We are hoping to put together a fun FFM night. But we have no idea how to go about it! Is it hard finding the right F? How did it work for you? There are those mythical unicorns...we hear. But for us, there has to be chemistry for both of us, so not just any single female will do. Does anyone have suggestions on where they found a sexy F? Part of a LS couple? Craigslist? Through the grapevine? Booty calls on Swingular? We're open to any tips on where to find one but also how to set up a good FFM situation. Thanks!
(This is not a post looking for a SF to play, per se. More of looking for advice on how to find one. But if you've had an amazing experience with someone in particular who is looking to play with a couple, please feel free to pass that info along!.
-Mrs. Xanadume
(This is not a post looking for a SF to play, per se. More of looking for advice on how to find one. But if you've had an amazing experience with someone in particular who is looking to play with a couple, please feel free to pass that info along!.
-Mrs. Xanadume
Actually never done it on our end but we've done it with Ms. Evil getting together with another couple with the understanding that it would be reciprocated (also had MFM with the same couples)...but never quite got around to the reciprocation part. Our recommendation would be to find a like minded couple where there is mutual attraction and basically take turns.
We have had omly one FFM from an online contact. We have found that single female friends and women outside the LS profiles has been extremely positive every time. Mrs feels its due to the fact that the female can get comfortable with her and that there's no cheating going on. Taking turns with another couple you've played with has also worked great for us.
We were able to find one once and later found that she was getting revenge on her cheating hubby. We have all but written off singles because of that one experience. We actively don't look for unicorns anymore, if it happens it happens. I've been a unicorn for another couple but it was never reciprocated for us.
XANADUME wrote:
We are hoping to put together a fun FFM night. But we have no idea how to go about it! Is it hard finding the right F? How did it work for you? There are those mythical unicorns...we hear. But for us, there has to be chemistry for both of us, so not just any single female will do. Does anyone have suggestions on where they found a sexy F? Part of a LS couple? Craigslist? Through the grapevine? Booty calls on Swingular? We're open to any tips on where to find one but also how to set up a good FFM situation. Thanks!
(This is not a post looking for a SF to play, per se. More of looking for advice on how to find one. But if you've had an amazing experience with someone in particular who is looking to play with a couple, please feel free to pass that info along!.
-Mrs. Xanadume
Like you, there has to be chemistry for me with both parts of the couple but even more so with the woman. The initial contact has to be with the woman, males trying to arrange this with me doesn't work.
It is very important that I find the couple very connected with each other, very romantic with each other, very verbal with each other. I would assume you have some ideas of what kind of woman you want to invite into your bed.
I think your last thought, asking your friends that has had an amazing experience is your best way to find your threesome. Personally, I meet new couples through the couples I already have a connection and history with. Then the couple and the woman have someone in common. I have always found the couple in common to be honest with me and I would assume honest with them about the little things. Also the stranger danger element is overcome.
Hoping you are able to find the situation you two are looking for.
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We were able to find one once and later found that she was getting revenge on her cheating hubby. We have all but written off singles because of that one experience. We actively don't look for unicorns anymore, if it happens it happens. I've been a unicorn for another couple but it was never reciprocated for us.
The "let's swap spouses for a threeway" is actually a pretty common scam in the lifestyle. The only way we've seen it work successfully was with couples who had become long term friends as well as playmates. Anyone who approaches us requesting a FMF with Ms. Evil and stating that they will then reciprocate is a huge red flag for us. Fool us once shame on...yada yada.
Yeah, lesson learned.
Hi! Ms. Erotic here. I don't comment here often, but thought that I would chime in.
We've met a lot of awesome people by involving ourselves in some of the local, sex positive, alternative communities. Namely the kink and polyamory groups. We've never actively looked for a"unicorn", but have had some amazing ffm experiences. Lots of people are interested in threesomes, but most don't want to be treated as an object. (That can be fun sometimes though!) Get involved, hang out with sex positive people, be genuine, make friends, have an open mind and heart, don't treat people like things and you'll find that opportunities will present themselves. And sex is so much more fun when all parties are present because they want to be and not out of obligation.
Good luck!
Also, if anyone is interested in and intro to the poly/kink communities Mr. Erotic and I would be happy to help.
We've met a lot of awesome people by involving ourselves in some of the local, sex positive, alternative communities. Namely the kink and polyamory groups. We've never actively looked for a"unicorn", but have had some amazing ffm experiences. Lots of people are interested in threesomes, but most don't want to be treated as an object. (That can be fun sometimes though!) Get involved, hang out with sex positive people, be genuine, make friends, have an open mind and heart, don't treat people like things and you'll find that opportunities will present themselves. And sex is so much more fun when all parties are present because they want to be and not out of obligation.
Good luck!
Also, if anyone is interested in and intro to the poly/kink communities Mr. Erotic and I would be happy to help.
Mrs. Xanadume
As a Mythical Unicorn, I would say the most success to finding one is going to the Swingular events and meeting us. I know that for myself and most likely most of the only one page Unicorns, we like to have that bond as well. It can get tricky to find someone you and your man will be comfortable with but I cant imagine to hard if your already both on the same page and communicating.
Meeting up first to see if you click is pretty norm and key. Who wants to have sex with a complete stranger and even worse have no chemistry at all ?
Mingle, friend singles, be respectful and not act like a fuck is all you want. Swinging is about bonding just as much as Fucking. I hear a lot of couples who say what happened to just meeting up for sex. Hello one night stands left everyones life back in college, no?
Ok so now I am rambling on but just remember you may have to do a little foot work and planning. No asking to meet in 20 mins
As a Mythical Unicorn, I would say the most success to finding one is going to the Swingular events and meeting us. I know that for myself and most likely most of the only one page Unicorns, we like to have that bond as well. It can get tricky to find someone you and your man will be comfortable with but I cant imagine to hard if your already both on the same page and communicating.
Meeting up first to see if you click is pretty norm and key. Who wants to have sex with a complete stranger and even worse have no chemistry at all ?
Mingle, friend singles, be respectful and not act like a fuck is all you want. Swinging is about bonding just as much as Fucking. I hear a lot of couples who say what happened to just meeting up for sex. Hello one night stands left everyones life back in college, no?
Ok so now I am rambling on but just remember you may have to do a little foot work and planning. No asking to meet in 20 mins
A smart man once said, "Life is like a box of Chocolates...You never know what you will get."
Great advice, everyone. Thanks! This has given us some good ideas to think about.
RoyaltiesCM, we totally agree. We are NOT one night stand people and with very few exceptions find that kind of strings-free sex boring and disappointing. It's the chemistry, the flirting, the build-up, and the intellectual attraction that are absolutely vital to things being hot for all involved. I'll definitely have to start exploring the prospect of looking at the Unicorns on here. How to tell if they're real or some perv pretending to be a Unicorn??
RoyaltiesCM, we totally agree. We are NOT one night stand people and with very few exceptions find that kind of strings-free sex boring and disappointing. It's the chemistry, the flirting, the build-up, and the intellectual attraction that are absolutely vital to things being hot for all involved. I'll definitely have to start exploring the prospect of looking at the Unicorns on here. How to tell if they're real or some perv pretending to be a Unicorn??