So we drive everyday and we are always looking in other cars what is it that we are looking for? Are they in the lifestyle? Are they having oral sex? Or maybe just showing off to the other cars while going down the road? Are we the only ones that look and wonder? Is there a sticker we can put on our back window small and subtle that lets people know that we are in the lifestyle? What are your thoughts?
I think it at church LOL yes I go...I think it at the grocery store. I think thats why people wear black rings on the right hand to identify each other
Yes, I will often look at people and wonder if they would be exciting in a threesome or foursome. Are they passive of engaged? Timid or eager? I said to one woman a few years older than me, "I'll bet you're fun". She replied, "Honey you'll never guess how much!" I told her, "I;'ll bet I could imagine." Just then her husband came up and conversation immediately stopped. I kept thinking, "Lucky guy!"
Maybe I'll get a sticker of a upside down pineapple and put it on my vehicles. To let people know. Lol
as a truck driver for more than 25yr ive look and boy let me tell u what I have seen
Oh and let us tell you what we've done. Well you can only do so many things while driving. But it's fun
I wonder all the time, so your not alone .
i have been driving truck since 1978 and just when u think you have seen it all you get a surprise
I wonder that every time I go to the gym and guess what, it worked someone was, oh what fun we had.lol
Am I the only person on this site that hasn't done anything sexual in a car before?
Wait nvm I got a handjob once....but it wasn't very good.
Does it still count?
Wait nvm I got a handjob once....but it wasn't very good.
Does it still count?
Black rings? Really?? Soooo how well known is this fact? I would really like something that's discreet but yeah...says I'm in. But if they are vanilla...I don't want them to know at all! Am I gonna out myself to the world if I get a ring??
UNICORN73 wrote:
Black rings? Really?? Soooo how well known is this fact? I would really like something that's discreet but yeah...says I'm in. But if they are vanilla...I don't want them to know at all! Am I gonna out myself to the world if I get a ring??
The idea of the black ring has been around for a long time. As early as the 60's by some accounts. However it is not generally well known. As such it's very uncommon to see anyone wearing them in public. Mrs. DandD and I have only seen one other couple wearing them and we have only had one other couple notice ours that we know of.
It's also important to to note that black rings carry different meanings depending on who is wearing them. Members of the of homosexual community have been known to wear them on the right hand ring finger to indicate marriage when living where marriage was not legal for them. Members of the AVEN community wear them on the middle finger of the right hand to identify each other. Finally swingers wear them on the right hand but not on the middle finger generally out of respect for and, I'm guessing, to avoid being confused as member of the AVEN community.
As long as you wear them not on the middle or ring finger you are golden. We have seen a few with them, just fun to think you may run into someone that may identify with you. Mine looks like a fashion ring that anyone would wear so no one knows lol I think if more people wore them it might catch on in Ut, other states seeing it is more common.
Angie
Angie
We once fucked another couple while driving out to Wendover. Took turns in the large back seat of their crew cab pickup with each other's spouses while the others drove. Then we got REALLY kinky when we got to Wendover. 
EVILDOERS lucky you...ha ha only a problem beautiful people have LOL
I know I wear mine on right hand, then found some info here,,,LifeStyle Black Rings
I thought I was the only one to look at other people and wonder if they are in this life style. People I see in the store people I work with and yes even people I see in church.
"Give the trucker a show" is a game we play every road trip. We have a lifted Dodge so it takes a taller vehicle like a big rig to see in. I lay on my back in the front seat, put me feet on the passengers window and a favorite toy where it belongs. Whenever we pass a trucker hubby matches speed for a while so that I can bring a smile to his face and make his trip a little less boring. We have also spotted others doing the same and enjoyed each others show for miles.
MrsTj
MrsTj
TJ69NAZ wrote:
"Give the trucker a show" is a game we play every road trip. We have a lifted Dodge so it takes a taller vehicle like a big rig to see in. I lay on my back in the front seat, put me feet on the passengers window and a favorite toy where it belongs. Whenever we pass a trucker hubby matches speed for a while so that I can bring a smile to his face and make his trip a little less boring. We have also spotted others doing the same and enjoyed each others show for miles.
