What are people looking for in a fun house party? All input will be greatly appreciated. We are looking to throw a party next month and we want it to be one that people will remember. And no there is no cover charge for our house parties.. not in this to make $$ just friends.
MATTANDLIZ1996 wrote:
Sexy people, play areas, music, maybe a fire outside. Maybe some strip games, and pretty much anything can be turned into a strip game, lol. We're pretty easy though.
We dont have a fire pit but we do have a hot tub and a enclosed patio with a heater, everyone has fun at the parties we have and it is close to you also
LAKEVIEW501 wrote:
Need a DJ? I'm just down the street and i wouldn't charge of course just be there to play requests and have fun. Just a thought.
That's a good idea, we will keep you in mind for sure.
most parties I have ever been to the party is always in the kitchen with those that smoke going out back. So have plenty of space in those areas. Have a metal coffee can out back for the cigbutts.
and make sure of the cops come that you do not invite them in... they are not allowed in unless you let them in!
and make sure of the cops come that you do not invite them in... they are not allowed in unless you let them in!
Perma-Bachelor wrote:
most parties I have ever been to the party is always in the kitchen with those that smoke going out back. So have plenty of space in those areas. Have a metal coffee can out back for the cigbutts.
and make sure of the cops come that you do not invite them in... they are not allowed in unless you let them in!
Same with vampires...except maybe those sparkly kind.
We usually don't allow s/m, but I believe this time we are going to invite 1 or 2 for the Mrs to get naughty with..
TD_NINE wrote:
Sounds like a fun time to me! Well, let me know if your interested and also if you need any help with anything.
Always interested, and we do enjoy s/m fun.
We have hosted about a dozen, or so, house parties up here in Idaho Falls and we have a few suggestions just based on what we have learned and how we host our parties.
Since you aren't gonig to charge for admission to your parties (we never do either), ask people to bring their own drinks and a snack/appetizer to share with the group. As Perma-Bachelor said, be prepared for most of the people to end up in the kitchen area near the food. Don't really know why that is, but this is the way it seems to be here (layout of the house could be part of it).
We think it is a good idea to keep your house party as an "invitation only" event. In other words don't announce it as an open party so that anyone and everyone will know when and where it is. We tried that once and it didn't work out well.
Try to make the environment as comfortable for everyone as you can. More than likely, not everyone you invite is going to be at the same place in the lifestyle, so keep that in mind when setting the rules for your house party. We have a 2-store house with a basement, so we don't allow nudity or sexual activity on the main floor of the house. We keep that reserved for people to just hang out and socialize with each other with no pressure at all. We have 2 bedrooms upstairs and the basement available (and pretty well stocked) for people to venture out and have their sexual fun with each other so that it is not out in the open for everyone to witness. We know there are parties where that is the case, but just make sure if that is the kind of party you want to have that everyone is aware of that up front.
More than likely, you don't allow smoking in your home, as most people, even smokers, don't, so have a place outside (preferably in the back of the house, not the front, if it can be avoided) to give those people who smoke a place to do it comfortably and make sure they know the rules about what their state of attire must be in that area.
There are a lot of people who don't allow single males at their party, which is something we don't necessarily agree with because they like to have fun just as much as everyone else does, but don't have too many of them because then it does get a little "odd" and make sure they ones that you do invite have a good grasp on the lifestyle.
Hopefully that helps.
Since you aren't gonig to charge for admission to your parties (we never do either), ask people to bring their own drinks and a snack/appetizer to share with the group. As Perma-Bachelor said, be prepared for most of the people to end up in the kitchen area near the food. Don't really know why that is, but this is the way it seems to be here (layout of the house could be part of it).
We think it is a good idea to keep your house party as an "invitation only" event. In other words don't announce it as an open party so that anyone and everyone will know when and where it is. We tried that once and it didn't work out well.
