Swingers Forum - How long has it taken others to find to find others to play with

We're looking for Friday night lol

We haven't played in over a year.. not that we aren't looking, but finding a couple that we are both sexually attracted too is a hard find.

Depends on how picky you are.

Was it hard to find your female half? This will be even more difficult in ways, especially logistically. How would you feel if you both made time in your schedules (work? babysitter? school?), drove all the way down to SLC w/ the potential of hooking up and on meeting the other people found there was not only no spark, but since there isn't a spark you get to turn around and drive allll the way home instead of staying over. That's why proximity is your biggest problem; the # of miles is only compounded by the potential time and effort that goes into covering those miles.

In all the times we have gotten to the point we actually met a couple there have only been maybe five where we decided not to go for it and we can count the times we have been rejected twice on one hand. There are numerous couples and some singles we have met at a meet and greet or in some other way but it has never happened because schedules right up front did not agree. Time goes by and everyone decides that the people in their friends list just aren't interested. Often that is not the case. Perhaps we all tend to think too much. To be is to do. Or as Sinatra sings do be do be do.

Just contact your top pick dream couple, send them an invitation to meet and go for it.

We haven't met anyone on here, and we are only 20 minutes east of you, but our schedule is hectic with kids and work. The real hard thing is finding time to meet and see what happens.
We don't actively search either. Our "fun times" have been from sitting back and waiting to be contacted to be honest.
We wish you luck and hope you are able to make some wonderful memories.

Mr. Mainland

Lol the funny thing about cl is there are so many fakes and flakes on there, not to mention crackheads, but u weed thru them and every once and a while u can find a pretty cool couple to at least bs with, we didn't post this to be criticized, h20dream, we were simply curious how others have done

The lifestyle has changed a LOT since the advent of the internet. Way back in the day the barriers to entry were far more substantial and there was real effort that had to be expended to try and find people and hook up. I think that effort tended to weed out those who were simply curious, many of the flakes and phonies and those who weren't willing to put any more effort into it than they would doing something like starting a Facebook profile. Now that someone can, while hiding behind a computer screen, pretend to be someone or something they aren't it's far more common to encounter people who aren't really serious about exploring swinging. Add to that fact that there are now large numbers of singles in the lifestyle (that didn't used to be the case...when we started swinging in college, back in the 80's, there was no such animal as a swingle...it wasn't until probably the early to mid nineties that we first encountered a few singles entering the scene). Now we have this HUGE lifestyle 'tent' that has couples, singles, people from the kink community, the poly crowd...and others all roving around looking for their niche and people that fit their particular fantasy. Is it any wonder it's becoming more and more difficult to find compatible people and actually play? About the only advice we can proffer, looking at it from our end of the tunnel, is that because there is so much more background noise associated with internet swinging, only those who are again willing to really put in a lot of effort and legwork will ultimately be very successful. Think of swinging as your part time job and devote as much time and effort as you would to something like that and you'll likely find success. Good luck!

Like "Lakeview501", stated a few replies up, it's not hard, but you get out what you put in,
and from the standpoint of what many consider the"Dreaded single male", it sometimes takes a little effort. But a lot of rude, crude, pushy and aggressive people ahead of us, both single and a few couples from what some of my friends from here have told me, make it hard a lot. Respect and
appreciation go along way. Show up with the outlook of being grateful both parties took the time to
properly prepare and arrive, and if the spark is there, everybody is happy, and if not, enjoy a drink
perhaps a little conversation about each of yours lifestyle experience and fun, and part with new friends. On several occasion I have had mail from couples out of the blue, who had been told about me from other couples with whom I'd only met with and had no playtime. Life is a business, run it up front, be respectful, treat people fairly and good things come your way.
I've also got to note that the people of Southern Utah and all the way up to Ogden have been so great and fun to meet along the way. I live in Vegas, and while so many talk about wanting to enjoy their own "What happens here experience", I've enjoyed far more fun in the SLC / WVC areas
when in town for Grizzlies hockey games. When you are a single Dad with custody, your playtime
is limited and so appreciated. Keep up the fine work UTES

For us it has a very long time, we are average people ( well we think lol )we don't have a fancy house or cars, we have normal house and cars. we are not super models. We are just are selfs and we have gone to meet and greats but when no one will hold a convention with you or even attempt to we just manly now stopped trying if some one is interested in knowing us they will take the time and say hello and chat. I would like to say that give it time I am sure someone will love to hang out and play.