To go along with the thread about Advice For Single Males I thought I'd throw out this question. Had a discussion recently in a chatroom (no, not on Swingular) about the ever increasing number of single females in the lifestyle. Despite the moniker "unicorn", by all accounts the number of single females is increasing at a rapid pace. So my question (and of course poll) to the single guys would be if you have ever or are currently actively looking for a woman to join you in your swinging adventures.
1) I've looked and tried extensively to find a partner to swing with.
2) I've never really tried to find a woman to partner with in swinging.
3) I don't really think there ARE all that many single females in swinging.
4) I really like being a single male in swinging. Don't need a partner in crime.
5) If I ever find a great lady we definitely won't swing.
6) Females (married or not) willing to swing are EXTREMELY rare.
7) Most swingle females don't meet my standards.
8) I'm actively looking and WILL find my unicorn!
9) A partner would likely be a hindrance to me in swinging.
10) I'm pretty high maintenance and doubt a female (swinger or not) would have me.
Feel free to suggest any other possible poll responses pertinent to this thread.
1) I've looked and tried extensively to find a partner to swing with.
2) I've never really tried to find a woman to partner with in swinging.
3) I don't really think there ARE all that many single females in swinging.
4) I really like being a single male in swinging. Don't need a partner in crime.
5) If I ever find a great lady we definitely won't swing.
6) Females (married or not) willing to swing are EXTREMELY rare.
7) Most swingle females don't meet my standards.
8) I'm actively looking and WILL find my unicorn!
9) A partner would likely be a hindrance to me in swinging.
10) I'm pretty high maintenance and doubt a female (swinger or not) would have me.
Feel free to suggest any other possible poll responses pertinent to this thread.
11) I swing with a unicorn from time to time depending on their availability.
Mav
Mav
SIREROS wrote:
3) I don't really think there ARE all that many single females in swinging. I do swing with a rare single female, and I spend a lot of time looking for them. My experience is that the vast majority of "single" women here are actually married posing as singles. Funny because the men who get caught doing the same thing are judged harshly by the swing community. And the women are praised for being a Unicorn who will play alone ..
Any unicorn who is actually married and cheating will be getting a bad rep too. No double standard there.
Add to the poll: actively looking for gf vanilla or unicorn, but if I find a vanilla girlfriend, I will see if she is open to joining the lifestyle.
8. Always looking for a partner in crime, but for now the girls in with are reluctant to join in the fun. So; I'll keep the hunt for the mystical unicorns going, there out there , just need to keep up the hunt.
Single females who willing to swing with a single guy are hard to find and seem almost nonexistent. That does not or should not stop a single guy from looking though. Trying to convert a vanilla girlfriend over to the "dark side" is like trying to take peanuts from an elephant. That normally doesn't end well at all...
Maybe a better question, then, is how many single guys are looking for an actual partner rather than just a swing partner. I've heard a few single females say that single males simply want a single female as a "ticket" to get into couples only events. On the other hand threads by single males asking how/where to find women who are willing to swing are fairly common. I guess maybe some single guys really don't want to be in any kind of relationship and thus aren't actively looking while others definitely are looking for a life partner or at least a girlfriend who might be willing to swing. I think another good question to add to the poll might be "Is willingness to swing a major criteria for you in looking for a woman to be with?" or at the other end of the spectrum, "Do you even WANT to be in a relationship with a woman?" LOL
While my greatest enjoyment comes from joining couples who are looking to make the "lady" the absolute center of attention and double her pleasures, I have actually enjoyed having the new and novice "unicorn" join me for a few occasions. The result I have found is that while they enjoyed the comfort level of having a former Marine along with them to act as their personal security detachment, they were usually looking more for girl on girl play or FMF, and thus when we would join couples more often than not the other male and myself were more on the sidelines than in the mist of the fun, and while I enjoy the watching and being watched aspect of playtime, I also enjoy when the coach gives me the sign to come off the bench and get in the game.
So, while I'd not turn down any future invites from a unicorn to be a "partner" in playtime, I still prefer the couples who are secure in their relationships and enjoy adding the extra male.
Two other things I have also found that has been somewhat disappointing is that when I do find a new or novice single female and she is listed as straight or curious, that the results have been she is actually looking for a LTR, and after some brief lifestyle fun she wants to be exclusive and not bring others into the fun. And the other is I have found a great deal of the single straight females joining here and other sites such as SLS are actually Craigslist pros trying to lure new business. So, to those who have also encounter those "ladies" I do hope you have flat out turned them down and sent them away, because when you pay to play, you might as well walk in the nearest medical research lab and ask for a does of their freshest STD....I arrived on site clean, safe, DDF and intend to leave that way. So, Hope I didn't get long winded and sound like a rant, just chiming in one the question. And to all those couples who enjoy us single males and don't refer to us as disgusting and a dime a dozen...Thanks for the hot, fun and great times.
So, while I'd not turn down any future invites from a unicorn to be a "partner" in playtime, I still prefer the couples who are secure in their relationships and enjoy adding the extra male.
Two other things I have also found that has been somewhat disappointing is that when I do find a new or novice single female and she is listed as straight or curious, that the results have been she is actually looking for a LTR, and after some brief lifestyle fun she wants to be exclusive and not bring others into the fun. And the other is I have found a great deal of the single straight females joining here and other sites such as SLS are actually Craigslist pros trying to lure new business. So, to those who have also encounter those "ladies" I do hope you have flat out turned them down and sent them away, because when you pay to play, you might as well walk in the nearest medical research lab and ask for a does of their freshest STD....I arrived on site clean, safe, DDF and intend to leave that way. So, Hope I didn't get long winded and sound like a rant, just chiming in one the question. And to all those couples who enjoy us single males and don't refer to us as disgusting and a dime a dozen...Thanks for the hot, fun and great times.
Naw, I'd prolly start battin' for the other team a little bit and immediately double my chances of gettin' laid. 
1...with an asterisk. When I got back into the lifestyle several years ago I was looking for a partner. I found a "unicorn" and we became a couple. After we broke up I started looking again. I think it's better with a partner!
How about the male half of a couple who sometimes needs a single female to swing with because of any number of possible reasons, including, in my case, often because the wife has to work when some couples or single females event is happening? I do think I've been lucky enough to find one, but then again we live a ways away from each other, and that complicates things, too. ~ Terry
..Sure, I have over the years had various stable single females to pair up with time to time so you can do the "couples" thing. Sometimes a single female likes a companion to just go places..or break the ice with other couples or groups.. You can still get single and drift of into whatever naughty lil'tangent you choose. With the right partner if offers the best of it all. 
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