MrsTj
This sounds like a blast. I think we may steal your idea! :P
We have ran into people at clubs not knowing and at the grocery stores. The male half isn't afraid of chatting with people he finds attractive and have met a lot of people just by striking up conversations. But we see people at parks or driving and think wow they are attractive, I wonder??
The black-ring on the right-hand has quickly become the new "standard" on how to tell if someone's a swinger in public. (No, it's not a sure-indicator, but it's gaining traction FAST in the swinger community -- especially outside of Utah where Swingular isn't so well known, and there's not so much of a swinger-bubble).
- It started off as a discussion on Kasidie a few years ago. (Many people think it's been around longer, but I've never seen any verified instance of it referenced prior to about 5 years ago... would love to be corrected on this with hard proof, however).
- Several swingers bloggers and podcasters picked it up and endorsed it.
- Almost all of the larger online swinger communities are now endorsing it.
- It's even been mentioned a few times on PBTV's show "Swing".
- We recently went on a swingers cruise and saw LOTS of couples wearing them.
It's actually got some real traction..... The great thing is that it's small. It's cheap. It's not obvious to anyone else. It's easy to 'deny' if you ever ARE caught ("Oh.. I just liked the ring..")..
My wife and I both wear them now... But we've never seen them "in the wild" in Utah... We found that they made a great conversation starter.
More Info here:
- http://www.okswing.com/ind..
- http://www.lifestylerings.com/faqs.html
- http://swapfu.blogspot.com/p/black-ring-right-hand.html
Swingular tends to create a little bit of a bubble for us Utah people... since the rest of the country uses other sites. The black-ring concept is trending elsewhere, nationally... and not so much in Utah.
- It started off as a discussion on Kasidie a few years ago. (Many people think it's been around longer, but I've never seen any verified instance of it referenced prior to about 5 years ago... would love to be corrected on this with hard proof, however).
- Several swingers bloggers and podcasters picked it up and endorsed it.
- Almost all of the larger online swinger communities are now endorsing it.
- It's even been mentioned a few times on PBTV's show "Swing".
- We recently went on a swingers cruise and saw LOTS of couples wearing them.
It's actually got some real traction..... The great thing is that it's small. It's cheap. It's not obvious to anyone else. It's easy to 'deny' if you ever ARE caught ("Oh.. I just liked the ring..")..
My wife and I both wear them now... But we've never seen them "in the wild" in Utah... We found that they made a great conversation starter.
More Info here:
- http://www.okswing.com/ind..
- http://www.lifestylerings.com/faqs.html
- http://swapfu.blogspot.com/p/black-ring-right-hand.html
Swingular tends to create a little bit of a bubble for us Utah people... since the rest of the country uses other sites. The black-ring concept is trending elsewhere, nationally... and not so much in Utah.
HERRIMANFUN wrote:
We have ran into people at clubs not knowing and at the grocery stores. The male half isn't afraid of chatting with people he finds attractive and have met a lot of people just by striking up conversations. But we see people at parks or driving and think wow they are attractive, I wonder??
The question is... "do you feel lucky"?
Based on data I've collected from hosting events, and from building the Swingular mobile app (BlackRingMobile.com), I can tell you that Swingular has roughly 500 couples who are active in the lifestyle at any given time (and trust me, anyone who's actively swinging has an account here).
Some studies indicate that as much as 4% of married adults are non-monogamous. That doesn't mean they swing, it simply means they have (at some point in their marriage) agreed that it would be okay to have sex outside of their marriage on at least one occasion. This number seems pretty high to me, especially in Utah. (Bordering on ridiculous, actually).
So somewhere between these two numbers is the truth... 500 couples in Utah have a Swingular account, and by some (very liberal) estimations, as many as 35,000 couples in Utah are non-monogamous.
