All too often we see forum posts from couples that are frustrated by attempts to hook up. We thought we would start a thread providing suggestions on how to make it happen and pitfalls that stand in the way.
We ask others to offer suggestions and ways to avoid problems, drama, and frustration.
Far too often the thought of getting with another couple and even getting naked in a hot tub is tantalizing but when it come down to it terrifying. Emails lead to emails and then you set up a dinner date so to speak and 1. they fail to show up, or 2. they are not what you want to see naked, or 3. they say the babysitter just called with a problem and you never hear from them again.
Suggestions from the Simples.
We do not like the whole dating concept. It was bad enough when were were single. Terrible when you now have four adults trying to hit it off.
Suggestion #1
We like to have our first meeting at a party. Then there is no obligation to be one on one. There are other couples you can talk or perhaps make a quick getaway. Sinful Saturdays provide the best meet-n-greets the valley have ever experienced. 1st choice for meeting like minded couples. Though, we both carry our pistols when hanging out at lumpys. We wish they would pick a better/safer spot. Then again you can retire to the parking lot and compare pieces. "If your safe enough to drive home you are safe enough to defend yourself".
(Side joke when I first met Mrs Simple at a conference it came up that we both were packing and we retired to the parking lot to compare firearms. It was love at first sight)
You can always reserve a hotel room and if things go the way you like and invite them back to the room. If you envite too many back to the room for sy an after party it is hard to get the mood sexy. most folks too shy to strip down and get sexy.
One way is to play a game, say a card game where each person draws a card from a deck. Designate certain cards to mean you loose a piece of clothing or have to perform an act of some kind. Just keep going around until everyone is naked and playing. Nothing more frustrating than hainving folks in your room that will not leave or get naked.
It is also a good idea to have drinks in the room. say every even card you take a drink.
Suggestion #2
Reserve space at Habits for a saturday night. You can reserve the VIP area for $50. put out a public invite for the party. We usually pay the first $200 in drinks just to get the evening going. Then the same idea for a hotel room exists.
Suggestion #3
Host your own party.
We have found it easier to host 3-4 parties each year at our house. We invite folks that we find attractive and think we might get along with as friends based on their profile. We do not charge for the parties and provide either the drinks for the night or the snacks. On occasion we ask couples to bring a drink and snack to share. (We actually watch to see who brings what and those cheep asses out there do not receive a second invite).
We ordered rubber wrist bands for guests to wear. They are red, Yellow, and green. You pick a color when you arrive. Green full swap, Yellow soft, and red, voyour or exibitionist. We ask guest not to ask anyone with a more restrictive band to engage in anything their band does not allow for. There is a full chart provided at the parties.
We actually had 6-8 parties before anyone ever asked us to play. We were fine with that. Though it is always nice to know someone is interested. We enjoyed knowing we were providing a safe environment for others. We allow anyone not safe to drive a room to sleep it off. Of course our hose is 7,000 square foot so it may be easier for us than some fold. We do recall in the past squeezing into a 3,500 square foot house and it poses problems.
Hosted parties come with problems. We had to ban all smokers as they are pigs and toss their butts everywhere. Then our kids get mad for hainving to pick them up. We have had couples leave condoms in the yard and on the floor. If they are too inconsiderate to clean up after themselves they do not merit a second invite. We have also had to ban couples because they were drama. Any drama = no repeat invites.
Suggestion #4
Themed parties.
We are gong to host a party this winter for non-swap couples only. Where everyone in attendance knows they can watch and be watched without worring about being asked to touch or be touched. Perhaps it's just us beeing cheap not wanting to reorder bracelets.
Pick something that your interested in look though profiles and pick 30 couples to attend. You will get back 10 RSVP's and 5 couples will show up.
We hope others offer suggestions, and the ones we have offered are useful.
Simples
We ask others to offer suggestions and ways to avoid problems, drama, and frustration.
Far too often the thought of getting with another couple and even getting naked in a hot tub is tantalizing but when it come down to it terrifying. Emails lead to emails and then you set up a dinner date so to speak and 1. they fail to show up, or 2. they are not what you want to see naked, or 3. they say the babysitter just called with a problem and you never hear from them again.
Suggestions from the Simples.
We do not like the whole dating concept. It was bad enough when were were single. Terrible when you now have four adults trying to hit it off.
Suggestion #1
We like to have our first meeting at a party. Then there is no obligation to be one on one. There are other couples you can talk or perhaps make a quick getaway. Sinful Saturdays provide the best meet-n-greets the valley have ever experienced. 1st choice for meeting like minded couples. Though, we both carry our pistols when hanging out at lumpys. We wish they would pick a better/safer spot. Then again you can retire to the parking lot and compare pieces. "If your safe enough to drive home you are safe enough to defend yourself".
