Just wondering if anyone has ever had a challenging experience with someone or another couple and how you dealt with it?
This was ours.....
We had a threesome with a guy. This guy must have been intimidated by being with a couple, it was his first time and this is what we think was the reason why he had issues. The problem was that he had an issue getting hard and maintaining it. It was tough to deal with but we had patience, we went as far as me leaving my wife alone with him for some time to try and make him feel comfortable, thinking that if I wasn't there watching and her being naked he would just roll right into. Well that didn't work either. He did finally get an erection but it was gone quickly. It was a challenge to say the least and we didn't get to do everything we wanted to with him and us, but we didn't let that stop us from having fun.
We had a great time putting a show on for him and it is always fun having people watch you!
We would love to hear if anyone else had any "challenges" like this one or if you haven't how would you have dealt with this one??
This was ours.....
We had a threesome with a guy. This guy must have been intimidated by being with a couple, it was his first time and this is what we think was the reason why he had issues. The problem was that he had an issue getting hard and maintaining it. It was tough to deal with but we had patience, we went as far as me leaving my wife alone with him for some time to try and make him feel comfortable, thinking that if I wasn't there watching and her being naked he would just roll right into. Well that didn't work either. He did finally get an erection but it was gone quickly. It was a challenge to say the least and we didn't get to do everything we wanted to with him and us, but we didn't let that stop us from having fun.
We had a great time putting a show on for him and it is always fun having people watch you!
We would love to hear if anyone else had any "challenges" like this one or if you haven't how would you have dealt with this one??
You did great in a "soft " situation...LOL Patience, go with what you have and have fun with the cards you are dealt. Too much pressure would have really killed it for him...all D would say is if you can't get it hard you better have some GREAT tongue technique...LOL
We have been in somewhat the same situation but it was a couple. They failed to inform us the hubby had a failure to rise to the occasion problem. It was rather uncomfy at first but we just made do and like Raz gave him a show. I feel as though if there is something everyone "needs" to know then please tell them upfront,I mean jeez ya don't wanna think its something you did or didn't do. Also we were once with a cpl who "HATE" condoms and he swore that using one would kill the moment and I tactfully informed not using one would also kill the moment if he got my drift. My hubby uses one all the time with other women and I expect the same respect. Well amazing but it didn't kill the moment and he wore one 
....sometimes situations are very stressful though in some ppls defense but like I said honesty is the best policy if you KNOW that being watched or something is going to kill the ole boy over so to speak 
Becky and Jimmy
....sometimes situations are very stressful though in some ppls defense but like I said honesty is the best policy if you KNOW that being watched or something is going to kill the ole boy over so to speak Becky and Jimmy
Been on both sides of this one, I guess if you play long enough most everyone's going to have a bad night sooner or later. It's happened to my wife a couple times, she's real easy going - she was a little frustrated but she knows the guy feels bad enough, so she's pretty good about it. (And more than ready for some fun when we get home LOL) For what it's worth, I found it tough the first couple times we played. Didn't mind my wife playing at all, but I found it awkward having sex with another guy in the room and there was really a lot of anxiety because of the situation. I got over that in a hurry though...
In my case, I usually don't get any complaints, but when I have had an off night, I go out of my way to satisfy orally and do anything I can to make the woman feel good. And I've made up for it the next time.
In my case, I usually don't get any complaints, but when I have had an off night, I go out of my way to satisfy orally and do anything I can to make the woman feel good. And I've made up for it the next time.
Sounds like you handled that situation very tactfully. Lucky guy! And good for you that you were able to make the best of the situation and still have fun. That is what this is all about isn't it? As a single the most difficult situation I ran into was with a couple who were supposedly looking for a third to share some fun with. We met, all seemed well, then went to their room. As I was undressing her she began to cry and then fight with him, saying this was all his idea and she never did want to do it. I went from being aroused to feeling badly for her. I am not at all into hurting anyones feelings or forcing anything on anyone. I tried to console her and then dressed and left. Can't say it was a fun experience but hope they sorted out their disagreements. Fortunately, I next met with a couple who both thoroughly enjoyed 3some fun! You have to make the best of the difficult times and appreciate the good ones even more!
Jay
Jay
We have seen other couples in same room situations that had the soft issue. It all comes down to nerves though we did hear from one couple where they invited a single male and found out afterward that he was so nervous he had did a few drinks before coming over. Which as some might know can cause the soft issue as well.
Comfort level is so important.
Comfort level is so important.
We actually have some friends that primarily like to have a single male join them to have sex with the wife while the husband watches.
They have said that most (in their words, nine times out of ten) the guys can't get it up, or keep it up. They have also said that every single guy who can't get it up asks if they can go without a condom and that would allow them to keep it hard.
