Swingers Forum - So What Happened

Messing around I created a forum and immediately was attacked and accused of doing things that I didn't say. So I took a look at recent posts and comments with the same thing or poor posts that I conceder not swinging territory. I'm not going to comment just want to hear what others have to say.Sorry I lied

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Still will not comment on this thread but I'm not going to let someone push it off the front page every five minutes before anyone has a chance to see it.

Well I tried but have to ask doesn't anyone on here care how a few have taken control of the forums.

I dumb man says much. I wise man listens much.
True dat.

POUNDCAKE wrote:

I will comment.

I have seen the same thing and rarely participate because of it. There are a few that think that every thread has to become their opportunity to let everybody know how funny they think they are. Somebody ask a serious question and it either gets attacked or others feel the need to make light of situation rather than just give an honest answer or heaven forbid keep quiet. That said those same people would probably say "grow some thicker skin" or "get a sense of humor". There are handful that act as of they own the forum. They know who they are and everybody else does as well. They probably think that they are the only ones that keep the forum going. IMO they are the ones the prevent others from asking for advice or making comments that may be of actual use to others.

We have a ton of questions that we could or would ask but choose not to. Our skin is plenty thick and we have a sense of humor, in fact at meet and greet we have been told many times that we are just basically funnier than shit. We also know that not everything has to be a joke or made light of. To each their own but I find that most of the ones that really have helpful advice or comments are those that post or don't post quite often enough. It is certainly understandable as to why.

Couldn't have said it better! we are tired of the same people that feel the need to comment on EVERY SINGLE POST!

All this bullshit started because I took exception to some fucktard (no, not the OP) who was posting pics he secretly took of women with his cell phone on a thread started by the OP. The OP took my comments out of context and thought I was accusing him, which I wasn't, and I TOLD him so. For Christ's sake people, put your big boy and girl panties on and quit being such pussies. If you don't like my comments you can tell me so, I'm a big boy, I can take it. And YES, ignoring comments you don't like and moving on is the grownup thing to do. Alternatively tell me I'm a douchecopter or a twatwaffle...again I can take it. 90% of what I post isn't serious or meant to be taken seriously. I know it pisses some people off if ANY thread doesn't somehow lead to them eventually getting laid. Can't we just joke around in here a little without someone getting their panties all in a wad? Don't take everything so fucking seriously! Now let's all have a big wet sloppy group hug and sing Kumbaya.

Ok then, can I be a serious bitch and suggest that the same people that comment on every single forum post go to pinterest and find a new fuckin' hobby!?

DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:

Yes Evil he is bald as Picard.

LOL....just gave you one on the "beard" thread. :-)

And I'm sorry but Picard needs to SHAVE that shit!

KENNEDY0408 wrote:

I chime in. Because I'm new and I like to ask questions to see what things are about. Question 1: why do people say "unicorns" are wanted, but couple swapping seems to happen more at events that "unicorn hunting"? I'm not a supermodel, but small children haven't screamed in horror, at least directly to my possibly scary face. That's the shit I like to see on here. Real life explanations for things that newbies want to know. I have a few people that answer honestly, but most people just say I must suck (in the not good way) and then ignore my questions. I like the "regulars" that answer, cuz at least things get written. Even if it's weird beard pics.

We have on our profile, that we're interested in "unicorns", but you're right, we don't actively look for them (online or at events). Honestly, we've never really made an effort to approach any as they seem to have the pick of the litter. Why bother, when they are probably being approached by everyone else at the event? When I go out to a bar sans my partner, I get hit on constantly, I assumed it would be even worse for a single female swinger.

I'm 99.999999% positive it has nothing to do with your looks (just took a peek at your profile and confirmed this), but more so other people's perception of what it's like being a unicorn.

007HOTTIE wrote:

Ok then, can I be a serious bitch and suggest that the same people that comment on every single forum post go to pinterest and find a new fuckin' hobby!?

Thanks. Mean people don't bother me a bit,mean people who disguise as nice people bother me a whole lot.

KENNEDY0408 wrote:

I chime in. Because I'm new and I like to ask questions to see what things are about. Question 1: why do people say "unicorns" are wanted, but couple swapping seems to happen more at events that "unicorn hunting"? I'm not a supermodel, but small children haven't screamed in horror, at least directly to my possibly scary face. That's the shit I like to see on here. Real life explanations for things that newbies want to know. I have a few people that answer honestly, but most people just say I must suck (in the not good way) and then ignore my questions. I like the "regulars" that answer, cuz at least things get written. Even if it's weird beard pics.

In post I'm accused of doing something unthinkable. I still made an apology to someone I thought was a newbie, I will defend one every time I see a post with a fucking rude demeaning comment like the newbie should know everything when they get here. We were all there once and I'm glad people freely helped instead of what goes on now.

For the record in case anyone is worried I can be a fucking ass, but only if you attack me first.

