Swingers Forum - pop quizze guys

You finally get the green light your deep in the moment and the female says stop.
What would you do?

KDUBUT wrote:

this should be simple, stop means stop.

Winner winner, chicken dinner; and that's if ANYONE says Stop, everyone stops what they're doing immediately. Questions after, stopping now.

EVILDOERS wrote:

POET_RAYL wrote:

You finally get the green light your deep in the moment and the female says stop.
What would you do?

Are you SERIOUSLY asking that question? If I were you I'd quickly edit and add a winky emoticon or something so that people will know you were just kidding around...unless you weren't joking.

April Fools Day isn't for two months.

Poet doesn't write what he doesn't mean; not that it should happen to anyone, but I really hope this didn't happen to Dawn.

Just got back online, my hot husband lady friend is the one who had the issue. Apparently not all guys understand Stop. The guy didn't believe her when she said stop I need to pee, he thought she was joking. So not all guys in the moment can stop, and apparently he didn't understand for every stroke he was messes with her bladder.

Well she fallowed in my foot steps in meeting couple, single male, and single females. An apparently not all guys can, when I found out last night I had to ask. since she won't tell me what web site he came from so figured I would educate.

My other friend just told me that not all guys understand it since the main safe word is No since he's into SMD.

These guys can't stop when the female isn't willing.




These guys can!

Slave, master, dominant isn't a rapists, they have safe words, this happened to a lady friend of mine and she's scared to tell me which website or who he is. Since she know's if I find him 1 of 3 things will happen. So I did a pop quizze. I do my best to make sure my words are spelled so the hater people will understand my meaning and letting people of this community know we may have a guy that may not understand the meaning of NO or Stop Their is no need to point fingers since this lifestyle does potentially exposes us to danger in the form of dangerous people who don't respect.

POET_RAYL wrote:

Slave, master, dominant isn't a rapists, they have safe words, this happened to a lady friend of mine and she's scared to tell me which website or who he is. Since she know's if I find him 1 of 3 things will happen. So I did a pop quizze. I do my best to make sure my words are spelled so the hater people will understand my meaning and letting people of this community know we may have a guy that may not understand the meaning of NO or Stop Their is no need to point fingers since this lifestyle does potentially exposes us to danger in the form of dangerous people who don't respect.

I would disagree with your hypothesis. I would hope the women and men are not exposed to rape in any greater number than in society as a whole. I certainly do not speak for you or your acquaintances. Any group playing together blaming the safe word she uses as an excuse for rape are part of a society I would never be part of. Also, I do not need you to let me know anything, no tips on gang bangs and your four groups, no information about tvp or any bullshit you can come up with that you believe you need to share with the group. I do not need to know about your selection process because you want to get a male for your wife, "its her body so she gets to pick" .
Probably the most lost comment in your post is that "we may have a guy that may not understand the meaning of no or stop. I thought he confused the word stop, not that he doesn't understand no or stop, remember you said, messes with the bladder. I am not a hater people because of the way you spell, while systematic to your overall personality, laziness, sloth, what you speak of and the ego of telling anyone anything is my reason.
I am betting or certainly hoping no one takes your advice regarding anything. I rather think that we all are smart enough not to. I believe that no one would put their wife in the awkward positions you do. Again, I pity her, only wish the best for her. Nor have the circle of friends you do. Within in the last week, you have engaged us all in gangbangs, tvp, male selection for your wife and finally rape. All from people you know or acquaintances or "the laugh
people seeking your advice.
I thought your lady friend had a hot husband, but she confides in you?? Can I guess the three things you would do, ask for pictures, ask for video and let him know he isn't a rapist.

One of my issues here is that this story evolved from pretty much a rape scenario to a bladder issue (having to relieve herself...yet some guys ostensibly don't understand the word 'stop') to finally, some sort of S&M scenario with safe words and such. Just doesn't quite pass the smell test and smacks of backpedaling to cover an unbelievable question about something that should absolutely be common sense and common courtesy. I just have to wonder how much of the actual story we're getting and how much is contrived, cover your ass bullshit. Hell, for all we know this girl felt like she more or less WAS being raped (having said stop) and used the excuse that she needed to pee to try to stop the apparently mentally challenged guy who doesn't understand simple words like "no" and "stop". Wanna embellish the story any more to somehow make us somehow understand and/or sympathize with this poor man who invested 3 whole weeks in getting to the sex part and just wasn't going to be denied?

If it were just about ANY other topic than consent and a woman's right to say no I'd cut him some slack. But after almost 3 decades in the lifestyle we've, sadly, seen and heard it all as far as asshole men thinking that women who swing are de facto sluts and either deserve what they get or really don't mean it when they say no...I mean they're sluts who fuck lots of guys, right? We've met FAR more guys, single AND married, who think this way than we care to remember. And yes, Ms. Evil has been in more than one situation where a guy has treated her poorly or WORSE! So I'm sorry (but not really) about feeling so passionate about this particular subject.

POET_RAYL wrote:

Their is no need to point fingers since this lifestyle does potentially exposes us to danger in the form of dangerous people who don't respect.

Living our lives potentially exposes us to danger in the form of dangerous people who don't respect. The LS has nothing to do w/ it, and I've had much less trouble w/ guys I've met through here than in the years of vanilla dating b/c I've done my best to vet the hell out of them before meeting off-site. While some may have been extremely annoying, in my year here none have gotten physically threatening in person and only a couple of mofos have been stupid enough to get close to threats in messages.

The sweet guy from bar trivia who told me he was almost done when I told him it hurt and yelled stop.
The helpful fella from the car dealership who wrote LESBIAN on my new car's windows, hood and trunk in paint pen when I refused a second date based on 'not feeling it'.
The cute, fun co-worker who called me a race-mixing Nigger-lover on our only date at a restaurant I had worked at. Then a month of increasingly nasty sexual harassment till I complained to management.
Not to mention the half dozen restaurants I've worked at if you know what mean and I think you do.

Blaming the lifestyle is blaming the victim as far as I'm concerned.