains with a lack of sufficient blood flow.
But yeah cool recommend. I hope that book helps some people here.
Just wanted to pop in and say hi as well. I'm not new to the site but the wife is
I am with Arthur on this on this one... to the rest of you, "lighten up Francis"
DENTARTHURDENT wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
Sure. Let 'er rip!
Nah I was kidding. I learned better than to log online and start stereotyping groups of people I've never met in the early 90's as a child when it became apparent that that's the behavior of underdeveloped cock-brains with a lack of sufficient blood flow.
But yeah cool recommend. I hope that book helps some people here.
..."underdeveloped cock-brains with a lack of sufficient blood flow." Sounds scary. Glad our government is recommending some serious measures to combat the Zika virus.
I think once Bernie is elected president all of us here will learn how to get along a little better with each other.
Anytime is a great time to Feel the Burn, Matt.
Not to change the subject but is anyone interested in forming a small swinger colony somewhere outside the continental U.S. if Bernie doesn't become our next president? I'm thinking maybe Canada or Mexico...or Antarctica, if the American people go batshit crazy and somehow Drumpf is elected. Wait, is Antarctica the farthest point away from the U.S. on the globe?
Anytime is a great time to Feel the Burn, Matt.
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
Not to change the subject but is anyone interested in forming a small swinger colony somewhere outside the continental U.S. if Bernie doesn't become our next president? I'm thinking maybe Canada or Mexico...or Antarctica, if the American people go batshit crazy and somehow Drumpf is elected. Wait, is Antarctica the farthest point away from the U.S. on the globe?
I have connections in Europe. They already feel sorry for the normal people in this country (So, if you want to go hang out with them, don't tell them we're not normal).
Sure, I'll give 'em a shot. Wait, are they those Europeans who (warning, blatant European stereotyping ahead!) don't bathe regularly and/or shave their arm pits? Also, do they wear Speedos to the beach? Can't do the Speedo thing.
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:
Speedos are required European bathing attire, Evil. Lose your virginity already.
Speaking of burns...
And speaking of Ashton Kutcher, one of the great actors of our time no matter what ANYBODY says...he was ROBBED of that Oscar for "Dude, Where's My Car?", I wonder if he's liking Macaulay Culkin's sloppy seconds any better than he liked Bruce Willis'? 
EVILDOERS wrote:
And speaking of Ashton Kutcher, one of the great actors of our time no matter what ANYBODY says...he was ROBBED of that Oscar for "Dude, Where's My Car?", I wonder if he's liking Macaulay Culkin's sloppy seconds any better than he liked Bruce Willis'?
Unless we're sleeping with virgins we've all enjoyed someone else's sloppy seconds.
This has to be one of my favorite posts with some of my favorite people commenting in a long time. The back and forth banter is second to none.
EVILDOERS wrote:
[quote=DENTARTHURDENT][quote=EVILDOERS]
Sorry, brah. Didn't mean to make you sad. Try rubbing one out. That's what I do sometimes to cheer myself up...or when I'm a little tense.
I've tried that and feel so happy, right up until I bust a nut, then I feel sad again. So I start rubbing one out again and feel the happiness return, only to feel sadder after busting another nut...my conclusion is that my happiness is based on the travel of my semen, reaching peak happiness as it reaches the tip of my penis and losing all happiness gained when it flows down my balls.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
[quote=DENTARTHURDENT][quote=EVILDOERS]
Sorry, brah. Didn't mean to make you sad. Try rubbing one out. That's what I do sometimes to cheer myself up...or when I'm a little tense.
I've tried that and feel so happy, right up until I bust a nut, then I feel sad again. So I start rubbing one out again and feel the happiness return, only to feel sadder after busting another nut...my conclusion is that my happiness is based on the travel of my semen, reaching peak happiness as it reaches the tip of my penis and losing all happiness gained when it flows down my balls.
So YOU'RE "Deep Choke", the infamous whistle blower (and chicken choker) who testified behind closed doors (and behind a YUGE Zion Curtain) about the horrific, debilitating health effects of porn and the serious chaffing you suffered from this urgent public health crisis.
My little tidbit of information for you (and any new guy) is to always say more than just "hi" if messaging someone you want to meet. The second is to not send dick pics to women. The women I have met here are more turned on by the thought of what your dick can do for them, not by the look or size of a cock. You said more than just "Hi" and didn't post a dick pic, so well done, and happy hunting.
IndecentDuo wrote:
I'm interested in look and size .... in addition to what else it can do for me...like dishes, vacuuming, etc. 😂
I don't do windows.