(Side joke when I first met Mrs Simple at a conference it came up that we both were packing and we retired to the parking lot to compare firearms. It was love at first sight)
You can always reserve a hotel room and if things go the way you like and invite them back to the room. If you envite too many back to the room for sy an after party it is hard to get the mood sexy. most folks too shy to strip down and get sexy.
One way is to play a game, say a card game where each person draws a card from a deck. Designate certain cards to mean you loose a piece of clothing or have to perform an act of some kind. Just keep going around until everyone is naked and playing. Nothing more frustrating than hainving folks in your room that will not leave or get naked.
It is also a good idea to have drinks in the room. say every even card you take a drink.
Suggestion #2
Reserve space at Habits for a saturday night. You can reserve the VIP area for $50. put out a public invite for the party. We usually pay the first $200 in drinks just to get the evening going. Then the same idea for a hotel room exists.
Suggestion #3
Host your own party.
We have found it easier to host 3-4 parties each year at our house. We invite folks that we find attractive and think we might get along with as friends based on their profile. We do not charge for the parties and provide either the drinks for the night or the snacks. On occasion we ask couples to bring a drink and snack to share. (We actually watch to see who brings what and those cheep asses out there do not receive a second invite).
We ordered rubber wrist bands for guests to wear. They are red, Yellow, and green. You pick a color when you arrive. Green full swap, Yellow soft, and red, voyour or exibitionist. We ask guest not to ask anyone with a more restrictive band to engage in anything their band does not allow for. There is a full chart provided at the parties.
We actually had 6-8 parties before anyone ever asked us to play. We were fine with that. Though it is always nice to know someone is interested. We enjoyed knowing we were providing a safe environment for others. We allow anyone not safe to drive a room to sleep it off. Of course our hose is 7,000 square foot so it may be easier for us than some fold. We do recall in the past squeezing into a 3,500 square foot house and it poses problems.
Hosted parties come with problems. We had to ban all smokers as they are pigs and toss their butts everywhere. Then our kids get mad for hainving to pick them up. We have had couples leave condoms in the yard and on the floor. If they are too inconsiderate to clean up after themselves they do not merit a second invite. We have also had to ban couples because they were drama. Any drama = no repeat invites.
Suggestion #4
Themed parties.
We are gong to host a party this winter for non-swap couples only. Where everyone in attendance knows they can watch and be watched without worring about being asked to touch or be touched. Perhaps it's just us beeing cheap not wanting to reorder bracelets.
Pick something that your interested in look though profiles and pick 30 couples to attend. You will get back 10 RSVP's and 5 couples will show up.
We hope others offer suggestions, and the ones we have offered are useful.
Simples
Love the suggestions, we prefer the more personal and private approach. Chat then face to face meet over dinner and drinks and if we all click get naughty, we are still relatively new so this will probably change with time. House parties are a lot of fun and easy to meet and chat with new people. We definitely want to try one of your sinful saturdays
We prefer the more personal and private approach also and we do it as a dinner or a dinner and movie or movie and dinner with no meaning of sex on the 1st meet n greet. Less we travel 350 mile to Boise to meet a couple than we are looking to get laid. But there has been times we have traveled to Boise to meet another couple and end up doing sex with each other. Other than that the dinner is an added bonus to going and seeing a movie we was planing on seeing anyways. We quit the party thing since you can never hear what people is saying or you end up with a head ache since everyone has to yell.
It's normal a big turn off to look for a potential promising sex date when you're going to the big parties to have fun. So we keep are potential laid dates to a more privet and personal approach.
It's normal a big turn off to look for a potential promising sex date when you're going to the big parties to have fun. So we keep are potential laid dates to a more privet and personal approach.
POET_RAYL wrote:
We prefer the more personal and private approach also and we do it as a dinner or a dinner and movie or movie and dinner with no meaning of sex on the 1st meet n greet. Less we travel 350 mile to Boise to meet a couple than we are looking to get laid. But there has been times we have traveled to Boise to meet another couple and end up doing sex with each other. Other than that the dinner is an added bonus to going and seeing a movie we was planing on seeing anyways. We quit the party thing since you can never hear what people is saying or you end up with a head ache since everyone has to yell.
It's normal a big turn off to look for a potential promising sex date when you're going to the big parties to have fun. So we keep are potential laid dates to a more privet and personal approach.
We agree, party's can be fun and meet potential friends to play with though. We've never played at a party...yet