Another great perspective about modern marriage and keeping your spouse/partner happy. It's definitely a turn on for me when we talk about our adventures. Makes me wet just thinking about a few of them. Thanks everyone for adding to those sexy memories. Keep them cumming!
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20649/why-my-husband-i-sometimes-have-sex-with-other-people.html
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20649/why-my-husband-i-sometimes-have-sex-with-other-people.html
WOW!! What a GREAT article!!
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That was an awesome article-even from the perspective of a single woman. I think that relationships can be enhanced by honest communication about not only wants but needs in a relationship. These are constantly changing. Thanks for posting.
MISSSMITHNSIRNEWBY wrote:
As currently construed, terms like "marriage", "divorce", "licenses", "adultery", "illegitimate children", etc., are a recent historical construct and phenomenon.
Ancient Celts: Celtic Marriage
SN
actually would prefer these to the ones used in the article, to be termed a union and the reason for it was forcible rape, I would prefer it just called rape not a union or the current term marriage.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
The rising millennial generation is pretty liberal and we suspect the traditional and acceptable boundaries as to what marriage is or should be will blur and expand on into the main stream more and more. This is a healthy and a good thing! Marriage seems to be becoming kind of a place holder name for a relationship with commitment and really is more defined by the people involved rather than an institution.
Anyway, we two have both experienced compersion many times in our relationship. We have a large family and we both tend to be pair bonded sorts, that like to couple, but that also enjoy non monogamous sexual relationships with others. Neither one of us seem to want to go find serious romantic relationships that would involve a lot of time and resource commitment, like ours requires, but we do enjoy sex with friends. Swinging works for us. We mostly play together and that is what we most enjoy. Same room play is great. We do sometimes play separately too and we enjoy hearing about it afterwards. At present and for a season, playing separate may be more common due to our conflicting schedules. Fridays and Sundays we are usually both somewhat free and together but even then not always. We get to have a lot of sex together at night, before going to sleep but having time together to go play with others is in shorter supply. We both have free time away from each other while the other of us is busy.
We agree with just about everything you have said in this topic. Swinging is something that just works for us as well. We do NOT use sex with others to replace our sex life together, but use it to augment our sex life. We are still fairly new in the lifestyle, so at this point we only play together in the same room because we both absolutely LOVE watching each other have sex with other people because there just things we can't see when we are with each other. We also love to talk share our experiences with each other afterwards and we like to fantasize about sex with other people while we are fucking each other.
On top of all that we have also realized (thanks to a very helpful couple that ushered us through a very rough spot towards the very beginning of our journey into the lifestyle) that as great as our sex life is together, there are just things we can't experience with each other, so why should we deny ourselves the things we want that will bring us pleasure, especially when are experiencing it together?
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:MISSSMITHNSIRNEWBY wrote:
As currently construed, terms like "marriage", "divorce", "licenses", "adultery", "illegitimate children", etc., are a recent historical construct and phenomenon.
Ancient Celts: Celtic Marriage
SN
Spot on. In a biological sense how can a child be illegitimate? If two people want to have children and hang around together for decades or if they ever decide to discontinue that arrangement why do they have to get permission from the state? I have heard the word FUCK is actually an old acronym for Fornication Under the Crowned King, or an actual law against having sex without being married. Even if some people believe in a mystical all powerful creator what the fuck does the state have to do with that? Sex between consenting adults in a biological sense is just that. Any agreement two or more people have as to who, how, when, why etc., they have sex together or build a life together should be their decision.
We should worry more about helping people to gain the resources necessary to help them learn how to think critically rather than what to think dogmatically.
I took an Old English history class in college (medieval history, like King Arthur and Camelot, fascinates me) and during that class we learned that the work F.U.C.K. was actually used by the Church of England much like the scarlet letter "A" was used by Quakers to indicate that a person had engaged in adulterous activities and had unlawful carnal knowledge of another person. So they were put in a special jail cell that had "F.U.C.K." branded above it so they were known to be the worst of offenders (yes, they actually considered adulterers to be worse than murderers).
I have no idea if that is where the word really came from, but I thought it was interesting. It also happens to be a great Van Halen album!!
I had heard that FUCK was an acronym: For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge.
But what do I know, I had a public school education.
But what do I know, I had a public school education.