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I Mrs Sins, don't get on the site much. Leave it up to Mr. Sins. I am so wondering why so many single female profiles that once you read then, 3/4 way though..... Oh and my husband.... Why not just get a couples profile!!!!
So, if you are a married female that is on the site as a single profile, does your husband know? And if so or not, are you playing and looking for FWB's on the side or actually in the life?
Drama!
Well my husband and I both had profiles (singles) on here when we met. After we got married we established a couples profile. That being said, we still play separatly on occasion, so we keep the single profiles as well. It works for us.
Boy, this is a rare one. A discussion about women, rather than men, misrepresenting themselves.

I see two possibilities for a married woman wanting a single woman's profile (with the root reason in both cases being that it'll get a lot of attention). One is that she wants to play alone and has her husband's blessing even though he doesn't swing (or maybe he does, but it's OK for her to swing alone when they aren't swinging as a couple - in that case she could have "plays alone" on their couple's profile, but a single female profile will draw more interest.) The other is that she's cheating on her husband. But there's a relatively simple way to avoid the second category. Just contact the husband and make sure it's OK. I can't see any man being upset if someone checked to be sure it was fine with him for someone to play with his wife. If the woman comes up with reasons it isn't possible for you to contact him, there's a good chance she is cheating, so you don't want to mess with her anyway.

I don't see anything wrong with a single person, of either sex, having a single person's profile if he/she plays alone, not with his/her spouse (although why any male would want a single male profile if he could have a couple's profile is beyond me). In those circumstances, the person is, for all practical intents and purposes, single.

It certainly works in the other direction. Although I'm half of a couple, I can't go to anything that says "no single men" if for any reason my wife isn't going to that specific party or event. For example, over the holidays my wife had to work both Christmas and New Year's eves, and I knew of a house party New Year's eve, at a place we'd been to other times. Knowing the host, knowing I'd know most of the guests, and not wanting to spend 2 holidays nights i a row sitting home alone, I sent the host an email, asking if it'd be OK if I attended alone since my wife had to work. He responded that he'd have to ask the other guests how they'd feel about a single male attending. Not how they'd feel about a married guy without his wife, how they'd feel about a single guy.

So married men become single men if their wives aren't there. Why can't married women become single women when their husbands aren't there? As long as you check with the husband, I just don't see the problem. And as to women who have a single woman's profile, and someplace in it mention a husband, it seems to me that it's likely they aren't cheating, because if they were they wouldn't want anyone to know the husband even existed. ~ Terry
I see this subject pop up fairly frequently on the forums (we're on several different swing sites). Seems to really perturb some people and I'm not sure why exactly. Is it because you sorta get your hopes up finding a unicorn? At least, the way you present it, they ultimately DO mention their husbands. There are PLENTY of people (mostly guys but some women too) who never do mention they are in a relationship...or possibly worse, they sort of bait and switch you and suddenly announce the existence of a partner after you've agreed to meet that will apparently be part of the equation. We don't really mind that much if someone has a singles profile but then mentions a partner in their profile. At least we know at that point and can make an informed decision and all we've wasted is a few seconds (or hours if we're reading a profile like ours) of our time reading their profile. We view something like this in the same category as any other profile we are initially interested in only to read a few paragraphs in that the person or couple are GINORMOUS twatwaffles (disclaimer: few actually admit this in their profiles) who are completely mentally unbalanced, own an ungodly amount of firearms and feast on roadkill tartare and don't floss before play dates.
To paraphrase Stephan Hawkins theology is a great subject for people to debate about when they are young because you do not have to include any facts in the discussion. Coming to conclusions about people and their behaviors and their motives may well be a similar pursuit. Our self image and any and all collective images we embrace within any partnership or community will be, to at least some degree, a subject of self construct within us that we ourselves will continue to access and redefine. Beyond the facts of our biology and our physiology, which are also ever changing, much of what we all project as our image and how we actually behave will contain a certainly level of contradictions. As for the science of human behavior the facts seem to suggest that we are never really a truly centered being but rather comprised of almost innumerable unified fields functioning within a series of unified fields. We are ever changing and ever reacting often colliding unable to ever maintain a truly definable state for more than a microsecond. Perhaps incapable of ever really appreciating that our inability to be nailed down in a place of certainty is the only road to harmony. Honesty can be an intention and for us, it is an important aspect of a persons intent but perceiving and defining an honest person is perhap's impossible through their profile content. Catching a person with dishonest intent is not so hard to do.
At the risk of taking this even further off topic...I look at honesty the same way I look at sin (not that I believe in the concept of sin). Observing and talking to my neighbors I've discovered that the majority have little "pet" sins that they unilaterally seem to deem more important to avoid than other sins. Some of my neighbors would never consider shopping on Sunday but don't have a problem working in their yards in rather skimpy (for them) attire during the summer. Others seem adamant that church attendance is more than mandatory but have no problem hitting Chuck A Rama after church. Still others are devout temple goers yet have confided that they have a single glass of champagne on New Years Eve. Honesty, to me, appears very similar. I know many swingers who are less than honest about their weight and/or age yet really seem to get upset if someone is less than honest about their relationship status. Still others state they are disease and drug free and demand the same in others yet I've seen them with cold sores (yup that's HSV people) and regularly partake in pot or use illegally obtained erection enhancing drugs. Honesty, like many things in life, is apparently quite flexible and indeed seems to be a matter of perspective.

ps- Not bashing, insinuating or otherwise making any kind of judgment about the OP's or anyone else in this thread. Just some general observations.
Well, If befor the single gal came over to play we met the husband forst. But the thought of Daddy showing up wanting to pound the misses down for turning his little lady. Sounds bad!

As for My I just whip it out and I suspect he would say, Oh, thanks for helping her appreciate me.
We gave up hunting for unicorns long ago and since found that we actually prefer the company of couples. We may accept a friend request from the occasional single without any expectations of any type. Doesn't bother us if her profile says single woman, but if there is a man in her life we just hope he's involved.
I was just curious as to why, it's their own decision:) it's not that I or us is looking for that exclusive unicorn, we have a few in our stable that we luv to death, and vise versa. So in conclusion, was just a curiosity in my head :)
Fwiw, back in the day it was quite common for people to have both a couples profile as well as a single profile for the woman to get her jollies. Now I guess everything's too PC for that kind of nonsense.
in general its just a way to attempt to get more attention...do single females profiles get the most views? I'm sure they do, sure it's a bit dishonest but so are most marketing techniques and that's all this is
I dislike any misrepresentation in a profile.

The one that irks me most often is when a profile lists interests as "SF, CPL, SM" & then you read about 9 paragraphs of the profile & run into a sentence that says something like "absolutely no single males what so ever, don't even think about it!" I mean, thanks for wasting my time. Couldn't you please just be nice enough not to list SM is your "likes"?

Oh well, to each their own.
I would assume they have the same problem I have. We are now a couple, but you notice my profile is single ? Why you ask ? well try and get them to change your profile ? I think it in one way generates more revenue for the site, fine. I have yet to have any success getting our status changed.

Why not just create a new one ? Well, we have, but I still find that I live on and keep my old one as it has all the friends on it, all the message history, anything and everything that helps me remember. I simply want this profile to be a couples profile. I don't even mind paying them. it just seems impossible on this given site. I have been on here forever, have tons of friends, and I am not willing to start over.

Just my twisted opinion, maybe others are in the same situation, or maybe they are dishonest. My guess would be some of both.