But I did stain a bitch's deck once. TOTALLY not worth it. Not even fucking close to worth it!
EVILDOERS wrote:IndecentDuo wrote:
I'm interested in look and size .... in addition to what else it can do for me...like dishes, vacuuming, etc. 😂
I don't do windows.
But I did stain a bitch's deck once. TOTALLY not worth it. Not even fucking close to worth it!
Listen, even the neighbors said you did a shitty job! It didn't help that you INSISTED on wearing a Speedo.
In my defense, ILLUSTRATOR said ALL the cool guys in Europe wear them. And I've even heard of extraordinarily tall, hairy, redheaded guys wearing them while they prune a cougar's fruit trees in exchange for sex.
Did I come even slightly close to remembering that right?
Did I come even slightly close to remembering that right?
CHEFFETTE wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
[quote=IndecentDuo]I'm interested in look and size .... in addition to what else it can do for me...like dishes, vacuuming, etc. 😂
I don't do windows.
But I did stain a bitch's deck once. TOTALLY not worth it. Not even fucking close to worth it!
Listen, even the neighbors said you did a shitty job! It didn't help that you INSISTED on wearing a Speedo.[/quote]
I think it was one of those paint on speedos that cause the complaints
EVILDOERS wrote:
In my defense, ILLUSTRATOR said ALL the cool guys in Europe wear them. And I've even heard of extraordinarily tall, hairy, redheaded guys wearing them while they prune a cougar's fruit trees in exchange for sex.
Did I come even slightly close to remembering that right?
I just got what you're referring to from last July; he wasn't that hugely tall and to be candid he did a shitty job too. (Though his actual tree trimming job was fine, it was the indoors fun time that was meh, after showering together it was downhill from there as I hate to feel like a coach who has to spell out every play. But I digress.)
However, the hugely tall guy you may be conflating him with IS a ginger, did not help me with any yard work and wanted to be monogamous b/c his downstairs wasn't such a consistent performer; consequently he believes 'the relationship' is more important than good sex, so...bye bye.
Can we go back to insulting Evil now?
Please do. If I don't receive at least half a dozen insults and/or thinly veiled derogatory comments a day I start to get all full of myself and am likely to do something crazy like post a booty call for an orgy with gaggle of circus midgets (that is a gaggle isn't it? flock? clowder? murder?) replete with an extra large file size photo of me in a Speedo.
It would be redundant since my normal face is quite clownish as it is.
My nose even squeaks when you squeeze it.
My nose even squeaks when you squeeze it.
We say "Hi" with a smile...
That was an FYI (since you had brought it up) and not an invitation. I'm very selective about who I grant nose beeping privileges.
Rare and frightening?!!? It's not only cute and adorable but a great way to communicate when you're completely out of breath after a fantastic orgasm. One beep means, "Yes, I came too.". Two beeps, "Yes, I would LOVE a sammich and a potty break!". Three beeps, "Would you please send in the next three girls and don't forget to sign the guest book on your way out.". Of course, if you're well versed in Morse Code the sky is the limit as to what you can say while exploring some of the more intricate positions of the Kama Sutra.
Dunno. But 2 beeps a seizure and projectile vomiting denote, "Oh God, not another fucking sexy schoolgirl party!"
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
Rare and frightening?!!? It's not only cute and adorable but a great way to communicate when you're completely out of breath after a fantastic orgasm. One beep means, "Yes, I came too.". Two beeps, "Yes, I would LOVE a sammich and a potty break!". Three beeps, "Would you please send in the next three girls and don't forget to sign the guest book on your way out.". Of course, if you're well versed in Morse Code the sky is the limit as to what you can say while exploring some of the more intricate positions of the Kama Sutra.
What if you have three beeps, a fart and a belch?
Yahtzee?
As always, really good feedback. I will probably have to reread 
Wow, I can't believe the responses since my OP. This looks like a fun crowd, sorry to be slow on the response, I was traveling. Nice to meet everyone informally, as requested I'll add a few more photos to my profile so there's less mystery
Happy to answer any questions about me that anyone has.
Not really sure how all this works, I'll plan to try and attend a meet and greet soon
Happy to answer any questions about me that anyone has.
Not really sure how all this works, I'll plan to try and attend a meet and greet soon
AFTERGL0W wrote:
Not really sure how all this works, I'll plan to try and attend a meet and greet soon
In, out, repeat if necessary.
Solid advice, thanks! Hoping to see some members at the event at Lumpy's tonight!