We went to Habits last night because multiple people have mentioned that it's a place that Utah lifestylers like to frequent. As we expected, it was generally difficult to tell the difference between lifestylers and vanillas (though we did recognize a few people from various events). We have no interest in offending a vanilla by making undesired advances. Nor are we looking to flip vanillas. That's just not our thing. We're really only interested in meeting stable couples that have experience in the lifestyle. So the obvious question is, what tricks do people have for differentiating lifestylers from vanillas at Habits?
We have noticed that a lot of men in the lifestyle bic their heads. And there were a lot of bald guys at Habits. Perhaps that is the Habits version of your shirt? 
Your looking for a "Flavor Saver" in the shape of an S.
(preferably on the man, not the woman, but who am I to judge.)
(preferably on the man, not the woman, but who am I to judge.)
DANDDMONTREAL wrote:
We went to Habits last night because multiple people have mentioned that it's a place that Utah lifestylers like to frequent. As we expected, it was generally difficult to tell the difference between lifestylers and vanillas (though we did recognize a few people from various events). We have no interest in offending a vanilla by making undesired advances. Nor are we looking to flip vanillas. That's just not our thing. We're really only interested in meeting stable couples that have experience in the lifestyle. So the obvious question is, what tricks do people have for differentiating lifestylers from vanillas at Habits?
This has been asked here many times before... here's what it boiled down to:
1) You can't tell by looking.
2) If you really want to know, you'll have to ask them.
3) Despite the fact that maybe 5% to 10% of the people there are swingers on any given weekend, it's not a swinger club, so if you're trying to meet swingers, it's very inefficient.
Sorry.. wish there was a better answer.
If there was ever a time to develop a secret handshake, that time is now.
Much better than a handshake.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Much better than a handshake.
Except it'd be two fingers up each nostril.
BMSHELL wrote:
This has been asked here many times before...
I figured. If only the forum search functionality would return something other than "The used table type doesn't support FULLTEXT indexes". One can always hack it through Google but that process leaves a bit to be desired.
BMSHELL wrote:
1) You can't tell by looking.
That's what we found too. We did not see a single pair of black rings walking around!
Though we did meet one couple that expressed regret for not wearing theirs once they noticed ours.BMSHELL wrote:
2) If you really want to know, you'll have to ask them.
Certainly. We're just not inclined to ask unless we suspect something. The Mrs. was wondering whether a question like "Did we see you at Casino Royale?" might be enlightening. The reasoning is that only someone in the lifestyle will be familiar with the that event while others will take it to be a reference to the James Bond movie.
BMSHELL wrote:
3) Despite the fact that maybe 5% to 10% of the people there are swingers on any given weekend, it's not a swinger club, so if you're trying to meet swingers, it's very inefficient.
Meeting other swingers is definitely part of the motivation but we also like to dance. Our preference would be a swingers club with a dance floor. As far as we can tell that doesn't exist here so we're in search of the best approximation.
BMSHELL wrote:
Sorry.. wish there was a better answer.
Thanks for the feedback none-the-less.
KENNEDY0408 wrote:
I was there. No one asked me. But I "thought" I may have recognized a few. But I wasn't sure, so I didn't say anything.
We definitely saw three other couples. Two we had met at events. The third we ended up asking and they confirmed our suspicions. Unfortunately we didn't see you or we would have said hello.
Get online and make a date! Why after all these years...there's a question? D&D Quit overthinking and asking for advice.....Eyeball a couple...and TALK....way we still work for fun...
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