So, this weekend we were at an on-premise club here in Houston. (Club Utopia, for anyone interested.)
We had a fantastic time. She had eyes and hands all over her. Overall, everyone was very respectful and the scene was extremely hot. I'll remember this Saturday forever.
One guy was there, though, who wasn't quite as hot as the rest. And he was a bit of a nuisance. Not more than that though. He was kind of like the gnat that keeps flying around in the living room. Not really dangerous, just kind of annoying. He had his wife with him, but she seemed preoccupied with her phone and wasn't really in the mood to play or look after her husband.
In situations like that, what is a good way to get him to leave without being rude or unfriendly? I mean, he wasn't really touching us or even trying to get in on our action. But he was talking to us all and generally slowing down the action. We couldn't really get "caught up in the moment" because He kept wanting to chat. And in his defense. we all did spend most of the night talking as one big group (him and his wife included). It's just that once we and the other couple found chemistry, "he" kinda never got the point that we were......done talking.
What do you think?
We had a fantastic time. She had eyes and hands all over her. Overall, everyone was very respectful and the scene was extremely hot. I'll remember this Saturday forever.
One guy was there, though, who wasn't quite as hot as the rest. And he was a bit of a nuisance. Not more than that though. He was kind of like the gnat that keeps flying around in the living room. Not really dangerous, just kind of annoying. He had his wife with him, but she seemed preoccupied with her phone and wasn't really in the mood to play or look after her husband.
In situations like that, what is a good way to get him to leave without being rude or unfriendly? I mean, he wasn't really touching us or even trying to get in on our action. But he was talking to us all and generally slowing down the action. We couldn't really get "caught up in the moment" because He kept wanting to chat. And in his defense. we all did spend most of the night talking as one big group (him and his wife included). It's just that once we and the other couple found chemistry, "he" kinda never got the point that we were......done talking.
What do you think?
Oh, And I forgot to ask.
What other situations have you been in where you've had to politely ask someone to leave you alone? How did you do it? For that matter, how to tell someone politely that you're not interested?
We've been lucky enough, so far, that things seem to naturally fall into place. But we're diving deeper into this thing and we'd like to be prepared if the situation does arise.
What other situations have you been in where you've had to politely ask someone to leave you alone? How did you do it? For that matter, how to tell someone politely that you're not interested?
We've been lucky enough, so far, that things seem to naturally fall into place. But we're diving deeper into this thing and we'd like to be prepared if the situation does arise.
Ha ha. Awesome!
That's a great question. Sometimes there just isn't chemistry and you shouldn't have to feel guilty for saying so. And anyone who really thinks it through has to know it is inevitable that YOU will at one point be the one who is rejected. So if we were all very adult about it all, we'd be able to say "You know, I'm really not interested. But best of luck." And we'd all be able to take the same response to our own rejected persual w/o being offended. But we live in a world where people get their feelings hurt and we all think we're hot shit. So...I got nothing!
XANADUME wrote:Haha! Love it! It really is a hard situation. No one really has a good answer. It is a fine line between being a nice person and being TOO nice. When someone figures it out, please let me know!!!!!
That's a great question. Sometimes there just isn't chemistry and you shouldn't have to feel guilty for saying so. And anyone who really thinks it through has to know it is inevitable that YOU will at one point be the one who is rejected. So if we were all very adult about it all, we'd be able to say "You know, I'm really not interested. But best of luck." And we'd all be able to take the same response to our own rejected persual w/o being offended. But we live in a world where people get their feelings hurt and we all think we're hot shit. So...I got nothing!
I think the best way is make the other person find you less attractive. Start farting a lot, maybe pick your nose, talk about your love for small, furry animals, or maybe even act crazy. Start talking to people who aren't there, grab at invisible objects, pretend you are drinking coffee out of an invisible cup. If that doesn't work, have a gas can full of water and start pouring it on yourself with a lighter nearby. If that doesn't clear the room you are probably just going to have to say "I'm sorry, but we really aren't feeling it. Maybe next time. Party over." But say it with a crazed look in your eye.
I don;t know the club layout where you were, but since you and the other couple were interested in just each other for some playtime, I would have just said to him "Nice to meet you, we're going to go play now" and found another part of the club to get naked.
Or give a quarter to go to the movies.
Or give a quarter to go to the movies.
Since the OP's a male, here's how it could have been resolved w/ the least bruised male ego all around -
"Blah blah uninteresting blah that makes me unappealing."
"Thanks for the conversation! [big smile] Will you excuse us while we go spend time w/ our friends here? [subtly turning and cutting him out of sight as you step away]"
"Blah blah uninteresting blah that makes me unappealing."
"Thanks for the conversation! [big smile] Will you excuse us while we go spend time w/ our friends here? [subtly turning and cutting him out of sight as you step away]"
We had a single Lady tell us sorry but my dance card is full at this time, if you would like to check back later feel free but for now thanks.
It should not be that hard we have all had someone come along that we just did not fit with and they have let us down, if you stick around long enough it will happen more then you would want it to. We are all sexy and hot in our own eyes and to maybe 60% of every one we meet, we just need to find the few who likes us that we also like but the rest should say thanks but no thanks and we should understand right? But then their is that one guy, or girl that just wont let go.lol
It should not be that hard we have all had someone come along that we just did not fit with and they have let us down, if you stick around long enough it will happen more then you would want it to. We are all sexy and hot in our own eyes and to maybe 60% of every one we meet, we just need to find the few who likes us that we also like but the rest should say thanks but no thanks and we should understand right? But then their is that one guy, or girl that just wont let go.lol
We have found far to often that not being direct only invites false hope. And even being direct sometime is not enough. You have point blank say we are not interested, or sorry it is not going to happen. We have also had to tell single males to please go away.
We actually stopped going to parties in the far SW of SAlt lake county because some in attendance could not get the message.
You do not have to be nice to say, you are not going to fuck me. We are not friends and we are having some time with our friends,
Why if your at a bar and some stranger sat down and started talking can you say please move along, but if we're naked we have to be nice.
Predators in the lifestyle count on that mentality and they use it to their advantage.
We actually stopped going to parties in the far SW of SAlt lake county because some in attendance could not get the message.
You do not have to be nice to say, you are not going to fuck me. We are not friends and we are having some time with our friends,
Why if your at a bar and some stranger sat down and started talking can you say please move along, but if we're naked we have to be nice.
Predators in the lifestyle count on that mentality and they use it to their advantage.
Ok so we were at a party one time and a friend's wife was uneasy about a creeper. Friend pointed at him and said "You get the fuck out" maybe a bit too direct but we all felt it got the point across. Oh and BTW almost every girl in the room was creeped out by him she was just the only one to say something.
We have had these types of people cross our path also. One time we just said that this is not a good time for us to go anywhere with them ( did not use those words however). Another time I wish I would have pulled the guy aside and said hey I have this goin on with this woman and I wish you would move on. This person may not have known it was time to move on and so he did not. You don't have to be rude to let someone or even a couple know that there is no interest. Some times we don't speak up when we should and we regret not having done so.