We want to know what it is that attracts people to lifestyles. It seems its acceptance is rapidly spreading and there must be some good reasons. (Now keep in mind, we are talking about lifestyles, not just having sex with a stranger!). SO... I am sure there are many reasons we are all here, but think of the one major reason you really enjoy lifestyles and share it with everyone. Lets try and keep this upbeat and happy, (remember THUMPERS rule, "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anthing at all).
We first stumbled into lifestyles out of sexual curiousity, didnt even know that there was a name other than adultry for what we were doing. It didnt take long for us to find websights that discussed the type of action we were participating in and places where you could chat with other people with similar interests. Not long after we soon began socializing with many of the people we found on these sights that we learned our interest wasnt so much in the intimate side of lifestyles as much as it was finding people who were open with their ideas and feelings. The barriers of societies rules could be smashed and we could relax, have fun and elminate alot of the stress that comes with trying to be what the Victorian World expects and be ourselves. In short, we found that lifestyles brought us much closer to new found friends where we could laugh at taboos, relax and enjoy life. After all, once you shed all your clothes and we are all naked, we are all pretty much the same. The intimacy with each other was a great expression of trust and passion. We learned to love our friends and bond with them in much more meaningful ways other than by our posessions or social class.
We deeply love and appreciate all those people in lifestyles who call us their friends, and the ones we call our friends. (Dont get us wrong, we love the variety of sex too).
So.. whats your favorite reason for being here?
Cyndi
We first stumbled into lifestyles out of sexual curiousity, didnt even know that there was a name other than adultry for what we were doing. It didnt take long for us to find websights that discussed the type of action we were participating in and places where you could chat with other people with similar interests. Not long after we soon began socializing with many of the people we found on these sights that we learned our interest wasnt so much in the intimate side of lifestyles as much as it was finding people who were open with their ideas and feelings. The barriers of societies rules could be smashed and we could relax, have fun and elminate alot of the stress that comes with trying to be what the Victorian World expects and be ourselves. In short, we found that lifestyles brought us much closer to new found friends where we could laugh at taboos, relax and enjoy life. After all, once you shed all your clothes and we are all naked, we are all pretty much the same. The intimacy with each other was a great expression of trust and passion. We learned to love our friends and bond with them in much more meaningful ways other than by our posessions or social class.
We deeply love and appreciate all those people in lifestyles who call us their friends, and the ones we call our friends. (Dont get us wrong, we love the variety of sex too).
So.. whats your favorite reason for being here?
Cyndi
We have to say some of the nicest people we've EVER known we've met while in the lifestyle. Open, honest, fun loving couples who can be themselves with no hang-ups.
This way of life isn't for everyone, but for those of us who have been fortunate to experience the lifestyle, open minded enough to not get hung up on social ideas and preconceived notions, and know all the benefits that are there...it doesn't get any better.
This way of life isn't for everyone, but for those of us who have been fortunate to experience the lifestyle, open minded enough to not get hung up on social ideas and preconceived notions, and know all the benefits that are there...it doesn't get any better.
Where else would you find such a fine array of bisexual women? lol
Cyndi brings out most of the feelings we have about this lifestyle, and we agree with SWMTCPL as far as the kind of people we have encountered. We are almost amazed how nice most of the people envolved in this lifestyle are.
We got into it rather slowly and cautiosly (she seemed to enjoy the thrill of the idea, but was not sure about total commitment for some time), but now it just seems to add another demension to the love and trust we have for each other. We have made a lot of friends as Cyndi has pointed out, that we have something in common with now, and our backrounds don't seem to matter so much. Whats wrong with sex being a hobbie or a past-time, especially if you can make it a social thing also. As Wanda pointed out there is a lot of variety out there to enjoy.
Enjoy each other and the lifestyle everyone,
Mr. Lusty
We got into it rather slowly and cautiosly (she seemed to enjoy the thrill of the idea, but was not sure about total commitment for some time), but now it just seems to add another demension to the love and trust we have for each other. We have made a lot of friends as Cyndi has pointed out, that we have something in common with now, and our backrounds don't seem to matter so much. Whats wrong with sex being a hobbie or a past-time, especially if you can make it a social thing also. As Wanda pointed out there is a lot of variety out there to enjoy.
Enjoy each other and the lifestyle everyone,
Mr. Lusty
People should not confuse love with sex.
We have met many wonderful people in this lifestyle.we have had sex with most and had a great time but we still love each other and always go home together.
Adultery I think would be a word to describe people who cheat on each other.what we do is with each others consent be it same or separate rooms.
It is society that deems this kind of behavior "anti social" and the people who partake in it having low morals.
We,as a couple have high moral values.We have never taken drugs(and i have played drums in bands that had guys who took drugs,I never touched them)We are honest people and have brought our kids up to be honest.
All we do is meet people,socialise with them which includes going to pubs or restaurants and then having sex with them.
I may have gone off the point a bit here.The thread was actually what we like about the lifestyle.Well for us it is meeting people and getting to know them.
The sex bit is good to though.
We have met many wonderful people in this lifestyle.we have had sex with most and had a great time but we still love each other and always go home together.
Adultery I think would be a word to describe people who cheat on each other.what we do is with each others consent be it same or separate rooms.
It is society that deems this kind of behavior "anti social" and the people who partake in it having low morals.
We,as a couple have high moral values.We have never taken drugs(and i have played drums in bands that had guys who took drugs,I never touched them)We are honest people and have brought our kids up to be honest.
All we do is meet people,socialise with them which includes going to pubs or restaurants and then having sex with them.
I may have gone off the point a bit here.The thread was actually what we like about the lifestyle.Well for us it is meeting people and getting to know them.
The sex bit is good to though.