Let's assume, for the sake of argument, that there are 3,000 couples in Utah who are actively interested in swinging. (Again, I have SERIOUS doubts that the number is that high, based on data I've collected from Swingular... but let's roll with it)... There are 886,000 couples in Utah, which means there's a 0.33% chance (1 in 300) that the couple you're looking at are swingers.
However, if the number of ACTIVE swinging couples in Utah is closer to 1,000 (far more likely), the odds go down to 0.11% (1 in 1,000). This is probably a more realistic picture of your odds when you try to pick up a random couple in the wild.
1 in a thousand isn't out of the question..... but unless you're prepared to be very blunt, it's probably not worth wasting your time on, either.
Just my two cents. =)
BMSHELL wrote:
Let's assume, for the sake of argument, that there are 3,000 couples in Utah who are actively interested in swinging. (Again, I have SERIOUS doubts that the number is that high, based on data I've collected from Swingular... but let's roll with it)... There are 886,000 couples in Utah, which means there's a 0.33% chance (1 in 300) that the couple you're looking at are swingers.
However, if the number of ACTIVE swinging couples in Utah is closer to 1,000 (far more likely), the odds go down to 0.11% (1 in 1,000). This is probably a more realistic picture of your odds when you try to pick up a random couple in the wild.
A caveat of this analysis is that it assumes a uniform distribution of swingers over the population of Utah. My guess is that this isn't the case but instead the density of swingers aligns with the density of more liberal thinkers. The net result is that it would put more swingers in the more densely populated areas with the highest density in SLC. That could easily swing the odds from 1 in 1,000 to 1 in 100. At least for those of us in SLC. For the poor suckers not SLC it could go the other way.
That said, yes, I feel lucky enough to gamble basically nothing on 1 in 1,000 odds. 
We think maybe this is getting off topic more than we had thought. Have any of you out there met someone in the lifestyle by maybe just seeing them in a car in a club a store at a beach giving or getting that little smile that People have when they are wondering the same thing or something of that nature. Like KRAZYGIRL in the gym. Do you actually approach people or do you simply do it by this website? It seems that we are about 50% in the people we have met online and out of the blue by talking in person when we first saw them. We know about the ring. We know about the upside down pineapple. How do you meet people when your out. Do you try to make conversation with people that your attracted to? I know the site makes it easier but the connections are very different
Thanks, HERRIMANFUN, for getting the topic of conversation back on track. Since we have become active in the lifestyle, we have definitely found ourselves looking at other couples that we see out and about and wonder if they too are in the lifestyle, but we are way to nervous and afraid to approach them and ask because we don't want to offend anyone. However, we do have our black rings that we wear proudly, but have not spotted anyone else wearing them (around here in our area, that is).
To address one of the other earlier questions about symbology (like on a vehicle or something), while researching images to build the symbol for our group here (shameless plug for the East Idaho Group), I came across a symbol (with 2 male gender symbols and 2 female gender symbols all intertwined (can't figure out how to attach it to this post)) that I liked very much and have started using it in the group icon.
To address one of the other earlier questions about symbology (like on a vehicle or something), while researching images to build the symbol for our group here (shameless plug for the East Idaho Group), I came across a symbol (with 2 male gender symbols and 2 female gender symbols all intertwined (can't figure out how to attach it to this post)) that I liked very much and have started using it in the group icon.
UNICORN73 wrote:
Black rings? Really?? Soooo how well known is this fact? I would really like something that's discreet but yeah...says I'm in. But if they are vanilla...I don't want them to know at all! Am I gonna out myself to the world if I get a ring??
It doesn't seem to be all that well known. There are even quite a few pelple in the lifestyle who don't know about it. I've never ben asked about the ring by anyone, and I suspect that if vanilla people knew what it was I'd have had at least one "that's an unusual ring" or suchlike comment from someone who was wondering. Especially since I'm finally finishing my degree at Weber State, so there are a whole lot of early twenty-somethings who know me and who if they had a clue would ask, if only because they'd be amazed that someone "my age" would be involved in swinging.