MISSSMITHNSIRNEWBY wrote:

Not weighing in on what happened to you because I don't know, but yes, people increasingly jump down each other's throats. It often goes beyond good fun, and into the realm of stuff almost no one would actually say to another person if they were in the same room.

And, yes, the mood has changed since years ago. It's lost some of its innocent, light-hearted charm. Direct personal attacks were more-or-less contained to the politics section. Being unnecessarily rude now has the appearance of normalcy and there's more of it in private communication, too.

Aside from a "sign of the times" perhaps, is the fact that there is so little moderation here. Support can barely keep up with requests, let alone find time to moderate the threads -- were they so inclined.

SN

All we have to do is pretend they don't exist, they will get tired of it and go away.

KENNEDY0408

Sorry about my comments but you started to follow the wrong croud being new it's not your fault. You can do so much better than that, I won't give you shit anymore.

KENNEDY0408 wrote:

You're so sweet. Thank you. Fortunately, I have met a few really nice people that come and talk to me for a few minutes so that I don't sit alone, but I don't get inundated AT ALL at events, quite the opposite. I do, at regular bars...but I'm looking for couples, and regular bars are just single men. But I come to the events for couples (sexually speaking).....and to chat with anyone nice and make good friends, if we get along that way..... Unless the chemistry felt different...but that's case by case....not the rule.

Anytime you feel as if your getting the cold shoulder or not a welcoming feeling please call us and you will be showered with hugs and kisses and anything else that your beautiful head can imagine.

MAPARTY wrote:

I will wear it proudly. And the list for you will grow with every thoughtful comment you make.

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EVILDOERS wrote:




All this bullshit started because I took exception to some fucktard (no, not the OP) who was posting pics he secretly took of women with his cell phone on a thread started by the OP. The OP took my comments out of context and thought I was accusing him, which I wasn't, and I TOLD him so. For Christ's sake people, put your big boy and girl panties on and quit being such pussies. If you don't like my comments you can tell me so, I'm a big boy, I can take it. And YES, ignoring comments you don't like and moving on is the grownup thing to do. Alternatively tell me I'm a douchecopter or a twatwaffle...again I can take it. 90% of what I post isn't serious or meant to be taken seriously. I know it pisses some people off if ANY thread doesn't somehow lead to them eventually getting laid. Can't we just joke around in here a little without someone getting their panties all in a wad? Don't take everything so fucking seriously! Now let's all have a big wet sloppy group hug and sing Kumbaya.

We have no idea where it started or came from, nor do we care. We simply responded at a time when somebody was reaching out for a response. So we did.

We go commando more often than not. Not sure if that is big boy or big girl of us but we like it. We don't consider ourselves pussies either. Nor do any of our friends. If somebody doesn't like something you say it doesn't make them a pussy. If somebody doesn't like something I say it most often means that I offended them. Sometimes it means that I was being an asshole.

Not sure what douchecopters or twatwaffles are, are they complements or insults?

I have found more often than not when somebody has taken what I have said out of context it was my failure to properly communicate to them. Then again I may be a douchecopter or a twatwaffle.

Poundcake I agree with your posts on this.
There are 2 or 3 people on here that have to make a joke out of every post. I don't enjoy it, and most of the time I just skip over their comments. I guess they think they are real funny people..... Just my thoughts. Ok now bring on the "funny" comments. You know who you are.

Bummer quitting the game I started but I can't say it wasn

HDWE_WANT_2_PLAY wrote:

Poundcake I agree with your posts on this.
There are 2 or 3 people on here that have to make a joke out of every post. I don't enjoy it, and most of the time I just skip over their comments. I guess they think they are real funny people..... Just my thoughts. Ok now bring on the "funny" comments. You know who you are.

straight up we are VERY thankful there are people like you and yours that know how to give straight up and honest advice. Our appreciation for your approach towards us went a very long way in the comfort level we attained to continue on this journey. Glad we know people like you that we feel comfortable contacting directly for advice.

.....furthermore you both know how to mix in a great sense of humor.

You can give me a hard time about grimmer and spelling, I'm into cars and electronics we never sent email or talked so what was the point.

A few years ago someone had taken control of the forums, the regulars stopped posting because of him, shortly after the new people were posting and given fucked up advice from him, next thing you know they were following his footsteps thinking it was normal. Well in my own nice way I went after him and when it was over SWINGULAR booted him, damn I was proud of myself.
The next day a widow who had been here longer than me left a message in mail. She thanked me for getting rid of him and it needed to be done but asked me to look at how I handled it. Well what the fuck I kicked his ass and won what more did she want.
This is all she asked of me.
Go to SWINGULAR.COM but don't log in under my account.
Look at what I see.
Read one of the forums where I was trashing him.
Read it as if I was someone else.
She had more to say but I got her point. What we say and do in forums reflect on all of us to the outside world. They couldn't see images but the raving lunatic was big and clear Mr. Pervert Me. I never gave him a chance to say anything but from the outside he looked like the nice guy being railroaded out.
The last thing she asked was after reading it would I join SWINGULAR. Guess that is all I have to say.

