It's a great, non-judging article on a mainstream media site; it's an early Flag Day miracle! I love that it concentrates on elements of honesty w/ others and oneself.
And for once I'm impressed by the comments and how open most commenters are being in relating their concerns and experiences.
I'm obviously horribly biased, but what a wonderful world it'd be if monogamy was as much a fetish as any consensual way of being a sexual being.
And for once I'm impressed by the comments and how open most commenters are being in relating their concerns and experiences.
I'm obviously horribly biased, but what a wonderful world it'd be if monogamy was as much a fetish as any consensual way of being a sexual being.
That was a good article, thanks for sharing the link.
ONE4MORE wrote:
That was a good article, thanks for sharing the link.
Did you find it accurate in your experience or was it lacking in some important things? I don't have any experience so I can only view it in the abstract.
I think that should be a mandatory read for anyone entering this game. Has good info about what you should expect in couple play and threesome play. Very good info thanks for the share.
KRAZYGIRL wrote:
I think that should be a mandatory read for anyone entering this game. Has good info about what you should expect in couple play and threesome play. Very good info thanks for the share.
You're welcome! I think it's particularly helpful for those who have an idealized fantasy of what a threesome looks like; to see it in starker terms can help them decide if it should stay in the realm of fantasy or if they're willing to step back unrealistic perceptions to participate enjoyably. For example, it's easy to fantasize about an experience that involves another person w/o thinking about the needs or feelings of that other person; in one's mind it's ok to treat someone like a literal object but in practice that's rarely a happy time for that person.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
The article in that same digital publication written by a sex worker on kissing, is also interesting.
Oh my heavens, yes; the bit about not jamming your tongue into the other person's mouth in the first few minutes of kissing and then to not do it like an anteater is brilliant and ought to be taught to kids by third grade even if they're not likely to use it till fifth. To me immediate tongue action w/ a new person tells me they're a short-term, 'whatever I can get my hands on right now' kind of person and that's likely to be no fun for me (a pump and dump chump IME).
Nice article ,, very interesting !!
I agree... This article was very informative and (in my limited experience) accurate. I think the key take-away is COMMUNICATION. I think if everyone is on the same page, and is willing to voice their concerns, desires, hopes, and fears, then a threesum can be a very amazing experience. Not to brag, but I have had the pleasure of being a part of something like that on a couple of occasions. And I truly enjoyed the amazing connection I felt with both of the other participants. But it takes a lot of trust and communication to get to that point.
CHEFFETTE wrote:ONE4MORE wrote:
That was a good article, thanks for sharing the link.
Did you find it accurate in your experience or was it lacking in some important things? I don't have any experience so I can only view it in the abstract.
I thought it was pretty spot on, albeit geared to people not in the lifestyle so to speak. But the info is good for anyone new or with limited experience. The things she says to avoid are the #1 causes of problems people have with bringing others into their sex life. In my humble opinion that is...