Try to make the environment as comfortable for everyone as you can. More than likely, not everyone you invite is going to be at the same place in the lifestyle, so keep that in mind when setting the rules for your house party. We have a 2-store house with a basement, so we don't allow nudity or sexual activity on the main floor of the house. We keep that reserved for people to just hang out and socialize with each other with no pressure at all. We have 2 bedrooms upstairs and the basement available (and pretty well stocked) for people to venture out and have their sexual fun with each other so that it is not out in the open for everyone to witness. We know there are parties where that is the case, but just make sure if that is the kind of party you want to have that everyone is aware of that up front.
More than likely, you don't allow smoking in your home, as most people, even smokers, don't, so have a place outside (preferably in the back of the house, not the front, if it can be avoided) to give those people who smoke a place to do it comfortably and make sure they know the rules about what their state of attire must be in that area.
There are a lot of people who don't allow single males at their party, which is something we don't necessarily agree with because they like to have fun just as much as everyone else does, but don't have too many of them because then it does get a little "odd" and make sure they ones that you do invite have a good grasp on the lifestyle.
Hopefully that helps.
You have great parties Dennis. We have felt very comfortable at them with no pressure or expectations with play time an option. We really like how you start out with the game "Cards against Humanity" with the stripping rules variation. It helps get the party started 
We want to go to parties where people actually play
We would love to come to a house party as well. Someday we hope to host as well. But we'd love to get to know more people, especially here in Utah County.
Usually the right crowd or right host can either make or break a party. We've hosted numerous house parties and attended quite a few of them and I've found that if you don't have either one of them usually the party sucks. I always having games involved in parties because everyone involved and having a good time. Just my 2 cents
We would recommend private party with select couples, that way you control the size and you can also ensure the couples will get along. It also makes you think about the friends you have or couples you have met and knowing whether they actually play, how free spirited are they, and how sociable are they?
Also, have everyone bring their own drink and a contribute a snack, makes it easy to feed them all.
Even with a fairly decent size list of friends to chose from, anticipate a less than 50% response, so be prepared to invite more than you want, because less will show up. The games like Cards against Humanity is a good ice breaker and doesn't have to involve stripping, for just the reason Workplayfly stated, don't make people uncomfortable at the start. You can always progress to a more risque game later.
Hope it helps, that you have a great party.
C&P
Also, have everyone bring their own drink and a contribute a snack, makes it easy to feed them all.
Even with a fairly decent size list of friends to chose from, anticipate a less than 50% response, so be prepared to invite more than you want, because less will show up. The games like Cards against Humanity is a good ice breaker and doesn't have to involve stripping, for just the reason Workplayfly stated, don't make people uncomfortable at the start. You can always progress to a more risque game later.
Hope it helps, that you have a great party.
C&P
This is all great info, we will take serious thought in whom we invite and what activities there will be to get people to be more social.
As some of you know we love to throw/host parties. And we seem to get more and more people every time. We try to keep it to mostly people we know but on occasion we will bring in new people that we think will fit the people/stage of the lifestyle. If you always only invite the same people your not really meeting new people and you could be missing out. When you invite people if they have questions try to answer them quickly and correctly. I.e. Is so and so going to be there? Maybe that don't like a certain person but saw that they RSVP to your party. You have to decide if that's the type of people you want there. No one and we mean no one should be uncomfortable at a party.
We over invite people, because let's face it. Things come up and not all will make it. A lot of people decide to go at the last minute so be ready for that and be ready to tell people no. You have to many now or yes we would love to have you.
We have a party coming up soon (possibly Saturday) and we have a lot of people that RSVP that don't show up. But we always end up with a good crowd.
1.We ask people to be HWP not because we don't like bigger people (we aren't perfect) but if they are completely out of shape they are the ones that get offended when no one hits on them or doesn't "play" with them. Not all are that way. But we like what we like and we know our guests are liking for sexy. So that's what we try to bring for them.
2. Always BYOB and and a snack to share if they run out of their drink that's not your fault. (We always have some extra stuff on hand but we aren't an open bar) just a open relationship so to speak. (They should ask before taking)
3. Our parties are no pressure. There is room for people to play if they want. Not required. Just like anyone has the right to say. No thank you!
4. Respect for all people and our home is a must. If you don't like it don't come as you will be asked to leave. And will not be invited back.
