We can't help but notice how the I seem to get singled out in encounters and my wife gets all the attention. Or that when she walks through the local swing club everyone makes comments to her and will get 'handy' when Im not around. If I approach or walk through with her, conversations end and people won't play anymore.
We have a few single girls who say they are willing to go to a room and play, and play with my wife openly. But when we try to take them up on the offer they seem to have excuses or avoid the topic.
Its really bothering us both, we're just wondering if other couples are seeing the same problems??
We have a few single girls who say they are willing to go to a room and play, and play with my wife openly. But when we try to take them up on the offer they seem to have excuses or avoid the topic.
Its really bothering us both, we're just wondering if other couples are seeing the same problems??
There could be a couple reasons.
First, women are definitely more in demand than men. It's just the nature of numbers. Second, it could just be a run of bad luck.
Amy ALWAYS gets more attention. Partially because I'm relatively passive when it comes to the chase, but a lot of the time, it's because she's the extrovert. She catches people's eyes, whereas I'm mostly trying to stay out of the limelight.
-Greg
First, women are definitely more in demand than men. It's just the nature of numbers. Second, it could just be a run of bad luck.
Amy ALWAYS gets more attention. Partially because I'm relatively passive when it comes to the chase, but a lot of the time, it's because she's the extrovert. She catches people's eyes, whereas I'm mostly trying to stay out of the limelight.
-Greg
You will find alot of cpls say they are full swing when in reality they say that to attract attention then you find out they are either looking for girl on girl or itsw o.k. for thier hubby to join the two girls but you are not to touch his wife/girlfriend. Its ashame that more people cannot be honest in this lifestyle we can asssure you if we were to ever meet we would all play :-) Toobad we live so far away.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
I am amazed at the number of couples that are only out for single females.
Is that really swinging?
Or is that the husband talking the wife into letting him get his jollies.
I can see it when the wife or GF is bi, but there are a lot of couples that the woman is straight.
Swinging is meant to be what each member of the couple wants.
Back when my serious girlfriend and I swung together, we did everything openly together.
She was more than welcome to a MFM. We usually played with other couples, but did do FMF once also. I felt like Ross from friends though. You know, the threesome where his lady and the other were more interested in each other than me. lol It was still fun though.
We both had veto rights if there was something that made us uncomfortable.
It never happened.
Is that really swinging?
Or is that the husband talking the wife into letting him get his jollies.
I can see it when the wife or GF is bi, but there are a lot of couples that the woman is straight.
Swinging is meant to be what each member of the couple wants.
Back when my serious girlfriend and I swung together, we did everything openly together.
She was more than welcome to a MFM. We usually played with other couples, but did do FMF once also. I felt like Ross from friends though. You know, the threesome where his lady and the other were more interested in each other than me. lol It was still fun though.
We both had veto rights if there was something that made us uncomfortable.
It never happened.
Well,.. let me just interject some things here.. It would seem only natural that in order for all to be involved there should be chemistry between all. We have noticed that there are couples.. that the female is gorgeous.. and the male.. well, I'd have to take it for the team or vice versa where the guy is hot and the female side.. etc. I realise it is rare to find truly compatible couples where all are into each other, but that is definitely Ideal. Some times it just ends up the other way around.
Maggi
Maggi
Everybody is hot for B... I. like a couple of others here, am very laid back and don't really go for the chase. People like me and I'm not let out but all too often men will come up to B and ask her if she will play by herself. If she wants to OK.. NP but most of the time she will tell them that we play together....Nice way to say I don't want to play with you, without being too blunt. I've actually been told by the guy in a couple that his wife would like to play with me but that, and I quote, "I would have to guide her hand to my crotch because she is so laid back" As for taking one for the team..... If B icks a couple and they are amenable, I'm not so picky... I like women of all dimentions and most looks. I am not so much into looks if she has a nice smile and a nice personality...Fun is fun and people are not all in the same skin as the Barbies and Kens that we all hear about... Of course a good looking lady is very nice too, so long as she has the personality to go with the looks...
If you are ugly but have a great personality... you will probably have to find ways to overcome your handycaps... Talk to people get to know tham and them to know you... You may not be as ugly as once thought... and them taking one for the team becomes the team that takes one together. Maybe I'm learning something new but the older and the uglier I get the more women seem to like me... do women like fat old ugly men for a reason..... So if you are a male and having the "I'd rather play with you and not him" syndrom.. Hold on, get fat wait till you are older and uglier and see what happens.... Works for me....LOL Have fun and Play nice...
Ray
If you are ugly but have a great personality... you will probably have to find ways to overcome your handycaps... Talk to people get to know tham and them to know you... You may not be as ugly as once thought... and them taking one for the team becomes the team that takes one together. Maybe I'm learning something new but the older and the uglier I get the more women seem to like me... do women like fat old ugly men for a reason..... So if you are a male and having the "I'd rather play with you and not him" syndrom.. Hold on, get fat wait till you are older and uglier and see what happens.... Works for me....LOL Have fun and Play nice...
Ray
We kind of find ourselves in the category you mentioned. She is the gorgeous female and I am the so so male. :-) And yes I do feel the odd man out.
We do have a rule that rather than taking one for the team if she is attracted to the couple and I am not their cup of tea she has the option of playing alone with them. She just has to tell me all about it. Then when a time comes (although rare) where she is odd person out I have the same option. Luckily that is a very rare and most of the time we find that all parties are on the same sheet of music. I can't say being old, fat and ugly has been an advantage but then I will have to work on it. LOL
Ok... now I've seen it all.....
Yes this is somewhat out of context, but can a single male actually say this?????
"I am amazed at the number of couples that are only out for single females. Is that really swinging?"
That's it... I can go croak now because I've seen it all. This has nothing to do with single male bashing... I'm just at a total loss for words after seeing that!
Yes this is somewhat out of context, but can a single male actually say this?????
"I am amazed at the number of couples that are only out for single females. Is that really swinging?"
That's it... I can go croak now because I've seen it all. This has nothing to do with single male bashing... I'm just at a total loss for words after seeing that!
will probably open a