A person can be the most perfect example of every trait you've found attractive but if they don't see the real you and not only accept that but enjoy it, the enjoyment of their company will wear off. If a person fully accepts and embraces you for all the particular weirdness you have going on and shows that w/ no hesitation, their physical appearance could change, they could move miles away, they could change gender but you'll be as nuts about them as you ever were.
THAT is why I'm always on about being honest.
THAT is the authenticity I'm looking for, not just in sexual partners but in my friends. If I don't have that then what I have is an acquaintance.
THAT is why I'm always on about being honest.
THAT is the authenticity I'm looking for, not just in sexual partners but in my friends. If I don't have that then what I have is an acquaintance.
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:
Well said, Cheffette. I feel the same and have had others wonder why I end relationships when I find out I've been lied to. It's a trait that is the worst of faults, in my book. I'm quite easy to get along with if I trust the person and know they will be honest and upfront about everything. You don't have a friendship if it is based on the person you thought they were, rather than the person you end up learning they truly are.
Btw, this is the Mrs. Illustrator. I post all of the comments on the forum for the two of us.
Illustratrix!
We find sense of humor to be the most attractive trait. However you are correct about somebody not seeing the real you. I love the quote "on your best day you still aren't enough for the wrong person, at your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person". About 3 years into the marriage with my ex, I said "you use to think my jokes were funny." She replied "I never understood your jokes, but I'm not stupid, I knew where to laugh". I asked "why would you laugh if you didn't understand them" she said "I wanted you to marry me". For a person who finds humor to be the most attractive trait in a person, and humor is at the core of my being, it couldn't have been a bigger betrayal. I was so mad...I stayed married to her for another 5 years! That'll show her!
CHEFFETTE wrote:
A person can be the most perfect example of every trait you've found attractive but if they don't see the real you and not only accept that but enjoy it, the enjoyment of their company will wear off. If a person fully accepts and embraces you for all the particular weirdness you have going on and shows that w/ no hesitation, their physical appearance could change, they could move miles away, they could change gender but you'll be as nuts about them as you ever were.
THAT is why I'm always on about being honest.
THAT is the authenticity I'm looking for, not just in sexual partners but in my friends. If I don't have that then what I have is an acquaintance.
yep i agree lies and deceit are 2 of the few things that make a gorgeous person ugly....BIG TURN OFF
Did you keep telling her jokes?[/quote]
Yes, but I dumbed them down to elementary school level. You have to know your audience!
Yes, but I dumbed them down to elementary school level. You have to know your audience!
The brain is the most attractive feature for me. I prefer a woman who, speaking anatomically, has at LEAST 12 thick, hard inches. Sadly they are as hard to find as their male anatomical counterparts. Many aspire to such 'heights'?!!? but few actually measure up. And in case anyone is wondering, Ms. Evil has a solid 11 and 3/4 inches. She gains that extra 1/4 inch by putting up with my bullshit and my extremely facetious personality.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
EVILDOERS wrote:
The brain is the most attractive feature for me. I prefer a woman who, speaking anatomically, has at LEAST 12 thick, hard inches. Sadly they are as hard to find as their male anatomical counterparts. Many aspire to such 'heights'?!!? but few actually measure up. And in case anyone is wondering, Ms. Evil has a solid 11 and 3/4 inches. She gains that extra 1/4 inch by putting up with my bullshit and my extremely facetious personality.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
When I was single I use to troll comedy clubs with my buddies. We use to watch all the comediennes walk out of the club and say things like "check out the lower frontal lobes on that chick"! Or "I'd love to support her while her career blossoms!" Yeah, we were pretty superficial, and let's face it desperate. But man there is nothing sexier than a chick with big ol' punchlines.
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:
[quote=ERASEDPANTS]
Did you keep telling her jokes?
Yes, but I dumbed them down to elementary school level. You have to know your audience!
EVILDOERS wrote:
The brain is the most attractive feature for me. I prefer a woman who, speaking anatomically, has at LEAST 12 thick, hard inches. Sadly they are as hard to find as their male anatomical counterparts. Many aspire to such 'heights'?!!? but few actually measure up. And in case anyone is wondering, Ms. Evil has a solid 11 and 3/4 inches. She gains that extra 1/4 inch by putting up with my bullshit and my extremely facetious personality.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
Sure, guys love when we're laughing, but when we start pointing they get all morose.
Illustratrix, that's probably gas.
ERASEDPANTS wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
The brain is the most attractive feature for me. I prefer a woman who, speaking anatomically, has at LEAST 12 thick, hard inches. Sadly they are as hard to find as their male anatomical counterparts. Many aspire to such 'heights'?!!? but few actually measure up. And in case anyone is wondering, Ms. Evil has a solid 11 and 3/4 inches. She gains that extra 1/4 inch by putting up with my bullshit and my extremely facetious personality.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
When I was single I use to troll comedy clubs with my buddies. We use to watch all the comediennes walk out of the club and say things like "check out the lower frontal lobes on that chick"! Or "I'd love to support her while her career blossoms!" Yeah, we were pretty superficial, and let's face it desperate. But man there is nothing sexier than a chick with big ol' punchlines.
In all seriousness, Mrs. Pants and I met in a UCB improv class. UCB is Amy pohler and Tina Fey's improv comedy school. So yes, funny is big with us.
CHEFFETTE wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
The brain is the most attractive feature for me. I prefer a woman who, speaking anatomically, has at LEAST 12 thick, hard inches. Sadly they are as hard to find as their male anatomical counterparts. Many aspire to such 'heights'?!!? but few actually measure up. And in case anyone is wondering, Ms. Evil has a solid 11 and 3/4 inches. She gains that extra 1/4 inch by putting up with my bullshit and my extremely facetious personality.
