We were with a couple that we had been with at least once or twice before. The first time we met, we all had mind blowing sex, They were a bit drunk, and we did not drink at all. The second time that we got together, the night was short lived because they got into an argument at the bar, over some guy trying to make a pass on his women. The third and last time, they came over and we went to a club, stayed for a little while and came back to the house hoping to have some fun, but they told us that they were NOT DRUNK ENOUGHT to have sex, they went home, and we were a bit dumbfounded!
We have noticed alot of couples seem to have tobe in that state to play. We have become very disappointed in that because one we think that its us and two we both agree that if you have tobe drunk todo it then you may not need tobe doing it.
We see no problem in a drink or maybe two to relax but not in a state of drunkiness.
We see no problem in a drink or maybe two to relax but not in a state of drunkiness.
Don't feel insulted by others that feel they must over-drink to enjoy this. This is more an issue of their own comfort level than of your attractive/sexiness!
sadly there are lots of people that feel they have to be drunk or close to it to relax enough to play around. I see this is a bold statement from those people that they really are not comfortable swinging and need the drinks for an excuse to what happens. This is not a couple or single issue, but an issue that I have seen in both. If you really want to enjoy this lifestyle getting loaded as a way of building up the courage to go thru with it is not the way to go.
Chris
sadly there are lots of people that feel they have to be drunk or close to it to relax enough to play around. I see this is a bold statement from those people that they really are not comfortable swinging and need the drinks for an excuse to what happens. This is not a couple or single issue, but an issue that I have seen in both. If you really want to enjoy this lifestyle getting loaded as a way of building up the courage to go thru with it is not the way to go.
Chris
Drinking is associated with a lot of swinger events, and I am sure there are some people who feel that they need to be drunk to have sex with someone other than their spouse or with another person if they are single, but many drink more so because it is part of the event. We have been on many swinging dates when there was no alcohol at all. I am sure many people will be apt to let out more of their wild side after having a few drinks, when with a group in a party setting. Some people
drink anytime they socialize or get together with people no matter if it is a swinging event or not. We like to party on occasion, but we don't think drinking is neccesary to have sex with others. We probably would not get real close with someone who has to drink all of the time whether it was a lifestyle or a vanilla friend. We like the bar meets, but we enjoy sex even more sober.
drink anytime they socialize or get together with people no matter if it is a swinging event or not. We like to party on occasion, but we don't think drinking is neccesary to have sex with others. We probably would not get real close with someone who has to drink all of the time whether it was a lifestyle or a vanilla friend. We like the bar meets, but we enjoy sex even more sober.
I agree that if someone has to get drunk to swing they are likely not comfortable with the lifestyle and probably need to stop. I mean a drink or two to relax is one thing but drunk is too far. We like to drink socially but it is not a necessity.
A glass of wine or two is OK for us, but usually anything more than that is just a good case of "whisky dick"! Or to be more blunt, we avoid excessive drinking prior to having a sexual encounter period!
:-) DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY, because they always seem to get drunk, no matter who they are with. I think its a little thing called alchoholism.
That or a total lack of understanding about swinging and inhibitions.
When I drink, its only a mixed drink or 2 wines in an evening.
I have a hard rule, that if the woman is too drunk, I don't play.
No matter how attractive she is.
Yes, I have turned down a couple of very attractive women.
I really get into pleasing a woman. Its one of the best things about sex.
Having a woman writhe on my face or cock in wave after wave of bliss.
When a woman is drunk, so is her nerve endings.
Its a lot of wasted time.
My phylosophy is...
If you have to get that drunk before you can get uninhibited enough to play.
YOU SHOULDN'T BE SWINGING !!!!
Stay sober and have fun!
Scott
That or a total lack of understanding about swinging and inhibitions.
When I drink, its only a mixed drink or 2 wines in an evening.
I have a hard rule, that if the woman is too drunk, I don't play.
No matter how attractive she is.
Yes, I have turned down a couple of very attractive women.
I really get into pleasing a woman. Its one of the best things about sex.
Having a woman writhe on my face or cock in wave after wave of bliss.
When a woman is drunk, so is her nerve endings.
Its a lot of wasted time.
My phylosophy is...
If you have to get that drunk before you can get uninhibited enough to play.
YOU SHOULDN'T BE SWINGING !!!!
Stay sober and have fun!
Scott
Talk about a deal killer! We think that honesty and trust is a big part of any relationship, even a sexual contact and that is hard when the mind is clouded. It scares us to think the only way a person can deal with the enjoyment of the lifestyle is to have their thinking process altered by a drug. If when sober you can
We met a couple for dinner and drinks and his wife had a few too many that night. We agreed to meet them another time to play. The husband told us to meet them at 9:00 pm as she worked late and they wanted to eat dinner first. When we arrived a their place his wife was drunk, had many drinks for dinner, and continued to drink while were there. She finally got to the point where she was running her mouth and making rude remarks arguing with her husband, ruining the evening. We got dressed and left. No more of that for us.