5. We try to play some games here and there. But remember not everyone is going to play this is a lifestyle party. If your chatting with another couple, single or whatever. You don't want the host saying hey. Come play this game. (Buzzkill) (clock block) whatever you wish to call it.
6. We smoke at our parties and sometimes people want to do some 420. We are ok with that but not in our house. We have designated areas for that.
7. As hosts, always check on your guests and make sure that are good.
8. We always try to have a theme. Not all will follow but it's fun. And usually very sexy.
If you have any questions let us know we would love to help. And if anyone is ever interested in our parties. Please look at our profile first before sending a request. As it states what we are looking for. That includes for our parties.
And for all of you that read this long ass letter we wrote to naughty clause and the energizer bunny. We hope you have had a great time at our parties.
Happy humping (so to speak) C&L
We over invite people, because let's face it. Things come up and not all will make it. A lot of people decide to go at the last minute so be ready for that and be ready to tell people no. You have to many now or yes we would love to have you.
We have a party coming up soon (possibly Saturday) and we have a lot of people that RSVP that don't show up. But we always end up with a good crowd.
1.We ask people to be HWP not because we don't like bigger people (we aren't perfect) but if they are completely out of shape they are the ones that get offended when no one hits on them or doesn't "play" with them. Not all are that way. But we like what we like and we know our guests are liking for sexy. So that's what we try to bring for them.
2. Always BYOB and and a snack to share if they run out of their drink that's not your fault. (We always have some extra stuff on hand but we aren't an open bar) just a open relationship so to speak. (They should ask before taking)
3. Our parties are no pressure. There is room for people to play if they want. Not required. Just like anyone has the right to say. No thank you!
4. Respect for all people and our home is a must. If you don't like it don't come as you will be asked to leave. And will not be invited back.
5. We try to play some games here and there. But remember not everyone is going to play this is a lifestyle party. If your chatting with another couple, single or whatever. You don't want the host saying hey. Come play this game. (Buzzkill) (clock block) whatever you wish to call it.
6. We smoke at our parties and sometimes people want to do some 420. We are ok with that but not in our house. We have designated areas for that.
7. As hosts, always check on your guests and make sure that are good.
8. We always try to have a theme. Not all will follow but it's fun. And usually very sexy.
If you have any questions let us know we would love to help. And if anyone is ever interested in our parties. Please look at our profile first before sending a request. As it states what we are looking for. That includes for our parties.
And for all of you that read this long ass letter we wrote to naughty clause and the energizer bunny. We hope you have had a great time at our parties.
Happy humping (so to speak) C&L
Sorry didn't realize we misspelled so many words. We were thinking about getting naughty!!
[quote=ILLUSTRATOR]i tried to edit. And it didn't change so we said fuck it. Well fuck'em. Lol and thank you
HERRIMANFUN wrote:
As some of you know we love to throw/host parties. And we seem to get more and more people every time. We try to keep it to mostly people we know but on occasion we will bring in new people that we think will fit the people/stage of the lifestyle. If you always only invite the same people your not really meeting new people and you could be missing out. When you invite people if they have questions try to answer them quickly and correctly. I.e. Is so and so going to be there? Maybe that don't like a certain person but saw that they RSVP to your party. You have to decide if that's the type of people you want there. No one and we mean no one should be uncomfortable at a party.
We over invite people, because let's face it. Things come up and not all will make it. A lot of people decide to go at the last minute so be ready for that and be ready to tell people no. You have to many now or yes we would love to have you.
We have a party coming up soon (possibly Saturday) and we have a lot of people that RSVP that don't show up. But we always end up with a good crowd.
1.We ask people to be HWP not because we don't like bigger people (we aren't perfect) but if they are completely out of shape they are the ones that get offended when no one hits on them or doesn't "play" with them. Not all are that way. But we like what we like and we know our guests are liking for sexy. So that's what we try to bring for them.
2. Always BYOB and and a snack to share if they run out of their drink that's not your fault. (We always have some extra stuff on hand but we aren't an open bar) just a open relationship so to speak. (They should ask before taking)
3. Our parties are no pressure. There is room for people to play if they want. Not required. Just like anyone has the right to say. No thank you!