But like ERASED, humor compensates greatly for lack of 'equipment'. A sharp, biting (okay, nibbling?) sense of humor can make a 5 and 1/2 incher into a supremely satisfying brainful.
Sure, guys love when we're laughing, but when we start pointing they get all morose.
Illustratrix, that's probably gas.
That was awesome Cheffette!
So we're agreed. Our chief attraction is to complete acceptance and a sense of humor.
And ruthless efficiency.
And ruthless efficiency.
Well from what other have typed to me in prior forums I'm very true to my skin and I lay everything on the line. Since I don't believe in the Bullshit a lot of people like to dish out. If you truly enjoy someones company. Their habits like smoking, smelling like beer, their dumb since of humor. Than there should be no issue if they're honest and truthful about themselves.
I'm a very blunt person who enjoys all things but enjoy intercourse more with more than one person for the rest of my life.
So most attractive trait is to be non judgmental, honest, truthful, respectful person you can be.
Since everyone here is looking for enjoyable safe sex.
Poet
I'm a very blunt person who enjoys all things but enjoy intercourse more with more than one person for the rest of my life.
So most attractive trait is to be non judgmental, honest, truthful, respectful person you can be.
Since everyone here is looking for enjoyable safe sex.
Poet
Well the non judgmental, honest, truthful, respectful also applies to your self. For at the end of the day if you look in the mirror and you feel sad or guilty or stupid than you did something wrong and only you can fix it.
Since your biggest Judge is your self, not whom your trying to impress or your god, or your boss, but your self. Since at the end of the day you only have yourself to answer too for what you have done to make who you are.
Poet
Since your biggest Judge is your self, not whom your trying to impress or your god, or your boss, but your self. Since at the end of the day you only have yourself to answer too for what you have done to make who you are.
Poet
People in every walk of life are not authentic, honest, truthful and many other negative behaviors that would make them unattractive to be with. There is a group of people that don't care about these things and they are looking for something different (mostly to just get laid). Some of us look for people that are just good people with or without clothes on. Regardless of the results they are just more pleasant to be around.
I hope those fakers, flacks and just generally unpleasant people find each other and have a good time. We will hold out for the people we seem to get along with because they are themselves and are not trying to be something else.
I hope those fakers, flacks and just generally unpleasant people find each other and have a good time. We will hold out for the people we seem to get along with because they are themselves and are not trying to be something else.
"If we all think back to how we thought and felt, about our life experiences, and life in general five years ago do we still think and feel exactly that same way now?" My answer is yes.
If your content with your self what do you have to prove..... nothing. Most people in general have there own personal hangups and set others in stereotypes of expectations and to me that's there loss.
Poet
If your content with your self what do you have to prove..... nothing. Most people in general have there own personal hangups and set others in stereotypes of expectations and to me that's there loss.
Poet
We look for big weenuses and bodacious tatas. The rest is just window dressing. 
EVILDOERS wrote:
We look for big weenuses and bodacious tatas. The rest is just window dressing.
Better use Ranch, no other dressing will stick to a window. Boy, ya learn THAT lesson the hard way.
Okay kiss make up, where not like the adults of the world. We're a small dot and a great community. But I did notice how it went from my or me to us. I have no clue what Dawn thinks about all this since she is her own person. A question was asked and I answer about just me or my life. The starting of this forum is a one person view so I don't know how it got turned into a our or us. The person typing is 1 thinking and typing, If we was both typing the answer there would be 2 different Answers. So enjoy life look in the mirror and see if that person is content with what has been typed today on a personal view of all things.
Poet
Poet
As I was raise Tommy smacks sally and I beat the crap out of him and the next day we're friends again after we kiss and make up like kids do. For the gentleman part all ladies are treated with the up most respect tell they belt me like a man and hit me in the face.
Some days I wish I wasn't so opinionated or blunt for I'd still be bringing in 6 figs. But everyone is in-titled to attempt at life the best way they feel they can.
Like a hour ago got called a misfit since there is 12 years between Dawn and I, there loss not ours.
Most people in this lifestyle are here to attempt to impress others so they can meet enjoy each others company and the main goal is to swap for sexual fulfillment. But a lot of people have there different hank ups about finding their sexual fulfillment.
As Dawn and I was talking last night I'm as simple as they come since I have the dick. Now for her it's a little more complex, she has emotions that have to be met to get her sexual fulfillment. As she put it to me last night couples are far most the better choice, the few single males are a little hard to find the respect aspect, and the very few single females don't understand that Dawns out to get me laid and has no interest in the female.
So most attractive trait is to be non judgmental, honest, truthful, respectful person you can be.
Since everyone here is looking for enjoyable safe sex.
Poet
Some days I wish I wasn't so opinionated or blunt for I'd still be bringing in 6 figs. But everyone is in-titled to attempt at life the best way they feel they can.
Like a hour ago got called a misfit since there is 12 years between Dawn and I, there loss not ours.
Most people in this lifestyle are here to attempt to impress others so they can meet enjoy each others company and the main goal is to swap for sexual fulfillment. But a lot of people have there different hank ups about finding their sexual fulfillment.
As Dawn and I was talking last night I'm as simple as they come since I have the dick. Now for her it's a little more complex, she has emotions that have to be met to get her sexual fulfillment. As she put it to me last night couples are far most the better choice, the few single males are a little hard to find the respect aspect, and the very few single females don't understand that Dawns out to get me laid and has no interest in the female.
So most attractive trait is to be non judgmental, honest, truthful, respectful person you can be.
Since everyone here is looking for enjoyable safe sex.
Poet
can't tell she drinking vodka or dekillya or just play water
POET_RAYL wrote:
can't tell she drinking vodka or dekillya or just play water
My vote is Everclear. It's the 'go to' drink if you want to erase what you just saw from your brain.