If a couple drinks and argues, there's a problem besides the alchoholism. I drink socially, and I can count maybe three occasions in my lifetime that I've actually been 'drunk'. On none of the occasions have I become billigerent with the one I love. Reading some of these stories about couples 'having to have a buzz' to have fun says that they may be a little nervous. Reading about the couples arguing or fights ensuing downright frightens me. If I meet someone I may want to have a few drinks. If they're gonna get nasty, it makes us hesitant to meet anyone.
we drink once in a blue moon and never when we are gonna play .. we like to remember what happens and or what is gonna happen ..but if we did it would be a hella of a playtime lol because when we drink we usually wake up wondering why we are so sore lol ...
DRINKING,
I must admit I (he) is one of those people, I don't need to be drunk but I have a 2 drink minimum before I can get the courage up to talk to a couple I don't know. It is dificult for me to talk with people I've never met and it makes me nervous. As far as the sex aspect, that is not the case. I don't need drinks to have sex, if I like you and all is well great. But, I will admit that in a club or convention atmosphere I need a couple of drinks to be able to chat up strangers.
She is not the same way, she soaks up the attention, and gets high on that. She usually has a drink as well but, she dosent get as nervous around new people as I
I must admit I (he) is one of those people, I don't need to be drunk but I have a 2 drink minimum before I can get the courage up to talk to a couple I don't know. It is dificult for me to talk with people I've never met and it makes me nervous. As far as the sex aspect, that is not the case. I don't need drinks to have sex, if I like you and all is well great. But, I will admit that in a club or convention atmosphere I need a couple of drinks to be able to chat up strangers.
She is not the same way, she soaks up the attention, and gets high on that. She usually has a drink as well but, she dosent get as nervous around new people as I
I also would like to add that i live in the drinking capitol of the world!! I drink socially often, because that is a standard way of interacting here. I don't drink too much, and I've never had to get "drunk enough" I think that is a strange way of looking at things.
I would also like to add, on a tangent that one thing I've learned from living here is that most people don't know how to have a good time, or drink, or do anything else fun. We get all these crazy people for mardi gras who drink too much stumble around throw up and go home and pass out. Is that what you northerners do for fun (just kidding)??
I would also like to add, on a tangent that one thing I've learned from living here is that most people don't know how to have a good time, or drink, or do anything else fun. We get all these crazy people for mardi gras who drink too much stumble around throw up and go home and pass out. Is that what you northerners do for fun (just kidding)??
we dont need any drinks to allow us to loosen up. we have been doing this lifestyle for quite some time now and it has really slowed up for us. no one wants to meet us or they come over with alcohole and we wind up letting them stay to keep them from driving. no fun but just a little safe side. when we meet someone we dont want them to have to drink either. we want them to be as comfortable with it as us. so yeah we dont like the drunken experience either.
Thanks for all the response
If you have to get drunk to play you shouldnt be doing anything.
Guys, licqour increases your desire but lowers your performance.
The only exception is gin. If i get drunk on gin ill have a hard on all night but I wont be able to cum. Just my 2 cents worth
Guys, licqour increases your desire but lowers your performance.
The only exception is gin. If i get drunk on gin ill have a hard on all night but I wont be able to cum. Just my 2 cents worth
It is SO great to hear everyone's input on this! We have never been big drinkers (a drink or two a year) and can't imagine why anyone would want to hinder their memory or ability to enjoy an awesome night of sex by getting drunk. We enjoy sex and if everyone is getting along the only requirement to get more comfortable is to shed some clothing! lol
We've gotten together with people who have mentioned ahead of time they might need a drink or two to get comfortable, because they think they'll be too nervous, but for the most part those people found that they didn't even need that after they met us.
We totally agree about people who NEED to be drunk to play. There's no way they are actually comfortable with who or what they are doing. And to us, that just ruins the whole point of the experience.
-SG
We've gotten together with people who have mentioned ahead of time they might need a drink or two to get comfortable, because they think they'll be too nervous, but for the most part those people found that they didn't even need that after they met us.
We totally agree about people who NEED to be drunk to play. There's no way they are actually comfortable with who or what they are doing. And to us, that just ruins the whole point of the experience.
-SG
this is so true
Rule # 1M Never do a drunk girl
Rule # 1F Never do a drunk girl or drunk guy
Rule # 1F Never do a drunk girl or drunk guy
I do sometimes, it helps me to not think about what they think about me............make sense