Another post about lack of performance got me to thinking about a kind-of opposite problem: taking a really really long time.
Some guys are cursed with cumming too fast, some take too long, and the guys in the Goldilocks Zone are just right.
It can be situational, but there are guys who "can last for hours". How much thrusting time is good for you ladies or couples? When do you start to think: "Finish already!"?
Some guys are cursed with cumming too fast, some take too long, and the guys in the Goldilocks Zone are just right.
It can be situational, but there are guys who "can last for hours". How much thrusting time is good for you ladies or couples? When do you start to think: "Finish already!"?
Yeah anything over say 8-10 minutes, especially with a condom on, will earn you a "I really need a drink/have to pee/am missing my fav tv show." from Ms. Evil. I know it's supposedly "cool" to have porn star-like stamina and pound a woman like you're up for a...whatever the equivalent of an Oscar is to the porn industry, but I guarantee you're not doing 99 out of 100 ladies a favor going on that long. If ya can't cum in a reasonable amount of time it's a "nice guy" thing to do to pull out and say "Wow, that was great." and WAIT to see if she wants to continue or to help you get off in another manner or to go watch The Bachelor recap on Kimmel. 
I'd say several minutes in each of a wide array of positions is enjoyable; ten straight minutes in any single position gets dull and potentially raw/painful regardless of orgasm. One's mindset goes from, 'This is new and great and what can I do w/ my body to mesh w/ this well?' to 'This is pleasant but are either of us going to orgasm from it?' to 'When can we stop doing this thing that is now less than pleasant?'.
Like any performance for others, it's better to leave them wanting more than regretting how much there was.
Like any performance for others, it's better to leave them wanting more than regretting how much there was.
I agree with Cheffette, moving from position to position saves the I'm sorry this doesn't happen often comments or but sure it was the best 37 1/2 seconds of your life comments. In my case, some women have made me pop almost instantly and thankfully I had been able to get them off once or twice before hand. A current partner of mine can go for hours and with her for some reason she can keep me from cumming until she wants me to. I can say for most things, its all chemistry between partners.
Completely situational. We both can go for hours if we want to. The first night we were together was 6 hours of many positions and activities. Dozens of orgasms for her and one for him. Both of us loved it and knew we had found something special.
With other couples we try to figure out what they prefer and be flexible. He is rather large so some girls want him to go forever and some are done after 15 min. She can also go for hours so it is either multiple guys or we finish together.
Unlike the can't last "long enough" question I think "too long" indicates a lack of communication. Whether you know each other well or not a little instruction from her should not cause hurt feelings. If it does you just learned something important. This applies both ways. If he isn't done in 15 min and you are either find something else to do or just accept that it takes him longer and it is no reflection on you. To be happy in this lifestyle you have to keep your expectations to a minimum and learn to read each partner.
With other couples we try to figure out what they prefer and be flexible. He is rather large so some girls want him to go forever and some are done after 15 min. She can also go for hours so it is either multiple guys or we finish together.
Unlike the can't last "long enough" question I think "too long" indicates a lack of communication. Whether you know each other well or not a little instruction from her should not cause hurt feelings. If it does you just learned something important. This applies both ways. If he isn't done in 15 min and you are either find something else to do or just accept that it takes him longer and it is no reflection on you. To be happy in this lifestyle you have to keep your expectations to a minimum and learn to read each partner.
..Very well said.. With you on all of it! 
PEACE~
PEACE~I'm a squirter- so "marathon men" tend to dehydrate me beyond ny REO patience level so I find myself wondering off either physically or mentally. Time-wise, 10-15 seems to be my upper limit.
I am one of those that outlast the enjoyment most of time. Wear the old body out before finishing a lot of times. But ladies; believe me when I say,, it is no reflection on you,, sometimes it just feels SO GOOD, I hate for it to end! And as in any trip,, it isn't always the destination,, some times it is more fun getting there! If I don't finish,, it has still been fun, don't fret about it!
I'm not sure if it's stamina or just having so many orgasms so often that your sensitivity gets dulled.
If I've masturbated that morning, then it will be really hard for me to cum while wearing a condom that afternoon. A friend of mine had a bf, she would make him hold off for at least 3 days before fucking her, otherwise he'd lost sensitivity from cumming too often, making it hard for him to cum.
If I purposely hold off on masturbating for a few days, my sensitivity increases more than ten fold.
If I've masturbated that morning, then it will be really hard for me to cum while wearing a condom that afternoon. A friend of mine had a bf, she would make him hold off for at least 3 days before fucking her, otherwise he'd lost sensitivity from cumming too often, making it hard for him to cum.
If I purposely hold off on masturbating for a few days, my sensitivity increases more than ten fold.
I never cum. Ejaculating diminishes your sexual chi (or some other such oriental bullshit nonsense). I just fuck a lot and choke my chicken a lot...but I never let my chicken spew forth my precious life essence. So yeah I'm pretty fucking horny ALL the time and my balls are like 20 lbs. a piece by now and are a nice dark purplish black color. At this point most women could pretty much just look at me sideways and I'd explode with the approximate force of a 5 megaton bomb. 