Personally, when I was single, I would not have had a hard time keeping it up for a beautiful married woman who wanted me to do her - condom or not!
They have said that most (in their words, nine times out of ten) the guys can't get it up, or keep it up. They have also said that every single guy who can't get it up asks if they can go without a condom and that would allow them to keep it hard.
Personally, when I was single, I would not have had a hard time keeping it up for a beautiful married woman who wanted me to do her - condom or not!
Wow... I can't believe this problem isn't more common than what it seems in what I have read so far. My hubby is not shy or the nervous type at all, but almost all 1st times with new couples go the same way, and I have seen it on both sides too. A lot of the couples we meet have that problem the first time too... but then get better the more they get to know us.
I love guys, but they are so damn paranoid about their erections.
Here's my simple view - if the equipment that you want to use isn't working, let's try some different equipment. The quick inventory reveals hands, lips, legs, arms, bodies, tongues, etc. etc.
All of those items have the ability to arouse me. To paraphrase a famous criminal attorney -
if the dick don't fit, you must switch!
Here's my simple view - if the equipment that you want to use isn't working, let's try some different equipment. The quick inventory reveals hands, lips, legs, arms, bodies, tongues, etc. etc.
All of those items have the ability to arouse me. To paraphrase a famous criminal attorney -
if the dick don't fit, you must switch!
hehh, I have personally found that a bit too much alcohol and '1st time experiences' do not add up to a good recipe for maintaining a nice erection! It's funny, cuz if you're at all nervous, you're going to drink a bit more to calm the nerves. Unfortunately, it tends to block some major 'happy thoughts' going down to your lil pal...
I've been on the 'short side' (rofl) of it only twice in my life, and thankfully I have been able to 'atone' for my performance in subsequent sessions!
I've been on the 'short side' (rofl) of it only twice in my life, and thankfully I have been able to 'atone' for my performance in subsequent sessions!
Actually in my 25 years I have never encountered this, neither has my hubby. The only thing that alcohol has ever done to him (he really doesn't drink anyway) was to enhance his stamina. In otherwords a couple of times it took him a while to ejaculate. He is very easily aroused, just brush up againist his nipples and he is there. "J"
sometimes with new cpls this happens we then resort to alot of oral stimulation and Ihave yet to have alady complain :-) At times a guy may be just plain exhausted it happens you just have to make the best of a soft situation and Oh Viagra does help lol.
i have been there too. usually it boils down to being too nervous. hell it's like being 15 again....LOL
1st time is never the best, that is why we like 2nd, 3rd, 4th and so times, making friends,(does not have to be buddys, or move in with you) people you can talk to more than about sex... is what really makes the life great...
our continuing story....
rich has a severly broken leg right now... the people that are making life work for us for the most part are swing friends, some are on the site...
we had just contracted on a house befor rich's leg, closed from the hospital, a couple we have known for a while got a truck and moved us in our new home... the wife of a couple (on this site) has been taking rich to his appointents, which until recently were every day, her husband fix and painted one of the rooms in the new place just befor the move in... rich's best friend, a single male (on this site)has been there, and a single female friend has been too... many other couples have come by and done a little even if it was a ride to get lunch or dinner... and rich really appreciates the sympathy blow jobs...
not everyone you play with will make a connection, but trying for that connection is the best part... and for us, right now, if not for the swingers in our lives, we would be lost in trying to works things out.
our continuing story....
rich has a severly broken leg right now... the people that are making life work for us for the most part are swing friends, some are on the site...
we had just contracted on a house befor rich's leg, closed from the hospital, a couple we have known for a while got a truck and moved us in our new home... the wife of a couple (on this site) has been taking rich to his appointents, which until recently were every day, her husband fix and painted one of the rooms in the new place just befor the move in... rich's best friend, a single male (on this site)has been there, and a single female friend has been too... many other couples have come by and done a little even if it was a ride to get lunch or dinner... and rich really appreciates the sympathy blow jobs...
not everyone you play with will make a connection, but trying for that connection is the best part... and for us, right now, if not for the swingers in our lives, we would be lost in trying to works things out.
OMG, he couldn't get it up with her..........Noticed your pics, very nice. Hope we get the chance to cum to NY sometime..............
And here we were thinking we were the only ones this happened to! Picked up a single guy in Atlanta one night. The wife took him to our room, because he said that he would ne more comfortable that way. I walked in about 20 minutes later. He could not get an erection at all. This was the first time this happened to us. I asked him if I needed to leave to "help" him out. But no go. He simple could not get an erection. Then he gets an attitude. He keeps telling the wife to "move that sexy cunt here". "Let me suck hour tit's, Bitch!" That cut it all. He was told to get up and leave. Just shows ya how carefull you must be,