What we enjoy most is the feeling of being comfortable and welcome. Everyone at a lifestyles party, club or bar, seems to be comfortable and welcoming. At a regular bar, club or vanilla party, people seem guarded and apprehensive. There is a feeling of tension.
Only at a lifestyle event do we feel comfortable enough to walk up to someone new and say
Only at a lifestyle event do we feel comfortable enough to walk up to someone new and say
In theory, the lifestyle is perfect for us. We have never regretted starting this adventure and still believe that it is right for us. We have met some wonderful friends and have had many very erotic and fun experiences. Can you feel the "but" coming here. LOL. We are beginning to see the very things we came to the lifestyle to avoid popping up everywhere. Closed-mindness, judgment, and dishonesty are invading the ranks. It is our belief that the lifestyle is supposed to be about open-mindness, acceptance, freedom, and fun. Other words also come to mind like variety, new experiences, non-judgment, truth, love, and joy. BUT (there it is), not only are we judged by the "vanilla" world (and that is okay; we expected that), we are judged by our own. You are too fat, you are too old, you have tatoos, etc., etc. A couple actually told us that we were incompatible because I had tatoos. One on each arm- OMG! LOL. We realize that people have preferences, but come on, two tatoos? It is not like I am the illustrated man. My point is this: let's not judge each other when we don't even know each other, let's not create social classes within our lifestyle, and , for God's sake people. let's be honest with each other. If you are on a swingers site to get your rocks off by cyber-chatting, then disclose to others what you are doing and wanting. Don't tell people you are going to meet them when you have no intention of doing so. Don't act like you are a couple when you are a single male or a cheating husband. Most of us are doing this to meet good people and have good sex. Let us do that without having to wade through dishonesty and hypocrisy. Let's do what we came here for--HAVE FUN! We love the lifestyle and, for the most part, love the wonderful people we have met. Let's keep it going and not ruin it.
We like the lifestyle because of the friends we make. Also Love the sex of course. Love being able to explore what we do and don't like without limitations. My wife has given me so much pleasure and I want to give her more pleasure, even if it means having a dozen people help me. :-) Love being free of the conventions of life. LOL Must rebellion against 20 years in military. :-)
We are fairly new to the lifestyle but what we have found that attracts us and keeps us interested is.
1-Are marriage was very solid and we still feel like newlyweds but we found that when we went out out with other couples (straight) that the secret conversations always went back to how unhappy and boring their lifes were together.
2-We had no intention of really ever being considered as part of the lifestyle but wanted to spice up are lives and made a few trips to Jamaica (Hedo 3) where we met a number of people in the lifestyle that we found to be very nice, polite, fun, and most of all really enjoyed and loved their mate.
3-We then attended a few local lifestyle parties (private house) and it kind of scared us away as we really were not interested in all the sexual swapping thing. But we still found the people to be exceptionally nice and fun to be around.
4-We joined Swingular as just an expierement and made it clear in our profile that we were only looking for good friendships and if anything happened after that, then we would not say no to a good thing that felt right.
5-Our first few meet and greets were just incredible and fun and we then dared to meet with couples away from the safe surrondings of a club or public event.
6-Now after meeting a number of couples we have found nothing but very nice and sincere people that are always concerned about everybodies happiness. We now usually invite couples over to our house on a regular basis. Sometimes we go beyond just the friendship and party, sometimes we don't. But we have never felt pressured.
7-Maybe we just got lucky and met all the good people first, but to answer the question, what we like best is the friendship and the excitement of the thought of something more, even if it does not happen. But the most important is that we now feel like we are a part of a group of people who are truly happy with their mates and life in general. The positive and friendly attitude is what we like most.........and that is what makes people sexy in our eyes....
1-Are marriage was very solid and we still feel like newlyweds but we found that when we went out out with other couples (straight) that the secret conversations always went back to how unhappy and boring their lifes were together.
2-We had no intention of really ever being considered as part of the lifestyle but wanted to spice up are lives and made a few trips to Jamaica (Hedo 3) where we met a number of people in the lifestyle that we found to be very nice, polite, fun, and most of all really enjoyed and loved their mate.
3-We then attended a few local lifestyle parties (private house) and it kind of scared us away as we really were not interested in all the sexual swapping thing. But we still found the people to be exceptionally nice and fun to be around.
4-We joined Swingular as just an expierement and made it clear in our profile that we were only looking for good friendships and if anything happened after that, then we would not say no to a good thing that felt right.
5-Our first few meet and greets were just incredible and fun and we then dared to meet with couples away from the safe surrondings of a club or public event.
6-Now after meeting a number of couples we have found nothing but very nice and sincere people that are always concerned about everybodies happiness. We now usually invite couples over to our house on a regular basis. Sometimes we go beyond just the friendship and party, sometimes we don't. But we have never felt pressured.
7-Maybe we just got lucky and met all the good people first, but to answer the question, what we like best is the friendship and the excitement of the thought of something more, even if it does not happen. But the most important is that we now feel like we are a part of a group of people who are truly happy with their mates and life in general. The positive and friendly attitude is what we like most.........and that is what makes people sexy in our eyes....
First, We love the openness and honesty of the people in the lifestyle.
Second, Fulfilling fantasies is so much fun, whethere they are ours or our partner's.
It is as simple as that for us.
Monte and Jolene
Second, Fulfilling fantasies is so much fun, whethere they are ours or our partner's.
It is as simple as that for us.
Monte and Jolene
I love the relaxed and openess of it all.
Its very liberating.
I was stuck in a passionless marriage for 14 years, and love the open sensuality and fun nature of everyone I have met.
Scott
Its very liberating.
I was stuck in a passionless marriage for 14 years, and love the open sensuality and fun nature of everyone I have met.
Scott