Swingers Forum - What do you think??

For whatever reason, everyone is not exactly polite, and perhaps this couple should just come right out and say what caused their change of heart, or turnabout....perhaps it was a personal problem they are not comfortable with or wanting to share. So, perhaps, just give them a polite note perhaps saying, "Thinking of Y'all, enjoyed our early connection, hope we can meet again soon and explore. Let us know when you are back in. Then just don't worry about and move on, there are many wonderful couples on here for all their own reason, and some folks share and thus the enjoyment of meeting and playing...others get cold feet, or just don't feel the spark and a sky to say so. If you spend too much time dwelling on the "What happened", you might be missing out on actual "Hot Happenings"...Just my outlook. Good Luck, hope the next spark is onboard to fan the flames with you.

Don

Some will, some won't, so what? Next! Some people are flakes plain and simple. Some have no intention of ever playing and just being around the scene is enough titillation for them. Others aren't who they say they are and won't follow thru with plans to meet, etc. for fear of being discovered for who or what they really are (we met a couple once who we later discovered weren't married to each other and in fact were having an affair and swinging as a couple). Bottom line it doesn't matter. We give people the benefit of the doubt once or twice and then we simply move on. This will happen more than you will like in the lifestyle and the best advice is to just grow a thick skin and not take any of this too seriously. We usually think we've dodged a bullet when people flake on us because usually someone who will flake is not someone we want to hang out with anyway. YMMV

I experienced the same situation only I was the one logging off. In my case it was because when they saw I was online they wanted to email constantly. I would let them know I was just quickly checking emails and they would still write emails requiring a response or rudeness from me. There was no consideration that I had other things to do than chat back and forth with them. Kind of like that guy that sees you in the breakroom and won't give you a second to take a bite of your apple and chew it.

MrsTj

Hotfire no not you LOL funny you would think that we have not met ya . We met this couple LOL. Thanks for the advice though.

Angie

We used to get bent out of shape when people flaked on us or avoided our online communications. But we realized quickly that aligning emotional, sexual, and physical attraction for 4 people is tricky to say the least. Even the coolest most attractive couples have their own little idiosyncrasies that may not match yours. Best advice to to wish them the best of luck and move on. No grudges, just good karma.

EVILDOERS wrote:

Some will, some won't, so what? Next! Some people are flakes plain and simple. Some have no intention of ever playing and just being around the scene is enough titillation for them. Others aren't who they say they are and won't follow thru with plans to meet, etc. for fear of being discovered for who or what they really are (we met a couple once who we later discovered weren't married to each other and in fact were having an affair and swinging as a couple). Bottom line it doesn't matter. We give people the benefit of the doubt once or twice and then we simply move on. This will happen more than you will like in the lifestyle and the best advice is to just grow a thick skin and not take any of this too seriously. We usually think we've dodged a bullet when people flake on us because usually someone who will flake is not someone we want to hang out with anyway. YMMV

Well said evil....even if it's not funny.

We always have a backup plan. We have met alot of great friends here and not all of them are playmates. We have had couples that played once with us and never called back. Some removed us all together. We figure that we just didn't quite click. No sense in getting our panties in a bunch. They are still great couples and we have no ill feelings toward them. We have also spent time with couples who enjoyed time with us and can't get enough. Sometimes we are that couple that just can't seem to find time to go out. Most couples are very patient and usually are well rewarded. The only time we get annoyed is when people try to pull a fast one. Like trying to get Mrs. Daisy to play alone promising reciprocation later. I don't know how qualified we are to give advise. Just try to keep in mind that you are not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Sometimes maybe there are issues with the couple you wish to hook up with. You can't take anything personal here as so much depends on attraction, chemistry and timing. It really is just a matter of finding people who vibrate on the same frequency.
The old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together" couldn't be more true than here in the lifestyle. It can be time consuming and sometimes frustrating to find a group you click with. But, patience can yield such amazing results. Hope this helps.