4. Respect for all people and our home is a must. If you don't like it don't come as you will be asked to leave. And will not be invited back.
5. We try to play some games here and there. But remember not everyone is going to play this is a lifestyle party. If your chatting with another couple, single or whatever. You don't want the host saying hey. Come play this game. (Buzzkill) (clock block) whatever you wish to call it.
6. We smoke at our parties and sometimes people want to do some 420. We are ok with that but not in our house. We have designated areas for that.
7. As hosts, always check on your guests and make sure that are good.
8. We always try to have a theme. Not all will follow but it's fun. And usually very sexy.
If you have any questions let us know we would love to help. And if anyone is ever interested in our parties. Please look at our profile first before sending a request. As it states what we are looking for. That includes for our parties.
And for all of you that read this long ass letter we wrote to naughty clause and the energizer bunny. We hope you have had a great time at our parties.
Happy humping (so to speak) C&L
Sounds quite a bit like our parties.
We throw a couple parties a year, we love and appreciate your parties! Always fun and classy!!!!We have def taken a page out of your book!!! The best hosts ever!!
HERRIMANFUN wrote:
As some of you know we love to throw/host parties. And we seem to get more and more people every time. We try to keep it to mostly people we know but on occasion we will bring in new people that we think will fit the people/stage of the lifestyle. If you always only invite the same people your not really meeting new people and you could be missing out. When you invite people if they have questions try to answer them quickly and correctly. I.e. Is so and so going to be there? Maybe that don't like a certain person but saw that they RSVP to your party. You have to decide if that's the type of people you want there. No one and we mean no one should be uncomfortable at a party.
We over invite people, because let's face it. Things come up and not all will make it. A lot of people decide to go at the last minute so be ready for that and be ready to tell people no. You have to many now or yes we would love to have you.
We have a party coming up soon (possibly Saturday) and we have a lot of people that RSVP that don't show up. But we always end up with a good crowd.
1.We ask people to be HWP not because we don't like bigger people (we aren't perfect) but if they are completely out of shape they are the ones that get offended when no one hits on them or doesn't "play" with them. Not all are that way. But we like what we like and we know our guests are liking for sexy. So that's what we try to bring for them.
2. Always BYOB and and a snack to share if they run out of their drink that's not your fault. (We always have some extra stuff on hand but we aren't an open bar) just a open relationship so to speak. (They should ask before taking)
3. Our parties are no pressure. There is room for people to play if they want. Not required. Just like anyone has the right to say. No thank you!
4. Respect for all people and our home is a must. If you don't like it don't come as you will be asked to leave. And will not be invited back.
5. We try to play some games here and there. But remember not everyone is going to play this is a lifestyle party. If your chatting with another couple, single or whatever. You don't want the host saying hey. Come play this game. (Buzzkill) (clock block) whatever you wish to call it.
6. We smoke at our parties and sometimes people want to do some 420. We are ok with that but not in our house. We have designated areas for that.
7. As hosts, always check on your guests and make sure that are good.
8. We always try to have a theme. Not all will follow but it's fun. And usually very sexy.
If you have any questions let us know we would love to help. And if anyone is ever interested in our parties. Please look at our profile first before sending a request. As it states what we are looking for. That includes for our parties.
And for all of you that read this long ass letter we wrote to naughty clause and the energizer bunny. We hope you have had a great time at our parties.
Happy humping (so to speak) C&L
[quote=AMYNBOB]well thank you very much King Bob and queen Amy.
Sounds exciting
Somewhat off topic, but related to HerrimanFun's post. Is there a standard guide used for HWP (Height/Weight Proportionate)? Or is this a totally subjective measure of inclusion/exclusion from various Lifestyle activities?
I'm going to be a little flippant, but this is serious question. Should I base my HWP-ality on the standard Body Mass Index? If so, I am obese at 35.9. At 6'2" the medical community says that I would be "normal" at 148 to 193 lbs. However, having been tested before, my Lean Body Mass weight happens to be 220 (obese). BMI is complete bullshit.