So I'm asking some of you who have an itch right now please go back and read a few of your comments the same way I did, if you were fucking with friends to me that's great shows we are not wanna be or fake people. Then look at who came in the room and commented, what was said to them and did they come back. Was your comments related to the subject posted or taken somewhere else, did more than one person help take it there. Did you help someone new or confuse them, giving them the idea poor behavior is OK.
Not being a scholar I hope I made my point without pissing more off and sorry to the ones I did. HEHE.

Two things will never change don't confront anyone by name if they are not around to defend themselves because I will. It sucks because in my eyes something is wrong with both of you and would never be a consideration for friend even if only one is right.

The other is don't fuck with newbies no matter how stupid their question might be, joke a little but give them some good advice from your personal experience to help them or leave it to someone else, give them the opportunity to learn and have fun like some of us have and not run with their tail between legs. Remember you were that retard once but look at you now.

Now your all free to kick my ass because its back to pervert pics or pervert something I'm getting stiff from all this stress.

wish I we were so tough......not.

Chivalry and kindness are such a lost art. Pretty sad IMO.

Being an asshole and treating people like shit is becoming the new norm for far too many. These forums are about the same way. People love to make fun of monkeys until they are in the cage. Then it becomes another story entirely.

Taking offense when somebody is purposely trying to be offensive is acceptable in my book. Way more than half of the tough people on this forum have forgotten one of two things.

1. How to be respectful
2. The real life price that can be paid when somebody doesn't know how to shut the fuck up.

EVILDOERS wrote:

Now thats classy.

I guess I am just of a different thread. My friends are as well. I tend to give respect first. People don't have to do anything special to me to get treated the way that I would like to get treated. I choose to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that people are good. It doesn't mean that I leave myself open to being taken advantage of it just means that I prefer to be nice to people rather than give them the first impression that I am some tough ass........or smart ass.

When people come to me for help and ask me a question I try to well.......help them. I also have a real bad habit of complementing people without them being in search of one. I open doors for people too. Like hugging as well and saying thank you.

Personally I have never figured out how to be a nice asshole or respectfully offensive. It doesn't mean I don't have them all in me. We all do. I just make an effort to to feed the dog that people want to pet.

MAPARTY wrote:

The Golden rule... though honorable, is false and written in a book of fairy tales.
When it gets right down to it. People will decide how to treat others, and others will decide how to treat them. Good, bad or indifferent.

Treating others with respect does not in any way mean you'll get the same in return and vice versa.

For me, treating people like an asshole or with respect is determined by what they do (or don't do), their actions, not what comes out of their face.

When it comes to words... whether typing or listening to the hot air that comes out of peoples faces is really just insignificant. People give words too much power and as a result... they offend themselves.

Want respect... show me. Want to be treated like a piece of shit... show me. Prove to me that you deserve to be treated like a human being and you'll get it. Otherwise, you're a waste of my time.



NOTE** And for the easily offended the words "you're" "you" and "you'll" are meant in general and not aimed at anyone specific. Though feel free to take offense.

Breaking bread with you must be a real treat. A meet and greet with you must be more of just a meet without the greet. To each their own.

I like the Golden Rule.

Treat somebody like an asshole and your results are pretty much written in stone.

Gawd I gotta stop drunk posting. So we're all agreed here? As long as we specifically post a disclaimer that any particular post isn't aimed at anyone in particular it's all cool?

I was just wondering which episode of douche or No douche will Dr Phil be on. Love that guy!!

I have to laugh, all I had to do on my own post was wait for same gang mentality show up and take over. No wonder the forums are so dead with HAHA I won't even mention the classy titles posted by the gang they speak for themselves, no wonder you see less and less regular people in forums because you can't have an opinion without being gang clubbed. Maybe you guys should make some group signs to post on your first comment that means don't fuck with me or all my buddies will be here soon. There is no tolerance anymore just a group of people taking control, call it what you want but thats how it is. What is sad is the people that feel the same way as I do are to afraid to state what they see or feel. To me the forums are still great with friends kidding around, to bad the kidding is always directed at someone else instead of each other like it used to be.

007HOTTIE Thanks

Can't we all just get along? I propose a truce and that everyone join me in dancing around the May Pole while plotting the Communist overthrow of the free world. There will be cookies (if my EBT card isn't used up).

Okay, so after reading five pages of this, I have to say
WTF?
From the first post, I have no idea what the OP is bitching about, then it appears this complaint post degenerated (and that was a feat) into bashing all the people who post who various people apparently feel are rude, immature, don't agree with them, are mean and/or say bad things
So, if they can't take a fuck, joke 'em.
And now back to our regularly scheduled piss fest.

Yea if this was Baltimore, Somebody's Mother Would lay the Smack Down on them!