I'm no skinny minnie by any means, but can we stop using HWP as a semi-nice way to say "skinny and fit like me"? Or at least give us fatties a formula to calculate our validity to attend your event. Or, maybe a committee needs to be formed where we send in pictures and measurements to receive an official ruling. Maybe a new Swingular badge should be awarded.
Mr. Ginger (not HWP, I think, maybe, not sure)
p.s. you absolutely have the right to invite/dis-invite anyone you want to your events. I actually would appreciate, and respect you immensely, it if you told me that you believed I wouldn't have fun at your event.
I'm going to be a little flippant, but this is serious question. Should I base my HWP-ality on the standard Body Mass Index? If so, I am obese at 35.9. At 6'2" the medical community says that I would be "normal" at 148 to 193 lbs. However, having been tested before, my Lean Body Mass weight happens to be 220 (obese). BMI is complete bullshit.
I'm no skinny minnie by any means, but can we stop using HWP as a semi-nice way to say "skinny and fit like me"? Or at least give us fatties a formula to calculate our validity to attend your event. Or, maybe a committee needs to be formed where we send in pictures and measurements to receive an official ruling. Maybe a new Swingular badge should be awarded.
Mr. Ginger (not HWP, I think, maybe, not sure)
p.s. you absolutely have the right to invite/dis-invite anyone you want to your events. I actually would appreciate, and respect you immensely, it if you told me that you believed I wouldn't have fun at your event.
At a house party location is key. I love the no charge. Just bring a snack and BYOB. It's nice to have a separate area for play. Great selection of guests and your pretty much made!
we would just like to be invited that would make it great for us lol
MATTANDLIZ1996 wrote:
Sexy people, play areas, music, maybe a fire outside. Maybe some strip games, and pretty much anything can be turned into a strip game, lol. We're pretty easy though.
We really like Matt and Liz's summary...a lot!
Also, the hardest part can be meeting people. It helps if hosts are able to introduce people around -- perhaps there can be some to help the hosts do this. We'd be happy to help! Once the ice is broken and they've met everyone, they may be more willing to go back to the ones they're interested in.
GINGERS wrote:
Somewhat off topic, but related to HerrimanFun's post. Is there a standard guide used for HWP (Height/Weight Proportionate)? Or is this a totally subjective measure of inclusion/exclusion from various Lifestyle activities?
I'm going to be a little flippant, but this is serious question. Should I base my HWP-ality on the standard Body Mass Index? If so, I am obese at 35.9. At 6'2" the medical community says that I would be "normal" at 148 to 193 lbs. However, having been tested before, my Lean Body Mass weight happens to be 220 (obese). BMI is complete bullshit.
I'm no skinny minnie by any means, but can we stop using HWP as a semi-nice way to say "skinny and fit like me"? Or at least give us fatties a formula to calculate our validity to attend your event. Or, maybe a committee needs to be formed where we send in pictures and measurements to receive an official ruling. Maybe a new Swingular badge should be awarded.
Mr. Ginger (not HWP, I think, maybe, not sure)
p.s. you absolutely have the right to invite/dis-invite anyone you want to your events. I actually would appreciate, and respect you immensely, it if you told me that you believed I wouldn't have fun at your event.
When we say HWP we are ok with 10 even 20 lbs over what they think they should weigh. So for me (male) I should be between 195-205 but I am currently 220. On the average side. And I have it listed that way in the profile. What we hate is when someone puts average weight and then we meet and they are easily 30-50 lbs overweight. It just makes us think what else are they lying about. We think people should be themselves there are people out there that like all body types. By no means are we hot with toned bodies. We wish we were that way though.
Make one and I'm there..need to get out.. Been working waaay too much.. Need a release in more ways than 1
We are down for your guys' awesome parties we have heard so much about! Nothing ever happens up here in God's country!
From the looks of all the sexy people who want to attend, we should be able to have a very fun/sexy party. Next month around the 19th or so.. we will keep all those interested in coming updated.
We'd be interested in goIng! Especially since it's Utah Co!